Kubaluleke kangakanani ukuhambelana kwengqondo kubudlelwane?
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Kukho imizekelo engenakubalwa yabantu abatshatileyo abangahambelani ngokwengqondo kodwa abagcina ulwalamano olonwabileyo, olusempilweni, kwaye olubaluleke ngakumbi, oluzinzileyo.
Kungenxa yokuba imisebenzi yokuhambelana kwiindawo ezininzi kubudlelwane (ngokweemvakalelo, ngokomoya, ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwasentlalweni, njl.njl.) Ukuba iqhina elikhethekileyo kwindawo enye linokugqwesa ngokulula ukungangqinelani kwenye.
Njengokuba ubudlelwane bukhula, zininzi izinto ezidlalayo kunye nokudityaniswa okungafaniyo kweentlobo zobuntu ezifuna ukhuthazo olwahlukileyo ukuvelisa ubudlelwane obusebenza ngokupheleleyo.
Kwaye ke kukho umphumo wekhemistri elungileyo yakudala yokongeza ukudibanisa!
Nangona kunjalo, inyani yokuba ucofe eli nqaku ibonisa ukuba ungangomntu oziva ukuba ukusebenza kwinqanaba lobukrelekrele elifanayo neqabane lakho kubalulekile kuwe.
Mhlawumbi usebudlelwaneni ngoku nomntu ongaphandle ofanelekileyo, ophatha kakuhle, kodwa kukho nje into ongenakuyibeka ngomnwe kuyo egcina izinto zibonakala.
Akukho bunzulu kwaye akukho nyani uqhagamshelo.
Oku kwenzeka rhoqo ngokwaneleyo xa uzulazula kwindlela yakho yokuhamba echibini lokuthandana.
Ukuzama ukufumanisa ukuba kutheni ulwalamano lwakho luswele loo 'nto ithile' inokukunika uxolo lwengqondo.
Ukuzenza wazi ezinye zeempawu zokuhambelana ngokwasengqondweni kubudlelwane, ke, kunengqondo kakhulu.
Okukhona le miqondiso uyibona kulwalamano lwakho, kokukhona ifanelana kakuhle wena neqabane lakho ngokwenyani kwinqanaba lobukrelekrele.
1. Nifunda omnye komnye.
Ukuba nolwazi olwahlukileyo kodwa olongezelelekileyo kunye nezakhono kunye nokuzimisela ukufunda omnye komnye luphawu olukhulu lokuhambelana kwengqondo.
Ukuba akukho kuzimisela nokuba kufundiswe okanye kufundwe omnye komnye, ke umsantsa wolwazi uba ngumqobo phakathi kwenu kunokuba ngumququzeleli wokuqonda.
Isiphumo kukuba elinye iqabane livakalelwa kukuba liphantsi ngokwasengqondweni okanye lingaphezulu kwelinye eli libangela isikhubekiso nakoluphi na ulwalamano.
Ekugqibeleni, ubuhlakani buyahlulwa liqabane elinye lidlala indawo 'katitshala' lize elinye libe 'ngumfundi.'
Ukuvisisana kwengqondo kuxhomekeke kubhalansi olungcono apho omabini amaqabane evulekileyo ukuba afunde omnye komnye, avumela elowo ukuba akhule njengoko ubudlelwane bukhula.
2. Incoko inokuba ngumceli mngeni- kodwa ngendlela elungileyo.
Unxibelelwano kuwo onke amanqanaba luyimfuneko esisiseko kubudlelwane obuzalisekisayo.
Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba iincoko zakho zikhuthaze kwaye ungabambeki kumjikelo ongapheliyo wentetho encinci okanye ugcine izihloko ezingaphezulu.
Xa uqala nje ukuthandana, oku kuqhelekile ngokugqibeleleyo - iincoko kufuneka ziqale kwenye indawo, akunjalo?
Nje ukuba ujikeleze ibhloko izihlandlo ezimbalwa kunye, uyakufumanisa ukuba iincoko zakho zigubungela uluhlu olubanzi lwezihloko kwaye ziyavuselela kwaye zinentsingiselo.
Abambalwa abanethamsanqa baya kufumanisa ukuba bayaxhuma kwinqanaba elingaphezulu ngokupheleleyo kwaye banamathele ngqo kwizihloko ezinobungqingili, baphonononge izifundo ezinzulu nezonelisayo ukusuka kusuku lokuqala.
Incoko phakathi kwezibini ezihambelanayo ngokwengqondo iyakhuthaza kwaye ngamanye amaxesha icela umngeni njengoko nigqibezela nzulu kwiinkolelo zomnye kunye neenkqubo zexabiso kwaye ngaloo ndlela kuphuhliswa ukuqonda okungakumbi kwento enenza ukuba nobabini ninikane.
Endaweni yokubangela ukungqubana, ukungavisisani ngamazwi okunokuvela kwezi ncoko kusebenza ukudibanisa uqhagamshelo lwakho.
