Ngaba wakha waba nobuhlobo 'deja vu' mzuzu?
Into eza kwenzeka, kwaye kuya kubonakala ngathi uye wadanisa la manyathelo ngaphambili, phantse kwimeko efanayo.
Amathuba kukuba unakho.
Oku ayisiyiyo eyokuthandana kuphela, nokuba. Usenokuba ufumene ukuba uye wajongana ngokuphindaphindiweyo neentlobo ezifanayo zemiba kubuhlobo okanye nabantu ohlala nabo, amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Kutheni le nto isenzeka?
Ngamagama alula, sinomdla wokuphindaphinda iipateni zobudlelwane obungenampilo, nokuba siyazi ukuba senza njalo okanye akunjalo.
Kananjalo, siphelela kwipatheni yokubamba ekufuneka siyikhuphile ngaphandle kokuba sifuna ukuhlala sijikeleza ngokujikeleza ngonaphakade.
Siphinda iipateni kwithemba lesiphumo esahlukileyo
Ngaba uqhelene nesicatshulwa: 'Inkcazo yokuhlanya isenza into enye iphindaphindwe, kodwa ulindele iziphumo ezahlukeneyo'?
UAlbert Einstein ufumana ikhredithi ngokuthetha oko, kodwa ngaphandle kokubhalwa kwayo, iintetho ziyinyani.
Izazinzulu ziphinda ngenjongo ukuphinda kuvavanyo ngethemba lokufezekisa iziphumo ezingqinelanayo ukubonisa ubungqina be-hypothesis. Xa kuziwa kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, nangona kunjalo, sinokuthi bengaqondanga phinda iipateni zethu zokuziphatha.
Uninzi lwethu lunemimandla yokuthuthuzela esithanda ukuyigubungela kuyo, kwaye nangona kunokuba kudala sigqithile, sibuyele umva singene kubo kuba bonwabile ngakumbi kunento enkulu, eyoyikisayo engaziwayo eziswa lutshintsho.
Okulusizi kukuba, loo mimandla yentuthuzelo ayikuvumeli ukukhula ukuba kwenzeke…
Cinga ngabo njengamaqokobhe amaqanda ejikeleze iintaka ezisencinci. Ezo ziqokobhe ziyakhusela kwaye zikhuselekile xa amantshontsho ezifuna, kodwa ukuba akazophuli xa sele ezidlulile, oonokrwece baya kubabambela ngaphakathi baze babatyhafise.
Asifuni loo nto.
Kutheni le Mizekelo iqhubeka iphindaphindwa?
Okokuqala nokuphambili, kufuneka sijonge apho ezi patheni yavela . Oku kuya kusinika ukuqonda okukhulu malunga nendlela yokumisa.
Njengomzekelo, masicinge ngomntu okhulele kumzali othanda ukusebenzisa iziyobisi owayehlala ebabeka phantsi, kwaye engazange akubone ukufezekisa kwabo.
Zonke iifilimu zeHalloween zilandelelana
Kunokwenzeka ukuba loo mntu uya kutsalela kubantu abathandanayo xa kufikwa kumba wokuthandana, okanye abantu ohlala nabo, okanye abahlobo abasenyongweni.
Baqhelene neendlela zokuziphatha ze-narcissist, kwaye kwinqanaba elithile elinzulu, ndiyathemba ukuba le ixesha, le Umntu uyakubabona ukuba bangobani, kwaye abaxabise ngokufanelekileyo.
Ayifane isebenze njalo, nangona kunjalo.
Umntu owenzakeleyo uyakugqibela ukwenzakala kwakhona ziimeko ezifanayo, kwaye uya kuzama kwakhona nomntu omtsha. Njengomntu omtsha othandekayo we-narcissist, enethemba lokuba le ixesha, ukuba benza nje izinto ngokwahlukileyo, kwaye bathande kancinci, le umntu uya kubathanda.
Ingubo, hlamba, phinda.
