Wonke umntu ngumxube wezinto ezilungileyo nezimbi…
… Wena, mna, umama wakho, umhlobo wakho, umntu ohleli ecaleni kwakho ebhasini.
Sonke sineengcinga ezilungileyo nezingalunganga, iimvakalelo, kunye nokuziphatha okuchaphazela indlela esijonga ngayo kwaye sinxibelelana nelizwe liphela.
Izinto ezintle nezintle ngeziqu zethu zezona ziqhele ukusinceda sakhe ubomi obunempilo nobonwabisayo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba sishiya izinto ezingalunganga nezingalunganga zethu, sinokubuyela umva okanye sicime nayiphi na inkqubela esinokuyenza uba ngumntu ongcono .
Nangona kunjalo, inkqubo yokuziphucula ihlala ifuna uninzi lweendlela ezahlukeneyo okanye izixhobo zokulungisa ezi zinto zibi kuthi.
Enye indlela onokuthi uyisebenzise isebenze Sublimation.
Kwi-psychology, i-sublimation luhlobo oluqinisekileyo, oluvuthiweyo lwendlela yokhuselo ekuvumela ukuba uguqule iimpembelelo ezingalunganga, ezingamkelekanga ngokwasentlalweni, iingcinga, okanye isimilo kwenye into elungileyo neyamkelekileyo eluntwini.
Iinjongo zale ndlela kukunciphisa ukonakaliswa kolo gwenxa. Ukunciphisa ifuthe elinalo kubomi bakho.
Umzamo owubekayo ekutshintsheni isiphumo seengcinga ezinengxaki kunye neemvakalelo zinokuphinda zisebenze kwakhona kwisimo sokuqala kwabanye abantu.
Kwabanye, usenokuhlala ufumana ezo ngcinga zimbi okanye iimpembelelo, kodwa funa ukuhambisa into entle endaweni yoko.
Ubuncinci bunokungazi okanye bunokukhetha.
Abantu ababandakanyeka ekuphuculeni banokukhetha ukunciphisa ifuthe leengcinga ezimbi okanye indlela yokuziphatha ngokuqonda kunye nokusebenzisa isinciphiso.
Inkqutyana njengenkqubo yokuqonda
Sublimation ngu inkqubo encinci kwisininzi.
Ungazi ukuba iimvakalelo ezimbi okanye isimilo onaso asamkelekanga ekuhlaleni kwaye siyatshabalalisa, ke ujonge ezinye iindlela zokuziveza kuba awufuni kuva ubunzima ngeziphumo ezibi zokuziphatha.
Inokuyila indlela onxibelelana ngayo nehlabathi.
Thatha lo mzekelo we-subconscious sublimation: umntu onamaxhala okuqhuba ebusuku uya kukhangela umsebenzi apho kunganyanzelekanga ukuba aqhube ebumnyameni.
Umntu uhlengahlengisa isimilo sabo ukuze anciphise ukungonwabi kwabo kwaye aphephe uxinzelelo .
indlela yokuxelela ukuba intombazana ineemvakalelo ngawe
Nantsi enye: umntwana omdala angasela utywala ukuze ajongane nokujongana nabazali bakhe abanzima. Usenokuthi ngokweemvakalelo (okanye kwanasemzimbeni) aziqhelelanise nabazali bakhe ukuze bangabinako ukubangela uxinzelelo olukhulu ebomini bakhe. Oku kuyamnceda ukuba aphephe iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo ezibangela ukuba asele.
Uyazi nje ukuba uziva engcono xa echitha ixesha elincinci nosapho.
Ezi nkqubo azinyanzelekanga ukuba zikhethe. Kodwa xa are ukhetho lokuqonda, i-sublimation inokusetyenziselwa ukukhuthaza impilo esempilweni.
Imizekelo yoNciphiso kuQheliselo olusebenzayo
UCarol ngumntu onochuku, okhuphisanayo. Uhlala ejonge ukuzityhalela kumceli mngeni olandelayo kwaye oyise imiqobo ephambi kwakhe. Akanalo ixesha elininzi labantu abangakwaziyo ukuqhubeka. Ngenxa yoko, imeko yakhe yokukhuphisana kakhulu inokumenza angabikho kwabo asebenza nabo, kubahlobo, okanye kumalungu osapho angenamdla wokukhuphisana naye okanye kwelo nqanaba.
