Wonke umntu uziva ezisola amaxesha ngamaxesha.
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Senza izigqibo ezimbi, singaphili ngendlela esicinga ukuba singayo, singenzi izinto esaziyo ukuba simelwe kukuzenza, okanye sifumane ilahleko ngaphandle kwesisombululo.
Isiphumo kukuzisola-imvakalelo eqhelekileyo kunye esempilweni ebangela ukuba sicingisise ngokuziphatha kwethu kwaye isinike neendlela zokukhula.
Ukuzisola kunokuba kunjalo, kunokuba yinto engenampilo xa singenayo indlela esempilweni yokuyiqhuba.
Endaweni yokuyiqhuba kwaye ekugqibeleni siyiyeke ihambe, sinokubanjiswa kumjikelo wokukhanyisa ukuzisola kwethu endaweni yokuphilisa kunye nokukhula kubo.
Singahlala njani ngokuzisola kwethu kwaye sikuguqule sibe sisixhobo esifanelekileyo sokuphilisa? Nazi iindlela ezisi-7 zokuthatha.
1. Thatha uxanduva ngayo nayiphi na indima oyidlalileyo.
Ukuzisola kuphila ngaphambili.
Akukho nto unokuyenza ukutshintsha esele yenziwe.
Konke onokukwenza kukuzama ukulungisa nawuphi na umonakalo owenziweyo kwaye usebenze kuwo ungenzi impazamo efanayo kwixa elizayo .
Yiyo leyo.
Ngaba ayivakali inika amandla, andibi?
Izandi ziphantse zincinci ngenqanaba kunye nobunzima obuza nokuzisola.
Kodwa ungavumeli ukuba loo mbono ikukhohlise.
Nangona ivakala incinci, kunjalo enye yezinto ezinkulu onokuyenza, kuba ifuna inqanaba lokuzazi nokwamkelwa kweempazamo zomntu.
Emva kokuba wamkele uxanduva ngendima yakho, ukuba unayo, ungaqala ukujonga phambili.
Ukuhambisa ukuzisola okudlulileyo kufuna ukutshintsha ukugxila kukokunye okungaphambili.
Unamhlanje kufuneka uthathe izigqibo ezingcono, uthathe amanyathelo alungileyo, kwaye usebenze ukukhusela iimpazamo zexesha elidlulileyo.
Ukukhetha ukubeka ujoliso kunye namandla akho namhlanje kuthetha ikamva eliqaqambileyo nelikhanyayo kuwe.
2. Yamkela into yokuba ukubheka emva kungama-20/20.
Indlela elula yokungena kumjikelo wokuhlala uzisole kukujolisa kwinto obuya kuba nayo, ngewawube ubuyenzile.
Zininzi izinto onokuzenza, ebekufanele ukuba uzenzile,kodwa ubunalo ulwazi oluyimfuneko lokwenza isigqibo esahlukileyo ngelo xesha?
Ngaba wenze ngokuthembekileyo ngolwazi onalo kangangoko unakho?
Mhlawumbi ukwenzile, mhlawumbi khange ukwenze.
Kwaye ukuba awenzanga njalo, kulungile, ngokuba ungumntu.
Akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo.
Ngaphezu koko, akukho mntu unokuqikelela ukuba ukhetho lwethu luza kuhamba njani. Ezona zicwangciso zibekiweyo zinokuchithwa ngeziganeko ezingahleliwe okanye abanye abantu ababandakanyekayo.
Ungajonga ngasemva kuyo nayiphi na imeko kwaye wazi ukuba bekufanele ukuba ukwenze ntoni, kodwa ngaba ngekhe wazi xa ubukuloo meko ngoku?
Sisiphi isigqibo ngewawusithathile ngela xesha, usazi kuphela into oyaziyo ngeloxesha?
Kwiimeko ezininzi, uya kufumanisa ukuba ubuya kwenza ukhetho olufanayo kuba lolona khetho ubucinga ukuba unalo.
3. Cinga ukuba ibiyintoni kwaye ibingenguye uxanduva lwakho.
Ukuzisola akusoloko kuyinto eyedwa.
Ngokuqinisekileyo unokuba wenze ezinye iimpazamo ngokuzikhethela kwakho.
Iyenzeka.
Into eyenzekayo kukuba ubudlelwane bethu obuquka abanye abantu bunokungabi zezona zilungileyo okanye ezicocekileyo.
Ngaba uyazisola ngoxanduva lwakho?
Yeyiphi indima edlalwe ngabanye abantu kwizenzo ezingqonge ukuzisola?
Ewe, unokuzisola ngobudlelwane obubi owawunabo nomntu owayengenabubele okanye olungileyo kuwe, kodwa ubuncinci inxenye yoxanduva emagxeni abo.
Banokukhetha amanyathelo angcono, ukuzama ukuba ngcono okanye angenzi nabuphi na ububi abenzileyo.
Cinga ukuba awuthwali umthwalo weemvakalelo womnye umntu. Ukuba ayisiyo eyakho, lixesha lokuba uyibeke phantsi.
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4. Yamkela ukusilela kwaye ubhiyozele umzamo.
Nabani na ozama nantoni na uza kusilela kuyo, kungekudala okanye kamva.
Yiloo ndlela kanye.
Ke kutheni sichitha ixesha elininzi kunye namandla sililela loo nto?