Ungawuphula njani lo mjikelo:
Ukuba uziva ukuba olu luhlobo lweemeko oqhubeka uziphindaphinda, kufuneka ube nokuzazi ngokwenyani malunga nokukhetha okwenzayo, kunye nabantu onxibelelana nabo.
Ngaba ufuna ukungqinisisa kunye nendumiso evela kubantu abakungqongileyo?
Ngaba aba bantu banenkxaso nobubele? Okanye ukugxeka nokugweba?
Uzama ukuzibonakalisa kubani?
Ufuna ntoni ngokwenene kule meko?
Ngaba ngokwenene aba bantu basempilweni ngokukhula kwakho kunye nokuphila kakuhle?
Ngaba ngokwenene uyabafuna aba bantu ebomini bakho, okanye ngaba ufuna nje ukwamkelwa kwabo?
Ukwenza uMnu okanye Nks. Ogqibeleleyo
Enye imeko enetyhefu abanye abantu abanokuhlala beyiphinda yenye apho bazama khona ukudala iqabane labo lamaphupha.
Aba bantu bahlala betsalwa 'kuhlobo' oluthile, kwaye ke bazame ukulungisa ubuntu babo, indlela abaziphethe ngayo, njl.njl. Ukuze zilungele ukhetho lwabo.
Umzekelo woku ingangumntu otsaleke ngokwenene kwiqabane elineempawu zobuso ezithile kunye nethoni yolusu. Nje ukuba kubudlelwane, baya kwenza iingcebiso malunga nokuba iqabane kufuneka libalabalaze njani kunye neenwele zabo. Mhlawumbi thatha into oyithandayo, okanye utshintshe indlela yabo yokunxiba.
Ngokusisiseko, bamphatha lo mntu njengonodoli: abanokuthi banxibe kwaye bazilungelelanise nokuba liqabane ebebesoloko befuna.
Iimeko ezinje azidimazi nje kuphela - ziyaphazamisa.
Umntu ozama ukutshintsha lowo athi uyamthanda ngenene akanamdla kulowo ahamba naye.
Bazama nje ukugcwalisa umngxunya omile okwezintandane ebomini babo, kwaye bayakukhathazeka kwaye badane xa iqabane labo lingagobanga kwiimfuno zabo.
Eli qabane linokuba ngumntu ofanelekileyo kubo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba abajongi okanye baziphathe ngendlela ethile, baya kuqhekeka badlulele kwithagethi elandelayo.
Ungawumisa njani lo mjikelo:
Misela ukuba uvela phi lo mnqweno.
Ngaba uzama ukudala kwakhona umntu olahlekileyo? Okanye ngaba walungisa 'uhlobo' oluthile xa wawusemncinci, kwaye ngoku uzimisele ukubonisa loo nto ukuba iyinyani?
Ngaba ngokwenene uye wawazi amaqabane angaphambili? Okanye ngaba uzibonile nje njengendlela yokufezekisa iphupha lakho?
Ngaba ucinga ukuba le yindlela efanelekileyo yokusebenzisana?
Lo unokufuna uncedo lweengcali okanye umcebisi. Abantu abazama ukubumba abanye ukuba babe yiloo nto bafuna ukuba babe yiyo banokuba nezona nzonzobila zinzulu ezikhutshiweyo ngoncedo.
Ungamshiya njani ngokukhuselekileyo umyeni we-narcissist
Yiba nobumnene kwaye ube nomonde kuwe, kodwa ukwamkele ukuba uyafuna ngokwenene ukwaphula lo mjikelo, uyakufuna ukhuphelo.
Funda ukuqaphela iipateni zakho
Ukuba uzibona ucinga ukuba uhlala ubonakala ngathi uphela ukwimeko efanayo yokungabinampilo, ukungazalisekisi ubudlelwane, bamba iphephancwadi lakho eliluncedo kwaye wenze uluhlu.
Bhala phantsi konke izinto ezinamaqabane akho angaphambili (okanye abahlobo, okanye abo uhlala nabo) ngokufanayo. Yiba neenkcukacha kangangoko kunokwenzeka, ukusuka kwiimpawu ezibonakalayo ukuya kukhetho lokutya, isimilo, njl.
