Ubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissists bunzima, buyothusa kwaye bunetyhefu.
Kungenxa yokuba akukho bhondi 'iqhelekileyo', kodwa enye isekelwe kwintlungu (imvelaphi yayo, kwiimeko ezininzi, ibandakanya amava abuhlungu abantwana kunye nomzali omnye okanye bobabini kunye / okanye abagcini) ekunzima ukukuqonda nokuphilisa.
Oko kukuthi, ixhoba liza kukhetha lingazi iqabane eliqikelela umama / utata wabo. Bafuna uthando olungenamiqathango olunganikwanga ngexesha lobuntwana.
Nangona kunjalo, nge-narcissist, ngokucacileyo olu thando aluzukubonelelwa.
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Ngokuchasene noko, ixhoba liza kuphinda liphathwe gadalala / impatho-mbi eyenzeke kubo ebuntwaneni.
Ibali liya kuphinda liphindaphindwe, ubudlelwane emva kobudlelwane, de ixhoba liqale kuhambo ukuchacha kwaye ukuphilisa .
AbakwaNarcissist bazama ukwenza ukuba amaxhoba abo azive ngendlela ethile ukuze bahlale bebodwa kwaye bengakwazi ukuzikhusela.
Unarcissist uyakuxhokonxa ezi mvakalelo kwixhoba, azivelise ngaphakathi kwengqondo yexhoba.
Ngaphambi kokuba nakuphi na ukuphilisa kwenzeke, ixhoba kufuneka liqonde ukuba ezi mvakalelo azizizo ezazo. Bamele bababone ukuba bangobani-imixokelelwane ejikeleze amaqatha abo kunye nemivalo kwiwindow yengqondo yabo njengenxalenye yentolongo.
Ezinye zeemvakalelo ezinamandla zibandakanya:
Iintloni
Ngaphakathi, ii-narcissists ziziva zineentloni. Ngaphantsi komfanekiso wobungangamsha kunye ubukhulu kukho 'umntu ohluphekileyo' okhalayo.
Baqikelela ezi mvakalelo zentloni kunye nokungonelisi kwabanye ukuze bakwazi ukujongana nazo.
Ngokukodwa, umntu omnye ukhethwe ukuba amele ihlazo. Ihlala ingumntu osondele kwi-narcissist kwaye kwindawo yokuxhomekeka ngokupheleleyo, nokuba iyinyani na, njengonyana okanye intombi, okanye ibonwa nje lixhoba, njengeqabane, umqeshwa, okanye umhlobo .
Uya kulivelisa eli hlazo ngeengxelo ezihambisa umyalezo wokuba ujoliso alonelanga, aluchanekanga kwaye alufanelanga luthando.
Ukuziva unetyala
AbakwaNarcissist banobuqhetseba obulunge kakhulu kwaye baya kuzama ukwenza ukuba amaxhoba abo azive enetyala ukuze babalawule kwaye babe nesandla esiphambili kulwalamano.
Umyalezo ohanjiswayo ngowokuba ixhoba lifanelwe yinto embi eyenzekayo kuye, ukuba unetyala elininzi kumnxibelelanisi, okanye indlela yakhe yokuziphatha 'iya kunyanzela' umlobi ukuba ohlwaye.
Ngokwenza ukuba kubonakale ngathi isiphoso silele kwixhoba, i-narcissist iyayiphepha indlela abaziphethe ngayo ekungeneni kuvavanyo oluninzi.
Ukuzithemba
AmaNarcissist afana nabantwana abonakele abafuna yonke into ihambe ngendlela yabo. Xa ixhoba lizama ukunika uluvo, ukuveza izimvo zalo, okanye ukungavumelani, i-narcissist iya kuhlakulela imvakalelo yokungazithembi kubo, ukuze bangathembeli kwezabo iimbono kunye neenkolelo.
Ukufezekisa oku, i-narcissist iya kusebenzisa izixhobo ezinje ukukhanyisa ngegesi Ukuxhatshazwa ngamazwi, ngokweemvakalelo, ukungathethi cwaka , kunye negama lesaladi.
Ukuxhomekeka
I-Narcissists ngabantu abaxhomekeke kakhulu, abafuna ukondla ubonelelo lwe-narcissistic olunikezelwa ngabanye.
Ke, zenza umxholo omnandi apho ixhoba liyazidinga, xa, enyanisweni, umntu oxhomekeke ngakumbi kwi-narcissist.
Izivakalisi ezinje 'awuyonto ngaphandle kwam,' 'ngubani onokukuthanda ukuba ibingenguye?' okanye 'ubuyaphi xa sinokwahlukana?' zenzelwe ukuvelisa iimvakalelo ze ukuxhomekeka .
