Yintoni oyithandayo ngomzimba wakho?
Buza umntu ophakathi loo mbuzo kwaye banokuchaza ukuba bathanda njani amehlo abo, okanye iinwele zabo, okanye izandla.
Kodwa, buza into abangayithandiyo ngomzimba wabo…
… Kwaye baya kuba noluhlu lokuhlanjwa kwezikhalazo, ukusukela kubude okanye ukumila ukuya kumbala wesikhumba nemibimbi.
Ukuhamba komzimba okuhle kujolise ekutshintsheni yonke loo nto.
Isikripthi esikhawulezileyo kwii-hashtag ze-Instagram ezinje nge #bopo , #ukulele , kunye #ukugcina izakuzisa ubutyebi bemifanekiso ebonisa abantu abangangxoliyo emoyeni abazama ukubhiyozela imizimba yabo.
ngubani kwiRoyal rumble 2017
Ngelishwa, le ntshukumo ihlala iphantsi komlilo ngokungabinampilo.
Abanye babona iifoto zabantu abahlala kwimizimba engayifanelangayo imigangatho yoluntu yangoku yomzimba kunye nokutsala, kwaye banyanzelisa ukuba #bopo yindlela nje yabantu yokwenza izizathu zokuphila ngendlela engafanelekanga.
Kwaye oku akuphelelanga kwabo banemizimba emikhulu…
Abasetyhini abasetyhini kunye nabesilisa ekubuyiseni kwabo kwiingxaki zokutya abakhanyisa i- #bopo hashtag baneentloni zokukhuthaza i-anorexia.
Kuyafana nakwabo bajongana nalo naliphi na inani lezinto ezinokuchaphazela inkangeleko yabo, okanye abo bamkela inkqubo yabo yokuguga endaweni yokulwa nayo.
Ukuba uskrola nakweyiphi na yee-hashtag, uya kubona ukuba malunga nayo yonke into elungileyo, yokuziqinisekisa ine-raft yezimvo ezivela kubantu ongabaziyo abangaqhelekanga.
La magqabantshintshi ayakusukela ekuphakamiseni ngokwenyani nasekuqinisekiseni kokubonakala kuluncedo (kodwa eneneni uyehlisa) ukuya ku… ewe, uqikelele… inkohlakalo nengcikivo.
Kuya kubonakala ngathi kwabanye, uvunyelwe kuphela ukuba ube nethemba ngomzimba wakho okoko uhambelana neenjongo zentlalo yomtsalane oqhelekileyo.
ukuba wenzeni isithandwa sakho ngomhla wokuzalwa kwakhe
Yiyo le #bopo imalunga nayo yonke lento?
Ukuma komzimba kukumalunga nokuthanda umzimba wakho ngokungenamthetho, nakweyiphi na imeko okuyo ngoku
Umzabalazo olungileyo womzimba kunye nommeli wezempilo yengqondo ILexie Manion ithi:
Ubume bomzimba yintshukumo egxile ekukhanyeni okubonakalayo kwimizimba ebekelwe bucala-abantu abanemibala, i-LGBT, abakhubazekileyo, amanqatha, njl.njl.
Imizimba enamanqatha, imizimba yombala, imizimba yasebukhosini, imizimba ekhubazekileyo kunye nemizimba ethwele amanxeba edabi.
Abo bagxeka #bopo njengesizathu sokuba abantu bazibhuqe kwindlela yokuphila 'engenampilo' ababonakali ukuyifumana loo nto.
Umntu unokujonga omnye umntu kwaye athathe zonke iintlobo zezinto ngabo, kodwa ngaphandle kokuba ubazi kakuhle, ngekhe ubenalo nofifi lokuba ingaba iyintoni na imizabalazo yabo.
Abantu abathatha inxaxheba #bopo banokubandakanya:
- Umfazi one-PCOS osokoliswa kukugqithisa kweenwele zomzimba okanye ukutyeba kobunzima.
- Umntu otshintshayo ofunda ukuthanda umzimba wabo oguqukayo njengoko unyango lwabo lwehomoni luqala ukukhaba.
