Ukufa.
Ukufa.
La magama mabini ahlala esenza ukuba abantu abaninzi bavale kwaye babuye umva kukungonwabi, mhlawumbi noxinzelelo kunye / okanye uloyiko ngokunjalo.
Abantu bathambekele ekuphepheni ukuxoxa ngezihloko ezibacaphukisayo, kwaye sesiphi isihloko esicaphukisayo kunale sinxulumene naso intlungu , ukubandezeleka, kunye nelahleko?
Apha eNtshona, ukufa yinto entle kakhulu. Bambalwa abantu abafuna ukucinga ngokufa, makungasathethwa ke ngoku kuxoxwa: kukho uloyiko malunga nesihloko, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayisiyiyo into ekumele kuthethwe ngayo kwinkampani 'enesidima'.
Ukwenza njalo kuya kukhokelela kwizityholo malunga nokuba sisoyika, kwaye abo bakhululekile ukuthetha ngokufa bajongwa njengabarhanelwa.
Oku kuyadanisa, kuba ingumbandela ochaphazela thina sonke, ukusuka ekuzameni ukucacisela umntwana ukuba kutheni iintlanzi zabo zegolide zijikeleza phezulu esityeni, ukujongana nokusweleka okungenakuphepheka kwabazali noomawokhulu bethu.
Njengoko ndibhala oku, umakhulu wam umyeni uya esiba sibi esibhedlele emva kokubethwa sistroke, kwaye umakazi wam usweleke nje emva kokugula ixesha elide. Inyaniso iyaxelwa, eli nqaku lihambile ngenxa yezi meko, ke ndizobe kumava am njengoko ndichwetheza oku.
Into eyenzekayo kukuba, ukufa akusoze kube yinto yangasese kuchaphazela phantse zonke iinkalo zobomi bomntu
Ukuba kukho ukusweleka kusapho ekufuneka kujongiwe kuko, kungenxa yokuba uququzelela umngcwabo kwaye uhlela imicimbi yomntu, okanye ukuba ufuna ixesha lokuya emngcwabeni okanye ukucebisa ngentlungu, kuya kufuneka uxoxe ngale meko nabanye abantu.
Oku kunokuba nzima, kubuhlungu, kude kube nzima okanye kuhlazise kuxhomekeke kwindlela oziqhuba ngayo iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye iimeko ezahlukeneyo zibiza iindlela ezahlukeneyo.
Uxoxa njani ngokufa kunye nokufa
Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, isihloko sokufa siyacaphukisa kwaye asiphazamisi abantu abaninzi, kwaye kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuchitha ixesha nomntu oguqukayo ukuya esiphelweni sobomi.
Abantu abaninzi bazama ukusihlutha isihloko kude, kubandakanya nabanye abaqeqeshi bezempilo. Umntu okhulileyo osesibhedlele umzimba wakhe kucacile ukuba uyavalwa kungenzeka ukuba abekwe kwi-anti-depressants kwaye axelelwe-ngoncumo olukhulu, nolonwabo-ukuba bazakulunga kwaye baya kuphila kuthi sonke!
Oku kunokuba yinto exhalabisayo kumntu ozama ukwamkela nokusebenza ngokufikelela esiphelweni.
Kwangokunjalo kuyacaphukisa kuxa umntu ofayo efuna ukuthetha malunga nezinto ahlangabezana nazo, okanye malunga nezinto abazikhethayo ngokufa uqobo, umngcwabo wabo, njl.njl. Nomntu lowo bathetha naye utshintsha umxholo, okanye athethe izinto ezinje, “ Owu, sukuthetha ngoluhlobo, ”okanye“ Andifuni nokucinga ngokulahlekelwa nguwe. ”
Akukho ngawe.
Umbono wokuphulukana nalo mntu umthandayo unokuba nzima ngendlela engathethekiyo, kodwa xa ukunye nabo, uchitha ixesha kunye nabo ngelixa besondela esiphelweni, ayisiloxesha okanye indawo yokuba ufune ukuthomalalisa kubo.
iindlela zokuxelela umntu omthandayo
Kufuneka ubambe indawo ukwenzela bona .