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Indlela yeGrey Rock yokujongana ne-Narcissist xa kungekho nxu lumano ayisiyiyo inketho
- Indlela yokujongana neNarcissist: Ekuphela kwendlela eQinisekisiweyo yokuSebenza
- Ungamenzakalisa Njani uNarcissist Njengokuba Bakuvisa kabuhlungu
- Iimaski ezi-6 zeNarcissist (kunye nendlela yokuzibona)
- Uthando lweBhombu: Umqondiso osisilumkiso kwangethuba wokuba uthandana neNarcissist
- Iindlela zokuKopa xa ushiya iqabane laseNarcissistic ngasemva
Umsindo
Ngama-narcissists, ubudlelwane busekwe kulawulo kunye nokungeniswa / kulawulo.
Bahlala bejonga iimpendulo ezivela komnye umntu ukuqinisekisa ukuba bayazi ukuba ngawaphi “amaqhosha” abatyhaleyo. Ngale ndlela banokufumana impendulo kwintando ukuze bahlale begcina omnye umntu ngonyawo lwangasemva.
Banoburhalarhume / umsindo omkhulu ongasonjululwanga ukuba baya kuyiphosa ixhoba ekuzihlaziyeni kwabo kwaye basebenzise ngakumbi ulwalamano kubudlelwane.
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Ukufuna ukwenza izinto ngendlela egqibeleleyo
AbakwaNarcissists bafuna ukugqibelela, abanelisekanga nangayiphi na into. Baswele imfesane kunye nokwamkelwa kwabo kunye nehlabathi njengoko linjalo.
Ekulandeleni kwabo amaphupha okufezeka, baya kutshabalalisa kwaye bagxeke kakhulu kuyo yonke into ejikeleze bona, ngakumbi ixhoba.
Ixhoba, bade baqale ukuqonda ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye, baya kuzama ukufezekisa oko, ekugqibeleni, bathandwe ngumnxibelelanisi.
Ukuzijongela phantsi
I-narcissist's ego ibenza ukuba bafune ulawulo olupheleleyo kubudlelwane babo. Enye indlela yokuphumeza olu lawulo kukujongela phantsi ukuzithemba kwexhoba ukuze lithobeke, lithobele, kwaye lithobele.
Oku kudala imeko ephambeneyo apho i-narcissist iyinkosi kunye nexhoba njengekhoboka (ngokwezemali, ngokusebenzayo, nangokweemvakalelo).
Ixhoba ngokwenyani likhoboka lazo zonke iinjongo zide zibize amandla kunye nesibindi sokwaphula iqhina elinetyhefu.
Imvakalelo 'Yinto Engalunganga'
AbakwaNarcissists abanalo uvelwano nantoni na kwaye bondla i-ego yabo ngenkcitho yabantu ababangqongileyo, ngakumbi umntu abathandana nabo.
Emva kokuchaphazeleka ixesha elide kunyango lwabo, ixhoba liziva lilusizi, lililolo, kwaye lingenathemba ngaphandle kokuhlala ndikwazi ukubona ukuba yintoni engahambi kakuhle.
Iziva ngathi iyasilela ngaphakathi kwaye ayinasisombululo, ayinakuphiliswa, kwaye yenza ixhoba livakalelwe kukuba 'ikhona into engekho.'
Xa / yena ezama ukudlulisa oku, impendulo ye-narcissist yeyokuba ukuba kukho into engalunganga, kunjalo, ixhoba.
Ukuphelelwa lithemba
Ukuba kubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissist ngamava ayityhefu. Ithelekiswa, neengcali ezithile zengozi, nokuba semfazweni okanye kwihlelo.
Kukho inqanaba lokuhlamba ingqondo okwenzekayo elijolise ekwenzeni ukuba ixhoba lizive lingenamsebenzi kwaye lingenathemba ukuze lihlale narcissist.
Ukuqhawula iqhina kunzima kakhulu, kuba kuhlala kunxulunyaniswa nemicimbi yobuntwana. Kufanelekile, nangona kunjalo, kuba ibuyisa into ebalulekileyo kwixhoba: ithemba ebomini.
Ukwazi iintlobo zeemvakalelo oza kuzama ukuzenza kummangaleli kumaxhoba kuyanceda ekuchongeni xa usondela kakhulu komnye.
Ukuba uyazibona uzifumana rhoqo kwezi mvakalelo okanye ngamandla ngakumbi kunangaphambili (emva kwayo yonke loo nto, sonke siyazifumana ezinye zeemvakalelo amaxesha ngamaxesha), unokufuna ukubuza ukuba zivela phi.
Ukuba umntu omtsha ungene ebomini bakho-ngakumbi kwimeko yeqabane elitsha elithandanayo-unokufuna ukunyathela ngononophelo kwaye ujonge ezinye iimpawu ezinokuthi zibe yi-narcissist, nokuba enobungozi , ukufihla , okanye ngcathu .
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungazibandakanya ne-narcissist, eyona ndlela yokubaleka amaqhina abo kukuwasika ngokupheleleyo kwaye ungabikho unxibelelana nawo.
