Andiqinisekanga nokuba uyiphawulile na le nto, kodwa uluntu lubonakala luzibeka ngokwalo kwisiseko esingaqhelekanga.
Ukuba umntu uyazondla ngokutya abakuthandayo, baziva ngathi kufuneka bavume malunga nokuba 'babi' kanjani.
Ukuba bathatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi ebazisela uvuyo, kodwa engathandwa ngokukodwa, emva koko bayayifihla, okanye baxolise ngendlela abantwana abancinci okanye abahlekisayo ngayo.
Ngaba oku kuvakala kuqhelekile?
Ngaba ukhe uzibambe kumava athile?
Uya kuba ngubani ukuba ubuphila ngokwenyani?
Makhe siqwalasele ezinye zezinto abantu abaninzi abaziphikayo, kwaye kutheni olu hlobo lokukhanyela lufuna ukukhatywa kunqandwe ukuthanda ubunyani kunye novuyo.
1. Ukunyaniseka Ngeemfuno Zakho
Ngelixa uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo oluninzi lubangelwa kukungalingani kwemichiza, i-PTSD, njl., Abantu abaninzi bajongana nale micimbi kuba baziva benyanzelekile ukuba baphile ngeendlela abangazifuniyo.
Ukugcina olu hlobo lokuzifihla Ukudinwa ngokweemvakalelo , kwaye ekugqibeleni yonakalise.
Abantu bayazazi iimfuno zabo, kwaye kubuhlungu kangakanani ukungazifezekisi ezo mfuno.
Ingxaki kukuba abaninzi bayoyika ukunyaniseka ngeemfuno zabo ezinzulu zomphefumlo kuba boyika ukulahlekelwa zizinto abanazo.
Kodwa, ekugqibeleni, phantse wonke umntu ufikelela kwinqanaba apho uloyiko lwentlungu okanye ukusilela luthatha isihlalo sangasemva kwintlungu yokuphila ngokungafanelekanga.
Kwaye emva koko kwenzeka into engaqhelekanga: ziyaphumelela.
Ukunyaniseka kuwe kukunika ithuba lokukhula ube ngumntu onokubakho.
Ewe, akuyi kuba lula ngamanye amaxesha.
Ewe kuya kufuneka uzabalaze kwaye unyamezele.
Ewe kufuna isibindi.
Kodwa xa ungasayi kuzikhanyela iimfuno kunye neminqweno yakho, ubunzima buyaphakanyiswa emagxeni akho.
2. Ukuzithanda ngokugqibeleleyo
Siva okuninzi malunga nokuzithanda kwakho kule mihla, kodwa bambalwa abantu ababonakala ngathi bayayiqonda eyona nto ithethwayo.
Ukuzithanda akuziva ulungile malunga neposti yakho ye-Instagram emva kokuba uchithe iiyure uthatha i-selfie efanelekileyo.
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Imalunga ukuba nobubele kuwe , kwaye uzithanda ngokungathandabuzekiyo kanye njengokuba unjalo, ngalo mzuzu .
Wena. Njengoko ulungile, ngoku. Ngovelwano nangokugqibeleleyo.
Ngenxa yokuba ungummangaliso.
3. Ukuzibonakalisa ngokunyanisekileyo
Thetha inyani, nokuba ilizwi lakho liyangcangcazela.
Isifundo kwesi sicatshulwa singanzima kakhulu ukuba sisifundwe, kodwa sihamba kunye # 1, ngasentla.
Ukuzibonakalisa okunyanisekileyo kubandakanya iimfuno zakho, ewe, kodwa kunye neengcinga zakho, iimvakalelo kunye nezinto ozithandayo.
Oku kunokuthetha nantoni na ukusuka ekuvakaliseni izimvo zakho ezahlukileyo koontanga bakho okanye kumalungu osapho, ukunxiba ngendlela oyithandayo, endaweni yendlela ocinga ukuba 'kufanele' unxibe ngayo.
