Njenge-empath, uneseti ekhethekileyo yezakhono zonxibelelwano kunye nehlabathi kunye nabantu abanabanye abanalo.
ulwenza njani usuku ukuba lukhawuleze
Kodwa ukuba ngumntu onovelwano ngoluhlobo kuza nemizabalazo kunye nemiceli mngeni. Uya kujongana nokhetho olubalulekileyo malunga nendlela obuphila ngayo ubomi bakho kunye nendlela ozisebenzisa ngayo izipho zakho.
Olu khetho luza kububumba ubomi bakho kumanqanaba amaninzi: ubudlelwane bakho, ikhondo lomsebenzi, ubomi bakho bothando, impilo yakho yengqondo, kunye nenqanaba lakho ngokubanzi lokoneliseka kunye nokwoneliseka.
Nazi ezi-6 zezona zikhetho zibaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kunye nazo zonke iindlela, ojamelene nazo:
1. Ukuziva okanye ukukhusela
Unokuziva izinto abanye abangakwaziyo. Uyi-empath kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba uwafunxa amandla akungqongileyo njengesiponji esilungileyo nesibi, uthando nentiyo, uxolo nomsindo, uyakufunxa konke.
Ubuncinci, unako ukuba uyafuna. Okanye ungazama ukubhloka kwezinye zazo. Unokuziva, okanye ungazikhusela. Le yeyona nombolo ikhethiweyo kwaye yi-biggie. Zombini ezi ndlela zinokulunga kunye neengozi zazo, kwaye abantu abohlukeneyo baya kufumana enye indlela efanelekileyo kubo kunenye.
Uninzi lweemfesane alunakusebenza- nangayiphi na indlela lusondela esiqhelweni nangayiphi na indlela - ukuba azizikhuseli iingqondo zazo kumandla amaninzi azibhombela umzuzwana ngamnye. Baza kusebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo ukunqanda amaza angenayo ngebhidi yokunciphisa ukuphazamiseka okubangelwa ziingcinga neemvakalelo zabo.
Abanye bafumanisa ukuba indlela esebenzayo kukushiya imithambo-luvo ekrwada engumoya womphefumlo wabo kwaye ukhululekile ukuziva onke amandla asebenzisana nabo. Bawamkela amandla, bayeke ukuba baphume bangene baphume, kunokuba basebenzise amandla abo ukubeka intsimi yamandla.
Ukukhusela kunesibonelelo sokuthintela ukungena kwamandla angalunganga kunye nokunceda ukugcina intloko icacile. Ithintela imvakalelo yokuxinana edla ngokwenzeka kwiingqondo eziqinisekileyo kwaye ikuvumela ukuba uqhelane neemvakalelo zakho. Elona cala liphambili kukuba ikhaka kuhlala kunzima ukulungelelanisa, lisenza ukuba kube nzima ukuvumela ukuhamba okuqinisekileyo. Ukukhuselwa kuzenza buthuntu kwaye oku kunokwenza yonke into ibe ngumthunzi ongacacanga wemagnolia endaweni yokuqaqamba okumibalabala obubomi kunye nehlabathi elikungqongileyo.
Ukungakhuseli, kunye nokuzivumela ukuba uve onke amandla ahlukeneyo ahamba ngawe, kukunika ukufikelela kulonwabo kunye nobuhle bobomi. Unokuba namava aphezulu kakhulu xa amandla elungile kwaye oku kunokuba ngumthombo wentsingiselo enkulu. Ewe kunjalo, okubi kuza nokulungileyo kwaye xa ukungakhathali kuxhaphakile, uya kuziva uphantsi kakhulu kwaye ukufumanise kunzima kakhulu ukuya malunga nobomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.
Ukukhusela okanye ukungakhuseli, ngumbuzo ke lowo. Ukuzama ukufumana indawo eyonwabisayo kuyinkohliso kwaye ke uninzi lweempaths luya kutsalela kwelinye lala magqabi mabini. Kodwa ukukhohlisa akunakwenzeka - nangona unako ukuziqhelanisa kunye nokuzama, ufumane ukufana kolawulo kwikhaka kumzamo wokufumana izibonelelo zazo zombini iindlela. Awunakho ukuyifumana ngokuchanekileyo ngalo lonke ixesha, kodwa kufanelekile ukuyinika ukubona ukuba ungayenza isebenze.
Kufuneka ufunde malunga nokukhusela: Iindlela ezi-3 ezizezinye zeempathazi ezidiniweyo kukuzikhusela
2. Ukunceda okanye ukuHayi
Impaths zihlala zifumana kwindima yomncedisi. Uhlobo lwabo njengabantu abavakalelwa ngabanye lithetha ukuba banokunxibelelana ngokulula nabanye abantu kwaye banjalo abaphulaphuli abangumzekelo .
