Nokuba ucinga kakhulu malunga nengcinga elungileyo okanye umbono ombi, ucinga kakhulu.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuyeka ukucinga ngento ethile kwaye iba ngumcimbi kuwe, zininzi iindlela zokujongana noku kwaye uqhubele phambili.
Kunokuba nzima ukulawula iingqondo zethu ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye kunokuba ngathi akunakwenzeka, kodwa yinto nje yokufumana indlela esebenza kuwe.
Kungenxa yoko le nto siqokelele iindlela ezili-12 ezintle zokuyeka ukucinga ngento ethile, ukuze ukwazi ukuqhubekeka uzive usempilweni kwaye wonwabile ngokubanzi.
1. Jongana nokuthanda kwakho.
Inyathelo lokuqala lokukunceda uyeke ukucinga ngento ethile kukujongana nayo.
Yintoni le ingqondo yakho igxile kangaka kuyo?
Thatha ixesha lokufunda ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye, kwaye ungoyiki ukumba nzulu. Into ozama ukuyiphepha isenokungasoloko iyile nto ucinga ukuba…
Umzekelo, unokucinezela malunga nomboniso emsebenzini. Ugqibe kwelokuba ufuna ukuyeka ukucinga ngentetho, kodwa akubonakali ngathi ikwenza uzive ungakhathazeki kangako.
Isenokuba kungenxa yokuba intetho ayisiyiyo eyona nto ikukhathazayo-yinto yokuba uyoyika umphathi wakho. Lo ngumba ohluke ngokupheleleyo, kwaye awuyi kuhamba nokuba uyeka kangakanani ukucinga ngentetho.
Endaweni yoko, kuya kufuneka ujongane nomcimbi nomphathi wakho. Ngaba ikhona indlela onokuthi usebenze ngayo kubudlelwane bakho nabo, ungathetha nesebe lakho le-HR ukuba kukho umba oqhubekayo njengokuxhaphaza okanye ukuhlukumeza, ungaxela komnye umntu?
U-hwang jung-eum utshatile
Ngokuthetha ngokwenene khupha , inyathelo elinye ukusondela ekufumaneni ifayile ye- isisombululo sokwenyani.
Okukhona usiya kugrumba phantsi kwizinto eziqhuba ezi mvakalelo kwaye yintoni ekwenza ufune ukunqanda into engaka, kokukhona unethuba lokuyilungisa-kwaye ukwazi ukuyeka ukucinga ngayo ngokulungileyo!
2. Thetha phandle emva koko udlulele phambili.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunokunceda ukukhupha iingcinga zethu kwinkqubo yethu kunokuzifaka ezingqondweni zethu.
Oko kunokuthetha ukuthetha ngabo nomntu esimthandayo esimthembayo.
Vumela ukunyaniseka ngokupheleleyo malunga nokuba yintoni ojolise kuyo-thetha ngendlela ekwenza uzive ngayo, zeziphi iziphumo onoxinzelelo okanye onomdla ngazo, kunye ngoba ufuna ukuyeka ukucinga ngayo.
Okukhona uvuleka ngakumbi, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kuba nakho ukuluvala ucango kuyo kungekudala.
Ukuba kukho into ozama ukuyiphepha ukucinga ngayo-nokuba ngaba kunjalo Kulungile into-yokuqinisekisa ukuba abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho bayazi ukuba oko kunokunceda ngokwenene.
Kunokuba nzima xa abo bakungqongileyo bezisa izihloko ozama ukuziphepha, kwaye ubazise ukuba yintoni hayi Ukuthetha nawe kunokwenza kube lula ukuyeka ukucinga ngento ethile.
Bazise ukuba kutheni uzama ukuphepha ezi ngcinga, kwaye baya kukuxhasa kwaye baqonde.
Okukhona abanye abantu bekukhumbuza ngento ozama ukuba ungacingi ngayo, zimbalwa 'izinto ezibangela' kwaye kokukhona unokugxila ekuthobeni intloko yakho kwaye uqhubeke nezinto.
3. Hlala uxakeke zezinye izinto.
Nokuba uzama ukunqanda into ekwenza uzive uxhalabile, okanye uzama ukuhlala uzolile kwaye uyeke ukonwaba kakhulu ngento enkulu, ukuhlala uxakekile sisisombululo esifanelekileyo kwiingcinga ezijikeleza ngokujikeleza.
