Ke, awutshatanga, kwaye uqala ukuzibuza ukuba ingaba sisandla nje osele usebenze ngaso ebomini.
Indlela izinto ezihamba ngayo, ucinga ukuba kufanele ukuba ibhaliwe kwenye indawo ukuba awuzange wenzelwe ukufumana iqabane lobomi.
Ngaba umiselwe ukuhlala ungatshatanga? Ngaba akunakuphepheka ukuba uza kuba wedwa?
Akukho mntu 'kuthethwa ngaye' ukuba yedwa kwaye uhlale ungatshatanga ubomi babo bonke. Akukho mntu umiselwe kwangaphambili ukuba angalufumani uthando.
Kwelinye icala, abanye abantu bahlala bengatshatanga ubomi babo bonke.
Abanye abantu bakhetha ukungatshati, ngelixa abanye bengazange bafumanise ukuba umntu kufanelekile ukuncama inkululeko yabo exabisekileyo.
Kwaye abanye abantu bacinga ukuba bazama konke okusemandleni abo ukufumana umntu olungileyo, kwaye abaqondi ukuba kutheni izinto zingaze ziphume.
Abanye abantu banezinto emi endleleni yabo xa kuziwa ekwenzeni ubudlelwane obuphilileyo, obuhlala ixesha elide, kodwa besokola ukuqonda ukuba zeziphi ezi ngxaki.
Ke, kweli nqaku, siza kuqwalasela into enokuthi ikuthintele ekufumaneni uthando kwaye sijonge ukuba kutheni ubomi obungabodwa bunokuba bubomi obumangalisayo nobuzalisekileyo.
Izizathu ezi-6 zokuba kutheni usokola ukufumana umntu olungileyo:
Abantu abakungqongileyo babonakala bakufumana kulula ukutyibilika kubudlelwane bexesha elide, kodwa ukufumanisa kunzima kakhulu. Kwaye awazi ukuba kutheni kunjalo.
Mhlawumbi ubudlelwane bakho abubonakali buhlala buhleli, okanye uqhubeka uzifumana kubudlelwane obungenampilo obonakalisa kuphela.
Oko akuthethi ukuba umiselwe ukuba ube wedwa ngonaphakade.
Kunokubakho ezinye izizathu zokuba kutheni usokola ukufumana ubudlelwane obufuna kangaka.
Banokuba ngumsebenzi onzima ukuwoyisa, kodwa ngokugxila kubo, ungothuka kunye notshintsho olukhulu olwenzayo kubomi bakho bothando.
Nazi ezinye zezona zikhulu:
1. Unemicimbi yokuzibophelela okanye yokulahla.
Enye yezona zinto zixhaphakileyo ukuma endleleni yabantu abenza ubudlelwane obuqinileyo, obuhlala bukhona ukuba banemicimbi yokuzibophelela okanye yokulahla, nokuba bayazazi okanye cha.
Ukuba ulwa nokuzibophelela, uya kuhlala ufumana isizathu sokuphelisa ubudlelwane, nokuba uthembisa kangakanani.
Emva kwethuba lasemva komtshato xa izinto ziqala ukuba nzulu, ngequbuliso uyokoyika kwaye ufumane indlela yokubaleka.
Ukuba ukulahla kungumba wakho, emva koko usenokutyhala abantu kude kuba ungathanda ukubavumela ukuba bakwenzakalise, okanye ubambelele kwaye ungathembi kangangokuba abantu obandakanyeka nabo kwezothando abanako ukujamelana nayo.
Funda ngokugqithisileyo:
Iimpawu ze-10 zomntu othile uneMicimbi yokuzibophelela (+ Indlela yokoyisa)
kutheni kusoloko kufuneka ndinyanisile
Iimpawu ezingama-20 zoMntu oNemicimbi yokuShiya (+ Indlela yokoyisa)
2. Utyekele ekuphindaphindeni iipateni zobudlelwane ezingalunganga.
Ingxaki yakho isenokuba awusifundanga isifundo sakho.
Ukuba unamava amabi kubudlelwane, kuya kuba sengqiqweni ukucinga ukuba uyakulumkela ukujonga imiqondiso efanayo yesilumkiso ngexesha elizayo kwaye ungenzi iimpazamo ezifanayo kabini.
Kodwa ukuba ubonakala ngathi uziphinda-phinda iimpazamo ezifanayo, kuya kufuneka ujonge ixesha elide ukuba kutheni kwaye ungayikhaba njani le mikhwa mibi yobudlelwane.