Ukuba bafuna okanye bafuna ukuthetha ngezinto ebezisinda ezingqondweni zabo, mabathethe, bamamele ngaphandle kokugweba .
Abanye abantu bafumana inkolo enkulu okanye yokomoya ukuya esiphelweni sobomi, ngamanye amaxesha kumalungu osapho lwabo bebengalindelanga.
Ukuba wena nosapho lwakho nihlala nilandele inkolo ethile kwaye ngequbuliso umzali wakho okanye iqabane lakho lamkela into eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo xa bejamelene nokusweleka kwabo, ayiloxesha lokuba ubakhumbuze ngento okholelwa kuyo: lixesha lokuba ubamamele kwaye ubaxhase ngokungathandabuzekiyo .
Bafuna intuthuzelo kunye namandla, kwaye nokuba yeyiphi na inkolelo efunekayo ukubanika ukuba uxolo kufuneka luhlonitshwe.
Ukuba kukho izinto oziva ukuba ufuna ukuzisusa esifubeni sakho, ezinje ngeemfihlo ekudala zikho okanye iimvakalelo, zibuze ukuba unayo imvume yokuhambisa ezo zifundo. Banokungabi neemvakalelo zokuba bakwazi ukwenza nantoni na enzima: nceda uyihloniphe loo nto.
Ekugqibeleni, mabakhokele ngokubhekisele kwinto abangathanda okanye abangathandi ukuthetha ngayo. Ngamanye amaxesha, yonke into abanokuyinqwenela kukuhlala bethe cwaka, kubukho obutofotofo, obuzolileyo bomntu obathandayo kwaye abamkele njengabo.
Banike oko.
Ukusondela kusapho kunye nabahlobo babaswelekileyo
Oku kuyakhohlisa.
Phantse sonke sibe lingqina kumntu oze emngcwabeni okanye kwinkonzo yesikhumbuzo, ekhala ngokungafanelekanga kwaye ephethe iqela labo losizi.
Abantu abanjengolu bathanda ukusebenzisa ilahleko yabantu njengethuba lokufumana uvelwano kwabanye. Baza kuziphosa kwilahleko, balale ngenxa yokuswelekelwa ngulowo ubhubhileyo - nokuba khange babone okanye bathethe nabo kwiminyaka edlulileyo - kwaye bazenze njengabantu abalilayo.
Musa ukuba ngulomntu. Ndiyacela.
Ukuba ubusondele kulo mntu ubhubhileyo, nikela ngoncedo lwakho komnye wosapho olusondeleyo.
Endaweni yengxelo yengubo 'ukuba kukho nantoni na oyifunayo, ndilapho,' cebisa ngeendlela ezimbalwa apho unokunceda khona. Oku kunokuhluka kulungelelaniso lwesitimela sokutya ukuya ekunyamekeleni abantwana xa kufuneka.
Xa abantu besentlungwini yentlungu, ukuba nomnye umntu ongenelela ekunyamekeleni izinto ezithile ekufuneka zenziwe kunokuba luncedo olukhulu.
Ukuba ubungasondelanga emntwini, eli ayilo thuba lokuba usondele kubahlobo kunye namalungu osapho. Nokuba ufuna ngenene ukubuyisa ixesha elilahlekileyo kwaye ubonakalise imibuliso esuk 'entliziyweni, ukuthululwa kwemvakalelo kunye nomzamo ngoku, emva kwenyani, kuyakufika kukuzenzela kwaye unganyanisekanga.
Ukusondela kubo ngokuzolileyo, nangokunyaniseka okuhle kuya kuthakazelelwa kakhulu.
Ukuba ungaya emngcwabeni, ukuxhawulana okanye ukwangana kuya kwanela: sukuyithatha kakhulu ingqalelo yabo, njengoko beza kukrazulwa kumacala ahlukeneyo ahlukeneyo.
Ukuba utyekele kakhulu, thumela ikhadi lovelwano elinemvakalelo efana nale: 'U-X wayengumntu obalaseleyo, kwaye baya kuphoswa kakhulu.'