Gcina ingqondo yakho iphazanyiswa zezinye izinto kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Oko kunokuthetha ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabahlobo, ukuzibandakanya, ukwenza into elula efana neepuzzle ukuze ingqondo yakho ijolise kuloo nto, okanye ukubukela ukubukela kakhulu umboniso.
Nantoni na eya kuhlala engqondweni yakho kwaye idinise umzimba wakho ilungile!
4. Iingxaki zokusombulula iziphumo ezinokubakho.
Kulungile, masithi uyakuthintela ukucinga ngento kuba ibangela iimvakalelo ezingalunganga, nokuba luxinzelelo, unxunguphalo, okanye usizi.
Sidla ngokubanjwa ziimvakalelo zethu, ngakumbi ezo singazithandiyo, kangangokuba singazihloli kakhulu. Oku kuyaqondakala- kutheni ungafuna ukuhlala kunye neemvakalelo ixesha elide kunokuba ufuna?
Nangona kunjalo, ngokujongana neemvakalelo, ungafumana iindlela zokoyisa.
Yenza uluhlu lweziphumo ozoyikayo. Masithi ukhathazekile ukuba uza kuphulukana nomsebenzi wakho nangasiphi na isizathu. Ukuze ukwazi ukuyeka ukucinga malunga noku, kuya kufuneka ucinge ngeziphumo ezinokubakho zoko kwenzekayo, uzihluphe, emva koko uqhubeke.
Ngokufumana isisombululo kwiingxaki ezinokubakho ezinxulumene neemvakalelo zakho, unokuvalwa kwaye ekugqibeleni uyeke ukucinga malunga nomba.
Umzekelo, ukuphulukana nomsebenzi kungakhokelela kuluhlu lweziphumo, kubandakanya nokusokola ukuhlawula irente, uziva uneentloni, ukufumanisa kunzima ukufumana umsebenzi omtsha njl.
Ke, masisombulule ezo ziphumo…
Ungaqala ukugcina imali ngoku ngokwenza izinto ezincinci, ungathetha nabantu obathandayo abaya kukunika ukuzithemba kwaye bakuxhase, ungayiphucula i-CV yakho kwaye uqalise ukuthetha neearhente zokugaya abantu.
Ngequbuliso, loo nto uzama ukuyiphepha ukucinga ayoyiki kangako kuba uye wavuma ukuba yeyiphi na eminye imiba enokubangela, kwaye uyazi ukuba uya kuba nesicwangciso endaweni yokuba ezo ngxaki zivele.
5. Musa ukuzibaxa ngezinto ezintle!
Oku kuyafana nenqaku lethu elingentla, kodwa kugxile kwingcinga elungileyo ozama ukuyiphepha.
Mhlawumbi uzama ukungacingi ngetheko lakho lokuzalwa elizayo, okanye iholide oyibhalisileyo.
Usenokuba uzama ukunqanda ukucinga ngezi zinto kuba usoyika ukuba zingenzeki. Ukuba kunjalo, unokulandela indlela efanayo yokusombulula ingxaki.
Masithi iqela lakho liyarhoxiswa ngesizathu esithile, zeziphi ezinye iindlela onokukhetha kuzo? Ngokuba neendlela ezizezinye engqondweni, awubeki yonke into kwesi siganeko sinye.
Uvuleleke ngakumbi kwizinto eziguqukayo kwaye uya kuba bhetyebhetye kwaye ukhululeke ukuba izinto zifuna ukuguqulwa ngomzuzu wokugqibela.
Ngokufumana ezinye iimbono zilungele ukuhamba, ngekhe uzive udanile okanye ucaphukile kuba sele ulungile ezinye iindlela ezimangalisayo!
Ngokulinganayo, unokonwaba kakhulu kwaye ufuna ukubuyela kwimvakalelo yokuziva ulunge ngakumbi. Unokuzinceda uzive ukwiqondo elininzi ngokucinga ngalo ngoba unemincili kakhulu.
