Umntu olele ecaleni kwesithandwa sakhe sokulala unokuba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni ngesiquphe wokuba bekuya kuba lula kangakanani ukubabulala belele. Ingcinga enjalo inokubothusa kwaye ibacaphukise. Banokulala bephaphile ubusuku bonke, bothuswe kukucinga njalo.
qhubeka ukwahlukana kwaye ubuyelane
Ngaba kukho into egwenxa kakhulu kubo ngokucinga into enjalo?
Ngaba ezi ngcinga ziyimpawu zokulumkisa zokuqala kwabo ukuba babe ngabaphangi ababulalayo?
Ngaba ngokwenene banomnqweno ongathandekiyo wokubulala iqabane labo?
Ewe, hayi. Ukungahleliwe- kwaye kuhlala kukho ubundlobongela okanye enye indlela ephazamisayo- iingcinga ezinje ngezi zaziwa ngokuba 'ziingcinga ezingathandekiyo,' kwaye wonke umntu unazo.
Wonke umntu.
Bavame ukusikhulula xa bevela, njengoko bahlala bephuma ngaphandle kwaye babonakala ngathi bavela kwezona ndawo zimnyama zengqondo zethu. Ngokwenyani, ziingcinga nje ezingahleliwe kwisikimu esikhulu seengqondo zethu ezisebenzayo.
Ukungenelela okusiphazamisayo
Iingcinga zethu azize ziyeke ukusebenza, kodwa uninzi lwamaxesha asizithatheleli ngqalelo iingcinga eziphuma kwingqondo yethu ekuhambeni kwemini, kuba azisichaphazeli ngokweemvakalelo inqanaba.
Nanku umzekelo: uhleli edesikeni yakho emsebenzini, uzama ukugxila kwinto efanele ukuphela kosuku, kwaye ngequbuliso (NGAPHANDLE), uyazibuza ukuba ingaba ilagna ibizokuthini ukuba yenziwe ngezilayi zepitsa eseleyo endaweni yeeodles eziqhelekileyo. Unganqumama okomzuzwana uyicingisise lonto, cinga “huh, enokuba ilungile,” kwaye uqhubeke ngokusebenza ngaphandle kokunika ingcinga.
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, ubushenxisiwe yingcinga apho ubuzibuza ukuba injani inja yakho, ungafumanisa ukuba uloliwe wakho wokucinga uphazamisekile ngokupheleleyo, kwaye uya kuchitha iiyure ezimbalwa ezilandelayo uzibuza nge-WTF NGOKUQINISEKILEYO?! Uyayithanda inja yakho kunye ne-OMG ungayicinga njani into enjalo?
Unokulayisha zonke iifoto zenja yakho kwifowuni yakho kwaye uzenze zilile zonke ezo ngcinga zoyikekayo ziye zangena engqondweni yakho kwaye uyintoni umntu okhohlakeleyo ekufuneka unguye kwaye awusoze uphinde utye inyama kwaye uya kumbamba uMnu Woofles xa ufika ekhaya kwaye kwaye…
Zombini ezo ziyimizekelo yeengcinga eziphazamisayo, kodwa i-lasagna pizza travesty (okanye ubuhlakani?) Ikhutshwa ngokulula kuba ayisiyiyo itaboo ene-backlash eqinileyo yeemvakalelo. Leyo ngcinga inokuphuma ngaphandle kwengqondo yakho ngokulula njengoko ingena kungenxa yokuba i-psyche yakho iyamkele nje njengomntu ongenayo okwethutyana, kwaye ayizange ihlale kuyo.
Kwelinye icala, impendulo eqatha emadolweni kwingcinga nje yokwenzakalisa umntu omthandayo, kungasathethwa ke ngaye, ukubetha amabala abuhlungu kuzo zonke iiseli zakho ezincinci. Ukutya inyama yenja yinto enkulu ethandwayo kwiinkcubeko ezininzi, kwaye uninzi lwethu luye lwafundiswa ukusukela kusuku lokuqala ukuba izinja zingabahlobo kwaye asibadli abahlobo bethu. Izilwanyana zasekhaya zingamalungu osapho kuthi, kwaye sinobudlelwane obomeleleyo ngokwasemphefumlweni kunye nabo, ke xa ingcinga engaqhelekanga ihlasela intsingiselo yazo zombini iintliziyo kunye nomgqomo wethabha… kukho ingqokelela yengqondo engenakuhoywa.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ukuba Unokufunda Iingcinga Zabantu, Ungafunda Oku Malunga Nawe
- Iziqinisekiso ezi-6 zokuphinda kwakhona xa ucinga kakhulu
- I-Psychology ye-Sublimation kunye nendlela yokuyisebenzisa kubomi bakho
Ukuhlala Kwenza Iingcinga Ezingxamisekileyo Ngakumbi
Xa kusiza ingcinga yokungena ngaphakathi njengepuppy pie, sihlala siyilungisa, eyinika nje amandla. Endaweni yokuyishukumisa nje siyishiye, sihlala, siyhlafune, sizama ukuqonda ukuba ivelaphi kwaye kutheni. Ngaba ngokwenene uneminqweno engacacanga yokutya inja yakho? Ngaba le ngcinga iluphawu lwesilumkiso kwangoko sesigulo sengqondo? Njl.
wazi njani ukuba umfazi otshatileyo uya kukopela
Iingcinga ezinje ngoku zijikeleza ngaphandle kwaye zisenza ukuba sixhalabe kuba asifuni ukuba nazo, kodwa siziva ngathi asinakulawula kuzo. Ngokwasemzimbeni, sinokubonisa iimpawu ezinje ngokubetha kwentliziyo ngenxa yokuba iimvakalelo ezingalunganga zibangela ukulwa / ukuphendula ngenqwelomoya ngaphakathi kwethu.
