Ngokoluvo lwam, umntwana usikelelwe ukuba unabazali ababandakanyekayo ekukhuleni kwabo kwaye ababalungiselela ubomi kwilizwe lokwenyani. Ngelixa ndingazange ndihlale ndivuma okanye ndibathobele abazali bam, ndisikelelekile ngabazali endandinabo. Okulusizi kukuba abasekho kunye nam, kodwa namhlanje ndifuna ukubulela abazali bam ngokundifundisa ezi zifundo zintlanu.
Iziseko
Ewe, yikholwe okanye hayi siyayidinga esisiseko uqeqesho. Ukukhula ube ngumntu olungeleyo akwenzeki nge-osmosis okanye ngokufefa kothuli lwentsomi njengoko silele!
Ndiyabulela ukuba abazali bam bandifundise indlela yokunxiba, ukuhlamba iinwele zam kunye namazinyo, ndibophe izihlangu zam zezihlangu, kwaye ndibize ixesha. Bandiyalele ngendlela efanelekileyo yokuseta itafile isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nokutya kuyo, indlela yokwenza ibhedi yam kunye nokusebenza komatshini wokuhlamba impahla. Abazange bandifundise kuphela imisebenzi esisiseko yemihla ngemihla ababelindele ukuba ndithathe inxaxheba kuyo, bandifundisa nokuziphatha kwabantu. Abazali bam bandifundise ukuba mandithini nceda kwaye enkosi , indlela yokuhlonipha abadala bam kunye nabo bandingqongileyo, indlela yokuzibandakanya nabanye ekuhlaleni ngobubele nemfesane.
Abazishiyanga ezi zinto ngamathuba, kodwa bebengabazali ababandakanyekayo, beqinisekisa ukuba ndiyayiqonda indlela eqhelekileyo, eyamkelekileyo indlela yokuziphatha koluntu. Ke ngoko, ngokubona ukuba bafumana iziseko ezifanelekileyo, bandinika nesiseko endinokubakhela kuso ubomi bam.
uyeke njani ukuziva ungoyisile
Ukuba ngabalinganiswa abahlukileyo, ndafunda izifundo ezahlukeneyo kubo bonke. Nazi izifundo eziphambili umama andifundise zona.
Izenzo zineziphumo, bathathe uxanduva ngabo
Ukuba umama wandixelela ukuba ndingenzi nto, wayehlala echaza iziphumo ukuba ndenze. Kwakungekade kube yiminyaka elishumi elinesibini ndathi ndakuyiqonda ngokupheleleyo intsingiselo yale nto kwaye ndawusebenzisa lo mthetho-siseko kubomi bam obutsha.
Ngandlela thile, bendinokukhuliswa endaweni ekhuselekileyo kwaye kwakungekade kube kukujikeleza ishumi elinesibini leminyaka yokuzalwa kwam apho ndafunda khona ukukhwela ibhayisekile. Sasihlala kwindawo entsha bonke abantwana abandingqongileyo babeneebhayisikile, kwaye ndandingenalo nofifi lokuba ndikhwela njani enye. Ekhuthazwa kukoyika kwakhe, umama wandinqabela ukuba ndikhwele ibhayisekile, kodwa ke, andimthobelanga wayecinga ntoni?
Xa wandixelela ukuba ndingakhweli ibhayisekile, wandilumkisa ukuba ukuba ndingazenzakalisa, andimele ndibuyele ekhaya ndicela uncedo. Oko akuzange kundinqande kwaye, njengomntu osandul 'ukuqala, ndehla ngebhayisikile ebiza kakhulu kwaye ngokukhawuleza ndenzakala. Unyawo lwam lutyibilike umva ndisuka kwenyawo kwaye ndasika iqatha lam leqatha livulekile kwibala. Ukuchitheka kwegazi kuyo yonke indawo, ndaqonda kwangoko ukuba ndifuna ukuthungwa. Ngelixa bonke abantwana bebaleka, ndasongela unyawo lwam ngetawuli ndahamba isiqingatha sekhilomitha ukuya kugqirha.
Khange ndigoduke, nangona bendihambile ndadlula kwam, kodwa ndiye ngqo kugqirha ukuze andincede. Ewe, umamkeli zindwendwe wothuswa kukubona igazi lam ligutyungelwe lunyawo kwaye ndingenaye umntu omdala, kodwa bendisazi ukuba ndizenzele ngokwam kwaye ndifuna ukuthatha uxanduva kwaye ndifumane isisombululo.
Ngelixa usenokucinga ukuba umama wam wayesisilo esikhulu, eneneni wayengoyena titshala wam mkhulu. Bendisazi ukuba iphi imida yakhe kwaye bendiwelile. Bendingabaleka ndigoduke ndigcwele ligazi ndilila, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba ngewaye wandinceda emva kokundinxibisa kakhulu, kodwa la mava andifundise ukuba ndinokuba nobuchule xa ndithatha uxanduva lokungcungcutheka kwam kwaye ndingafumana indlela ukuphuma nokuphuma kweengxaki zam.
Buyela kwakhona
Ndifundisiwe nomama ukomelela ubuyela njani kwakhona. Naye wayengumfazi owomeleleyo kakhulu kwaye ndafunda kumzekelo wakhe, kodwa ayekhona amaxesha amaninzi ebomini bam xa ndandijamelene nokudana, umothuko, okanye intlekele awandinceda ukuba ndibuye kwakhona.