Abanye abantu bakhetha ukuhamba nokuhamba kuba benoloyiko lokuba baya kugculelwa, bagxekwe, okanye bazondwa nokuba banyanisekile kubo.
Abanye bayazicinezela iimvakalelo zabo kuba bengafuni ukucaphukisa omnye umntu.
Uninzi lwethu lunokuba nemeko yokucinezela iNyaniso yethu endaweni yokugcina imo yokuba singazazi nokuba singoobani na.
Kwiimeko ezinje, iphephancwadi elinemibuzo eshukumayo yemihla ngemihla kunye nemibuzo kunokuba luncedo olukhulu.
Kukho iindlela zokuzibonakalisa ngokwenyani kuyo yonke imeko, nangona ezinye iimeko zinokufuna uhlengahlengiso oluncinci.
(… Njengokunxiba impahla yangaphantsi yomnyama engaphantsi kwempahla yeshishini lakho. Okanye efanayo. Ufumana umbono.)
Xa uzichaza ngokunyanisekileyo, ulahla iindonga zakho zokukhusela.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ukhuselwe, uzama ukugcina imaski yakho isendaweni.
Oku kukuvumela ukuba ukhululeke ngakumbi kunxibelelwano lwakho lwasentlalweni, kuba ungoyena ulungileyo, eyona flavour yoyikekayo KUKHO.
Kwaye oko kuyamangalisa!
4. Isithuba sokuPhilisa
Uninzi lwabantu kulindeleke ukuba lubekhona kwaye lube luhle kwaye luphume ngokoqobo ngalo lonke ixesha.
Umntu obuyela emsebenzini kwiintsuku ezimbalwa emva koqhawulo-mtshato okanye ilungu losapho eliswelekileyo uyanconywa ngokuzinikela kwakhe…
… Ngokungathi banakho ukukhulula iimvakalelo ezinzulu luphawu olukhulu lokuziphatha kwabo kunye nokuziphatha kwabo.
Oko akuthethi ukuba bakwindawo elungileyo, andibi kunjalo?
Uninzi lwexesha, kuthetha nje ukuba bazibekile zonke iimvakalelo zabo ezinzima ebhokisini kwaye bayinyanzela kwigunjana elimnyama ukuze zilungiswe kamva.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu esinokuthi sizinike yona ngeli xesha yindawo yokuqhubekeka nayo yonke into esiba nayo, ukuze sikwazi ukuphilisa.
Ukulimala okanye ukusika kakubi kufuneka kulungiswe ukuze kuphile kakuhle, akunjalo?
Kukwabalulekile ukuba uzivumele ixesha kunye nokhathalelo olunobunono ukuze uzipholise kumanxeba ngokwasemoyeni nangokwengqondo njengoko unokwenza ngokwasemzimbeni.
Xa kuziwa ekuthatheni indawo yokuphilisa, bonisa iimfuno zakho kwabo basondele kuwe.
Abantu abakukhathalele ngokwenene baya kuqonda, kwaye babaxhase kangangoko.
Qiniseka nje ukuba uxela imida ekufuneka uyigcinele impilo-ntle yakho.
Abantu banokulangazelela ukunceda ukuba uzive ungcono, kwaye ngenxa yoko, uziphathe ngendlela eyenza kubo uzive ungcono, kunokuba ubambelele kukhetho lwakho olukhethekileyo.
Nyaniseka kwaye uyinyani, kwaye uthathe naliphi na ixesha olifunayo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iimpawu ezingama-20 awuzihloniphi (kwaye ungayeka njani)
- Iindlela ezili-11 zokuKonwabela uBomi ngendlela engazange ibekho
- Uluhlu lokuGqibela lweMibuzo engama-30 yokuzibuza yona malunga noBomi
- Iindlela ezili-10 zokudibanisa ubomi bakho kube kanye
- Izinto ezingama-21 wonke umntu amele azi ngobomi
5. Ukuzonwabisa 'Okuhlekisayo'
Uninzi lwethu luzikhanyele ngokwalo amava anokonwabisa kwaye asikhuthaze kuba sicinga ukuba bayabhanxa okanye ulutsha.
