Ngaba uyazibuza ukuba iqabane lakho likhathazekile?
Ngaba unomdla wokwazi ukuba umphathi wakho ucinga ntoni ngombono wakho?
Ngaba uyazibuza ukuba umhlobo wakho osenyongweni uyaxoka?
Amathuba kukuba ungayifumana yonke ngokujonga imiqondiso yolwimi.
Ulwimi lomzimba yindlela ebesinxibelelana ngayo ngaphambi kokuba sithethe. Iintsana zisebenzisa ulwimi lomzimba ukuxelela abo babakhathalelayo ukuba ngaba balambile, banomsindo, bayabanda, okanye bafuna ilweyile elitsha. Ngapha koko, ulwimi lomzimba kuko konke abanako. Njengabantu abadala, sikwasebenzisa nolwimi lomzimba ukunxibelelana, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi asazi nokuba siyayenza.
indlela yokuziva sexier ngalo lonke ixesha
Ezinye iingcali zithi sidibanisa amashumi amahlanu eepesenti kunxibelelwano olungathethiyo kunencoko yemveli. Ngenxa yoku, kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukubukela nokutolika iimpawu zomzimba eziqhelekileyo.
Nazi ezinye zezona zinto zivezayo, kodwa ulwimi olufihlakeleyo lomzimba luchaza ukubonisa indlela abantu abavakalelwa ngayo:
Iingalo eziNqamlezileyo kunye nemilenze bonisa ukumelana
Xa umntu ewela iingalo kunye / okanye imilenze, kudala isithintelo ngokwasemzimbeni kuba ayivulelwanga kule nto uyithethayo. Yinto yakudala umqondiso wokuzikhusela . Xa umntu ewela iingalo okanye imilenze yakhe, oko kubonisa ukuba usongelwe. Ukuba umntu uwela iingalo zakhe okanye imilenze phakathi kwincoko, mhlawumbi wenze okanye wathetha into angavumelaniyo nayo.
Ngokwengqondo, ukunqunyulwa kweengalo kunye nemilenze luphawu lolwimi lomzimba lokuba umntu uvaliwe ngokwasemphefumlweni nasengqondweni kulwazi olungenayo. Kwimeko yokuqala, ukuwela iingalo kuya kukhusela amalungu abalulekileyo. Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, iingalo ezinqamlezileyo zinokukhusela ngokomfuziselo intliziyo. Uninzi lwexesha, abantu bawela izandla kunye nemilenze bengazi. Abafuni ukuba uyazi ukuba baziva besoyikiswa, kodwa impendulo ikwi-autopilot.
Nokuba umntu uyancuma okanye unqwala ngentloko, amalungu omnqamlezo aluphawu olungenanjongo lokuba uvaliwe. Kunqabile ukuba umntu awele iingalo okanye imilenze xa eziva kamnandi. Kwiimeko ezininzi, kungenxa yokuba bayazivalela, kwaye kukho isizathu sayo.
Ukuma Akuxoki
Ngaba ukhe wambona umntu engena egumbini kwaye kwangoko uyalela ingqalelo yomntu wonke engakhange athethe nelizwi? Konke oku kuvela kulwimi lomzimba, kwaye uninzi lwayo lunento yokwenza nokuma komzimba. Ubuchopho bethu buxhonywe ngokuzenzekelayo ukulinganisa amandla kunye nenani elibonakalayo lendawo umntu ahlala kuyo. Ukuma nkqo ngamagxa ngasemva yindawo yamandla kuba unyusa inani lendawo ohlala kuyo. Utyhila ukuba uqinisekile kwaye ulawula le meko.
Isenzo esilula sokuma nkqo kwindawo emileyo sinokuxelela umntu ukuba unomdla kwaye ubandakanyekile kule nto bayithethayo. Ingabonisa ukuba uyakwazi ukujongana nalo naluphi na ulwalathiso lwengxoxo olunokuthatha. Ngenye indlela, ngokulalisa, uthatha indawo encinci, kwaye ke ngenxa yoko uvelisa amandla amancinci kunye nobukho. I-Slouching ibonisa ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunye nokuzithemba okuncinci.
Ukuqhagamshelana kwamehlo kunokuxoka
Ngaba umama wakho wakha wakuxelela ukuba 'ujonge emehlweni undixelele' xa wayezama ukufumanisa ukuba uyaxoka? Isizathu sokuba akuxelele ukuba umjonge emehlweni kukuba kunzima ukubamba ngamehlo xa uxoka. Ukujongana emehlweni nomnye umntu kubonisa ukuthembeka, ukuthembeka kunye ingqibelelo .