Elinye ixesha elinje emva kokugqiba amabanga aphakamileyo. Andizange ndifumane ibhasari yokuya eyunivesithi endikhethileyo kwaye abazali bam abanakho ukubhatala isifundo. Zaqengqeleka iiveki, ndaziva ndikhathazekile, kwaye ndilele endlini ngathi yi-amoeba ngaphandle kwesicwangciso. Ngelixa bobabini abazali bam bendithuthuzela kwaye bendithuthuzela, umama wandinyanzela ukuba ndiphume ebhedini kusasa kwaye ndicinge ngezinye iindlela. Ukuqala kwam ukwenza izizathu zokuba kutheni ezinye iindlela zingamkelekanga, akazange azamkele. Akayi kundivumela ukuba ndizenzele inceba kunye nosizi, kodwa kunoko wandifundisa indlela yokubuyela kwakhona, ukuzisula kunye nokwenza okulungileyo kuzo zonke iimeko.
indlela yokujongana nomama ongalawulekiyo wolawulo
Kwakungenxa yokuqina kwakhe kunye nokwala ukundivumela ukuba ndiqhubeke ndifunde into eyahluke ngokupheleleyo, indivumele ukuba ndibe nomsebenzi wamazwe aphesheya kwaye ndihlale kwihlabathi liphela.
Sula uthuli ezinyaweni zakho uhambe kuloo ndawo
Umama wayebonakala ngathi uyayiqonda imfuno yam yokuncamathela kwiimeko, iimeko, abantu nezinto. Kwasebusaneni, wayedla ngokuthi kum, 'Angie ntombam, sula uthuli olusezinyaweni zakho uhambe apho.'
Wayendifundisa ukwazi xa ndigqibile ngento ethile okanye xa yenziwe nam! Xa imeko, ubudlelwane okanye isimilo singasasebenzi mdla wam, bendizakushiya yonke into enxulumene nayo (uthuli) ndiyishiye loo ndawo (qhubeka, uyeke).
ungaxela njani ukuba uyathandana
Esi sesona sifundo sikhulu umama andifundise sona. Okwangoku, kwiminyaka elishumi elinanye emva kokusweleka kwakhe, xa ndiziva ndibambekile kwaye ndingakwazi ukuya phambili, ndihlala ndisiva ilizwi lakhe lisithi kum, 'Angie ntombazana yam, susa uthuli ezinyaweni zakho uhambe kuloo ndawo' kwaye ndiyazi ukuba lixesha ukunikezela kwindalo iphela, mayiyeke iqhubeke. Enkosi Mama!
Izifundo ndifuna ukubulela utata wam ngokundifundisa.
Sebenzela into oyifunayo kwaye ungathathi izinto ngokungakhathali
Utata wam ebengu indoda ethobekileyo owayengatyebanga engadumanga. Ngapha koko, wayengakuthandi ukubalasela kwaye wayekuvuyela kakhulu ukukhonza abanye ngasemva. Ekukhuleni kwam, bekukho amaxesha ekufuneka ndihambe ngaphandle kokuba abazali bam bebengenakukwazi ukundithengela izinto abanazo bonke abanye abantwana. Ndikhumbula ngenene ndifuna umdlalo njengolutsha kwaye ndifumana i-sulks malunga nawo kuba utata wam wathi akanamali. Endaweni yokundiyeka ndihamba-hambe okomntwana ofikisayo, otyhafileyo, wandicela umngeni ukuba ndenze into ngalo kwaye ndisebenzele le ndiyifunayo.
Ndibuze kubamelwane bam ukuba banemisebenzi efuna ukwenziwa emva koko ndafuna umsebenzi wempelaveki kwivenkile yasekuhlaleni. Ukufumana inkululeko kwezemali kundifundise ukuba ndizixabise izinto endizisebenzelayo ndingazithathi lula. Lo mceli mngeni ovela kutata wandifaka indlela yokuziphatha ngaphakathi kwam eyandincedayo ukuba ndiqonde ukuba ukufuna nokulindela ukunikezelwa kwakungekho kum. Ikwenze ngaphakathi kwam ukuzithemba endikudingayo ukujongana nemiceli mngeni kunye nokulandela amaphupha am.
Ukuhleka kwaye ungathathi izinto ngokungathí sina
Utata wayenomdla ohlekisayo, kwaye wayehlala efumana icala elihlekisayo kuyo nayiphi na imeko. Undifundise indlela yokuzihleka kwaye bendihlala ndithembele kuye ukuba andibonise indlela yokungazithathi nzulu izinto . Kwakukho amaxesha amaninzi okukhula xa ndandikhala ngokoqobo egxalabeni lakhe kwaye wayeza kubonisa into ehlekisayo, nokuba kunjalo kwimeko yam okanye kwindawo endikuyo. Oku kundifundisile ukuba ndingabisi izinto ezincinci kuba zonke izinto ziyatshintsha.
Namhlanje ndijonga ngasemva ndincume, ndizaliswe luthando nombulelo ngezifundo endazifundiswa ngabazali bam. Ezi zifundo zintlanu bezisisiseko kunye nesiseko sobomi bam kwaye ndinombulelo kuba bendinazo njengezikhokelo zokunceda ukukhula kwam.
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