Unako, ukuba uyathanda, ukubhala malunga nenkumbulo ethile onayo yalowo upasileyo, ukuba nje iyinto enobuntu kwaye ithambile.
Ukuba usapho lucele umnikelo kwisisa esithile, ungenza njalo, kwaye ubazise (kwakhona, ngokufutshane) ukuba unikele ngegama lothandekayo lwabo.
Ukuba amalungu osapho kunye nabahlobo bangathanda ukwenza unxibelelwano olomeleleyo nawe, mayibe ngokwemigaqo yabo, xa bekulungele ukwenza njalo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ukuqonda amanqanaba osizi kunye nendlela yokubuhlungu ngokulahlekelwa kwakho
- Indlela yokujongana noloyiko lokufa kwaye wenze uxolo ngokufa
- Ukufumana Ngeentsuku Zokukhumbula Umntu Olahlekileyo
- Endaweni yokuba 'Uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho,' Yitsho amazwi ovelwano ngala mabinzana
- Imigaqo eyi-9 ekufuneka uyilandele xa umntu omthandayo esentlungwini
- Ungayifumana njani intsingiselo yokuzibulala komntu omthandayo
Ukuthetha Nabantwana Ngokufa
Nceda, NCEDA nantoni na oyenzayo, ungaze uxelele abantwana ukuba umntu lowo ubhubhileyo 'ulele', 'uphumle,' okanye 'uhambile.'
Ukudibana kwamabinzana afana nala kunokubangela uxinzelelo lokulala kubantwana abancinci, abanolwazelelelo abaya kuthi ekugqibeleni baphele boyika ukuba ukuba balale, ngekhe baphinde bavuke, okanye ukuba umzali ohambe kuhambo lweshishini uhambile unaphakade.
Ukuba abantwana bakho bakubuza imibuzo malunga nokusweleka kutshanje, nceda uthembeke kubo kangangoko.
Banokujonga kuwe ngazo zonke iimpendulo, kodwa kulungile ukubazisa ukuba awuqinisekanga ngento ethile. Uyakuxabisa ukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka kwabanye, kwaye nabantwana benza njalo.
Kwakhona, qiniseka ukuba iimpendulo ozinike zona zilungele ubudala bomntwana wakho kunye nokukhula ngokweemvakalelo.
Khumbula ukuba abantwana abasaqala isikolo kunye nabo bakumabanga angaphambi kokuba bacinge ngokufa okwexeshana: bayakudinga ukukhunjuzwa amatyeli ambalwa ukuba utatomkhulu okanye umalume usibanibani uhambile unaphakade. Kukwanjalo nakubantwana abane-autism okanye ulibaziseko lokukhula.
Inye into enobuqili yokuhamba ngumgama kunye nokugula, xa kuziwa kumntu oswelekileyo.
Kulula ukudibanisa ukufa kunye nokwaluphala, kodwa kuthekani ukuba ngumntu ofunda naye oye wasweleka kwi-leukemia yabantwana? Okanye umzali womhlobo, ubulewe kwingozi yemoto?
Kwiimeko ezinje ngezi, ukomelela kunye nokuzola zezona zinto zibaluleke kakhulu, njengoko umntwana enokukhathazeka kakhulu malunga nokugula yena, okanye ukuphulukana nawe.
Banokuphazamiseka xa befumana umkhuhlane okanye umkhuhlane, becinga ukuba bazokufa njengabo bafunda nabo… okanye baya kulila xa uqhuba kwenye indawo, bekholelwa ukuba soze uphinde ubuye, njengaye-ke mama okanye utata.
Xa kuziwa kuloyiko lwabo, kubalulekile ukubuza ukuba yintoni kanye kanye abaxhalabileyo ngayo, kwaye bamamele kakuhle, ngokuzimisela, ngaphandle komgwebo.
Ukuba boyika ukuba ukugula kuthetha ukuba bayokufa, baqinisekise ukuba le nto banayo yingqele nje encinci, kwaye NGOKWENENE ngabantu abagulayo abasweleka ngenxa yokugula kwabo.