Sukujongela phantsi ixabiso leencoko eziqinisekileyo malunga nolonwabo luphela. Isifundo esinye icebisa ikhonkco phakathi kwentlalontle kunye notshintshiselwano olunentsingiselo yomlomo.
Kubonakala ngathi yiyo loo nto ubomi obuzele yintetho encinci bunelisekile ngokunzulu.
3. Niyahloniphana ilungelo lenu lokuba nembono eyahlukileyo.
Kwisibini esingafaniyo ngokwasengqondweni, umahluko ocacileyo wezimvo kungekudala uza kuveza imigca ephosakeleyo kulwalamano.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba omabini amaqela azithembile kwimbono yawo, kodwa ayamkela kwaye akhuthaze iimbono ezichaseneyo neqabane labo, oku kuba ngamandla.
Oku kubuyela kwindawo yangaphambili malunga nokubaluleka kwencoko enentsingiselo kwisibini esiqhagamshelene ngengqondo.
Isenzo sokuphonononga i-engile nganye yesifundo esinomngeni, apho omabini amaqela azithembileyo kwilungelo labo lokuba nembono eyahlukileyo, kukhokelela kunxibelelwano olunzulu nolwanelisayo ngakumbi lobuchwephesha kunye nobudlelwane obonwabisayo.
Isibini esinobudlelwane bokwenyani bokwenyani siyaqonda ukuba izimvo zomnye umntu azingcono kunomnye, kwaye nokwabelana ngeembono ezahlukeneyo kuvumela ukukhula kunye nokufunda kunye kwaye kongeza ukudlamka kubudlelwane.
4. Awuze udikwe liqabane lakho.
Ukuba ixesha olichitha neqabane lakho linomvuzo ngokwasengqondweni kwaye unomdla wokwenene kwinto abayithethayo, izihloko abakhetha ukuzixoxa, kunye nezinto abazithandayo abazikhethileyo, akunakulindeleka ukuba ube uyadika kulwalamano lwakho .
Kufa kangaphi igoku
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ufikelela kubahlobo, usapho, kunye nabanye abantu ngenxa yovuselelo olunjalo, oko kuya kuphakamisa iflegi ebomvu njengento engekhoyo kulwalamano lwakho.
Konke akulahlekanga ukuba kunjalo, nangona kunjalo.
Ukwenza iinzame zokufumana ezinye izinto ezifanayo - ezemidlalo, ukuhamba, ukutya, umzekelo, kunokuphucula unxibelelwano lwakho kwaye kukunike into enexabiso lokwenene oza kwabelana ngalo.
Inokunciphisa nakuphi na ukungakhathali okubangelwa kukungafani kakuhle kwengqondo yakho.
Ukuba izinto ozikhethileyo ziyangqinelana, amathuba okuba nesithukuthezi okanye ukungoneliseki kubudlelwane bakho ancitshisiwe.
Umzekelo, ukuba wabelana ngothando lokufunda okanye bobabini bonwabele imidlalo yeqonga yanamhlanje, ke awuyi kuba nenala yokuxoxa, kodwa unxibelelwano olunzulu lwengqondo.
5. Akukho ngqondo yokhuphiswano phakathi kwakho.
Isibini esivumelana ngengqondo asizukuziva ngathi sifuna amanqaku omnye komnye.
Ngokwahlukileyo, isibini esitsala rhoqo kwaye esihlala sivela njengabachasi kunabalingane kunqabile ukuba kubude bunye bobukrelekrele.
Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba mnandi kwaye kube ngudlalani ukuba nokhuphiswano oluncinci, kodwa ikwanokunxiba ukuba kuseto olungagqibekanga kulwalamano lwakho.
Akukho sidingo sokuzivocavoca ingqondo yomntu omnye ngaphandle kokuma ukubonisa ukungalingani kwakho ngokwasengqondweni.
Isalathiso esihle sobukrelekrele kukukwazi ukunxibelelana ngokunyanisekileyo, ngokukhululekileyo nangentlonipho.
Oko akubizeli umjikelo wokudinwa wokuqhula ngokuthetha - ngaphandle kokuba, kunjalo, nobabini nicinga ukuba kuyonwabisa.
6. Iqabane lakho lonyusa ukuzithemba kwakho.
Ukuzithemba yinto ebuthathaka kunye nesalathiso esihle sokuvumelana kwengqondo yindlela oziva ngayo ukuba uziva ngokwakho kwinkampani yeqabane lakho.
Kuya kufuneka uzive ukwazi ukuvakalisa uluvo lwakho ngaphandle koloyiko lokuba zilungiswe okanye zigwetywe.
Akufuneki kubekho inzondo, umona, okanye uloyiko phakathi kwakho, kwaye akufuneki uzive ngathi ukuthembeka kwakho kuyasingelwa phantsi okanye kubuzwa.