Ngaba zikho iimpawu abafana ngazo bonke aba bantu?
Babunjani ubuhlobo bakho nabo? Umzekelo, zeziphi izinto enizenzileyo kunye?
Ngaba ukungavisisani nabo kwakufana? Ukuba kunjalo, yintoni ebangele?
Benisombulule njani nobabini, mhlawumbi nidibene okanye nizimele?
Chonga iingxaki ezahlukeneyo onazo kubudlelwane, kubandakanya indlela owawuziphatha ngayo kubo , nendlela abaye baziphatha ngayo kuni.
Oku kunokungonwabisi, ke gcina izicwili ziluncedo xa uzifuna.
Ngokubanzi, ukuba umntu ufumanisa ukuba bahlala bephinda-phinda iipateni zobudlelwane obungenampilo, kungenxa yokuba kwinqanaba elithile, bakhetha ukwenza njalo .
Oko kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukujongana nako, kwaye kunzima nokulungisa, kodwa ukwamkela eyethu indima kumabali obomi kuphela kwendlela yokwenza utshintsho lokwenyani lwenzeke.
Kananjalo, kufuneka sizibuze imibuzo enzima, kwaye siyiphendule ngokunyanisekileyo.
Ngaba Ngokwenene Ufuna Ukuba Lapha?
Ukuba ufunda eli nqaku, kunokwenzeka ukuba ulwa nolwalamano olungenampilo.
Ngenye indlela, usenokuba uhlalutya iimeko ezidlulileyo ngethemba lokophula ipateni yakho.
Ukuba, enyanisweni, kubudlelwane ocinga ukuba busenokungabi yimpilo kuwe, ke kungcono ukuba uqiniseke ukuba ingaba ufuna ngenene olu lwalamano konke konke.
Abanye abantu abafuni ukuba kwimeko yabo yangoku, kodwa bakufumanise kunzima ukwenza (okanye ukubambelela) kwisigqibo malunga nayo.
ungaxelela njani ukuba omnye umfazi uyakhweleta ngawe
Ke, luhlobo luni lolwalamano olufuna ngokwenene?
Loluphi uhlobo lweqabane ofuna ukuba nalo?
Kwaye okubaluleke nangakumbi, loluphi uhlobo lweqabane uyafuna ukuba ?
Zibuze imibuzo enzima kakhulu malunga nobuhlobo bakho (s)
Cacisa kakhulu ngohlobo lobudlelwane ohamba emva kwalo.
Ukuba obu budlelwane bothando, ngaba ufuna ubudlelwane kunye nomhlobo osenyongweni? Okanye ujonge ukwakha ubambiswano lobomi bonke?
Kwimeko apho uhlakulela ubuhlobo obutsha kunye nomntu, misela imimandla yakho yokuthuthuzela kunye nemida. Oku kubandakanya ukuba ungakanani ulwazi olungele ukwabelana nalo mntu, lingakanani ixesha ofuna ukulichitha kunye, njl.
Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho malunga nento oyifunayo kubudlelwane bakho ngelixesha elithile. Ayisiyonto efunwa ngomnye umntu, okanye ekuqhubayo, nokuba kungenxa yohlobo oluthile olubonakala lufuna ukubuyisana, okanye uhambo olunetyala.
Qhubeka ujonge ngokwakho, kwaye uzihlonele ngokwaneleyo ukuze uqinisekise ukuba kwenzeka ntoni na wena Ndifuna.
Ngokucacisa iimfuno zakho, izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka, kunye neenjongo zobomi, uyakuba nembono engcono malunga nolwalathiso ekufuneka uye kulo.
Eyona nto inokwenzeka, iya kuba kwikhowudi eyahlukileyo eyahlukileyo kunaleyo ubusoloko ujikeleza kuyo kangangexesha elithile.
Pakisha iibhegi zakho, kuba ukulungele ukwenza utshintsho lwenene.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni malunga neepatheni zobudlelwane obungenampilo oqhubeka uzenza? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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