Ngaba uchitha lonke ixesha lokuvuka uphupha ngokuhlangana nothando lwakho lokwenyani?
Mhlawumbi uyazifanekisa uthandana nawo wonke umntu omjongana naye, okanye uphupha ngobomi bakho kunye neweyitala entle oye wayibona… kwiiveki ezintathu ezidlulileyo!
Sikhona sonke, kodwa ukuphelelwa lithemba ngothando okunene kungangena endleleni yokufumana into eyinyani.
Ukuba uyakwazi ukufumanisa indlela yokuyeka ukufuna ubudlelwane, eneneni kunokwenzeka ukuba kwenzeke!
Sabelana ngeengcebiso zethu eziphezulu zokukunceda uyeke umbono omnandi wolwalamano ukuze eyona nto yokwenene ize kuwe!
1. Qhubeka uthandana.
Awudingi ukubeka ubomi bakho bokuthandana bume ukuyeka ukufuna ubudlelwane!
Ungayijonga nje ngendlela esempilweni.
Awunayo imfuno ubudlelwane okanye iqabane, ke unokuyeka ukuthandana ngendlela ekhawulezileyo, nethemba.
Endaweni yoko, thatha ixesha lakho kwaye ukonwabele nje ukwazi abantu abatsha. Akunakuphela ukuthandana nabo kodwa uya kuchitha ixesha nomntu owahlukileyo- kwaye unokufumana umhlobo omkhulu kuyo (ewe, inokwenzeka loo nto!)
Khumbula ukuba uxinzelelo oluncinci obeka kulo umhla, kokukhona uya kukhululeka kwaye wonwabele. Oku kuthetha ukuba uyakonwaba ngakumbi njengoko ungazukukhathazeka kakhulu malunga nendlela oza ngayo.
Ikwathetha ukuba unokuba nakho ukudibana nomntu ngokukhawuleza okanye ukwazi ukugxotha uthando olunokubakho ngokukhawuleza ngokunjalo, kuba uya kubakho ngokupheleleyo kwaye ukwazi ukubona izinto ngokuchanekileyo.
Xa sityale imali kakhulu kumnqweno wokugqibela wobudlelwane, sihlala siziqinisekisa ukuba iiflegi ezibomvu azikho, okanye ukuba siyayithanda le ndlela yomntu ngaphezu kokuba sisenza. Okungakumbi koku kungezantsi…
2. Yiba nengxabano.
Abanye bethu banqwenela uthando kangangokuba sikhetha ukungazihoyi iiflegi ezibomvu kwiintsuku zokuqala zokuthandana nomntu.
Oku kuqhelekile, kodwa oko kuthetha ukuba uninzi lwethu lungena kubudlelwane obungafanelekanga kuthi, obugqityiweyo kwaye busishiya sirhalela umntu omtsha…
… Ukwanda kokuzilahlela kusenza singahoyi iiflegi ezibomvu nakaninzi kuba sinjalo, ke sifuna ukwenza izinto zisebenze nomntu (nabani na!) -Kwaye umjikelo uyaqhubeka.
Endaweni yokuvumela imigangatho yakho iphelelwe lithemba, hlala ujonge!
Ufuna ntoni kanye kanye kwiqabane lakho kwintsebenziswano? Gcina loo nto engqondweni ngezo ntsuku zokuqala kwaye uqhubeke ukuba umntu othandana naye akabonakali ngathi ulungile.
Oku kuyakunceda ujonge kule nto uyiyo ngokwenene ndifuna ngokuchasene nokufuna nje ubudlelwane… nayiphi na ubudlelwane.
Kwaye xa usiza kubudlelwane kwakhona, kunokwenzeka ukuba ube nomntu omthandayo kwaye uhambelana naye!
3. Qhubeka ube nguwe.
Xa sibanjwa sifuna ubudlelwane, siphosa yonke imizamo yethu ekubeni lolona hlobo luhle kuthi ukuze omnye umntu asithande.
Yeka ukwenza lento!
Sonke besikhona kodwa akupheli kakuhle- ngokuyinxenye kuba ngekhe ukwazi ukonwaba ngokupheleleyo kwaye ube nguwe, kodwa ngenxa yokuba inika omnye umntu ulindelo olungenakwenzeka lwento oyithandayo kwaye kuthetha ukuba bayathandana no umbono yakho.