Mhlawumbi awukwazi ukulinda ukubona abahlobo abathile, kwaye kukwenza uzive ukhululeke kakhulu, okanye uvuseleleke kakhulu. Endaweni yokuya kwi-0 uye kwi-100, ungaqala kancinci ukonyuka uye kwi-5 okanye kwi-10 ukusuka ngoku kude kube kwenzeka isiganeko.
Iimpawu ezi-3 zomhlobo olungileyo
Oko kunokubandakanya ukuba neefowuni ezimbalwa zevidiyo nabahlobo ngaphambi kwepati enkulu, ukuze ungoyiki xa kusenzeka.
Kunokuba luncedo ukuthatha amanyathelo ambalwa okulungiselela iholide ukuze ungabi nakulungiswa kwisiganeko esinye esisodwa esenzekayo-mhlawumbi qala ukupakisha ngoku, okanye ukudibanisa uhambo lokuhamba.
Ewe, oko kuthetha ukuba ucinga ngayo, kodwa iyenza ukuba ilawulwe ngakumbi kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. Endaweni yesiganeko esinye esikhulu, unamanqanaba ambalwa kulwakhiwo oluya kukunceda ulawule iimvakalelo zakho ngcono.
6. Yiba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni ngamathuba amatsha.
Ukuba uyiphupha elingephi okanye ulungiswa kwifantasy ethile malunga nekamva lakho, oku kunokukunceda ngokwenene. Usenokuba uzama ukuthoba isandi sengcinga yakho ukuze ungakhukuliseki kakhulu okanye ulungiswe kwisiphumo esinye.
Endaweni yokulungisa imeko enye, zivumele ukuba ucinge ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo onokukhetha kuzo!
Oku kuthetha ukuba uya kuncipha ngokweemvakalelo kwiphupha lakho elinye, kwaye liya kuba nolawulo oluncinci kwaye likubambe, lenze kube lula ukuyeka ukucinga ngalo.
7. Cinga kwaye uziqhelanise nengqondo.
Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo susa iingqondo zethu kwinto ethile kukucamngca. Le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuthula kwengqondo kunye nokugxila kokukhoyo ngoku.
Enoba uzama ukuyeka ukucinga ngento ethile embi, okanye uzama ukungaziphuphi kakhulu, unokufumana inzuzo ethile engqondweni.
Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuziqhelanisa nokukwazi ukungena kwinto ebizwa ngokuba 'kukuqaphela.' Le yindlela yokulawula iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho ngelixa ucamngca.
Kubandakanya ukwamkela ukuphazamiseka okuvela ngelixa ucamngca, kwaye uqaphele ukuba ziimvakalelo zomzimba (umlenze onqabileyo, umqolo obuhlungu, njl.) Okanye iingcinga.
Ngokulungisa iziphazamiso, ungazivumela ukuba zihlambe ngaphezulu kwakho - amaxesha amaninzi xa sizama kakhulu ukunqanda ingcinga ethi inamathele ezingqondweni zethu kwaye asinakunceda kodwa siyilungise.
Zininzi ii -apps ezimangalisayo ngaphandle apho ezinokukukhokela ngokucamngca ukuba awukwenzi oko ngaphambili. Beka umculo othile wokuthoba umsindo, wonwabe, kwaye uzilungiselele ukuphuma ngaphandle!
Okukhona unokucamngca rhoqo, kokukhona ingqondo yakho iya kukuqhela ukuphumla kwaye ukhululeke. Ndiyathemba ukuba, xa kuvela iingcinga ezithile, unokuzivumela zidlule engqondweni yakho kunokuba uzicwangcise okanye uzikhathaze ngazo.
Ngokungena kulo mkhwa, iingqondo zethu zidibanisa eli xesha lokucamngca ngokuba ngokukhululeka ngakumbi kwaye singagxili kakhulu kuyo nayiphi na ingcinga.
8. Phumla kwaye ujonge ukuzikhathalela.
Ukuba ukufumanisa kunzima ukuvumela ingcinga ethile ukuba iye kwinqanaba apho ufuna ngamandla ukungakwazi ukucinga ngento ethile, unokufuna ukuphumla okungakumbi!
Ingavakala ngathi yinto encinci yokuphuma, kodwa xa sidiniwe, iingqondo zethu zinokubaleka ngokulula nazo.