- Abantu abaneethoni zolusu ezingathathelwa ngqalelo njengezilungileyo apho bahlala khona.
- Umntu onomdla wokufumana ubuhle emzimbeni oqala ukuba sempilweni kwakhona.
- Abantu ekuvuseleleni kwizifo ezisongela ubomi, besamkela imizimba yabo emitsha kunye nezikrelemnqa zotyando.
- Indoda ebisoloko isokola ngemicimbi yomzimba ngoba ayihambelani nenkcazo yoluntu ngobudoda.
- Abo bane-vitiligo abayekayo ukufihla ulusu lwabo olwahlukileyo lolusu.
- Umntu onqunyulwe ilungu lomzimba oziqhelanisa nomzimba ongowasemzini kubo.
- Abantu abadala abagubha imibimbi yabo kunye neenwele zesilivere.
- Umsindisi otshisayo onokuthi ekugqibeleni ajongane nesipili (kunye nekhamera) kwakhona.
- Abantu abaneemeko zemfuza ezenza ukuba bahluke ngokuphawuleka kuninzi lwabanye.
- Umntu onealopecia ogqibe kwelokuba ayeke ukunxiba iiwigi.
- Umama okhetha ukuxabisa ulusu oluvulekileyo kwaye azolule amanqaku ukukhulelwa kwakhe.
… Okanye naliphi na inani lezinye izinto ezibonakalayo ezingaboniswanga (okanye ukuxhaswa, okanye nokwamkelwa) yimithombo yeendaba ephambili.
Yonke imizimba iyatshintsha kwaye iyatshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha, kwaye intle kakhulu wonke umntu uya kuba nobunzima ngokwamkelwa komzimba ngaxa lithile ebomini babo.
Lo ayisiyongxaki nje yokuba isini esinye sisokola ngakumbi kunayo nayiphi na enye.
Ubomi busithatha kuhambo olwahlukeneyo, uninzi lwazo ebesingalulindelanga…
Ngokuqinisekileyo, sonke siyazi ukuba siyaluphala, kodwa ukwenzakala kunye nezifo zinokubetha ngaphandle kwendawo kwaye zitshintshe iifom zethu zomzimba ngonaphakade.
Abantu banokulahla okanye bafumane ubunzima obuninzi ngenxa yesifo okanye unyango. Izinwele zingalahleka, okanye zikhule kwiindawo ezingafunekiyo.
Yintoni ebalulekileyo ekufuneka siyikhumbule kukuba sinikwe umzimba ukuba sihlale kuwo ngelixesha lohambo lobomi, kwaye kubalulekile ukuba siwuthande kwaye siwuxabise lo mzimba, nokuba ukweliphi ilizwe ngalo mzuzu.
xa umfana esoyika iimvakalelo zakhe
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Indlela yokuziqhayisa
- Kutheni Abanye Abantu Bekhohlakele Kangaka, Bekrwada, Bengenantlonelo Kwabanye?
- Ungakhathali Njani Abantu Bacinga Njani
- Ungabamkela njani abanye ukuba bangoobani (endaweni yokuba ufuna babe banjani)
- Fumanisa ukuba 'i-Self-Concept' yakho ilawula njani yonke into oyenzayo noyicingayo
- Iimpawu ezi-6 zaBantu abaNomdla ngokwenene
#BoPo Iyakukhumbuza ukuba uMzimba wakho nguMhlobo wakho
Cinga ngazo zonke izinto ezintle ezenziwa ngumzimba wakho yonke imihla.
Qhubeka… zama ngoku.
Ikuvumela ukuba wenze izinto ezininzi ezahlukileyo, ukuziva, ukonwabela zonke iintlobo zemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo kunye neemvakalelo.
Kukuphilisa rhoqo kwaye kukuzalisa, kwaye ngummangaliso wobunjineli.
Oku kunokuba yinto enzima ukuyikhumbula ukuba umzimba wakho wonakaliswe kakubi, okanye ukuba ubume okanye isini esenza ukuba uzive wahlukile kulo.
Kunzima kakhulu ukuhamba, kodwa ukuba siyakhumbula ukuba singabantu bokomoya ngoku abahlala kumzimba osebenza nzima ukusigcina siphila, singazama ukuwuphatha ngobunono, ngombulelo nothando.
