Ukuphupha kusengqondweni kudlala indima ebalulekileyo ekunikeni ingqondo yakho ixesha elincinci lokuphumla.
Ubomi bunoxinzelelo. Sinemihla ebekiweyo emsebenzini, indawo yokuhlamba impahla, izitya zokucoca, kwaye mhlawumbi nabantwana ekufuneka sibasukele. Emva koko kukho umba weendaba nayo yonke into eyenzekayo emhlabeni.
Ngubani ongadingi xesha lincinci lokuphepha qho emva kwexesha?
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Wonke umntu wenza ngandlela thile.
Kukho iindlela ezisempilweni zokwenza oko-njengokuntywila kwincwadi, ukuthatha ikhefu, ukubukela imovie, okanye ukwenza umthambo. Kwaye kukho iindlela ezingenampilo zokwenza-njengokusebenzisa utywala, ukusebenzisa gwenxa iziyobisi, okanye ukunqanda.
Zonke ezi ndlela zisempilweni zokubaleka okomzuzwana zinokungabi yimpilo ukuba ziphazamisa amandla akho okuqhuba ubomi bakho. Kuxa izinto esizithandayo njengokufunda, ukubukela iimovie, imidlalo yevidiyo, okanye ukwenza umthambo endaweni yoxanduva esiqala ukungena engxakini.
Ukuphupha kusenokwahluka.
Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokusinda kancinci amaxesha ngamaxesha. Kodwa xa ukuphupha kwakho kuqalisa ukuphazamisana noxanduva lwakho, kunqumleza umgaqo ube “kukuPhupha kakubi.”
Yintoni iMaladaptive Daydreaming?
Imaladaptive Daydreaming yimeko yengqondo echongwe nguNjingalwazi uEliezer Somer weDyunivesithi yaseHaifa kwa-Israyeli. Ayiboniswanga kwiDSM-V kwaye ayinaso nesicwangciso sonyango esayanyaniswa nayo. Nangona kunjalo, yamkelwe njengengxaki yokuphazamisa abantu abanayo.
Iphupha elingalunganga lokuphupha kusengaphambili linokubangelwa ziziganeko zobomi bokwenyani ezibangela ukuba umntu abaleke kuloo meko. Ukuphupha kusenokubangelwa yimisindo, ivumba, incoko, okanye amava omzimba.
Iimpawu zibandakanya:
- Ukuphazamiseka ebuthongweni
-Imibono yamaphupha eqaqambe kakhulu enezinto ezinobunkunkqele njengabalinganiswa, iyelenqe, okanye ibali lebali
-Umnqweno omkhulu wokuqhubeka uphupha
- Ukuhamba okuphindaphindayo ngelixa uphupha emini
- Ukusebeza, ukuthetha, ukwenza imbonakalo yobuso ngelixa uphupha
- Amaphupha abangelwa ziziganeko zobomi bokwenyani
nini ukubuza ukuba ubuhlobo buya phi
-Ukukhubazeka okunako ukugqiba imisebenzi yesiqhelo
Ukuphupha ngemizuzu kangangeeyure ngexesha
Nangona ibonwa njengemeko yengqondo, akukho lwazi lukhulu luyinyani malunga nonyango kunye nokoyisa. Isenokuba sisiphumo seemeko ezimbi zobomi apho ukuphuncuka kusisidingo sokumelana neemvakalelo zokuphathwa gadalala okuqhubekayo okanye umothuko. Isenokuba luphawu lokunye ukugula ngengqondo okanye isiphumo sendlela yokuphila engafanelekanga.
Umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba kutheni bephupha kangaka ukufumana isisombululo sengxaki.
Kutheni uphupha kangaka nje?
Ukufumana isisombululo kuqala ngokuchonga ingxaki. Ngaba unokuzibona izizathu zokuba uphuphe?
Abanye abantu bayaphupha ukuba bajongane neemvakalelo kwaye babalekele iintlungu zobomi bokwenyani. Ukuphupha kusengaba yinto yokubaleka uxinzelelo okanye ezinye iimvakalelo ezingalunganga umntu angafuni ukujongana nazo.
Kungenzeka ukuba yindlela yokuziva uqinisekile ngesiqu sakho okanye ngokuzihlaziya ngokucinga ngeziphumo ezilungileyo okanye ilizwe eliyiphupha apho izinto zibhetele kunobomi bokwenyani.
Abanye abantu bayisebenzisa njengendlela yokuziqhatha ngokukhumbula into ebuhlungu. Ngokucinga imeko enxunguphalisayo enesiphumo esibi njengemeko yoxinzelelo kunye nesiphumo esihle, umntu ophuphayo unokuzikhohlisa ngokukholelwa ubuxoki.
Oko kunokuvakala kuyinto entle, kodwa ayisiyiyo. Olo hlobo lokubaleka luthintela umntu ekuphiliseni nakweyiphi na into embi eyenzekileyo ngokuyiphepha ngokupheleleyo ukuze ikhule kwaye ibuye kamva ngendlela embi.