Funda ngokugqithisileyo: Ungakuyeka njani ukuphinda iipatheni zobudlelwane obungenampilo
3. Uyancama ngokulula xa izinto ziba nzima.
Ubudlelwane abusoze ngokuthe ngqo, kodwa abantu abaninzi babonakala ngathi bayaphika malunga naloo nto.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ubudlelwane obulungileyo kuwe buya kuhamba ngokutyibilika ngonaphakade naphakade, emva koko uza kudana.
Ingxaki yakho isenokuba kukuthamba uyishiye inqanawa nje ukuba izinto ziye zikhohlise kude kunokuba unamathele kwaye usebenze kwizinto, uphume womelele kwelinye icala.
Kuya kufuneka uyamkele into yokuba uthando alukho lula kwaye nolona lwalamano lubalaseleyo lunamabala amatye.
Kuphela ukuba ungatsho ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba uzimisele ukunamathela kumaxesha anzima uya kuba nakho ukwenza ubudlelwane obuhlala buhleli, obunothando.
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4. Uzibona ungalufanelanga uthando.
Ukuba wonke umntu ubonakala ngathi ubhangqiwe kwaye awukatshati, ke ingxaki inokuba nento yokwenza nokuzithemba kwakho.
Mhlawumbi umba kukuba awucingi ukuba ulufanelwe luthando lwendoda okanye umfazi olungileyo, ke ugqibela ngokutyhala abantu kude okanye ukuzenzakalisa nanini na xa udibana nomntu othembisayo.
Funda ngokugqithisileyo: Izizathu ezi-5 ZOBUXOKI Kutheni ucinga ukuba awufanelanga Uthando
5. Ulindele izinto ezingekho ngqiqweni.
Ndinomhlobo owathi, xa sisebancinci, saba nolindelo oluphezulu kwihlabathi.
Wayeqinisekile ukuba uzokutshata kwaye abe nabantwana abancinci, kwaye kuba yayiyiloo nto awayeyifuna, akazange anike nayiphi na indoda angayiboniyo njengempahla yomtshato esondeleyo ithuba. Kwaye loo nto yayingumyalelo omde ucinga ukuba sasikwiminyaka yethu yama-20.
Kwakuthetha ukuba, nangona wayefuna ukufumana uthando, wayityhala imithwalo yamadoda amangalisayo, kwaye wayengatshatanga ixesha elide kwaye esiba krakra nangakumbi ngalo.
Emva kweminyaka emininzi kwaye sele edidekile, wayenethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukuba ahlangane nendoda eyayiphila ngokwemilinganiselo yakhe kwaye yayilungele olohlobo lokuzibophelela ngqo, kwaye ngoku wonwabile emtshatweni.
Ngapha koko, inqaku yile, waba nethamsanqa lokufumana umntu oye wenza oko akulindeleyo ekugqibeleni, kodwa wabandezeleka kakhulu okwangoku kuba akukho mntu wayenokwenza inqanaba, nangona wayenomdla wokufumana umntu aza kwabelana naye ubomi kunye.
Kwaye abantu abaninzi abaze balifumane elo thamsanqa. Ufuna ubudlelwane nomntu wokwenene, emva kwayo yonke loo nto. Kwaye abantu bokwenene bazele ziziphene nokuphikisana.
indlela yokudlala nzima ukufumana abafana
Akukho mntu ugqibelele kwaye kusondele ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungafumana umntu oza kuphawula zonke iibhokisi ezikuluhlu lwakho lwento oyifunayo kwiqabane elifanelekileyo.
Ke, ngelixa kulungile ukuba nemigangatho esempilweni kwaye ungazithengisi mfutshane okanye wamkele ngaphantsi kokufaneleyo, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ubudlelwane obulungileyo kuwe akunakuba bubudlelwane obugqibeleleyo onabo entlokweni yakho.
Funda ngokugqithisileyo: 7 Ulindelo olungeyonyani lokuthintela kubudlelwane
6. Unamakhoboka exesha lasemva komtshato.
Uyayazi loo mvakalelo xa usandula ukudibana nomntu? I-buzz yokuba ulungile ekuqaleni kobudlelwane? Xa iihormoni zinokukwenza ukuba uphume isimilo ngokupheleleyo, njengendoda okanye umfazi onayo? Elo lixesha lesiphithiphithi kodwa lixesha elinomdla.