Sinokukhula sisifo esinyanzelekileyo sokunyanzelwa (OCD) kuba ngalo lonke ixesha sijonga umfanekiso wenja, ocinga ukuba unokumtya uza kuthi qatha engqondweni, nto leyo ebangela uxinzelelo kwaye isenze sithande ukuqhuba le ngcinga kude.
Sisoloko sibeka esweni iingcinga ezinje ngezi, kodwa esona senzo sokungena ukuze ubone ukuba basesekhona na sinokubenza ukuba bavele, kakhulu ngendlela efanayo nokukrazula ibhandeji yetyatye kwilonda ukujonga ukuba kuyanyanga na. ukuvula kwakhona.
Ezi ngcinga ziqheleke ngokugqibeleleyo, kwaye nawe unjalo
Ukuba kukho into enje eyakha yakwehlela, thatha umoya omkhulu, kwaye wehlise umoya. Mhle kakhulu wonke umntu owakha wazi naye ukuba neengcinga ezinje ngezi, kodwa kunqabile ukuba sizivume kwabanye abantu. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba bayasiphazamisa, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo baya kuphazamisa abanye, kwaye sijongana ngokwaneleyo uxinzelelo ekuhlaleni kwaye isifo somguli ngaphandle kokongeza umbane kulomlilo, enkosi kakhulu.
Ezi ngcinga zivela kwilizwe lasendle le ukungabikho zingqondweni iingqondo, kulapho yonke imisebenzi yethu yoyilo iqala khona. Kulapho amagcisa kunye nababhali bafumana ukukhuthazwa kwabo kwimizobo kunye namabali, kwaye nalapho amaphupha ethu azalwa khona.
Ukuba ubunokuvuka ngenye intsasa emva kokujongana nephupha apho uzibhaqa uphantsi kwenjana yakho, kunokwenzeka ukuba ucinge 'ingcwele, ibiliphupha elibi' kwaye uyishukumise njengoko usela ikofu yakho yasekuseni. Unokuyibamba inja yakho ixesha elide kunesiqhelo, kodwa ngekhe uphazamiseke kakhulu kuba, kulungile, ibiliphupha nje, akunjalo?
Kuba ezi ngcinga zivela kwi-subconscious, kunokwenzeka ukuba ziphefumlelwe yinto ekucaphukisayo okanye ekuphazamisayo. Usenokuba ukhe walibamba ibali malunga nabantu abatya izinja kwelinye ilizwe kwaye lakuphazamisa ngalo mzuzu, kodwa wawushenxisela ecaleni kuba ukufumene kuphazamisa.
Ngokuyicinezela, isenokuba yazifaka kwi-subconscious yakho de yanyanzeliswa yenye into, eyathi yavela ngaphambili kwaye yakudiliza kuloo projekthi bekufanele ukuba usebenza kuyo.
Isitshixo sokujongana nezi ngcinga zangaphakathi zixhomekeke ngokupheleleyo indlela esisabela ngayo kubo . Ukuba bayakothusa ngalo mzuzu, kulungile ukuba uchithe ixesha elincinci ucinga 'wow, yilento iphambeneyo apho,' kwaye ke vumela ingcinga ihambe.
Baqonde ngenxa yoko bakuko, kwaye uzame ukungabinalo naluphi na uhlobo lokuphambuka kubo esona senzo sokwenyanya yinto eya kwenza ukuba ibambelele ezingqondweni zakho. Ungakhe ulinge uyicinge ukuba ibhabha isuka kuwe ngendlela yokucamngca iVulcan yendlela ojolise nje kwenye into, kwaye sukuqhubeka nokujika iingcinga zakho ubuyele kwi-interloper ukuze ubone ukuba ihambile na.
Ukuba unesifo se-OCD, isifo soxinzelelo, i-PTSD, okanye uxinzelelo, kunokuba nzima ngakumbi kuwe ukuvumela ezi ngcinga zihambe, kwaye kulungile. Zama nje ukuzola, kwaye uzame iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokukunceda ukuba udlule kubo. Ukuba iingcinga eziphazamisayo ziyakucaphukisa kwaye ziphazamise ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, thetha nonyango lwakho okanye omnye umboneleli wezempilo. Banokusebenza kunye nawe ukufumana ubuchwephesha obusebenzela wena, ukukunceda ufunde ukuba ungaziyeka njani ezi ntlobo zeengcinga xa zivela.
