Ukuba awuqhelananga nomntwana wakho wangaphakathi, mandikuvuselele kwakhona…
iindlela zothando zokumangalisa intombi yakho
Nguye owafumanisa ubumnandi obunomdla ngobomi nje kuba wayenomdla.
Uthanda ukuxuba kunye nokuthelekisa yonke into ephantsi kwelanga.
Uba nemincili xa amagorha athetha izinto ezipholileyo kwiimuvi, kwaye kamva ucingisisa ngezihlokwana zemixholo yemiboniso bhanyabhanya kunye neengxabano.
Uyazibuza ukuba uyakuze uyibhale na leya screenplay ubukade unayo ngasemva kwengqondo yakho.
Unethemba lokuba usaya eBorneo ngenye imini.
Busuku ngabunye, xa uphupha, uzama ukukubonisa izinto ezintsha azibonileyo ngehlabathi.
Umntwana wakho ongaphakathi ekunceda:
Bulala izilo ngelixa zincinci
Buza 'zithini iinjongo zakho?'
Buza 'Ubulungile namhlanje?'
Yenza kwaye ulandele eyakho imithetho
Jongisisa i amaphupha akho
Jonga umhlaba njengendawo yemimangaliso
Zazi iingozi
Uthando ngakumbi, ungakhathazeki kancinci.
Ke inkxalabo yokwenyani ayisosizathu sokuba uphinde uqhagamshele, kodwa ungakhawuleza njani? Nazi izinto ezi-8 onokuzenza ukukhawulezisa inkqubo:
1. Jonga Ihlabathi
Ukuthatha uhambo yindlela efanelekileyo yokunxibelelana kwakhona nomntwana wakho wangaphakathi.
Fumana indawo emnandi kuwe, kwaye ilizwe malazise iimvakalelo zakho ngeemilo, izandi, amavumba kunye noburhabaxa obusebenzisayo ukwenza ubunyani bethu.
Uyakhumbula xa wawusengumntwana uthathwe ngokupheleleyo ngengcinga yobugcisa njengokwenyani? Ngaba amagqabi uwatsalile ngandlela thile adityaniswe namagqabi kunye nohambo lokuwa?
Ukuhamba hayi 'kwihlabathi' kodwa eyakho Umhlaba uyaphinda uyenze loo nto kwaye uphinde uyenze kwakhona.
2. Khulisa Iinjongo Zakho
Umntwana wakho ongaphakathi ukhumbula xa wawucinga ukuba ungenza imisebenzi engenakwenzeka.
Umntu omdala wena - rhoqo phantsi komhla obekiweyo, phantsi koxabiso, kunye nokusebenza kakhulu- uhlala uhlala uzimisele ekuqwalaseleni isidlo sangaphambi kokupakishwa kunye nexesha elaneleyo elishiyiweyo ngosuku kwiiyure ezimbalwa zeNetflix uloyiso ngaphezulu kobunzima.
Inokuba lixesha lokulawula kwakhona ukuya phambili ngokungxama.
Yiba chu nayo ukuba uyathanda. Zixelele ukuba ungathanda ukuziva ubhetele emzimbeni. Thatha imizuzu emithathu ukuya kwemihlanu suku ngalunye ubingelela kwinxalenye eyahlukileyo ye-anatomy yakho ngokusebenzisa imimangaliso yokusebenzisa izihlunu.
Zixelele ukuba ungathanda ukugqiba ukubhala loo ncwadi. Isenokungabi yimpumelelo, incwadi ephumelele amabhaso, kodwa yincwadi enkulu. Ibali belisentloko yakho iminyaka. Akukho nto ibonisa ixesha elide ngaphandle kokungena kwihlabathi njengento ekhethekileyo.
ukuba wenzeni xa udikwe nyani
Ukuba khange uzobe kwiminyaka, thatha ipensile, khetha isihloko, kwaye uzibophelele kuwe ukuba lo mzobo awukho ngamehlo omntu okanye uyolo ngaphandle kwakho. Ixesha elichithwe ekubandakanyekeni ekudaleni lelakho. Injongo luxolo kuyilo.