UCarol angabuthatha bonke ubugwenxa kunye namandla okhuphiswano kunye nokuwudlulisela kwizinto zokuzonwabisa ezixhasa olo hlobo lokuziphatha.
Unokukhetha ukungena kukhuphiswano lobugcisa bemfazwe, ezemidlalo, okanye ukomelela apho ezo ntlobo zeempawu ziya kumnceda ukuba aphumelele.
Nokuba akhuphisani nabanye abantu, unokukhuphisana naye njengembaleki, ejonge ukuseta iirekhodi ezintsha zobuqu kwaye anyanzele umzimba wakhe kwiindawo eziphakamileyo.
UJason uhlala ne-autism esebenzayo. Njengabantu abaninzi abane-autism, ufumanisa ukungalindeleki kunye notshintsho oluqhelekileyo olukhathazayo ngokwaneleyo ukuya apho inokubangela umthwalo kunye noxinzelelo. Uyekelela kubomi obayalelweyo obulandela iipateni ezomeleleyo kwaye utyekele ekubeni ngumcinga onengqiqo, omnyama nomhlophe.
Abantu abanjengoJason basebenza kakuhle kuqeqesho olunzima njengemathematika kunye nobunjineli, okanye ngenene nangaliphi na ikhondo lomsebenzi apho kukho ingqiqo okanye iinkqubo ezisetyenziswayo.
Ubunjineli buheha abantu abanjengoJason kuba buye babeke iinkqubo ezingashukumiyo ngenxa yemigangatho yokhuseleko nokunyamezelana.
Usenokude afumanise ukuba ikhondo lomsebenzi ophindaphindiweyo, njengokuvelisa okanye ulungiselelo, kumzisela intuthuzelo kwaye kumvumela ukuba aphumelele kuba baguqula izithintelo ezinokubakho kwiimpawu ezintle.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
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- Iinjongo ezi-4 zengqondo kunye nendlela yokuzisebenzisa kubomi bakho
- Izinto ezili-12 ekufuneka uzenzile xa uziva unomsindo
UAmanda likhoboka lotywala. Unobomi oburhabaxa obuzaliswe sisiphithiphithi seemvakalelo kunye noxinzelelo oluvakala ngathi akakwazi ukulusingatha. Xa ejongene neemvakalelo ezinzima, ujikela etywaleni ukuze ancede ayeke iintlungu kwaye alibale iingxaki zakhe. Oko kuziphatha kujika kube sisiqhelo esiqhelekileyo, apho ithuku lakhe limxelela ukuba afune intuthuzelo etywaleni ukuze akwazi ukulawula uxinzelelo lobomi bakhe.
UAmanda angasebenzela ukutshintsha le mfuno yemvelo yotywala ngomsebenzi osempilweni. Endaweni yokusela, wayenokuzilolonga, asebenze, okanye acamngce ukuhambisa loo mandla kwinto entle ngakumbi.
I-Sublimation ayizukuyilungisa ingcambu yotywala okanye iyeke ukulutha komzimba. Ngenxa yoko, kuya kufuneka afune uncedo olongezelelweyo lobuchwephesha ukuze oyise.
Ekugqibeleni angafumanisa ukuba ukhetha ukubetha indawo yokuzivocavoca okanye ahambe uhambo endaweni yokuziva utsalela ukusela.
UMateyu wehlelwa yintlungu ebuhlungu, ebuhlungu emva kokuphela kobudlelwane. Nangona ehendwa ukuba azibandakanye iindlela zokuzitshabalalisa ukujamelana nentlungu yakhe, unokukhetha ukuthulula ezo mvakalelo ekwenzeni umzobo.
Ngokwembali, eminye yemisebenzi yobugcisa yayiphefumlelwe yimvakalelo enkulu yamagcisa kunye nemeko yomntu.
Umntu akufuneki nokuba abe ulungile kubugcisa ukuze abe nama-catharsis ekuvakaliseni iimvakalelo zakhe kwi-artform.
