Kwenye yethu amanqaku angaphambili , sichukumise inani lokhetho olwahlukileyo onokuzisola ngalo kwishumi leminyaka ukusukela ngoku, kodwa uthini ngezigqibo ozozisola ngazo kumashumi amathathu okanye amane eminyaka phantsi kwendlela? Ukuba unethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukuba uphile uvuthiwe, ubudala, ngaba uya kujonga emva kukhetho olwenzileyo kwaye unqwenela ukuba uthathe enye indlela?
Amaqela abadala kuye kwenziwa udliwanondlebe malunga nezinto ezidlulileyo abazisolayo ngazo. Uninzi lwazo lukhankanye izinto ezinjengokusebenza nzima kakhulu, okanye ukungagxininisi ngokwaneleyo ekubalulekeni kobuhlobo, kodwa zininzi izinto onokukhetha kuzo ebomini ezihlala zisenza uluhlu lwezinto 'endinqwenela ukuba ndizenze ngokwahlukileyo.'
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Thatha ixesha lokufunda ezi zinto zintlanu kwaye uzibuze ukuba unetyala lokuthatha indlela efanayo abanye abaninzi abaye baphila ngayo ukuzisola.
1. UkuHlala kuThando lwaMaphakathi
Abantu abaninzi kakhulu baphela bezinza kancinci kunoko bafuna ngokwenene xa kufikwa kubudlelwane babo bobuntu, kwaye intle kakhulu iphela izisola ngokhetho lwabo xa badala. Abanye bahlala ngenxa ye- uloyiko yokuba yedwa, abanye benza njalo kuba umntu unazo zonke iimpawu 'ezilungileyo', nokuba akukho luqobo lokwenyani ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo, okanye ngokomoya.
Yijonge loo nto.
Ubomi bufutshane kakhulu ukuba ungachitha naliphi na ixesha elininzi kunye nomntu ongeyintloko phezu kwezithende ndithandana . Uyakuphela ulusizi, uhlala uzibuza ukuba ingaba yintoni na, kwaye mhlawumbi baya kuba njalo. Ingaba lonto yi enobulungisa kuni, ngokwenene? Imicimbi akunakuphepheka, uqhawulo-mtshato kunokwenzeka, kwaye konke kuyintoni? Kungenxa yokuba uziqinisekisile ukuba ubomi kunye nabo buya kuba mnandi kwaye 'bunyamezeleke'? Siyazinyamezela iinkqubo zamazinyo: ubomi bethu bothando kufuneka bubanjwe kumgangatho ophezulu kakhulu.
Kwisikimu esikhulu sezinto, kungcono ukuba wedwa kunokuba uthulule amandla kuthando olungakhuthazi kwaye lukuphakamise.
2. Ukungayami into okholelwa kuyo
Ngaba ukhe wazifumana uhlala uthule malunga nesihloko ngenxa yokuba ungafuni ukukhathaza okanye ukhubekise abanye abantu, emva koko waziva uyitoni ukuzicekisa malunga noko kamva? Ewe, oko.
Uninzi lwethu luluma ulwimi endaweni yokuthetha into elungileyo kuba esoyika ukugculelwa, okanye ukuphathwa ngendelelo, okanye nokucekiswa ngabo sibakhathaleleyo. Iinjongo zethu kunye nokuziphatha kwethu kungangqubana nezabo, okanye banokuba kwizikhundla zegunya kwaye asifuni kuphazamisa imeko ngokusebenza ngendlela esivakalelwa kukuba sifuna ukuyenza. Kodwa iintloni esiphela siziva xa singenzi into esiyaziyo ukuba ilungile zimbi kakhulu kunazo naziphi na iimpembelelo ezinokubakho ukuba SIYENZA.
Xa singathethi ngaphandle okanye sithathe inyathelo, sihlala sigqibela ngokuzisola. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, siya kubuya sibuye sibonise zonke izinto ezahlukeneyo esinokuthi / bekufanele ukuba sizithethile, kodwa azange. Oko ke kuye kwajika kwaba kukuzibuza ukuba imeko ibinokudlala njani kuwo wonke umntu obandakanyekayo ukuba kuthathwe amanyathelo ahlukeneyo, kwaye ingaba ziziphumo ziphi zexesha elide. Ewe, ukuthetha phandle kunokoyikisa njengesihogo, kwaye ubomi bunokutshintsha ngenxa yesenzo esinje, kodwa iziphumo zokungakwenzi oko kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuhlala nazo.
Ukucaphula uNjingalwazi Dumbledore, 'kuyakubakho ixesha apho kufuneka sikhethe phakathi kwento elula nefanelekileyo.'
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3. Ukukhathazeka Ngayo Yonke Into
Kukho intetho endala ethi into efana nale: 'Ipesenti ezingama-95 zexesha, into oyikhathazayo ngekhe yenzeke, kwaye iipesenti ezi-5 ezishiyekileyo ziyakwenzeka nokuba ukhathazekile okanye awukhathazeki, yintoni ke into ekukhathazayo?'