Ukuba asilali okanye sityhile ngokwaneleyo, amanqanaba ethu oxinzelelo anyuka, oko kunokuthetha ukuba iingqondo zethu zinamathele kwingcinga kwaye ngequbuliso oko kukuthi konke esinokucinga ngayo.
Ialberto del rio iyagxothwa
Ukhe waqaphela ukuba into ozama ukuyiphepha ukucinga ayisiyonto inkulu kangako leyo? Endaweni yoko, kukuthambekela okungaqhelekanga ingqondo yakho enako ekubangela ukuba uzive uxhalabile okanye uxinezelekile?
Ukuba oko kuvakala kuqhelekile, kunokwenzeka kakhulu ukuba uphele engqondweni nasemoyeni, kwaye ufuna ukuphumla ngakumbi.
Khumbula ukuba izinto ezinje ngokutya okusempilweni, ukwenza umthambo, amanzi aneleyo, ukukhanya kwelanga kunye nomoya omtsha konke kwenza umahluko kwindlela oziva ngayo.
Ukuba unengxaki neengcinga zakho kwaye uzive ngathi awunakulawula ingqondo yakho ngoku, jolisa kwimpilo yakho.
Laa mandla ubeka ekuthatheni ingqalelo kuloo nto ucinga ngayo? Yithumele ekuzinyamekeleni, kwaye ugcwalise ixesha lakho elisecaleni ngeyoga, iimaski zobuso, unyango, ukuzolula, ukuhlala elangeni.
Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuze uzive ungcono kwaye ingqondo yakho iya kukhululeka ngokwendalo, ikuncede uyeke ukucinga ngento ekukungcungcuthekisayo.
9. Khumbula ukuba oku kuyakugqitha.
Kwakhona, le inokuvakala isisiseko okanye ilula kakhulu- kodwa iyanceda. Nje ukuba uqaphele ukuba ezi ngcinga aziyi kukuhlupha unaphakade, kwaye kungekudala uza kukhululeka kuyo nantoni na ekusibekeleyo, uyakufumanisa kulula ukuvumela ezi zinto zihambe ziyeke ukulungisa.
Into edla ngokwenzeka, ikakhulu ngeengcinga ezingakhiyo, kukuba sinengcinga, isenza singonwabi, sizame ukuyigxotha, sigxile kwindlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngenxa yayo, ingcinga ibuya kuba sihlala sigxile kwindlela yasenza saziva-njalo njalo.
Oku kunokusebenza kwiingcinga ezilungileyo, kodwa endaweni yokuziva ungakhululekanga, siziva sonwabile okanye sonwabile, okanye ibangela ukukhutshwa kwe-dopamine (ihommon-good hormone) kwaye emva koko singene kumjikelo.
Zama ukukhumbula ukuba le ngcamango ayiyi kukukhathaza ixesha elide, kwaye uya kukwazi ukuyeka ukucinga nokucinga ngako.
Ziqhelise ukuzenzekela.
Ezinye zezi ngcebiso zijolise ngakumbi kubantu abafumana kunzima ukuyeka ukugxila kwingcinga engalunganga. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba uzama ukuyeka ukucinga ngento onomdla ngayo?
Ukuba unomdla kakhulu ngento ethile, kukho ithuba lokucwangcisa konke entlokweni yakho. Ukuba ngumcwangcisi kukhulu ngeendlela ezininzi, kodwa kunokubangela ukuba ube ngumda wokujonga umda malunga neenkcukacha ezincinci.
Ukuba uzama ukunqanda ukucinga ngento oyicwangcisileyo, ungathatha amanyathelo amancinci.
Umzekelo, yiya phambili ekwenzeni ezinye izinto ezingacwangciswanga! Akudingeki ukuba ibe yinto efana nokujika kwisikhululo seenqwelomoya kunye nokubhukisha inqwelomoya elandelayo, ungakhathazeki.
Kungayinto efana nokubiza umntu ngaphandle kokumisela ngaphambi kwexesha, ukubamba ikofu kuba uhambe udlula kwenye indawo ekhangeleka intle, okanye ukufumana indawo yokutya ngaphandle kokwenza ugcino kuqala.
Ezi ziindlela ezintle onokuziqhelanisa nokungacwangcisi, kwaye ungazenza nomhlobo wakho ukuba awukhululekanga ngokuzama wedwa okwangoku.