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Sithanda ukwenza njalo dibanisa umdlalo kunye nobuntwana , kodwa ukudlala kuyamangalisa ibalulekile kubantu abadala njengokuba.
Xa sidlala, siphela mzuzu, kwaye ngesiqhelo siba nexesha elimnandi ngelixa sisenza njalo.
Ngokukrakra, xa uphosa i-frisbee elunxwemeni kunye nabahlobo bakho, okanye udlala ikhadi elibi okanye umdlalo webhodi, ngaba ukhathazeka ngomsebenzi?
Okanye ngaba ubandakanyeke ngokupheleleyo-umzimba, ingqondo, kunye nomphefumlo- kwimisebenzi evuselelayo yokuhleka kunye nokushiya ngokupheleleyo 'ukuba mdala' okwemizuzu embalwa?
Cinga ngamagama ekwabelwana ngawo ngoGeorge Bernard Shaw omkhulu:
Asiyeki ukudlala kuba siyaluphala siyaluphala ngenxa yokuba siyayeka ukudlala.
Umdlalo unciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye ukonyusa ii-endorphins. Ezo hormone zonwabileyo zinokunciphisa iintlungu, zisincede siphilise, kwaye zisincede nje ukuba sibuxabise ubomi kancinane, uyazi?
Zinike imvume yokwenza 'izinto ezingenangqondo' ezikwenzayo wonwabile .
Qhubeka kwaye uchithe impelaveki udlala imidlalo yevidiyo. Qaba iinzwane zakho ngepolishi ebengezelayo. Yenza umdyarho weNetflix ngelixa ugcwalisa iincwadi zokubala.
Nokuba uneminyaka engama-60.
Okanye 80…
Okanye u-25 kwaye uzive ngathi kufuneka uziphathe njengo-80.
Ndikwi-40 yam yokuqala. Ndisebenza nabathengi abavela kwihlabathi liphela, kwaye ndihlonitshwa kakhulu ngoontanga bam…
… Uninzi lwazo lukho ngokupheleleyo Ndiyazi ukuba ndichitha iimpelaveki zasehlotyeni ndithe tyaba kwi-unicorn enkulu enokutshayelwa, ndijikeleza emlanjeni.
Ungumnikazi 'wokuhlekisa', kwaye ungaxoli ngako. Hayi 'Uxolo, ndiyazi ukuba bubudenge kanjani obu, kodwa…'
Ithetha ntoni le nto uyithandayo
Akukho nanye kuloo nto.
Uyakwenza. Ngobuqaqawuli.
6. Izinto ezincinci zokunethezeka
Njengoko kukhankanyiwe ngaphambilana, ukuzibandeza izinto esizithandayo kuhlala kubonwa njengokulungileyo.
Imbi lonto.
Ngoku, njengazo zonke izinto, kubalulekile ukuba fumana ibhalansi ...
Ukuziphika ngokwakho itshokholethi kuba ucinga ukuba yinto engafunekiyo okanye eyonayo kuyaphula intliziyo.
Ukungatyi nto kwaphela ngaphandle kwitshokholethi kuya kuyophula intliziyo yakho ngendlela eyahlukileyo, yintoni enokubakho kwimithambo evalekileyo, ukutyeba kakhulu kunye nescurvy.
Ukonwabela i-truffle yetshokholethi kunye nekofu yakho yasemva kwemini kuyonwabisa.
Cinga nge-Goldilocks apha kwaye ufumane ulingano nje ngokuchanekileyo yeyakho.
Yintoni ekuzisela uvuyo?
Zeziphi i-indulgences ezenza ukuba wonwabe kukuba uhlala emzimbeni okwethutyana?