Oku kuthetha ukuba baya kumangaliswa xa ekugqibeleni i-facade ityibilika (ngokungathandabuzekiyo iya kuthi!) Kwaye oko kuthetha ukuba abafumani thuba lokubona ukuba umkhulu kangakanani.
Ikwathetha ukuba umdlalo wakho ogqibeleleyo awufumani thuba lokudibana nawe kuba uxakeke kakhulu uzenza umntu ogqibeleleyo womnye umntu.
kutheni amadoda emka kubudlelwane
Ngokuqinisekileyo, yiba nentlonipho, yiphatha kakuhle xa usitya, nciphisa isiqalekiso, kwaye wenze umzamo omncinci wokuba nethemba ...
… Ungazami nje ukuzoba umfanekiso wakho ongabonakalisi nyani.
4. Nikela ingqalelo kuwe.
Okukhona ugxila ekugcwaliseni ubomi bakho ngezinto ezimangalisayo (kunokuba uzame ukuzalisa ngokumangalisayo umntu ), kokukhona uya kuyeka ukufuna ubudlelwane ngokubi kakhulu.
Uninzi lwethu luthanda umntu okhethekileyo ebomini bethu kwaye siyeke ukuzama ukuzizalisekisa, kuba siqinisekile ukuba lo mntu uya kusenzela oko.
Oku ayilindelanga ngokwenyani- akukho mntu unokuba yiyo yonke into esiyifunayo ebomini! Sifuna nabahlobo kunye nezinto esizithandayo kunye nemidla engaphandle kobudlelwane bethu.
Okukhona uhlakulela ubomi obumangalisayo obubobakho, kokukhona uya kuqala ukubona iqabane lakho njengebhonasi kunokuba ube yiyo yonke kwaye uphele konke.
Iqabane kufuneka slot ebomini bakho kwaye ongeze kuyo, kunokuba ukuba yiyo!
Zigcine uxakekile usenza izinto ozithandayo kwaye uza kuyeka ukululangazelela uthando. Xa uthando luza, uya kuba kwindawo esempilweni uyonwabele kunokuba uyilangazelele kwaye uzinze nantoni na engaphantsi kokufaneleyo.
5. Chitha ixesha nabantu obathandayo.
Ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabantu obathandayo sisikhumbuzo esihle sokuba uyathandwa kwaye uyathandwa.
Akufani nokuba nomntu iimpahla zakhe ofuna ukuzikrazula, siyazifumana, kodwa kuyathandeka ukuba kunye nabantu abakwaziyo nabakwamkelayo.
Ukuba uziva ulilolo kwaye ikwenza ufune ulwalamano, ungayimisa le (okanye ubuncinci uyinciphise) ngokubona usapho kunye nabahlobo xa ufuna ukuvuya, ufuna ingcebiso, okanye ufuna nje ukwangiwa okukhulu.
Khumbula ukuba uyathandwa kwaye uyaxatyiswa ngabantu sele, kwaye kuyakwenza uzive ungaphantsi njengawe imfuno ukuba kubudlelwane ukuze wonwabele ezo mvakalelo.
Ekuhambeni kwexesha, uyakufumana umntu onokukunika uhlobo lothando onalo emva koko, kodwa ngokwamkela olo thando sele lukhona ebomini bakho, olo luhlu lokuphelelwa lithemba luyasuswa.
6. Yiba sengqiqweni ngothando lwangaphambili.
Ukuze uyeke ukufuna ubudlelwane, thembeka kuwe malunga nobudlelwane obudlulileyo.
Uninzi lwethu luyaziqinisekisa ukuba ii-exes zethu ziyamangalisa kwaye uthando lwethu lokwenyani lube nexesha elimnandi kunye nabo konke ixesha!
Ngokwenyani, nangona simthanda kangakanani umntu, kuya kubakho iidipsi kunye nokuhla kubudlelwane.
Zikhumbuze ngezi zinto ukuze ubudlelwane bakho bobumnandi bungasekho kwisiseko esinjalo.