Abanye abantu bayakucaphukela ukungaqiniseki kwesi sigaba sobudlelwane, kodwa abanye abantu bayasithanda. Kwaye abanakho ukujamelana nayo xa imincili iqala ukubuna ukuba itshintshwe yinto ezolileyo, engathandekiyo, kunye nentlawulo encinci.
Ke, ukuba uyasokola ukwenza uncamathiselo oluhlala luhleli, oku kunokuba yingxaki yakho.
Ukuba uhlala usoyika xa uthando lokuqala luphela kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuba olu tshintsho kwiimvakalelo luthetha ukuba abakulungelanga wena kunokuba ulwamkele njengesiqhelo, inokuba kulapho ungahambi khona.
Khumbula ukuba, nangona inqanaba lokuqala linokuba yintloko kwaye likugcine ezinzwaneni zakho, inqanaba lokuba umazi kakuhle omnye umntu kwaye nikhuselekile kuthando lomnye ulunge nangakumbi.
Zama ukuthatha ikhefu.
Ukuba kudala ukhangela uthando kwaye khange usebenze, kunokuba kulunge ukuthatha ixesha elithile uphume.
Ukuba uza kuba nolwalamano oluyimpumelelo, kufuneka uqale ufunde ukonwaba wedwa . Ungoneliseka njani yinkampani yakho kwaye uzithande ngokuba ungubani. Yinto ehlekisayo kuba iyinyani.
Elinye ixesha lokuthandana linokunceda ukutshintsha ugxile kwezinye izinto, likufundise indlela yokuzanelisa ngakumbi, kwaye likunqande ukubeka uxinzelelo kakhulu kulo naluphi na ulwalamano olunokubenza kwixesha elizayo, nakuwe.
Inokukunceda ube nemincili malunga nombono wokuphinda uthandane kwakhona xa sele ukulungele, kodwa okwangoku, inokukunceda ukomeleza ubudlelwane bakho kunye nokufezekisa umlinganiso ongcono wokujikeleza konke.
Ubomi obungatshatanga bunokuba bubomi obuzeleyo, obonwabisayo.
Ngokuchasene noko uluntu luzama ukusixelela kona, ukukhetha ukuhlala ungatshatanga ayisiyondlela yokuphila esezantsi. Kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba awunakho ukukhokelela kubomi obonwabileyo, obuzalisekileyo, obuzalise inkumbulo.
Ungakhokelela kubomi obuzele ziindawo ezintle, ezinobudlelwane obuzalisekayo kunye namava awodwa.
Ukukhetha ukungatshati akukwenzi ukuba ungaphantsi komntu, ngaphandle kwenkcubeko ethandwayo (kwaye mhlawumbi izihlobo zakho ezicaphukisayo kwiindibano zosapho) zinokuzama ukukukholelwa.
Usenokuphulukana nezinto ezithile, kodwa uya kuba namava abantu abakhetha ukubhangisa abayi kuze.
Kodwa ukuba ukhetha ukungatshati, okanye ungaze umfumane umntu ofuna ukwabelana naye ngobomi bakho, kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uzamkela ngokupheleleyo zonke izibonelelo zobomi obungatshatanga kwaye uzingqonge ngenethiwekhi yenkxaso eyomeleleyo.
Qiniseka ukuba ugalela lonke uthando lwakho kubudlelwane bakho obuhle kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo kwaye ukhethe ikhondo lomsebenzi elikufezekisayo kwaye likutyhale.
Kwaye wenze inqaku lokuba yinxalenye yoluntu olungqongileyo- icawe, imibutho yesisa, imibutho yoluntu kunye neeprojekthi. Oku kuya kubuzalisa ubomi bakho obunentsingiselo kwaye kubonelele nangakumbi ngamathuba obuhlobo kunye nobuqabane.
Ungaze uyeke ukufunda kunye nokufuna ukwazi malunga nehlabathi elikungqongileyo.
Yenza eyona nyaniso yokuba awunakuphendula nakubani na okanye wenze ukulalanisa nakubani na, kwaye ubomi bakho buphile ngokupheleleyo ngokwemiqathango yakho, ngokungathandabuzekiyo.
Hlala naphi na apho wonwabile khona, wenze izinto ozithandayo, kwaye ungalalanisi nakubani na.
Ufumana ithuba elinye ebomini, ke qiniseka ukuba ukhetha indlela ekonwabisa, nokuba ukhetha ukuhamba nomnye umntu okanye hayi.
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