Sonke siyayazi loo mvakalelo yokungakwazi ukuyeka ukucinga malunga nomfana.
Zizalisa iingcinga zakho imini yonke, yonke imihla, ukusukela ngoku uvuka kusasa uye kumzuzu wokulala ubuthongo.
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Emva kwakho konke, ukuba awukwazi ukuyeka ukucinga ngaye, kunokuba nzima ukugcina intloko yakho kumdlalo.
Inokukwenza ulibale, kwaye kuthetha ukuba uqala ukuwutyeshela umsebenzi wakho, izihlobo kunye nosapho.
Kungathetha ukuba uhlala uphazamiseka kwaye ungazibandakanyi nento ozama ukuyenza.
Kodwa ukuba ulapha, ufunda le nto, mhlawumbi awuqinisekanga ukuba yintoni le imenze ukuba ajikeleze entloko imini yonke, kwaye ufuna inkcazo.
Kwaye mhlawumbi ufuna ukwenza into ukuze uyeke ukucinga ngaye rhoqo, okanye kwaphela.
Qhubeka uskrole ukuze ufumane ukuba siyintoni na isizathu sokwenza kwakho lo mfana, nokuba ungayenza njani ithoni, okanye uyimise kube kanye.
Izizathu ezili-11 zokuba ucinga ngaye ngalo lonke ixesha.
1. Uyathandana.
Masiqale ngale, kuba yeyona nkcazo ilula yazo zonke. Mhlawumbi uthandana naye nje.
Mhlawumbi izinto zihamba kakuhle phakathi kwakho kwaye ucinga, okanye uyazi, uyakuthanda kwakhona. Okanye mhlawumbi, ngelishwa, uthando lwakho alufuneki. Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, ukuba unamathele entlokweni yakho, isenokuba luthando.
Xa siqala ukuthandana, iihomoni zethu zihamba ngaphezulu kokuphambana nje kancinci. Ufumana i-dopamine rhoqo xa umbona, uve kuye, okanye ukhumbule nje ukuba utheni kuwe phezolo.
Ukuba semngxunyeni wokuqala wothando kunokuba kukutya konke kwaye kuthetha ukuba awukwazi nje ukugxila kwenye into.
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2. Uyathabatheka.
Kulungile, ke mhlawumbi ayisiyonto imbi njengothando. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba sithandane nomfana ukuba sicinge ngaye 24/7. Isenokuba ngathi yintabatheko.
Mhlawumbi uphupha ngaye, nangona uzazi izinto phakathi kokuba ungaze usebenze kwaye awumthathi nzulu.
Usembindini weengcinga zakho, kodwa uyazi nzulu phantsi ukuba akukho nxibelelwano nzulu apho.
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3. Uyamrhalela.
Oku kunokuba konke malunga nesondo.
Mhlawumbi uye walala naye kwaye awukwazi ukuyeka ukucinga ngokusondelelana naye kwakhona, okanye mhlawumbi umthanda kakhulu kwaye uhlala uzama ukucinga ukuba kuya kuba njani.
Oku kunokwenzeka nokuba awubuthandi ngokwenene ubuntu bakhe kwaye uyazi ukuba ngekhe kubekho nto phakathi kwakho.
Usenokungena kwimithambo-luvo yakho, okanye ungamfumana ekrwada, okanye uyithiyile ipolitiki yakhe. Kodwa kukho into malunga nendlela akhangeleka ngayo okanye ashukumayo akwenzela yona.
4. Uyakhanuka ngokubanzi.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba akukho nto ikhetheke ngokukodwa ngalo mfo umrhaleleyo.
Kungenzeka ukuba uziva unqabile ngokubanzi, kuzo zonke iintlobo zezizathu, kwaye lo mfana uvele nje ukuba nguye obambe iso lakho (okanye ukucinga!)
5. Uthatha inxaxheba ekubalekeni.
Ukuthandana yinto enkulu yokuphazamisa. Ukuphupha i-tryst yothando ibiyindlela yokuba abantu bazonwabise okwexeshana ukusukela ekuqaleni kwexesha.
Ke, mhlawumbi inyani yokuba ungayeki ukucinga ngaye ayikabinayo lanto ingako yokwenza naye.
Mhlawumbi eyona nto iqhubeka apha kukuba kukho izinto ezithile ekufuneka ujongane nazo kubomi bakho bobuqu okanye obuchwephesha kwaye uzama ukunqanda ukujongana ngqo nokugcwalisa ingqondo yakho ngeengcinga zalo mfo.