Ukuba inkxalabo yabo ngokusweleka kwakho akukho mntu uza kubanyamekela, baqinisekise ukuba bakhuselekile kwaye bayathandwa, kwaye xa kunokwenzeka kwenzeke nantoni na kuwe, baninzi abanye abantu ababathandayo nabaya kuthatha ndibakhathalele.
Chaza amagama athile, nokuba zizihlobo, oothixo booyise, okanye abagcini ababelweyo, ke bayazi ukuba baneseti yogcino yabanonopheli, kwaye ikhuselekile.
Ukuba unxibelelana nabantwana bomnye umntu, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe nabazali malunga nendlela abakhetha ngayo ukuxoxa ngokufa nabantwana babo.
Ufe eddie guerrero ngowuphi unyaka
Unokuba kwimeko apho inkqubo yakho yenkolelo yahluka kakhulu kweyabo, kwaye kungcono ukuba ungabhidisi abantwana ngokubaxelela izinto ezingqubanayo nendlela abazali babo abakhetha ukubaqinisekisa ngayo.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba abazali babo babaxelele ukuba umakhulu uye ezulwini, ekusenokwenzeka ukuba akukho nkolelo yakho kwinkolelo yokuzalwa ngokutsha. Okanye kungenjalo. Nokuba yeyiphi na into oyikholelwayo, zigcine kuwe xa kufikwa kumba wokuthomalalisa kunye nokuzola wee.
Kukho ixesha elininzi lokuba baphonononge iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokomoya xa sele bebadala ngokwaneleyo ukuba bazenzele ngokwabo.
Ngokumalunga noogxa kunye nokuqheleka okuqhelekileyo
Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, enye into ejongene nokufa yimfuneko yokuxelela abo uhlangana nabo rhoqo. Ukuba umntu odlulileyo ebekufuphi kuwe, uya kuchaphazeleka kuyo, kwaye oko kungabonakala ngeendlela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Nokuba ungaba yintoni na ubudlelwane bakho nomphathi wakho, kubalulekile ukuba ubazise ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni.
Nyaniseka, kwaye unyaniseke. Baxelele ukuba uphulukene nelahleko, kwaye uyakudinga ixesha lokuya emngcwabeni (kunye nokucebisa njengoko kufuneka), kwaye uyakwenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuqhubeka nokusebenza ngokusemandleni akho, kodwa unokufuna intwana imfesane kunye nokuqonda ukuba uthe wawa kancinci.
Ukuba awonwabanga ukuxelela wonke umntu eofisini ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni, unokwazisa umphathi wakho ukuba ulungile na kubo ukuxelela umphathi wakho wangoko, kodwa ukuba nabani na ubuza ukuba kutheni kufuneka uhambe kwangoko, okanye ukuba ubonakala ngathi yehla, ukuba kukho umcimbi wobuqu oya kuwo.
Ukuba usebenza ngokuzimeleyo, unokwazisa abaxhasi bakho nge-imeyile. Yibhale nokuba yeyiphi na indlela oziva ukhululeke ngayo, kuxhomekeke kuhlobo lonxibelelwano onalo nomthengi ngamnye.
Ekugqibeleni, ukugcina izinto zichanekile, zizolile, kwaye ziingcali yindlela eya kuyo. Ukungena kwiinkcukacha ezinkulu malunga nendlela asweleke ngayo umntu okanye into awaphethwe yiyo iya kwenza ukuba wonke umntu angakhululeki, ke bambelela kwizibakala, kwaye ubavumele bakunike indawo oyifunayo yokuphilisa.
Indawo yokuFa
Kwabo banqwenela ukuxoxa ngokusweleka kwindawo exhasayo nevulekileyo, yenza uphando ukufumanisa ukuba ingaba ikhona na i-Death Cafe eyenzeka naphi na kufutshane nawe.
Ukunxibelelana neengcali ezisebenza kwicandelo lokufa nelokufa kunokuqinisekisa uninzi loloyiko lwakho, njengoko zijongana nezifundo ezinokuthi zikukhathaze.
Yithemba ukuba ukuba unengxaki yokulungisa imicimbi ejikeleze ukusweleka, ayinguwe wedwa.