Okukhona sicinga ngobuhlobo 'obugqibeleleyo', kokukhona sizimisele ngakumbi ukukufumana kwaye izigqibo ezingxamisekileyo nezingenampilo esizenzayo.
Endaweni yoko, zikhumbuze ukuba ubomi bakho bukhulu xa ungatshatanga kwaye ufuna kuphela ukuba kunye nomntu okwenze ngokwenyani ukuba wonwabe- oko kuthetha ukuyeka uhlobo lwakho oluthandwayo lobuhlobo bangaphambili.
7. Gcwalisa izikhewu.
Cinga ngento oyinqwenelayo kubudlelwane kwaye ufumane indlela yokuzalisa loo nto.
Inkampani? Abahlobo bakhulu!
Ubusuku bomhla? Thatha isidlo sangokuhlwa esimnandi!
Ubusuku obumnandi ngaphakathi? Ixesha lesofa kunye nezilwanyana zasekhaya!
Kulungile, uyabona ukuba siya phi nale nto, kodwa, kuyo yonke into enzulu, zininzi iindlela zokugcwalisa ezi ntlobo ze-voids eziza kukunceda ukuba uhlukane nokuba ufuna ubudlelwane obungakanani.
Unokufumana intuthuzelo enkulu, ingqalelo kunye nothando kubantu obathandayo sele bakho ebomini. Siyazi ukuba ayifani nokuba nesoka okanye intombi, kodwa kufuneka incede ukuzola ukuphelelwa lithemba okwethutyana ubuncinci.
Iya kukwenza ukuba uqonde ukuba zingakanani izinto ezinkulu esele zikho ebomini bakho, eziza kukunceda uqonde ukuba iqabane lakho lulongezo kubomi obugcweleyo, hayi ukuphela.
8. Khumbula ukuba kutheni ubomi obungatshatanga bungqingqwa.
Ukungatshati kuhle! Kwaye, hayi, ayisiyonto iyathethwa ngabantu abangatshatanga…
Uninzi lwabantu abasebudlelwaneni luyakhumbula ukungatshati ngamanye amaxesha.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukhululekile ukuba wenze into oyifunayo kwaye awudingi ukuthatha iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho.
Ungaphuma uye kuhlangana nomntu ofumanisa enomdla ngokwenene (ukuba nje ukhuselekile, kunjalo!), Ungachitha veki nganye usenza ntoni wena ufuna, hayi alternating phakathi kwakho kunye neqabane lakho iminqweno.
Awudingi ukuba nexhala lokuqhatheka okanye uhambe ngexhala losuku-lokuba 'kutheni bethatha ixesha elide ukubhala umyalezo?!'
Ukungatshati kuhle kwaye, xa ufumana umntu olungileyo, uya kufumana iindlela zokugcina ezona zinto zibalulekileyo ebomini obungatshatanga kunye nokuba kubudlelwane.
Ungadlula njani kumntu ongakuthandiyo
Kodwa, okwangoku, bonwabela inkululeko kunye nokuzonwabisa okunikwa ngumntu ongatshatanga naye.
Mamela, sonke besikwinqanaba ebomini apho siziva sinqwenela uthando kwaye ngokungathi sifuna ubudlelwane ukuze sigqibe.
Ngelixa oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo, ayisiyiyo impilo-kwaye ayonwabisi, nokuba!
Ndiyathemba ukuba ezi ngcebiso malunga nendlela yokuyeka ukufuna ubudlelwane ziya kukunceda uthathe inyathelo ubuye uvavanye ukuba kanye kanye ufuna ntoni-kwaye ingakanani loo nto sele ikho ebomini bakho.
Okukhona uphelelwe lithemba ngothando, kokukhona uya kuvuleleka kunxibelelwano lokwenyani, kwaye ungoyiki kakhulu uya kuba ungazamkeli izinto ezingakulungelanga.
Le yingqondo esempilweni kakhulu ukuba nayo xa kufikwa ekukhangeleni iqabane, kwaye kuthetha ukuba uyazi ukuba ingakanani into yokwenyani xa isiza…
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungayeka njani ukufuna ubudlelwane kakubi kangaka? Ngaba ufuna uncedo lokufumana umntu olungileyo kuwe? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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