Ngelishwa, olu lulwazi oluqhelekileyo, kwaye abantu abaninzi baya kunyanzela ukudibana kwamehlo kumzamo wokubonisa ezi mpawu naxa zingeyonyani. Ukuze ufunde amehlo, kuyakufuneka ujonge zombini inversion kunye nembuyekezo engaphezulu. Ukuba umntu kuthintela ukudibana kwamehlo okanye uyibambe ngokungathandekiyo ixesha elide, into ethile inokuphakama. Uninzi lwabantu abanyanisekileyo nabavulekileyo baya kujongana ngamehlo malunga nemizuzwana elishumi ngaphambi kokujonga kude.
wenzeni ukuba unobuso obubi
Imihlathi emihle yoBonisa uxinzelelo
Xa umntu enoxinzelelo, umzimba wakhe ngokwendalo uyaqina. Ngelixa ungekhe ukwazi ukuxelela ukuba umntu unentamo eqinileyo okanye umva, unokubona umhlathi odibeneyo. Xa ubona olu lwimi lomzimba lufihlakeleyo, oko kubonisa ukuba umntu akonwabanga. Banokuba nexhala malunga nengxoxo okanye bajonge kwinto eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo ebabangela uxinzelelo. Njenge ixhala okanye uxinzelelo luyakhula, usenokubona amanqindi aqinisiweyo ukongeza kumhlathi.
Uncumo lwenene lubonakala ngokwahlukileyo
Abantu abaninzi bancuma ukufihla indlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngokwenene. Basenokungafuni ukuba uyazi ukuba bacinga ntoni ngale nto uyithethayo okanye indlela abavakalelwa ngayo. Nangona kunjalo, uncumo lokwenene ludla ngokubandakanya amehlo. Unokubona ukuthamba kwamehlo okanye imibimbi ezinyaweni zamagwababa. Uncumo lokwenyani luya kujongeka lwahlukile kunoncumo olungeyonyani okanye olunyanzelweyo. Ke, kwixesha elizayo xa umntu ekuncumela, jonga ngaphaya kwemilebe emehlweni ukuze ubone iimvakalelo eziyinyani. Ukuba umazi kakuhle lo mntu, oku kuya kuba lula ukukubona.
Oku Roald Dahl ucaphula Ukusuka kuDanny intshatsheli yeHlabathi uyishwankathela ngokugqibeleleyo:
Umfazi undiphatha njengomntwana
Ndavuya utata wam ebencuma ngamehlo. Kwakuthetha ukuba akazange andinike uncumo lobuxoki kuba akunakwenzeka ukwenza amehlo akho akhanye ukuba awuziva uphanyaza ngokwakho. Uncumo lomlomo lwahlukile. Ungayilahlekisa uncumo lomlomo ngalo naliphi na ixesha ofuna ngalo, ngokuhambisa imilebe yakho. Ndifundile ukuba uncumo lomlomo lokwenyani luhlala lunoncumo lwamehlo ukuhamba nalo. Jonga ke, ndithi, xa umntu ekuncumela kodwa amehlo akhe engaguquki. Ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ngumgunyathi.
Ukukopa uLwimi loMzimba kubonisa uBond
Ukulinganisa ukubonakaliswa kolwimi lomzimba yinto abantu abayenzayo xa besiva unxibelelwano nomnye umntu. Ukukopa ulwimi lomzimba luphawu olufihlakeleyo, kodwa kunokuxela ngelixa unxibelelana nabanye. Ukuze uthabathe kuyo, kuya kufuneka ujonge. Mhlawumbi omnye umntu uthambise intloko yakhe ngendlela efanayo naleyo uyenzayo. Okanye mhlawumbi uya kuxhomekeka ngokukhawuleza emva kokuba wenze. Oku kuziphatha kubonisa ukuba umntu uziva ulwalamano kunye nawe. Bona ndiyakuthemba kwaye bayazibandakanya kwinto oyithethayo.
Amashiya aphakanyisiweyo weMpawu zoxinzelelo
Zintathu kuphela izigwenxa emva kwamashiya aphakanyisiweyo: ixhala, uloyiko , kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukumangaliswa. Ngaphandle koko, ayiqhelekanga into yokuba abantu ngokungazi baphakamise amashiya abo ngexesha lokuncokola. Ke, ukuba uqaphela umntu ephakamisa amashiya ngelixa uthetha naye, unokulindela ukuba nokuba akayivumi ekuhleni, into oyithethileyo ibangele uxinzelelo.
Usenokungabi ngumfundi weengqondo, kodwa ungangumfundi womzimba ngokunika ingqalelo yomzimba. Ihlala ithethela phezulu kunamazwi. Ngokwenyani ungayichaza indlela umntu aziva ngayo okanye acinga ngayo ngokujonga. Gcina ujonge indlela abantu ababamba ngayo imizimba yabo kunye nento abayenzayo ngobuso babo. Isitshixo kukujonga umohluko phakathi kwento ethethwa ngumntu ngamagama abo kunye noko bakuthethayo ngemizimba yabo. Yilapho ukufunda ulwimi lomzimba kuyeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba unokufumanisa ukuba umntu ucinga ntoni - kodwa engathandi ukuthetha-ngokujonga nje iindlela abazinikelayo ngolwimi lwabo lomzimba. Ukuqaqamba, akunjalo?