Cinga ngalo lonke ixesha olichithe uxakekile kwaye uzikhathaza ngazo zonke izinto ezinokwenzeka. Ngaba naziphi na kwezi meko zenzekile kanye ngendlela obucinge ngayo ukuba ziza kwenzeka? Uchithe ixesha elingakanani usokola?
Uninzi lwethu lubanjelwa kwiingqondo zethu zenkawu kwaye sinoxinzelelo malunga nayo yonke into enokuthi… mhlawumbi ihambe gwenxa. Sichitha iiyure ezixabisekileyo ezibanjiswe ngamaza enkwantya kwaye ixhala , kwaye xa izinto zingadlali njengoko besicinga, sikhululeka kakhulu.
Ngoku zibuze oku: Ngaba ucinga ukuba uza kubuya nelo xesha? Sinemizuzu emininzi kuphela ebomini bethu, kwaye wonke umzuzu omnye sichitha ukukhathazeka ngezinto esinokulawula kuzo ziphulukene nathi ngonaphakade. Yiba khona, khumbula, kwaye ukhumbule ukuba irekhodi lakho lokufumana amaxesha anzima liipesenti ezili-100 ukuza kuthi ga ngoku: akukho nto ungenako ukuyiphatha, ke yeka ukukhathazeka.
4.Akuhambi Ngakumbi
Thetha kuye nawuphina umntu osele ekhulile kwaye amathuba okuba baya kufumana inkungu bethetha ngeendawo ezahlukeneyo ebezisoloko zifuna ukutyelela, kodwa azange zenze njalo.
Uninzi lwabantu lurhoxisa uhambo kuba luziva ngathi yinkcitho engenamsebenzi, kwaye inokuhlala ikhutshelwa ixesha elizayo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ezinye izinto ziza kuqala, akunjalo? Ngaba bekungayi kuba kukungakhathali ukuthatha olo hambo uye kwindawo yokugcina iindlovu eKenya xa uphahla kufuneka lwenziwe ngokutsha? Ungaze ukhathalele ukubukela i-Aurora Borealis eNorway: imoto iya kufuna ukubuyiselwa ngamanye amaxesha kule minyaka imbalwa izayo, kwaye ayibalulekanga leyo?
Hayi, ezo zinto ngokwenyani akufuneki zibeke phambili ukondla umphefumlo wakho ngamava amahle, atshintsha ubomi. Yintoni esihogo silapha ngaphandle kokufumana izinto ezintle kwaye sikhule kwaye siguquke kwaye sikhanye? Ubomi abuphelelanga ekuchitheni usuku nosuku kwi-cubicle yeofisi: uhambo luyasitshintsha, lusenza silazi ngakumbi ilizwe elisingqongileyo, lisinceda ukuba sinxibelelane nabanye, kwaye ngenene lenze nje ukuba ubomi bube nenjongo yokuphila.
Ukuchana ukutyelela indawo kodwa ungaze uthathe inyathelo lokwenza ukuba kwenzeke kushiya umngxuma kwisiseko sakho esingenakuzaliswa yenye into. Musa ukuphelisa ukulala ebhedini yakho yokufa unqwenela ukuba uye eThailand endaweni yokuba uphinde wenze ingca yakho.
5. Ukubambelela Kwintlungu (okanye iGrudges)
Ukucaphula ingoma kwingoma yefilimu esetyenziswa gwenxa kwezi ntsuku (kwaye ichanekile ngokumangalisayo): Mayiyeke.
Ukubambelela kwintlungu, umsindo, kunye Ubukrakra ayikwenzi nto, kwaye ayikuphanga nje uvuyo onokuba nalo ngalo mzuzu, kodwa ikwatyhefa nolunye ubudlelwane onokuthi ubuphuhlise.
Cinga ngokubambelela kukungakhathali njengokugcina amalahle avuthayo kwinqindi lakho. Yonke into eya kuyenza kukubangela ukuba-kwaye nguwe kuphela-uninzi lweentlungu, kwaye ke uya kuqala ukuphilisa okwesibini ukuba uyilahlile. Ukuba unengxaki ekuxoleleni izigqitho zangaphambili okanye ukuyeka ukungakhathali, khangela ugqirha omkhulu onokukunceda ufumane indlela elungileyo yokwenza njalo. Uya kuziva ngcono kakhulu ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Kuhlala kunzima ukuba nenjongo malunga nemeko xa singene kuyo, kodwa asinalo ncam ukubuyela umva ngexesha xa, iminyaka engama-50 siphantsi kwendlela, sinokucaca kokubona. Nantsi ingcebiso: ukuba kukho umntu okhulileyo ebomini bakho omhloniphayo nothembekileyo, buza uluvo lwabo malunga nesihloko osokola kuso. Babuze ukuba baya kwenza ntoni na kwimeko yakho, kwaye uthobele ingcebiso yabo-babenobomi bonke bokukhanyisela into ngewayebenze ngokwahlukileyo xa babelingana nawe, ngoko ke ukuqonda kwabo kufanele kuthathelwe entliziyweni.
Ukuba awuzenzi iimpazamo ezifanayo abazenzileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba awuyi kuphelela ebhedini yakho yokufa ujonge ngasemva ngokuzisola okufanayo.
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