Cinga ukuba zeziphi iintlobo zamaphupha onawo kunye nenjongo yawo. Ngaba uzama ukuziphazamisa? Ngabalekela imeko embi yengqondo? Ligqithise ixesha? Okanye uzenze uzive ungcono?
indlela yokuxelela ukuba umfazi uyathandwa kuwe kodwa uyayifihla
Zeziphi iipateni ezikhoyo ekuphupheni kwakho?
Ngaba ungachonga iipateni ezithile kwindlela ophupha ngayo emini? Mhlawumbi ufumanisa ukuba ingqondo yakho ithe phithi kukucinga xa ujongene noxinzelelo okanye ulwazi olunzima.
Akukho ngqiqweni ukufuna ukusaba kububi behlabathi okwethutyana. Unokufumanisa ukuba ingqondo yakho iqala ukuzama ukushenxisa kude ngelixa ubukele iindaba kwaye uzikhathaza ngeziganeko ezingaphandle kolawulo lwakho.
Mhlawumbi luxinzelelo oluvela esikolweni, ekhaya, okanye kubomi bosapho obangela ukuba umke. Kungenzeka nokuba ufuna nje indlela yokubulala ixesha ngelixa ungenanto iqhubekayo ngalo mzuzu.
Ngaba kukho into ebangela ukuba ubonakale xa usephupheni?
Fumana indlela yokusebenza ngeenxa zonke okanye ukunciphisa izinto ezikhoyo.
Ukuchaza into ebangelwe yinto ekulula ukuyithetha kunokuyenza. Isenokungabi nakho ukuyichitha ngokupheleleyo, oko kukuthi, susa icandelo leemvakalelo okanye inkuthazo ebangela ukuba ulahle kude kuye ekuphupheni.
Kodwa ukuba unako, kuya kufuneka. Mhlawumbi uzifumana usemaphupheni xa ubukele iindaba njengendlela yokubaleka. Oko kungabalwa ngokubukela iindaba ezimbalwa.
Umsebenzi oxinzelelekileyo okanye ubudlelwane kunokuba nzima ukushiya. Okwangoku, kunokuba yimfuneko ukuba ifuthe elibi kwimpilo yakho yengqondo ukuya kwinqanaba apho kufuneka ubaleke rhoqo.
Ezinye zeemeko ziyityhefu nje, kwaye azinakusetyenzwa ngokukuko ukuba omnye umntu akaboni ngxaki ngento eqhubekayo. Ngamanye amaxesha eso sisigqibo esibi ekufuneka usenzile wena kunye nentlalo-ntle yakho.
Ukuphucula ukuqonda kwakho kunye nokuqonda.
Ukuqiqa sisixhobo esinamandla sokulwa nokuphupha emini kuba imalunga nokugxila kule ilapha nangoku.
Ukuphupha kusoloko kusenzeka xa sivumela iingqondo zethu zishenxele kude kuthi ziye kwiingcinga ezikude nakwimiboniso eyintsomi.
indlela yokuphilisa umona kubudlelwane
Ngokuziqhelanisa nengqondo, sisebenza ukuze sizithobe emhlabeni ngalo mzuzu wangoku apho sikhoyo ngoku sazi ngokupheleleyo ngalo mzuzu. Awujolisanga kwinto enokubakho okanye engeyiyo, enokwenzeka okanye engenakwenzeka, into engaphambi okanye emva kwakho.
Ushicilelo inokuba yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwenza malunga nokuphucula ukuqonda kwakho. Into ekufuneka uyenzile kukuthatha ixesha ukubhala into ocinga ngayo, indlela oziva ngayo, kunye nokuyiqonda ngoku.
Yindlela elula enokunceda ukuzisa kunye nokugcina ingqondo yakho okwangoku ngokuziqhelanisa ngokwaneleyo. Iyakwenza ukuba ukwazi ukugxila kunye nokukhulisa amandla akho okuchonga xa ingqondo yakho ikhukuliseka imka.
Ukuphupha emini ngokuziphucula ngokwakho.
Ukuphupha kusengaba sisixhobo esiluncedo ekuziphuculeni nasekuboniseni xa usisebenzisa ngendlela ejolise kuyo.
Kungakuhle ukuba usebenzise elo xesha ucinga ngobomi obungcono ofuna ukubusebenzela, ujonge imiqobo ephambi kwakho, kunye neenjongo ekufuneka uzilandele.
Oko umbono oqinisekileyo inokukunceda uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo ngokuzivumela ungene kwindawo ekhuselekileyo ekukuphela kwayo kwaye uphonononge. Oko kunokukunceda uphumle kwaye uzolile xa ufumana ubunzima.
Cinga ngoncedo lweengcali.
Kukho amanqanaba ahlukeneyo okuphupha asuka ebenign ukuya kwi-maladaptive. Kuqhelekile ukuphupha emini rhoqo. Akuqhelekanga okanye kuphilile ukuphupha ukuphazamisa amandla akho okuqhuba ubomi bakho.
Unokwazi ukujongana nokuphupha okumodareyitha njenge-escapism ngokwakho, kodwa isenokwalatha kwingxaki enzulu yokuba unokufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ubomi bakho buhlala buphazanyiswa kukubhadula kwengqondo, kunokuba luncedo ukuthetha nengcali yezempilo yengqondo eqinisekisiweyo malunga noko uhlangabezana nakho. Cofa apha ukuze ufumane enye.
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