Kukho abantu abanethamsanqa phaya abangaqalekiswanga ngumfuziselo wokucinga ngokugqithiseleyo. Abanye abantu basikelelwe ngeengqondo ezingagxumi kwizigqibo kwaye zithatha izinto ngokwexabiso.
Abahlalutyi ngokugqithisileyo kwaye batolike kakhulu yonke into eyenzekayo kubo.
Abanye bethu, nangona kunjalo, abasikelelwanga kangako.
Ngelixa ukucinga ngokugqithisileyo kunokubangela iingxaki nakweyiphi na indawo yobomi bakho, kubudlelwane bezothando obuthanda ukuzibonakalisa rhoqo, kwaye apho kunokubangela umonakalo omkhulu.
Ukucinga ngokugqithisileyo kunokuba sisizathu sokuba ubudlelwane bakho obudlulileyo buphelile, nokuba loo ngcinga ayikaze ingene engqondweni yakho ethe kratya. Isenokuba sesona sizathu siphambili sokuba ubudlelwane bakho bangoku abukho konke ukukhanya kwelanga kunye neentyatyambo.
Ngaba ukhathazekile unokuba ucinga izinto ezininzi kubudlelwane bakho? Ukuba ezi zimpawu zokulumkisa zivakala ziqhelekile, oku kunokusebenza kuwe.
1. Uhlala Utshintsha Ingqondo yakho
Ingqondo yakho ayinakukwazi ukukhetha umzila. Ingqondo yakho icinga ngezinto kangangokuba ayinakukunceda kodwa ngokuqhubekayo ifike kwizigqibo ezahlukeneyo. Kuphela azizizo izigqibo, kuba awuyeki apho.
Ucinga ukuba uthathe isigqibo, kodwa awuyeki ukuhlala kwaye usijikele engqondweni yakho, oko kuthetha ukuba uyitshintshe ngokupheleleyo ingqondo yakho kwakhona kwimizuzu emihlanu.
2. Unokufunda Isicatshulwa esinye esilula ngeendlela ezili-10 ezahlukeneyo
Ukusa kokubhaliweyo yayiyintlekele kubantu abagqithisileyo phakathi kwethu. Xa ufunda amagama omntu ngaphandle koncedo lokuwabona impawu zomzimba kwaye ukuva ilizwi labo, unokutolika izinto abazithethileyo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo ezizigidi.
Ngaba uzama ukukrokra? Ukuxhasa? Ngaba bayacaphuka? Ngaba abanomdla? Ngaba babuza nayiphi na imibuzo? Kutheni besitsho njalo?
Awupheleli apho. Ayisiyiyo kuphela into abayithethayo, lixesha elide abathatha ngalo ukuphendula nokuba ingaba la makhalane amancinci kuWhatsapp aye aluhlaza.
Ngelixa abahlobo bakho banokuziphatha ngale ndlela ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, bonke bayazola emva kwethutyana, ngelixesha unokufunda izinto kwiitekisi zeqabane lakho nasemva kokuba nikunye iminyaka.
3. Kuthatha iiyure ukuba ubhale isicatshulwa
Ukuba ungachitha ixesha elide usasaza oko bakubhalileyo, kuyakuthatha ixesha elide ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba uphendule uthini.
Izinto wonke umntu ekufuneka ezazi ngobomi
4. Unememori ye-Encyclopedic yezinto abazithethayo
Ungabakhumbuza ngamagama kanye awathethileyo ngexesha lomlo obenawo kwiinyanga ezi-6 ezidlulileyo. Ugcina izinto abazithethayo kuwe kude kubunzulu bengqondo yakho, nokuba kubo ibingamazwi nje okulahla, kwaye ngokulula unokuchitha iiyure uzikhumbuza.
5. Awunakuzibophelela
Xa ucinga ngokuzibophelela ngamandla, uyeka ukuba lithemba elinomdla. Umntu omnye? Ubomi bakho bonke? Ngokwenene? Kodwa kuthekani ukuba ayinguye ‘omnye’?
Uhlala ucinga kakhulu ngazo zonke izinto ezinokungahambi kakuhle kwixesha elizayo kwaye ujolise kwiqabane lakho imikhwa emibi , ukuthetha ngokwakho kuyo yonke into intle ngempumelelo.
6. Ulwa neenkcukacha ezincinci
Uzifumana uhlala uphikisana neqabane lakho, okanye uhlala ubonakala ucaphuka kubo.
Ungena kwimigca evuthayo kwaye ungasakhumbuli nokuba yintoni le ubusilwa kuyo kwasekuqaleni (umkhondo - akukho nto kwaphela).
Ukhetha imilo esekwe kwithoni yeqabane lakho lezwi okanye ukhetho oluchanekileyo lwamagama.
Emva koko uyaphambana ukuba ukhethe umlo, uqinisekile ukuba bazokwaphuka nawe.
7. Awuze uzithembe iimvakalelo zakho
Ngoku uye wafika kwinqanaba apho uyazi ukuba uza kuhlalutya izinto ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokuba ungaziqinisekisa ngento ethile, nokuba iyinyani.
