Ngaba iintlungu ezivela kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo zibeka emngciphekweni ithuba lakho lokuba nolonwabo nolwangoku?
Abantu yi-hodgepodge yeenkumbulo kunye namava- ezinye zilungile, ezinye zimbi. Iziganeko ezenzeka kuwe zibumba indlela oziva ngayo nokutolika umhlaba.
Ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba sichazwa ngabo?
Hayi. Kodwa abantu abaninzi bayabujongela phantsi ubuzaza beziganeko ezimbi yenza zichaphazele. Ukuphila kubuntwana obukrakra, ukuphathwa gadalala, okanye ukwenzakala kushiya amanxeba engqondweni anokuchaphazela impilo yakho yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo kubo bonke ubomi bakho - ukuba azilungiswa.
Kodwa uligcina njani ixesha lakho elidlulileyo ekutyhefeni ikamva lakho? Ewe, inyathelo lokuqala lokufumana isisombululo kukwazi ingxaki.
1. Amava abuhlungu
Amava abuhlungu ahlala engahoywa njengomthombo wotshintsho olubi kunye nefuthe. Ayivakali kakuhle, andibi? Nabani na okhe wehlelwa yinto ebuhlungu kwaye wayiqonda, uyazi ukuba le ngxelo kufuneka ibubuxoki.
Kodwa uqaphele ukuba ndilityibilikisile igama 'ndiyaqaphela' kwisivakalisi sokugqibela? Bambalwa abantu abahamba behamba neengxaki ezingasetyenziswanga ngenxa yokuba abaqondi amava abo abuhlungu abachaphazela kakubi .
Zininzi izimvo kunye neenkcazo zengozi, kodwa zihlala zijolise kumava asongela impilo yabo, ukuthembeka komzimba okanye ubomi. Oko kunokubandakanya ukuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana, ukulahlwa, ukusweleka okanye ukuswelekelwa ngumntu omthandayo, iingozi zeemoto, ukuba lixhoba lolwaphulo-mthetho, uxhatshazo lwasekhaya (kuzo zonke iintlobo), amava okufa kufutshane, ukubona into eyoyikisayo, nokunye okuninzi.
Kwaye abantu abahlukeneyo basabela kumava abuhlungu ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Impendulo inokuba yinto ebonakalayo, njengokusebenzisa gwenxa iziyobisi, okanye kunokuba nzima ukuqaphela, njengendlela obakha ngayo ubudlelwane nabanye abantu.
Umntu usenokungaqondi nokuba indlela yokuziphatha, iingcinga, okanye iimvakalelo ezithile zinxulumene namava abo abuhlungu.
2. Ukophulwa kweTrust
Ukuthembana kunokuba nzima kuba kufuna umntu ukuba abonakalise ukuba sesichengeni komntu esifuna ukumthemba. Inzima loo nto ukuba unexesha elidlulileyo apho ukuthembana kwakho kwaphulwa kwaye kwaxhatshazwa. Xa sonzakele, sihlala sizivalela kude kwaye sibeka iindonga zethu ukuze singaphinde senzakale. Kunzima ukwenza ukhetho kungene omnye umntu . Sifuna ukugcina ulawulo malunga nokwenzekayo kuthi, ukuze singasetyenziswa okanye senzakaliswe kwakhona. Kwaye ke sinokuthi sigcine abanye abantu kubude bengalo.
Ingxaki yile ukuthembana kufuna ukuba sesichengeni . Akukho ndlela yokuyijikeleza. Ungafunda inqaku emva kwenqaku malunga nokuba ungababona njani abaxoki kunye nabakhohlisi, ekufuneka ubathintele, ungabathintela njani kodwa la manqaku akafane abonise ukuba kwa ezo zikhombisi zithethwayo umntu ongathembekanga ziqhelekile kubantu abanexhala eluntwini, i-autism, imiba yokuhlalisana, okanye abanye abantu abazikhuselayo abazenzakalise kakubi.
“Kodwa ndazi njani ukuba ndinokuthemba?”
Akukho ndlela unokukwazi ngayo ngaphambi kwexesha. Nawuphi na umzamo wokuqikelela okufundileyo ngoyena-uqikelelo. Konke onokukwenza kukuthatha ukhetho lokunweba ukuthembela emntwini kwaye ubone ukuba benzani ngayo.
3. (kunye no-4!) Ukusilela kunye nokuzisola
Abantu bathambekele ekudibaniseni ukusilela nokuzisola kunye nokunye, kodwa zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Imbali yokusilela kwexesha elidlulileyo kunokondla uxinzelelo, ukuzithemba okuphantsi, kunye nokugcina umntu ekujongeni amava amatsha.
Ukuzisola kunokukuhlutha ulonwabo xa ujonge kwiimpazamo zangaphambili ezenziweyo, izinto onqwenela ukuba uzenze ngokwahlukileyo, okanye iimeko apho wenze yonke into kakuhle, kodwa ayikasebenzi. Ezi zizinto ekufuneka zenziwe ifreyimu kwaye zicinge ngokwahlukileyo.