Blogger UStephanie Nielson ngumzekelo omhle wokwamkelwa komzimba kunye noxabiso.
Ngo-2008, wayekwingozi yenqwelomoya kwaye watshiswa kwinqanaba lesithathu ngaphezulu kweepesenti ezingama-80 zomzimba wakhe.
Kutheni i-goldberg ishiye i-wwe
Ubuso bakhe obuhle bonakaliswe zizikrelemnqa, ebephakathi kokuthanjiswa kolusu kunye notyando, kwaye uziva uhlobo oluthile lokungonwabi komzimba iintlungu yonke imihla .
Ngaphandle kwayo yonke le nto, umzimba wakhe wakwazi ukumnika omnye umntwana osempilweni kwiminyaka embalwa emva kwengozi yakhe.
Uthetha kwiinkomfa ngokubaluleka kothando lomzimba kunye nokuzithemba, kwaye kuyinkuthazo emangalisayo kwabo basokolayo ngemicimbi yomzimba.
Siphila kwindawo eyothusayo ekwaziyo ukuzikhathaza ngobuhle obuqhelekileyo nolutsha.
Cinga nje ukuba bangaphi abantu abasokolayo nokuba ingaba abantu abaneleyo babafumana bebahle…
… Kwaye emva koko ujonge ukuba bangonwaba kangakanani ukuba bangaba uyeke ezo zinto ulindele ukuba zikhubazeke .
Khawufane ucinge ukuba bangakhululeka kangakanani ukuba bebengaziva isidingo sokwenza into engeyiyo ukuba bayakwazi ukuzithanda nokuzamkela ngokungathandabuzekiyo .
YINTONI le #bopo imalunga nayo.
Yibanenceba.
Nokuba ungumlandeli wentshukumo #bopo okanye hayi, unokuba nobubele malunga. Ukuba umntu uthumela ifoto ongayifumani enomtsalane, skrola udlule kuyo.
Ukuhlazisa omnye umntu ngokuba 'sempilweni' kuba uhlobo lomzimba wabo aluhambelani (okanye noluntu) lwakho lomgangatho onomtsalane awumenzeli nto umntu.
Awubancedi, nokuba ukwinqanaba elithile ocinga ukuba unokuba ngalo. Kuyafana nokucebisa i-electrolysis / i-waxing, i-tattooing, okanye iingcebiso zokuhombisa.
ukulinda njani umntu omthandayo
Khumbula intetho ethi, 'Ukuba awunayo into entle oyithethayo, ungathethi nto konke konke'?
Oko.
Ukuba bafuna ingcebiso, baya kuyicela. Ukuba abenzi njalo, bathabatha amanyathelo ukuya ukuzithemba nokuzixhobisa ngokwakho, kwaye yinto wonke umntu anokuyikhuthaza.
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba abantu abakho ngenjongo eyodwa yokuqwalaselwa ngokwaneleyo ukuba nomtsalane kwabanye abantu.
Wonke umntu unelungelo lokuba lapha, lokubonwa nokwamkelwa.
Banelungelo lokwenza njalo ihlonitshwe kwaye uyabazisa abantu abamangalisayo ababaziyo, nokuba badala kangakanani na, banemibala yolusu, imvelaphi yenkcubeko, ubungakanani, imilo, okanye isini.
Abathumeli iifoto zabo kuphela ingqalelo , okanye isidingo sokuthethelela ubukho babo njengokulunga ngaphandle kokujonga ngendlela ongathanda ukuba bajonge ngayo.
Abayidingi imvume yakho.
Zilungile ngokwaneleyo njengoko zinjalo.
Oku akunakuhlala kakuhle kuwe, kwaye ke, unelungelo elifanelekileyo kwezakho izimvo.
Ukwakhuthazwa ngentliziyo epheleleyo ukuba uzigcine kuwe.
Awusoze uzisole ngethuba lokuba nobubele, kwaye ngekhe wazi ukuba uza kuyikhanyisa kangakanani imini yomnye umntu ngokwenza njalo.
