Umakhulu wam wayehlala ezilalini ekumgama ongaphaya kweyure ukusuka ekhaya ekhaya. Sasiye simtyelele qho emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa, kwaye ukuqhuba ebusuku-emva ekhaya kwahamba nathi kwiindlela ezininzi zelizwe ezolileyo.
Kwakunqabile ukubona naziphi na ezinye iimoto de saphinda sasondela esixekweni, kwaye andiqondi ukuba ndakhe ndayibona imoto yamapolisa nangaluphi na uhambo lwethu.
Ngobunye ubusuku, ndabuza utata wam ukuba kutheni ahlala eqhekeza kwaye elinde kwizibane xa siphakathi kwindawo engenalwazi.
Singqongwe ngamasimi ombona njengokuba besinjalo, akufani nokuba ngubani na oya kuze azi ukuba uvele wadubula ngqo kwiiphambuka ezincinci.
Impendulo yakhe yathi: 'ukuthembeka kuthetha ukwenza into elungileyo, nokuba akukhomntu ubonayo'.
Ndiye ndacinga ngala mava amaxesha ngamaxesha kule minyaka idlulileyo, kwaye ndayiqonda inzolo, kodwa inyani ebalulekileyo kuloo magama.
Ukunyaniseka okwenyani kukwenza into elungileyo, usazi ukuba akukho mntu uza kwazi ukuba uyenzile okanye hayi. -U-Oprah Winfrey
Ukunyaniseka, ukuthembela kunye nentlonipho
Thatha umzuzwana ucinge ngexesha laxa umntu obumthembile engcatsha.
Isenokuba yimeko apho wena ubambe umntu ngobuxoki , okanye wafumanisa ukuba umntu othile webe kuwe.
Mhlawumbi ufumene umqeshwa eba imali, okanye omnye wabahlobo bakho wakuxokisa ngento ebalulekileyo.
Nokuba ibikukugcina iimvakalelo zakho ukuze ungonzakali, bekusekho ukungcatsha , akunjalo?
Ingqibelelo ifuna ukunyaniseka nokuziphatha 'ngokulungileyo', nokuba (ngakumbi) xa kunzima ukwenza njalo.
Kungathetha ukuhamba kude kunikezelo lomsebenzi xa unqwenela ingqesho kuba uyazi ukuba iinkqubo zenkampani azikho mthethweni okanye azikho mgaqweni.
Isenokuthetha ukuba neengxoxo ezinzima ngenene nabo ubakhathaleleyo, kuba ungathanda ukuba bayazi inyani, kwaye bazi ukuba uthembekile, nokuba uthethile okanye wenze into embi.
Eyona nyaniso imbi ilunge ngaphezu kobuxoki obugqwesileyo, kwaye nangona usenokugqibela ngokwenza ezinye iintshaba apha endleleni ngenxa yokuba ubunyanisekile , kusenokwenzeka ukuba basaya kukuhlonipha ngenxa yokuba wawunyanisekile ngako.
Abantu bayabaqonda abo baphila ngemilinganiselo ephezulu yokuziphatha, kwaye bayazi ukuba bangabeka ithemba labo kubo.
Ukuba waziwa ngokugcina izithembiso kunye nokuzibophelela, kwaye wenza into elungileyo kuyo yonke imimandla yobomi bakho, uya kuphuhlisa igama lokuba ngumntu olungileyo, othembekileyo.
Usenokungathandwa ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa uya kuhlonitshwa. Kwiimeko ezininzi, oko kukhethwa.
Kubalulekile kuwo nawuphi na umsebenzi woBunkokeli
Ngubani onokholo kuye? Inkokheli enomtsalane ekrelekrele ibhulukhwe kubo bonke abantu, kodwa engagcini ilizwi labo, okanye umntu ovuma iimpazamo zabo, kodwa agcine izithembiso zakhe?
Ndiza kuhlala ndikhetha le yokugqibela, kwaye ndiyaqikelela ukuba nawe ungathanda.
Abo banemicimbi yabo, kodwa basebenze nzima ukufikelela kwiinjongo zabo - kunye nokugcina ukuthembela kwabantu kubo- kubaluleke kakhulu kunabo baphula amazwi abo amaxesha ngamaxesha.
ndiziva ngathi andimfanelanga
Umphathi othembekileyo malunga neengxaki zokuhamba kwemali kwinkampani uya kugcina ukuthembeka kwabasebenzi, ngokungafaniyo nalowo unyanzelisa konke ukuba kulungile, kuphela ukunikezela ngeentlawulo ezihlawulayo.
Inkokeli emele kwimigaqo yabo kwaye ikhupha ukunyaniseka iya kuthi ikhokelele imikhosi yabo empumelelweni. Oku kufanelekile kwigumbi lebhodi njengoko kunjalo kwibala lomlo.
Abo bagcina ilizwi labo bafanele ubunzima babo kwigolide, kwaye kuyaqondakala ukuba kutheni bephuhlisa abalandeli abazinikeleyo.
Ngokwahlukileyo koko, umntu 'ogoba inyaniso' kubasebenzi okanye kubalandeli bakhe, okanye osilelayo ukugcina izithembiso ekunzima ukuzifumana, uya kuphulukana nokuthenjwa kwabantu ngokukhawuleza okukhulu.
Umntu ulungile njengelizwi lakhe, kwaye ukuba baphosa amagama athi 'Ndiyathembisa' xa kufanelekile, kodwa basilele ukwenza kakuhle kwezo zibhambathiso, umntu angakholelwa njani kuzo?