Mhlawumbi udikwe nje kancinci yindlela obubomi bakho ngalo mzuzu, kwaye iingcinga zakhe kukubaleka okunqwenelayo.
6. Uyamlungelelanisa.
Usenokuchitha lonke eli xesha uphupha ngomfana ongekhoyo. Inokuba ithatha zonke iingcinga zakho kuba umgqibelele ngokupheleleyo.
Mhlawumbi ungumntu obalaseleyo kubomi bokwenyani, kodwa mhlawumbi akakho kangako ukuba abhalele ekhaya. Mhlawumbi ukhe wadibana naye amatyeli ambalwa, okanye uthethe nje naye kwakanye kwindawo yokutya yasekuhlaleni.
Kodwa engqondweni yakho, umakhe kakhulu kangangokuba ngoku kubonakala ngathi uyindoda egqibeleleyo. Awazi kangako ngaye, kodwa uziqinisekisile ukuba uyahlekisa, ulungile, uyakhathala, uyaphuma, uya kwenza utata omkhulu…
Ke, uya uba phithi yingcinga ngaye, kodwa awazi ukuba ichane kangakanani loo mbono.
7. Uphupha ngekamva eliqikelelweyo, ungajongi ngoku.
Inyaniso yokuba awunakuyeka ukucinga ngaye isenokuba phantsi kwengqwalaselo yakho kwikamva elinokubonakala ngathi ukuba izinto bezizakulunga phakathi kwenu.
Uphupha malunga nokuba ubomi bunokuba njani kwiminyaka embalwa ezantsi emgceni, kunokuba ube sengqiqweni malunga nokuba izinto zingasebenza nyani phakathi kwakho ngoku.
8. Udidekile yimiqondiso akunikeza yona.
Mhlawumbi intloko yakho ayigcwele amaphupha onwabileyo ngaye kunye nekamva elinokubakho. Mhlawumbi awunakuyeka ukucinga ngaye kuba ukhathazekile ngendlela aziphatha ngayo kuwe, okanye apho umi khona ngenene.
Uvuthela kushushu kwaye kuyabanda , kwaye uchitha lonke ixesha lakho uzama ukuhlalutya amagqabantshintshi akhe okanye ufunde ulwimi lomzimba wakhe, uzama ukuqonda ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni entlokweni yakhe.
9. Uziva ungakhuselekanga.
Mhlawumbi kudala umbona lo mfo, kodwa akakho kukunika isiqinisekiso osifunayo .
Mhlawumbi uziva ngathi ungahlakulela iimvakalelo ezinzulu ngalo mfo, kodwa awungekhe uphumle kwaye uhambe nokuhamba kuba awuqinisekanga ukuba uziva njani ngawe.
Okanye mhlawumbi uziva unganqabisekanga ngokubanzi kwaye ugxile kwiingcinga zakho kulo mfana luhlobo lwendlela yokuphepha, ukuze ungadibani nokungaqiniseki kwakho.
10. Unzima ubunzima kunye nobubi.
Lo mfo usenokuba usezingqondweni zakho ngalo lonke ixesha kuba uzama ukufumanisa ukuba ufanelekile ngokwenene.
Awuqinisekanga ngokupheleleyo ukuba uziva njani ngaye, okanye ingaba ubudlelwane bakho buza kusebenza.
Uchitha lonke ixesha lakho uzama ukuqonda ukuba ungalunika na olu lwalamano ithuba.
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11. Uyenzile yacaca ukuba akukho future phakathi kwakho.
Thina bantu sinokuba zizidalwa ezigqwethekileyo, kwaye sinomkhwa ombi wokufuna kanye le nto singenakho ukuba nayo.
Kungenzeka ke ukuba awunakuyeka ukucinga ngaye ngoku kuba egqibezele izinto nawe, okanye kuye kwacaca mhlophe ukuba akaboni future nawe.
Mhlawumbi ubumthanda kakhulu, okanye mhlawumbi ubungakhange ukhathazeke, kodwa ngoku unqumle izinto, kuphela kwento onokucinga ngayo.
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Ayikwazi ukuqhubeka ngolu hlobo. Nokuba yeyiphi na imeko phakathi kwakho nalo mfo, ngekhe uchithe eli xesha lininzi ucinga ngaye. Awufumani nto yenziwe.
Kodwa ungamsusa njani entlokweni yakho? Ngokuyintloko, ngumcimbi wokuzimisela kwakho, kodwa nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokukunceda ucinge ngaye kancinci nangazo ezinye izinto ngakumbi.