Kodwa oku kuza ngendleko unokuzifumanisa usindwa ziingxaki zabanye kwaye ushiyeke nexesha elincinci lokuphila ubomi bakho. Ke ngoko unokukhetha phakathi kokunceda nokuthi hayi.
Nokuba nguwe okanye hayi zichonge njengomsebenzi okhanyayo , ithuku lakho lesisu mhlawumbi liya kuba kukunceda, kodwa inyani kukuba awukwazi ukunceda wonke umntu ngalo lonke ixesha. Nokuba kunzima kangakanani na, kuya kufuneka uthi hayi ngamanye amaxesha ukuze ulondoloze impilo yakho yengqondo kunye neyasemzimbeni. Kuneke u yenza imida kwaye uzigcine zijongana nezicelo zoncedo.
Akululo ukhetho olulula ukwenza, kodwa kufuneka ulwe nalo rhoqo. Zonke iimpembelelo ziya kufuneka zibethe ibhalansi yazo phakathi kokunikezela ngeenkonzo zazo njengomncedisi nomphilisi, kunye nokunika inkampani, kodwa inembeko, hayi.
3. Ukwamkela Ihlabathi Okanye Ukuzifihla
Umhlaba omkhulu obanzi unokuba yindawo eyoyikisayo yokuphembelela amandla abanye kunye neendawo ezibangqongileyo ngumkhosi opholisayo nophantse usebenze rhoqo. Yicinge njengokuhamba ujikeleze ngombono omfiliba kunye nokukhala kweendlebe zakho. Akumangalisi ke ngoko ukuba iimfesane ezininzi zikhetha ingcwele yamakhaya azo.
imiqondiso yendoda engazithembanga kubudlelwane
Umngcipheko kukuba, nangona kunjalo, ukuba le ndawo ikhuselekileyo iba yeyona ndawo ufuna ukuba kuyo. Uyazifihla kwaye ungene kwindawo evulekileyo kancinci nangaphantsi. Uba yedwa, uginywa ngumqolomba ocinga ukuba uyakukhusela.
Ukhetho onalo, ke, yindlela olinganisa ngayo imfuno yokufumana uxolo nokuzola kwindawo yakho yokuhlala, kunye nomnqweno wokufumana ubomi kwihlabathi elibanzi. Kunokulinga ukuba ukhethe ukhetho olukhuselekileyo ixesha elininzi, kodwa ngokwenza njalo, ubeka emngciphekweni wokunciphisa amathuba akho okufumana elona xesha liphezulu kubomi bakho obudlulayo.
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Iimpawu uyoyika xa ekufutshane nawe
4. Ukuthanda ngokupheleleyo okanye ukubeka imiqobo
Ubudlelwane bunokuba yinkohliso kwimikhosi. Uluvo lwabo lwamandla ongezelelweyo lubenza babe semngciphekweni wokucinga ngokugqithisileyo, ngakumbi xa kusiziwa kubuhlobo bolwalamano lothando. Oku kunokwenzakalisa impilo yabo yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo kwaye kubeke uxinzelelo kulo naluphi na unxibelelwano abanokuthi babenalo neqabane.
Unokukhetha ukubeka imiqobo ethintelayo ejikeleze intliziyo yakho ukuze ungagungqi kwiimvakalelo ezinamandla. inkanuko nothando bay. Uyazi ukuba ezi mvakalelo, nangona zintle kwaye zibukeka, zinokubangela iintlungu kunye nosizi olungathethekiyo. Iimpikiswano, ungquzulwano, ukuxhatshazwa, kunye nokuqhekeka kukhokelela kwintlungu yentliziyo yomlinganiso ogqithisileyo wempath. Amandla eziganeko ezinjalo abukhali kangangokuba akwenza ungabinakho ukuzenzela nto.
Nangona kunjalo, ukwakha ezo ndonga kurhoxa kubomi obungenalo unxibelelwano oluzisa intsingiselo engako kubomi bethu. Ikuhlutha olona lwazi lokugqibela- intsebenziswano enothando lokwenene evakalelwa ilungile kwaye ilungile emathanjeni akho.
Kwaye ayisiyiyo kuphela ubudlelwane bezothando obunokubandezeleka xa izithintelo zinyuka zobuhlobo kunye nezibophelelo zosapho bonke banokuzifumana benomda ekusondeleni kwabo ukuba uzama ukugcina abantu kubude bengalo.