Ixesha elide, elinamanzi amade webhafu?
USushi ebhedini ngoLwesihlanu ebusuku emva komsebenzi?
Ukuthanjiswa okunzulu kwethishu?
Ukuya kubona i-opera?
Ukuhambisa ikofu kwiveranda yakho engaphambi kokutshona kwelanga?
Ukuqubha iinjana?
Naliphi na inani lamava linokwenza intliziyo yakho icule, kwaye kubalulekile ukuthatha inxaxheba kuwo rhoqo.
7. Ithuba lokulandela iimvakalelo zakho
Emva kokukhula, bangaphi abantu abanokuthi ukuba bangabuya emva kwexesha kwaye benze izinto ngokwahlukileyo, baya kuthi?
Enye yezona zinto zixhaphakileyo abantu abanokukhetha ukuzitshintsha yimisebenzi yabo.
Uninzi lwethu lukhuliswe lunoluvo lokuba ukuba siyawuthanda umsebenzi wethu, awuzukuba 'ngumsebenzi'
Ukuba le nto siyithandayo kufuneka siyenze endaweni yokuzonwabisa endaweni yoko.
Ngoku, oko kunokulungela abanye abantu kulungile. Abanye banokukhetha ukwenza umsebenzi ngokuzithandela kwabo, kwaye kunjalo.
Isitshixo kukuqinisekisa ukuba uchitha ubuncinci bexesha lakho ulandela into oyithandayo .
Ukuba unomdla ongaphezulu kwesinye, kulungile! Chonga nje ukuba yeyiphi eyona nto iphambili, kwaye ujonge ukuba lingakanani ixesha ekufuneka ulinikele kulowo nalowo. Emva koko unokucwangcisa ixesha labo bonke ngokufanelekileyo.
Oku kunokuba yiyo nayiphi na into evela kwipeyinti encinci ukuya ekuvuseleleni izilwanyana, okanye kwigadi yegolide, okanye kwiCrossFit.
Nokuba yintoni, ukuba uyayithanda, yenze yenzeke.
8. Ixesha lokuba nje
Ndingumntu, ayingomntu. -UKurt Vonnegut
Uninzi lwethu lukwimo yemveliso engapheliyo, nezibophelelo ezingabalekiyo ezisitsala ngalo lonke ixesha.
Ukusukela ngalo mzuzu sivuka ukuya kwesesibini silala ebuthongweni, sihlala sinoxinzelelo kunye noxanduva olusirhintyela.
Bambalwa kuthi abenza ixesha lokugcwalisa amandla, sesinye isizathu sokuba uxinzelelo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwemithambo-luvo kuxhaphake.
Ukuba inye into endiyiqapheleyo kwiminyaka yam emininzi yokutya igadi, sisidingo sokugcwalisa umhlaba, kwaye usivumele ukuba silale phantsi ngoku.
Imbewu etyalwe kumhlaba omtsha, otyebileyo ngezondlo ihlala ichuma. Ziyakukhula zibe zizityalo ezinde, ezomeleleyo ezivelisa iziqhamo ezisempilweni, ezinesondlo.
Ukuba ndiyaqhubeka nokutyala imbewu ngaphandle kokuwuzalisa loo mhlaba, baya kusilela ekugqibeleni ukuntshula. Umhlaba uya kuba yingqushu kwaye womile- uchithe ngokupheleleyo.
Abantu banjalo nabo. Asinako nje ukunika nokunika ngaphandle kokuthatha ixesha ukuphinda uzenze kwakhona, kwaye ubekho nje.
Zama ukuthatha ikhefu rhoqo: kude noxanduva kwezentlalo, i-elektroniki, kunye nemidiya yoluntu.
Fumana ukulala iiyure ezili-10. Yitya kancinci, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka. Yolula. Camngca, kwaye hlala ngokupheleleyo kumzuzu wangoku .