Izitayile ze-aj kwi-wwe
Indalo nangaluphi na uhlobo yindlela yokuphuma esempilweni ngakumbi kuneendlela zokuzenzakalisa zokulwa nabantu abaninzi ababhenela kuzo xa befumana intlekele okanye ukukhathazeka.
Usebenzisa njani ukuNciphisa ukuZiphucula
Olona luvo lusisiseko sangaphantsi kwesiseko kukuhambisa iindlela ezingalunganga, isimilo esingamkelekanga ekuhlaleni, iingcinga, kunye neemvakalelo zokuziphatha okuhle, okwamkelekileyo ekuhlaleni.
Iya kubonelela ngesona sibonelelo sikhulu ukuba kukho ukungqubana phakathi kokuziphatha okugwenxa okudala okanye iingcinga kunye nezenzo ezitsha ezilungileyo.
Kwimizekelo edlulileyo, iimvakalelo kunye neemeko zonke zinokungalingani kuzo, okuvumela umntu ukuba azive kwaye aqwalasele ukungakhathali ngendlela esempilweni.
UCarol usebenzisa ukhuphiswano lwehyper kunye nokuhlaselwa kwezemidlalo endaweni yengqesho okanye kubomi bakhe bobuqu.
UJason usebenzisa ii-quirks ezinzima ngakumbi ze-autism njengendlela yokuziphilisa endaweni yokuzama ukufumana ubomi obuncinci obunokumthintela kwaye bumcaphukise.
UAmanda angazitshintsha iimvakalelo zakhe ezingalunganga kwaye atshintshe umnqweno wakhe wokusela ngokuzonwabisa okanye ngokwenza umthambo, esenza yonke into entsha yokungakhathali. Usenokuvakalelwa kukuba ukungakhathali, kodwa uyaziphucula endaweni yokuba akuvumele ukuba kumlimaze.
Kwaye uMateyu uhambisa intliziyo yakhe kubugcisa, into eyenziwe ngabantu amawaka eminyaka.
Ukutshintsha akufuneki kube yinto eyingxaki yexesha elide nokuba….
Mhlawumbi unosuku olwalungalindelekanga olunoxinzelelo emsebenzini. Ukuya kwindawo yokubaleka kunokukunceda uvuthele umphunga endaweni yokuvumela uxinzelelo lukhule okanye ukuntywila kwibhotile yewayini.
Ukuba nesicwangciso esahlukileyo seemvakalelo ezingalunganga oya kuthi ekugqibeleni uzive ebomini bakho, nokuba yonke into ihamba kakuhle ngoku, inokunciphisa kakhulu uxinzelelo kwaye iphucule ulonwabo.
Sublimation Kunye nolindelo olusengqiqweni
Inkqubo yokutshintsha Iimpawu eziphambili kunye nokuziphatha malunga neziqu zakho kunzima.
Kunokuba luncedo ukusebenza nomcebisi oqinisekisiweyo wezempilo yengqondo ukujongana neengxaki zeemvakalelo okanye ukungaziphathi kakuhle kuba banokubonelela ngomthombo wenkxaso ongathathi hlangothi, izikhokelo zokusebenza ngaphakathi, kunye neendlela zokulinganisa inkqubela phambili.
Umbono we-sublimation ulula, kodwa akukho lula. Elona candelo linzima kukuqhubeka nokusebenza ngendlela engaguqukiyo eya empumelelweni. Ayisiyonto iba yindalo yesibini ngobusuku obunye.
Omnye umba kukuba nangona unokutshintsha imeko yeemvakalelo zakho, akukho siqinisekiso sokwenzekayo. Usenokuba nazo ezo mvakalelo zingathandekiyo, kodwa zimisele nje kwinto elungileyo endaweni yoko.
Sublimation sisixhobo esinamandla esinokutshintsha ubomi bakho bube ngcono. Ikwayinto umntu anokuyisebenzisa ebomini bakhe.
Zibuze ukuba ungayihambisa njani ingcinga engalunganga, imvakalelo, okanye indlela yokuziphatha eya kwinto entle ngakumbi.