Ingqondo yakho elinganayo ayizukuziva isidingo sokuphazamisa rhoqo, ukucacisa ngaphezulu, okanye ukukubeka phantsi.
elandelayo ibhola yebhola ephezulu
Ukuba, kwelinye icala, kuninzi kakhulu okuchaphazelayo kwendoda- okanye kwabasetyhini okuqhubekayo - kukwenza uzive ukhuselekile okanye uthotyiwe-ungadinga ukubuza ukuba ingaba ulunge kakuhle ngokwasengqondweni.
7. Wabelana ngokufanayo, okanye okufanayo, ukungcamla umculo.
Kukho into malunga nomculo onxibelelana nenqanaba leemvakalelo ezinzulu zengqondo yomntu.
Rhoqo kunokuba kunjalo, abantu abafanelekileyo ngokwasengqondweni bathanda ukonwabela izimbo zomculo ezifanayo, njengoko zidibana nabo bobabini ngokulinganayo ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukuba ulilizwe elingaphezulu, ke ngoko, kunye neqabane lakho konke malunga nentloko-ebetha intsimbi enzima, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba uphambuke ngokwengqondo.
Oku akunakuba kuyinyani kwindalo iphela, nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwezibini luyaphumelela nangona kukho umsantsa obonakalayo kwimidlalo yabo yomculo. Isitshixo sempumelelo kwiimeko ezinjalo kukuba bayahloniphana umahluko omnye komnye.
Iqela ngalinye linikwa indawo kunye nexesha lokonwabela uhlobo lomculo oluthandwayo ngaphandle kwesigwebo.
Kulungile, basenokufuna ukuzonwabisa ngasese, okanye nabanye abalandeli (kuba akukho mntu kufuneka anyanzelwe ukuba amamele umculo obeka imithambo-luvo yabo emacaleni okanye eyenza ukuba iindlebe zabo zophise), kodwa oko kwamkelwe ngovuyo phakathi kwabo.
Wabelana ngenqanaba elifanayo lokufuna ukwazi ukufunda izinto ezintsha (okanye hayi).
Abanye abantu banomdla wokufunda okanye wokufumana izinto ezintsha kunabanye.
Mhlawumbi unesiponji-esinjengesidingo sokufumana ulwazi, okanye mhlawumbi uhlala ufuna inkcubeko elandelayo.
Kwelinye icala, usenokwaneliswa nje kukuba 'ube,' unganxanelwe nantoni na ekhethekileyo.
Ayinamsebenzi ukuba yeyiphi esebenzayo kuwe, kuba akukho namnye okanye enye yeyona ndlela 'elungileyo' yokuphila.
Akunzima ukubona ukuba umntu othanda iziyolo mhlawumbi akalilo iqabane elinengqondo lomntu ongahlali onwabile kunakuqala ekhaya iinyawo zabo zijongise phezulu phambi kweTV .
Kwangokunjalo, ukufunda ngenzondelelo iincwadi eziyinyani akuyi kuba kulunge ngokugqibeleleyo ngengqondo nomntu odla imiboniso yeTV emini kunye nenyaniso yeTV.
Kwakhona, akukho nto iphosakeleyo, kodwa ngenxa yazo zonke iinging ezibalulekileyo zengqondo kuyanceda kuwo omabini amaqabane ukuba abe neminqweno efanayo.
Into ebalulekileyo xa isiza kukuhambelana ngokwengqondo kukuba nobabini ninotyekelo olufanayo.
9. Ulwalamano lwakho alukho konke malunga nomzimba.
Ukudlala ngothando kunye nokudlalwa kwangaphambili kuyonwabisa ngokungathandabuzekiyo kwaye ubudlelwane obunomdla ngokwesondo, uninzi lwabantu, sesinye sezitshixo esisiseko kubudlelwane obuzinzileyo.
Oko kwathiwa, ubudlelwane phakathi kokulingana ngokwasengqondweni abuqali kwaye buphele kwigumbi lokulala.
Imalunga nazo zonke izinto ezichazwe apha ngasentla nangaphezulu.
Ukuba elinye iqabane lizama ukunxibelelana kwinqanaba leemvakalelo, ngelixa elinye lijolise emzimbeni, kunokubonisa ingxaki.
Isenokuba sisalathiso sokuba isini sisetyenziselwa ukuhlawulela ukungabikho konxibelelwano lwengqondo.
Elinye iqabane alikwazi ukubandakanyeka kwinqanaba lobuchopho ngakumbi kwaye ke libuyela kunxibelelwano lomzimba oluvavanyiweyo kwaye lwavavanywa.
Oko, ngese, ayongxaki, kodwa ingabonisa isidingo sokuphonononga ezinye zeendawo zokuhambelana ukuqinisekisa ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buyanelisa ngokwenyani kwelinye inqanaba.
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