Sijikeleza ngamakhulu eenjongo ngosuku. Dibana kunye nezo ngoku zibonakala zingenakwenzeka, zingenakwenzeka, okanye zingenakwenzeka. Uyakuqonda ukuba nguwe ozimise zonke iihagu ezifuna ukubhabha.
3. Hleka
Akukho nto ithi ukhululwe umntwana ongaphakathi ngokungathi unesibhende esipheleleyo, akukho mntu ubambe ukuhleka okungafunekiyo.
Hleka ngokungathi akukho mntu ujonge ukuhleka okungaqhelekanga ujongene ne-full-bellied, akukho ndawo ibambe iindawo ezihlekisayo kwimilomo yethu eqhelekileyo yokuzazi kunye nemingxunya yamehlo.
Kwaye sukuba ngathi akukho nto ihlekisayo. Ubufuna ukuhleka ngoluhlobo kwizihlandlo ezininzi kungagcwalisa i-gag reel ebanzi, ukanti ubambe umva. Ukufaneleka. Ukuqola. Iimpendulo ezilinganisiweyo kuphela.
Ewe. Hleka. Oothixo bam, hleka. Eli hlabathi linokuba lihle, kodwa likwazinto ezihlekisayo.
Wakha walibona ivila elidlayo? Kufana nokubukela ipolitiki izama ukuyeka ukuphendula isicelo sayo kulwaphulo-mthetho olucacileyo! Iibloths ziiteddy bears njengoko zenziwe nguMonty Python. Yiya ngqo phambili kwaye uhleke kwi-sloth.
Umntwana wakho wangaphakathi akazange ayeke ukugigitheka kubo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Imibuzo emi-5 emiNcinci enokuVusa uMoya wakho
- Izizathu ezili-10 zokungabuthathi kakubi ubomi
- Iimpawu ezi-15 eziNcomekayo zaBantu abaVulekileyo
- Iimpawu ezi-5 zoMoya oSimahla ngokwenyani
- Amnandi ama-32 kaGqirha uGqirha Seuss oQokelelwe ngeziFundo zoBomi eziNzulu
4. Dlala
Hayi kwiziteki. Ayisiyokulinganisa. Ayizukulawula. Dlala uyolo lokudlala.
Oku kungathatha uhlobo lokudlala ngengqondo ngokubandakanya umhlobo kwi-banter ekrelekrele. Inokuba ngumdlalo webhodi onemithetho kunye neenjongo ezingabonakalisi ubumnyama obusisiseko somphefumlo wakho ongathethiyo (Monopoly iye yaziwa ngokubanzi ukuba ikhuphe inani elimangalisayo lokuziphatha kwabantu).
kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi ezinentsingiselo
Umdlalo ungathatha uhlobo lomzimba: ukubamba, ukhuphiswano lokudlulisa, iFrisbee, iimoto ezihamba phambili. Inokuthatha ifom yesini: isini, iimoto ezi-bumper, ukuthambeka kwakusasa.
Ukudlala kukuvumela, kulungile, udlale ngamathuba ngaphandle kokubangela ukuba badibanise nantoni na, baye naphina, okanye banelise nantoni na ngaphandle komnqweno wokudlala.
Xa umntwana ongaphakathi eziva ebandakanyeke ngale ndlela, utyhila iimpendulo kwimibuzo engadibananga kwaphela nawo nawuphi na umsebenzi owuthandayo. Okanye ngamanye amaxesha, njengeemoto ezi-bumper, isini, kunye ulwalamano , inxulumene ngokupheleleyo.
5. Umsebenzi
Oku kunokubonakala ngathi kuyaphikisana. Umntwana ongaphakathi? Umsebenzi? Kodwa khumbula uxinzelelo lwe-laser olufana nawe kugxilwe kwimisebenzi ubeka intliziyo yakho njengomntwana.
Inokuthatha imizuzu eyi-12 ukugqiba ukuhlamba amazinyo, kodwa iiyure ezichithwe kwakhiwa ibhokisi yesepha okanye isuti yeerobhothi yabhabha njengamaxesha. Yintsomi ukuba abantwana abakuthandi ukusebenza bathanda nje ukusebenza kwizinto ezifanelekileyo.
Oku kuphawula ukubuyela ekukhuliseni iinjongo zakho, ngelixa usongeza ubungakanani bokufumana ukonwaba okanye ugxile kule nto uyenzayo ngelixa usenza, nokuba yeyiphi na.