Ukungaphumeleli yinxalenye yendlela eya empumelelweni. Kuphela ngabantu abanethamsanqa kuphela abakwaziyo ukwenza yonke into kakuhle kwitrayi yokuqala ngaphandle kobunzima okanye iimpembelelo zangaphandle. Uninzi lwabantu abaphumeleleyo baya kuzama into, basilele, kwaye basebenzise oko bakufundileyo ukunqanda loo mgibe ngelixa bezama kwakhona. Naluphi na uhlobo lokuziphucula olunentsingiselo lubandakanya ukusilela.
Buza nawuphina umntu ebomini bakho ozenzele utshintsho olululo ukuba izinto zihambe kakuhle xa bekuzanywa okokuqala. Ngokwesiqhelo, abo bantu baya kukuxelela ukuba benze ukhetho olubi, bajija kuhambo lwabo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bade babuyela umva. Umahluko kukuba baphakama, bazivuthulula, bazama kwakhona.
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Kwaye uzisole?
“Ndinqwenela ukuba ngendikwenze ngcono oku. Akwaba ngendingazange ndenze olo khetho. Ndinqwenela ukuba ngendenze ukhetho olungcono… ”
Ewe, awuzange. Kwaye akukho nto ibalulekileyo. Iminqweno ayizukubuyisa ixesha elidlulileyo. Ngexesha elithile, kufuneka yenza isigqibo siyeke ukuvumela ukuzisola kusilawule, ukuze sonwabele okwangoku kwaye sisebenzele ikamva elingcono. Akakho omnye umntu onokukwenzela le nto. Unamandla okutshintsha ikamva lakho. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo unamandla ngakumbi kunokuba ucinga.
Kodwa mna, umntu ongacwangciswanga kwi-intanethi, esithi ukwenza ukhetho lokungasokoli okanye lokuhlala alunangxaki. Ithetha ukuthini kanye-ukuyenza ukhetho ? Ukhetho kukuya phambili nokuba uziva njani, nokuba oko kuthetha ukukhasa.
5. Umsindo
Umsindo ubonakala ngathi ukho kuyo yonke indawo kule mihla, kufanelekile okanye akunjalo. Ingxaki ngomsindo kukuba inokubeka ityhefu ngokulula kuzo zonke izinto ezilungileyo nezintle ebomini bakho.
Umsindo udala iindonga kunye nemida engenakwenzeka ukuba yoyiswe, kuba sijolise kakhulu kwindlela esivakalelwa ngayo kunokwenene ngokufuna isisombululo. Abantu abanomsindo abathandi ukumamela ukuze bafumane isisombululo. Endaweni yoko, bahlala benomdla ngakumbi ekuqinisekiseni iimvakalelo zabo. Kodwa oko akusoloko kuyinto embi. Ngamanye amaxesha kunyanzelekile.
Ezona ngxaki ziqala nini umsindo uyakuthintela ekunyangeni , ngenxa yezinto abanokuzenza okanye abazenzileyo ngaphambili. Umsindo unokwenza umbono-wetonela apho siziva silungile, apho sifuna ukuba simanyelwe, ukuba sifanelwe ukuba iintlungu zethu ziqwalaselwe!
Ngelishwa ukuba ukuvalwa kunye nokulingana okulinganayo kunqabile, njengoko zizinto ezimbini abantu abasoloko benomsindo abahlala befuna zona.
“Kwakungafanelanga ukuba ndiphathwe ngolo hlobo! Bendingafanelanga ukuba kwenzeke ntoni kum! ”
Hayi, mhlawumbi awuzange. Abantu abafanelwe kukonzakala. Kodwa, wenza ntoni umntu ukuba umthombo awukhathali nokuba wenzakalise ntoni? Kuthekani ukuba abayiqondi indima yabo kumonakalo owenzekileyo, njengabantu abaphethwe gadalala abaqhubela phambili ukuxhatshazwa?
Asinakubambelela kuloo ngqumbo ngonaphakade, ngapha koko iyakonakalisa impilo yethu yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo. Ngexesha elithile, kufuneka sifunde ukuba umsindo ngokwawo awusebenzi. Ingangunobangela, kodwa umsindo awuyi kuwenza umsebenzi ofunekayo ukuze wenze utshintsho. Yonke into ekwaziyo ukuyenza kukuphazamisa uxolo lomntu kunye nokuphazamisa ulonwabo lwabo.
Ukugcina indlela eya kwikamva elonwabisayo…
Ndinethemba lokuba awuziva uhlaselwa okanye ugwetywe. Ndifuna ufumane uxolo lwangaphakathi nolonwabo. Kodwa ukwenza oko, kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba uya kuyifumana kuphela ngokusebenza nzima ukulungisa ingxaki nokuzenzela ukhetho olungcono. Akakho omnye umntu onokukwenzela le nto. Iindidi zeentlungu ezonakalisa ikamva lakho kunye nekamva zihlala zijolise kumanxeba adlulileyo afuna uncedo lobuchwephesha.
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