Awunakho ukufezekisa nantoni na ngaphandle komngcipheko othile. Kwaye ukuba uzimisele ukuthatha umngcipheko othile, sele ungaphambi komntu ongazange aphume esofeni okanye aphume emaphupheni egxadazela engqondweni yakhe.
Uphumile, wazama, wasilela.
Kulungile.
Ukusilela ngokwenene kukusilela kuphela ukuba awufundi kuyo.
kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumntu ongekho nzulu
Ukusilela kwinto namhlanje kuvula indlela yempumelelo yangomso. Ufunda okungasebenziyo, yintoni onokuyenza ngcono, zeziphi izinto ezikwenza ukuba ungubani.
Ubudlelane bunokungahambi kakuhle, ishishini linokuya phantsi, asinakwenza ixesha elaneleyo labo sibathandayo, kwaye asinakunika ixesha elaneleyo kuthi…
… Zonke ezi zinto, ngelishwa, zibonelela ngengqondo ethe kratya kwinto esiyifunayo ukuze siphumelele kwilinge lethu elilandelayo.
'Ngoba?' ngumbuzo ofuna ukubuzwa.
Kutheni le nto ubudlelwane busilele? Kutheni le nto ishishini lihambe phantsi? Kutheni ndingakhange ndibenzele ixesha elaneleyo abantu endibathandayo? Kutheni ndingaziniki ixesha eloneleyo ngesiqu sam?
Qalisa ukuphendula le mibuzo kwaye unokuvula indlela eya kwimpumelelo yakho yexesha elizayo ngobulumko obufumene kusilelo lwangaphambili kunye nokuzisola.
5. Gxila kuzo naziphi na iziphumo ezilungileyo ezivele ngala mathuba okuzisola.
Izenzo zikhokelela ekuphenduleni.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukusabela esikufumanayo kunokuba kude kwixa elizayo okanye kungabonakali.
Ngamanye amaxesha isenzo esibuhlungu singasibeka ngqo kwindlela yesenzo esifanelekileyo, esivumela ukuba sifezekise injongo ebesiyifuna okanye ukufumana into esingayaziyo ukuba siyayifuna.
Ngaba iimeko ezibangele ukuba uzisole zikhokelele kwinto elungileyo ngakumbi endleleni?
Oko kunokuba yinto ebonakalayo, njengokufumana umsebenzi owahlukileyo okanye ukudibana nomntu omkhulu. Isenokungaphatheki, njengokubangela ukuba ube sisikhokelo sokuzibonakalisa kwakho kunye nokuziphucula kwakho.
Izenzo zokuzisola zinokusikhokelela kuhlumo oluqinisekileyo nakwiziphumo.
Izibonelelo zokungabikho kwimidiya yoluntu
6. Vumela ingqondo yakho ihambe kwiinkqubo zayo zokuhlangabezana nokuzisola.
Ukuqaqanjelwa sisenzo sokuhlala kwiimvakalelo ezingalunganga kwaye uphinde uzibuyele engqondweni yakho.
Kwelinye icala, ukuthintela akujongani nengxaki kwaphela.
Into enomdla ngengqondo yomntu kukuba inentambo yokuqhubekeka kwaye iyeke ukuzisola, ukuba siyinika inkululeko yokwenza oko kufuneka ikwenzile.
Oko kuthetha ukuziva iimvakalelo zethu xa kufanelekile kwaye sizinike inkululeko yokuba lusizi, ukuba nomsindo, kunye nokuziva sizisola.
Abantu abaninzi kakhulu bafuna ukunqanda nakuphi na ukungakhathali konke konke.
Ngokukhawuleza ukuba ivele, lugqatso lokuyikhupha ngaphandle kwengqondo okanye ukuyitshonisa ngeendlela ezingekho sempilweni ezinganiki ingqondo yethu ithuba elifanelekileyo lokujongana neemvakalelo ezimbi.
Ukulila kuyimpendulo yendalo kunye esempilweni kwintlungu nokuzisola.
Ewe kubi ukukhanyisa, ukubuyela rhoqo kwiimvakalelo ezingalunganga kwaye uhlale ngaphakathi kuzo.
Ngamaxesha afana nalawo, kufuneka siwaphule umjikelo ngokwethu ngokungazivumeli ukuba sichithe ixesha elininzi kakhulu kuzo.
Unga yeka ukuvula iingcinga xa bephuma esandleni ngokujika ingqalelo yakho kwizinto ezintle okanye ezihlekisayo, njengokubukela imovie oyithandayo.
7. Zixolele.
Wonke umntu ufuna ukonwaba, kwaye wonke umntu uthathe izigqibo azisolayo ngazo.
Wonke umntu omthandayo, wonke umntu ohamba naye ebomini bakho bemihla ngemihla, abantu osebenza nabo, oontanga bakho… wonke umntu.
Obo bunzima beemvakalelo ngumthwalo omangalisayo wokuhamba nawo njengoko uqhubeka ebomini bakho.
Zixolele ngokuba ngumntu ongenasiphako onjalo.
Vumela ukuba ube nobubele kunye nokuqonda ngakumbi kuwe.
Yenza okusemandleni akho namhlanje nangomso wakho, kuba kuko konke onokukwenza.
Kwaye kulungile ukuba izinto azihambi. Lawa ngamabali akhanyisa amava oluntu.