Ezininzi ukungonwabi ebudaleni kuvela kwinto yokuba kunqabile ukuba sifune ukusebenza, kwaye oku kungenxa yokuba asenzi nanye into ebaluleke mhlophe kuthi ukusuka kumzuzu omnye ukuya komnye.
Umntwana ongaphakathi unokuvula indlela eya kwizinto ezibalulekileyo. Umntwana ongaphakathi ufuna ukusebenza. Ifuna ukufumanisa, ukuziva iluncedo, nokuba-ukuba inzulu kwindawo-yenze ntsha.
Yeka ukuzibekel 'amangomso izinto nokukhalaza. Bamba isixhobo (usiba, iharika, isando, umtshayelo, ibrashi yepeyinti, ukufayilisha ikhabinethi, amagama angama-60 ngomzuzu wokuthayipha amandla) kunye yenza into ethile.
6. Bulisani uBomi nokuBakho
Iminyaka yokukhula komntwana wakho ongaphakathi ichithelwe kwimeko yokuba molo rhoqo. Molweni kubantu abatsha, molweni kwizinto ezintsha kunye namava, molo - ukuba bekungekho mntu ungomnye kwaye kufunwa umolo- kuwe.
ukuba ungabaxelela ntoni abahlobo emva kokwehlukana
Ungayifumana kwakhona.
Ingqondo ye Yiya kukude ngaphakathi kuthi kukho inkohliso. Kuya kuba mnandi kuthi, de singakwazi ukukhumbula ngokupheleleyo incasa eqaqambileyo ye 'hello' emilonyeni yethu.
Molo, nangona kunjalo, Yandisa imimandla yokuthuthuzela kwaye ngokusenyanisweni iphinde isiphinde kwimeko nganye entsha okanye umntu omtsha ufuna ukuba siziqhelanise kwaye siguquke, sisiguqula sibe zizimanga ezingapheliyo.
I-grumpus yangaphakathi ayinakuyenza loo nto. Umntwana ongaphakathi? Ubomi bayo.
7. Yenza ifom yeringi ejikeleze kuwe
Umntwana ongaphakathi, njengabo bonke abantwana, woyika ngokulula. Kufuneka izive ikhuselekile. Wena kufuneka uzive ukhuselekile.
Iringi ayisiyokugcina abanye ngaphandle, kodwa kukuqinisekisa kwaye uyayixabisa into oyaziyo ukuba ingaphakathi kuwe: izipho zakho, imfesane yakho, uhambo lwakho lokuqonda ngakumbi kunokuba wawuzile kweli hlabathi usazi: luxabisekile, konke.
Yibize ngokuba uyihloniphe yibize ngokoqobo yibize ungazishukumi isazisi. Nokuba ungakanani igama, thanda kwaye uzikhusele ekonzakaleni, nokuba ulimele ngokweemvakalelo, emzimbeni, okanye ngokomoya.
Wazi amandla akho, yazi ukubaluleka kwakho , kunye zingce ngobuwena . Oko kuhamba indlela ende ekubuliseni umntwana wakho ongaphakathi rhoqo kusasa ngokukhanyayo, 'Molo!'
8. Ezona Ndlela Zintle
Ukuba uza kuphinda uqhagamshele kunye nomntwana wakho wangaphakathi, yenze njalo unomdla kakhulu kubantu abadala-kuwe nakumntwana engqondweni.
Umntwana wakho wangaphakathi akasisixhobo sokubaleka okanye isithuthi ukungakhuli . Ingqondo yakho yokumangaliswa yenziwe ukuba ibonakale ukuba isiseko, isazisi sabucala, njengamandla, esingenakwenziwa okanye sitshatyalaliswe, siguqulwe nje.
Isiseko sakho siyazi ukuba umhlaba awuyondawo yokutshixwa, kodwa ngamava, kubuzwa , Nditsho ndiphendula.
Yima phambi kwesipili ngamanye amaxesha ixesha elide kunokuba lithatha. Jonga nje ngokwakho. Yazi indlela abantwana abathanda ukubuza ngayo, 'Yintoni leyo?'
Nguwe lowo.