Okukhona unokukhululeka xa ungacwangcisi izinto okanye ungazazi ngqo, iinkcukacha ezincinci, kokukhona uya kuqala ukukhululeka kokucinga okungalawulekiyo.
Ukuba ulungisa ukucinga ngento oyicwangcisileyo, ukuthatha inyathelo umva kunokunceda.
Ziqhelise ukungonwabi kwaye wenze izinto ngaphandle kwemephu yomzuzu ngamnye womsitho. Oku kuyakukunceda uyeke ukucinga ngento edlala engqondweni yakho, kwaye ungonwabela nje ukubakhona ngoku.
11. Unyango lokuntywiliselwa.
Oku akusebenzi kuwo wonke umntu! Nangona kunjalo, abanye abantu banokukufumanisa kuluncedo ukuchitha ixesha elithile bejolise kwingcinga abafuna ukuyiphepha. Kuvakala ngathi kubuya umva, siyazi, kodwa sinyamezele…
Ngamanye amaxesha, iingcinga ziba nzima kakhulu ukuziphepha kuba sizama ukuzivalela kwakamsinya nje ukuba zivele. Umzekelo, i-ex yakho inokuvela entlokweni yakho kodwa awufuni kujongana nendlela evakalelwa ngayo-endaweni yoko, utsibela kwisitayile sokunyathela, ucuphe umculo, okanye uphume usela nabahlobo.
Iindlela zokuphepha zinokusebenzela abanye abantu kwaye ukuhlala uxakekile kunokuba sisiphazamiso esikhulu, njengoko kuchaziwe ngaphambili kweli nqaku. Nangona kunjalo, abanye bethu bafuna ukuhlala ngokupheleleyo neengcinga zethu ngaphambi kokuba siqhubeke nokusuka kubo.
Qiniseka ukuba unenkqubo yenkxaso eyomeleleyo ejikeleze wena, kwaye zivumele ukuba uphonononge ingcinga ozama ukuyiphepha. Le-deep-dive iya kukunceda ekuhambeni kwexesha, kwaye iya kwenza kube lula ukuyeka ukucinga ngayo.
Vumela ukhale kwaye uziqhekeze, zive iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye yamkele okwenzekayo engqondweni yakho.
Ukuba neli xesha kunokukuzisela uhlobo lokuvalwa, oluya kuthi ekugqibeleni lwenze kube lula ukuyeka ukucinga malunga nomba ngokubanzi.
12. Funa uncedo lweengcali.
Ukuba unengxaki yokuyeka ukucinga ngento ethile (nokuba iyimbi okanye iyonwabisa) kwaye iyaqala ukubuchaphazela ubomi bakho okanye impilo-ntle yakho, kungangakuhle ukuba uthethe nomntu onokukunceda ngokwenene.
yintoni ukuthembeka kwaye kutheni kubalulekile
Ukufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha kuya kukuvumela ukuba ufumane iindlela zokoyisa iipateni zokucinga ezingalawulekiyo. Baza kuba nakho ukunika ezinye iingcebiso zendlela yokuwaphula umjikelo wakho wokucinga, njenge-CBT-okanye unyango lweCognitive Behavioural Therapy.
Oku kunokukunceda wenze iipateni ezisempilweni okanye imikhwa eya kuthi ekugqibeleni ikuncede uyeke ukucinga ngento ekuchaphazelayo.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungasebenzisa uncedo oluthile lobuchwephesha, cofa apha ukuze ufumane umcebisi kufutshane nawe, okanye umntu onokusebenza nawe kwi-intanethi ukusuka kwinduduzo yekhaya lakho.
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Singacebisa ukuzama amaqhinga ambalwa ahlukeneyo ukuze ubone ukuba yeyiphi eyona nto ikulungeleyo. Khumbula ukuba ayizukutshintsha ngephanyazo, kwaye ukuzikhathalela thina neengqondo zethu kukuzibophelela kwexesha elide.
Qalisa namhlanje ngokuphumeza imikhwa esempilweni, uzingqonge nabantu obathandayo, kwaye ujonge kuncedo lobuchwephesha ukuba izinto ziziva zingalawuleki.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungayeka njani ukucinga ngento ethile? Thetha nomcebisi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukudibanisa nenye.
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