Ukuba balophulile ilizwi labo ngento enye, unokuqiniseka ukuba baya kuyaphula kwakhona kwikamva.
Ukuba bathethe ubuxoki malunga noku, yintoni enye abake baxoka ngayo?
Khumbula ukuba izenzo zomntu zibonisa ukuba bangobani. Ukubanjwa kwisenzo esinye sokungcatsha kunokutyhila ubukhosi bomntu kuba ngequbuliso yonke into abakhe bayithetha okanye bayenza iyathathelwa ingqalelo.
Isidima seminyaka eliwaka sinokumiselwa kukuziphatha kweyure enye. - Umzekeliso waseJapan
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Inyaniso ihlala isiKhanya
Nokuba awukhathali nokuba abanye bakuthatha njengothembekileyo okanye akunjalo, kukho inkalo yokuzingca ekuhlakuleleni ingqibelelo onokufuna ukuyigcina engqondweni:
Wena Ngaba funyanwa ekugqibeleni.
Kutshanje, kwindima yam njengomhleli, kuye kwafuneka ndimgxothe umqeshwa ngenxa yokukopa. Umgangatho womsebenzi walo mntu uye wancipha kakhulu kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo, kwaye ngethuba, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndibale enye yeziqwenga ezingenisiweyo kusetyenziswa i-app yokuthelekisa.
Kwafumaniseka ukuba baphakamise yonke imihlathi kwiWikipedia, batshintsha kuphela igama elinye okanye amabini kwaba zizithethantonye.
Amanye amabinzana kunye nezivakalisi zazisikiwe zaza zancamatheliswa izichazi ngokoqobo ezivela kwezinye iisayithi, zaza zadityaniswa zenziwa isigebenga saseFrankenstein esingavisisaniyo.
Xa edibana, umqeshwa waqala waxoka malunga nale meko, emva koko wenza izizathu, emva koko wacenga kwaye wacela elinye ithuba. Babanga ukuba eli lixesha lokuqala abakhe bayenza, kwaye bazakufumana nje 'ukungakhathali.'
Kwakungekho nxalenye yam eyayikholelwa ukuba yayilixesha labo lokuqala ukukhuphela. Esi yayisisihlandlo sokuqala nje Ndizibambile .
Ukwazi ukuba lo mntu ebengenazo neentloni zokuba umsebenzi wabanye abantu awugqithise njengowabo, bekungekho ndlela ndinokuthi ndiqhubeke ndibavumele ukuba babhalele umqeshi wam.
Nokuba bebekhuthele ngokungummangaliso kwaye benyanisekile benza umsebenzi wokuqala ukusukela ngala mhla ukuya phambili, akukho namnye kuthi onokubathemba kwakhona.
Ukunyaniseka kuthetha ukuba awusoze ukhangele ngaphaya kwamagxa akho, ukhathazeke ukuba ubuxoki bakho buza kukufumana nini.
Ukuba kwaye xa ujija into phezulu, yeyakho kwaye uyithathe uxanduva lwayo. Akukho sizathu. Iinkcazo, mhlawumbi, kodwa akukho sikhalazo okanye ukucenga: ukuthembeka nokuzihlonipha.
Wonke umntu ujija amaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kwempazamo ethembekileyo, kunye nenkohliso ngabom. Enye yimpazamo yomntu, enye iya kwenza ukuba ungathembeki ngonaphakade emehlweni abo bonke abakungqongileyo.
Ungcono kunoko.
Ufuna Ukuba Ngubani?
Ngaba uyawazi umahluko phakathi kwegama kunye nomlinganiswa?
Isidima osikhulayo sixhomekeke ngokupheleleyo ekubeni abanye abantu bacinga ukuba ungubani. Umlinganiswa wakho ungoyena uphambili, nokuba uyabonwa okanye hayi.
Ke kuthetha ntoni ngakumbi kuwe?
Ukuba ngumntu othembeke ngokwenyani ngokubambelela kwimigaqo yakho? Okanye ukutyhala imida ukuze ubone into onokuhamba nayo ngaphambi kokuba ubanjwe?
Xa umamela intliziyo yakho kunye nesazela sakho, kwaye ubavumele ukuba bakhokele amazwi kunye nezenzo zakho, uyazi ukuba uhlala ngendlela eyinyani kuwe.
Awusoze ube neentloni ngezenzo zakho, kwaye ungakhathazeki ngokuba ezinye iimfihlakalo ezimnyama - loo mathambo kwigunjana lakho - ngenye imini anokufunyanwa.
Ungazijonga esipilini kwaye ziqhenye wento oyibonayo apho, endaweni yokujonga kude ngenxa yeentloni kunye nokuzingcikiva.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abo baxokayo, bayaqhatha kwaye bebe kubonakala ngathi baphuma phambili ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa ezo mpumelelo zihlala zexeshana.
Abo bantu bahlala bejikelezwe zii-sycophants kunye no-ewe-amadoda, endaweni yokuba nabahlobo abazinikeleyo abanokubenzela nantoni na.
Ngokwahlukileyo koko, abo baphila ubomi babo ngokuthembekileyo abanokuhlala besisityebi, kodwa bayakufumana imbeko, ukuthembeka, ukuthembana nothando.
Yeyiphi indlela okhetha ukuyithatha?
Ufuna ukuba ngubani?