Oko kuthetha ukuba awunakuyithemba indlela oziva ngayo, kuba njengokuba unomdla njengoko uziva ngawo ngalo ngoku, uya kube sele ungaphaya kwawo ngomso.
8. Ude Uzidide
Ayithandeki into yokuba iqabane lakho likuxelele ukuba abayiqondi indlela esebenza ngayo ingqondo yakho.
Awunakubabeka tyala nyani, kuba nokuba awukwazi ukulandela iinkqubo zakho zokucinga amaxesha amaninzi.
9. Wena usoloko Uqinisekile iqabane lakho Ngaba Mad At You
Uhlala uqinisekile ukuba bayakuqumbela okanye bacime nawe kuba babonakala ngathi bathule kakhulu, okanye bayancokola. Unga nokuba ufunde ngendlela abahamba ngayo. Okanye indlela abaphefumla ngayo.
Ukuba bakuxelela ukuba 'balungile,' ungachitha iiyure uzibuza ukuba bathetha ntoni kanye ngaloo nto.
10. UnguPhelelwe lithemba
Isimo esibi somntu wonke sihle kakhulu kwimeko onayo entlokweni yakho. Uqinisekile ukuba ulwalamano olukulo luza kuphela ngendlela eyoyikisayo, ngenxa yoko awunakuyibona nyani loo nto.
11. Uhlala Usithi Uxolo
Ungaziqinisekisa ukuba yonke into ihamba kakubi kubudlelwane yimpazamo yakho, nokuba ayisiyiyo, kuba ucinga ukuba wenze into engalunganga.
12. Kuya kufuneka ubenecebo
Kuya kufuneka uyazi ngokuchanekileyo xa ubona iqabane lakho ngokulandelayo, kwaye awunakho ukuphatha izicwangciso ezingaqinisekanga.
Uqinisekile ukuba xa bengazenzi izicwangciso ezikhawulezayo zokuphinda bakubone, oko kuthetha ukuba abasokuze baphinde bakubone kwakhona.
Ngeli xesha bacebisa icebo, sele ukhathazekile ngenxa yalo kangangokuba uye wamkela ukuba ngekhe kwenzeke, ngequbuliso ukuba nesicwangciso kukuphosa ngokupheleleyo.
Ukungaqiniseki kwamabinzana athi 'sobonana kamva' okanye 'thetha kwakamsinya' kukuzalisa lunkwantyo.
13. Ufuna ukuqinisekiswa kwakhona rhoqo
Njengokuba ukuthumela imiyalezo kukuthumela kumda, ukuba awuva rhoqo kubo, uyaziqinisekisa ukuba abanamdla. Abakuthandi. Mhlawumbi bakuthiyile…
14. Uyasokola Ukuya Phila ngoku
Uxakeke kakhulu kukuxhalaba malunga nazo zonke ezi zinto zingasentla nokuba naxa unabo ngenene kwaye yonke into ihamba kakuhle, ukufumanisa kunzima ukuba mzuzu. Uxakeke kakhulu uhlalutya into abayithethile izolo.
15. Uyasithemba Isigwebo Somhlobo Wakho Ngaphezu Kwakho
Uyangxama kwi-BFF yakho xa kufikwa kuso nasiphi na isigqibo malunga nolwalamano lwakho, kuba ucinga ukuba baya kwenza ngcono kakhulu kunaye.
Ubathumela imifanekiso-skrini yemiyalezo kwiqabane lakho ubuza uluvo lwabo kwaye ufuna ukwazi ukuba mabenze ntoni, kwaye ngokungaboni balandele iingcebiso zabo ngaphandle kokuyeka ukucinga malunga nokuba yinto elungileyo na.
Ubuza abahlobo bakho imibuzo efanayo kwaye uvelise izihloko ezifanayo kaninzi, kwaye uhlala ufumana ukubuyela ngamehlo.
16. Awulithembi Ithumbu Lakho
Xa kuziwa entlokweni yentliziyo, intloko yakho iyaphumelela ngalo lonke ixesha. Uyayityeshela into ozama ukukuxelela yona kwaye uzimisele ukwenza uluhlu lweenkcukacha ezilungileyo kunye neengxaki endaweni yoko.
17. Awunakuze Uhlukane
Awuzange wohlukene nomntu ebomini bakho, kuba sikhulu kakhulu isigqibo sokuthatha.
Uhlala kubudlelwane ongonwabanga ngabo kuba awufuni ukuthatha umngcipheko kwaye uzisole phantsi komgca. Uya kude kunokuba bohlukane nawe!
Ngaba Unetyala Lokucinga Ngokugqithileyo?
Ngelixa ukukhaba umkhwa akukho lula, inyathelo lokuqala lokulawula ingqondo yakho kukwazi ukuba kukho ingxaki.
Ukujonga izinto ezingaphantsi kunokuba yeyona nto iphambili ekufumaneni nasekugcineni ulonwabo, ubudlelwane obuphilileyo oyifunayo ngokwenene.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungayeka njani ukucinga kakhulu kubudlelwane bakho? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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