1. Yikhuphe - thetha nomntu omthembileyo.
Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu sokuba intloko yakho igcwele lo mfo, ihlala iluncedo ukuyivakalisa. Thetha nomntu omthembileyo malunga nokuba ucinga ntoni nokuba kutheni.
Kuya kukunceda uziqonde ngcono iingcinga zakho kwaye uqonde ukuba uziva njani ngokwenene.
Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, ngokuthetha ngokuvakalayo iingcinga zakho, uzikhupha entlokweni yakho kwaye nengqondo yakho iye izole kakhulu.
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2. Thetha ngokunyanisekileyo naye.
Le ayizukuba ngumbono olungileyo kuzo zonke iimeko, kodwa ukuba nobabini benithandane okwethutyana kwaye indlela aziphethe ngayo ikwenza uzive ungakhuselekanga, ungoyiki ukunyaniseka kuye malunga naloo nto, kwaye mxelele ufuna ukuqinisekiswa.
Ukuba akanako ukukunika oko, ngoko ngokuqinisekileyo akalifanelanga ixesha lakho.
3. Yiba ngqongqo ekusebenziseni kwakho ifowuni.
Ukuba nobabini nihlala nxibelelana, akumangalisi ukuba unganakuyeka ukucinga ngaye. Ke, zingqongqo ngokwakho. Beka ifowuni yakho xa usemsebenzini.
Phuhlisa inkqubo yesiqhelo yasekuseni engabandakanyi ukuguqula ifowuni yakho kwangoko ukuze ubone ukuba ukuthumelele imiyalezo na kwaye uzinike ixesha elingena sikrini ngaphambi kokulala.
Ukuthatha ulawulo xa unxibelelana naye kwaye xa ungekho kuya kukunceda uthathe ulawulo lweengcinga zakho.
4. Zigcine uxakekile.
Izandla ezingasebenziyo zenzela iingqondo ezingasebenziyo. Ukuba ufuna ukumgcina ngaphandle kwentloko yakho, kuya kufuneka uhlale uxakekile.
Ziphose emsebenzini wakho kwaye wenze izicwangciso kunye nabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho ngokuhlwa nangeempelaveki.
5. Gcwalisa ingqondo yakho ngezinto ezinomdla.
Amathuba onokuwenza kunye nenkuthazo yengqondo. Ke, ukuba ufuna ukuyeka ukucinga ngaye, qiniseka ukuba unezinye izinto eziya kuhlala kwingqondo yakho.
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Gcwalisa ingqondo yakho ngezinto ezinomdla wokwenene.
6. Khumbula, ayinguye kuphela intlanzi elwandle.
Ukuba nobabini niye navumelana ukuba awukhethi, ayisiyiyo indlela eya phambili leyo.
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Kodwa ukuba izinto azikafiki kude kodwa iingcinga zakhe zisakuhlisa, ke isikhumbuzi sokuba maninzi amanye amadoda ngaphandle apho kunokuba yile nto uyifunayo.
Ukufumana nje ingqwalaselo encinci-okanye ukuya kumhla- omnye umntu unokukunika ukuzithemba ekufuneka ukukubonisa ukuba nokuba izinto azisebenzi kulo mfo, ayisosiphelo sehlabathi .
Oko kuya kuthetha ukuba uyakwazi ukuphumla kwaye uyeke ukucinga ngaye kakhulu.
7. Musa ukukhathazeka ngesiqu sakho.
Ingqondo yinto ekhohlisayo, kwaye ukulawula iingcinga zakho kunzima (ukucamngca kunokuba ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni apha).
Ke, kubalulekile ukuba ungakhathazeki nesiqu sakho ukuba awuphumeleli ukugxotha zonke iingcinga zakhe ngokukhawuleza njengoko ungathanda.
Musa ukulwa neengcinga zakho, njengoko ziya kubuya kuwe kuphela izihlandlo ezili-10 ngaphezulu. Yamkele, uyihlalutye ngokufutshane, bayeke baqhubeke, kwaye uqaphele ukuba abakuchazi.
8. Nika ixesha.
Ndiyazi ukuba inokubonakala ngathi yinto nje ecaphukisayo, kodwa ixesha linokwenza imimangaliso.
Ke, khumbula ukuba ngenxa yokuba lo mfana esembindini weengcinga zakho ngoku, ngekhe ihlale ngonaphakade.
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