Ukwenza oku rhoqo akuyi kuzalisa nje amandla akho, kodwa kunokukunika ukuqonda okufunekayo kunye nokuphefumlelwa.
9. Ithuba Lothando, Nokuthandwa
Umntu othile undibuze kutshanje ukuba ndiyakwazi ukuthanda.
Ndifumene lo ngumbuzo othusayo, ndaye ndabuza abanye ukuba bona ndibenobunzima bokuthanda.
Iimpendulo zabo zazothusa, kwaye zandenza ndazibuza ukuba bangaphi abantu abazikhanyelayo iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zothando.
Omnye umntu wathi benza ngokulula, kodwa abaziva bethandwa kukuthandwa kuba baziva bengafanelekanga.
Omnye uthe ukuthanda abanye abantu kubashiya besengozini yokufumana iintlungu, ngenxa yoko baba neentloni kuyo nayiphi na into ngaphandle kobuhlobo bomzimba.
Kuyinyani ukuba ukuthanda kukubeka emngciphekweni iintlungu ezinokubakho, ngakumbi ukuba kunjalo uthando alufuneki , okanye xa ilahleko isenzeka, kodwa uthando ngokwalo luyinto entle ukuba namava.
Ukuba ubuthandabuza ukuthatha inxaxheba kwenye uhlobo lothando kuba uyoyika ukwenzakala, mhlawumbi ungathatha amanyathelo oya kolunye uhlobo?
Njengomzekelo, usenokungoneliseki ngumbono wothando lwesithandane ngoku, kodwa ube nomnqweno onzulu wokusebenzela uluntu lwakho.
Kananjalo, unokujonga kumavolontiya ekhitshini lesuphu. Okanye, ukuba uyazithanda izilwanyana, ungavolontiya kwindawo ekhusela izilwanyana, okanye uncede ukukhulisa iikati eziyinkedama.
Emsebenzini ndigcinelwe oko kuthetha ntoni
Ukuzivumela ukuba uthandwe kunokuba nzima nangakumbi, ngakumbi kubantwana be-narcissists, okanye kwabo banamava ezinye iintlobo zokuphathwa gadalala ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni.
Uninzi lwaba bantu alunakulithemba uthando, kuba lwalusetyenziselwa ukubaphatha ngaphambili.
Kwiimeko ezinje ngezi, ukusebenza nonyango okanye umqeqeshi kunokuba luncedo olukhulu, njengamanyathelo amancinci kwindawo ekhuselekileyo.
Ukufunda ukuthanda njani ngokungenamiqathango , ngaphandle kokulindela, inokukufundisa ukuba ungathandwa njani.
Kungathabatha ixesha ukuba oku kwenzeke, kodwa uthando lolona luhle kakhulu, lunamandla amakhulu kwindalo iphela.
Ngaba Uyazikhanyela?
Ukuba uziva ngathi uzikhanyele kwezi zinto, cinga ukuthatha ixesha ufumanise ukuba kutheni kunokuba njalo.
Thatha incwadi yakho, kwaye uzame ukunyaniseka malunga nokuba zivela phi ezi mvakalelo.
Ngelixa ulapho, yenza uluhlu lwee-pro / con, kwaye uqwalasele iindlela ezahlukeneyo malunga nokuza kwenzeka ukuba uzivumela ukonwabela into obuyiphepha kwaye uyikhanyela kude kube ngoku.
Yeyiphi eyona nto imbi inokwenzeka, ngokwenene?
Unikwe umzimba wohambo lwakho ngeli xesha lokuphila, kunye namathuba amaninzi okusebenzisa amava amangalisayo, uvuyo nothando.
Nceda uzame ukuba ungabanjiswa kwiingcinga zabanye abantu okanye izigwebo.
Endaweni yoko, zama ukuba lolona lonwabo, kwaye lolona hlobo lwenene lwakho unokuba nalo.
Mnye kuphela wena, kwaye UNGUMKHULU.
Khumbula oku.