Enye indlela kukwamkela ngokupheleleyo uthando. Ewe, oku kuza nemingcipheko echazwe apha ngasentla, kwaye amathuba okuba akhokelele kwimizuzu enzima kakhulu kuwe, kodwa umvuzo ufanelekile. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukukhetha ngononophelo ubudlelwane bakho: jonga uzinzile ngokweemvakalelo amaqabane / abahlobo, abo banokuvuthwa ukuze basiqonde isipho sakho kwaye basebenze nawe ukukunceda ujongane nefuthe leemvakalelo elingenakuphepheka.
5. Ukubona ukuKhanya okanye uMnyama kwabanye
Uyazi ukuba abantu bacinga ntoni, akunjalo? Uyakwazi ukuxelela xa amagama abo engahambelani neengcinga zabo. Ke ubajonga ngeliso elikrokrisayo, ungaze uyithembe ngokupheleleyo into abayithethayo okanye abayenzayo.
Isandi esiqhelekileyo?
Olu lukhetho-ukhetho lwakho-ukubona ubumnyama kwabanye abantu kuba abasoloko betyhila yonke into malunga nabo. Ingxaki kukuba abantu abaninzi bayazibamba izinto bazimisele ukuxoka ubuxoki obumhlophe ngokufuthi ukuze bazifihle ezabo iimvakalelo. Ngaba oku kubenza babe ngabantu ababi? Akunjalo. Kungokwemvelo ukugcina ezinye zezinto ezisentloko yakho zifihliwe kwihlabathi liphela. Ngaba unokucinga ukuba khange siyenze le nto?!
Kwinqanaba eliphambene nebala, ezinye iimfesane zifuna ukubona ukukhanya kunye nokulunga kuwo wonke umntu abadibana naye. Ngokuqinisekileyo, bayazigcina iziphene, kodwa bazama ukujonga ngaphaya kwazo kwinto engaphantsi. Ezi ntlobo zovelwano ngamagqirha kunye nabancedisi ukusuka kwinqanaba lesibini, kwaye lolu lukhetho abalwenzileyo. Ukanti olu khetho luza nezinto zalo ezisezantsi: ikakhulu ukuba sesichengeni kokuphathwa gadalala.
Abantu bakuphatha njenge-doormat, befaka iingxaki zabo kuwe kwaye belindele ukuba uzilungise. Ujolise kwabo bahluphekileyo kwiindidi zobuntu obumnyama, zikubeka emngciphekweni wokuba lixhoba lonyango olubi kakhulu. Umisa amandla akho oovimba ngokuvumela abanye ukuba bakuthathe kuwe. Uyasokola ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukuthintela ukubandezeleka kwabanye.
Ukhetho aluvakali njengeyona ndlela inkulu, akunjalo? Kwelinye icala, ungahamba ngobomi bakholelwa okona kubi ebantwini, ubaphathe ngokukrokrela, kwaye ubagcine kude. Kwelinye icala, unokuzama ukubona okuhle ebantwini, ujonge okuhle kuyo nayiphi na imeko, kwaye ube semngciphekweni wokuthathwa.
Umhlaba ophakathi kokuthandabuza okunempilo kunye nesimo sengqondo sokukhathalela sinokufikeleleka, kodwa kuphela ukuba wenza umgudu wokuma kwaye ucinge ngaphambi kokuba umgwebo we-snap ukwazi ukwenza engqondweni yakho. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, wonke umntu unecala elilungileyo kunye necala elibi kubo baneempawu ezintle nezingalunganga, imikhwa elungileyo nemibi. Ukuba ujonga ukugqibelela, uya soze yifumane kwaye ukuba ujonga iziphene, uya kuthi njalo zifumane.
ungayibona njani inkawu ebhabha
6. Ukuba nombulelo ngesipho sakho okanye ubacaphukele
Okokugqibela, sifika kwindawo yokugqibela yokugqibela ebomini babo: ukwamkela isipho sabo kwaye sinombulelo ngayo yonke into esiyizisayo, okanye ukuyicaphukela kwaye siyinqwenelele okuhle.
Akukho nto iyiphikisayo into yokuba iimfesane zijongana nezinye imizabalazo eyahlukileyo ukuba abanye abakwazi ukunxibelelana nayo, kodwa bafumana amava kwihlabathi ngendlela ebonakalayo ebonakalayo. Ukulinganisa njani okuhle xa kuthelekiswa nokungalunganga kuya kugqiba ukuba uyonwabile okanye akunjalo.
Ungaphantsi kokukhohlisa: indlela ojonga ngayo isipho sakho lukhetho njengabo bonke abanye abadweliswe apha. Ekupheleni kosuku, imbonakalo yakho-elungileyo okanye engalunganga-yinto onamandla kuyo.
Ngaba uyi-empath? Zeziphi iindlela ozikhethileyo? Ngoba? Shiya iikhomenti ezingezantsi ngeengcinga zakho kunye namava.
