'Iyandicaphukisa loo nto!'
Kwaye uyazi ntoni? Kulungile.
Kukho izinto ekumele ukuba zikhubekise ngazo…
xa umntu ekutyhola ngokukopela
Ufanele ukhutyekiswe ngumntu okuhlukumezayo.
Kuya kufuneka ukhubekiswe ngumntu ozama ukukusebenzisa okanye ukukunyanzela.
Kuya kufuneka ukhubekisiwe kukuziphatha okunetyhefu okanye ukuphathwa kakubi kwabanye.
Ukuqhuma komsindo kunye nokuphendula kabuhlungu yingqondo yakho ekuxelela ukuba le yimeko enokuba yingozi efuna ukuguqulwa.
Ewe kunjalo, kukho imiqolomba.
Ukuhlala ukhutyekiswa kukuhlala unomsindo ongagungqiyo oya kuyonakalisa impilo yakho yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo.
Lo msindo unokubangela uxinzelelo, wandise uxinzelelo, uchaphazele impilo yakho emzimbeni kwaye wonakalise ubudlelwane.
Bambalwa abantu abafuna ukuchitha ixesha labo benomsindo, bekhubekisa abantu ngalo lonke ixesha. Kuyadinisa kubantu abangenomsindo, kwaye uninzi lwabantu aluzukujikeleza ixesha elide.
Umsindo umenza umntu angaboni. Kwaye ndithetha njengomntu owayenomsindo ngaphambili, ndazigcina ndinomsindo ngokuzondla ngokutya kwezinto ezinomsindo ngeendaba endandizidla kunye nabantu endandihlala nabo.
Abanye abantu banomdla wokugcina abantu abanjengawe nam benomsindo kuba oko kusenza sisebenzele iinjongo zabo.
umqondiso umntu uphulukana nomdla
Umsindo kunye netyala ziimpendulo ezilula kwiingxaki ezinzima. Awudingi ukuzama ukuqonda omnye umntu xa unomsindo. Uneentshaba ezithile, azilunganga, kwaye umsindo wakho kunye nokukhubeka kufanelekile!
Naxa bengekho. Naxa ujika ungalunganga.
Ukuhlala kolo hlobo lomsindo kunye nokucaphukisa kukuguqula ulawulo lwakho, ingqondo yakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho komnye.
Umntu ongomnye angaba sisigqeba esilawulayo esizama ukuqhuba ingeniso yentengiso okanye inzondelelo izama ukusebenzisa wena njengesixhobo ngokuchasene neentshaba zabo. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, aba bantu abanamdla wakho.
Singakuphepha njani oko?
1. Phanda kwaye uqonde elinye icala lempikiswano.
Enye yeendlela ezilula zokuphembelela abantu kukubaxelela oko bafuna ukukuva.
Ukuba ufuna ukuba nomsindo kwaye ukhubeke, ke yonke inkohliso yalo myalezo kufuneka uyenze kukunika imiyalezo eqinisekisa umsindo wakho kunye netyala. Oko kuyintsonkothe njengoko kusiba njalo.
Kulula kakhulu ukubona xa umntu esenza oku xa usazi ukuba ujonge ntoni. Kwaye kufuneka ukhangele kwelinye icala lempikiswano.
Umntu ozama ukusebenzisa izixhobo zakho kwiimvakalelo uya kuhamba nzima kuloo mvakalelo ngelixa etyeshela, ebetha, okanye edlala kwelinye icala lempikiswano. Njengomzekelo…
“Umbala omfusa ngowona mbala ubalaseleyo emhlabeni! Inzulu kakhulu kwaye iluhlaza! Umbala onokulahleka ngokulula kuwo! Luhlaza? Luhlaza inkunkuma! Yinzulu! Zizidenge kuphela eziluhlaza! ”
Olu hlobo lwenkcazo luyimpikiswano eqhelekileyo yokholo eyaziwayo njenge “Ukunciphisa ubuyatha.”
Umntu owenza impikiswano ukupeyinta okuluhlaza njengombala ombi ngelixa ethetha emfusa ukuze ibe yeyona nto inkulu. Ityeshela nayiphi na into efanelekileyo eluhlaza kunye naziphi na iziphene ezinombala omfusa.
Abantu abanomdla ongaboniyo nabanyanisekileyo kumbala omfusa baya kutsiba kolu hlobo lomyalezo kuba iqinisekisa ukuba umbala omfusa ngowona mbala ungcono, nokuba awukho.
Isithethi okanye umyalezo ofuna ukuphembelela abantu abacinga ukuba umbala omfusa ngowona mbala ungadlala ngqo kwiinkolelo zabo kwaye uvuselele umsindo wabo.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba uthabathe ixesha lokufunda malunga nokubekwa phantsi kwezinto ezimfusa kunye nenyaniso malunga nokuluhlaza, ungafumanisa ukuba unezinto ezimbalwa onokuzicaphukisa ngazo.
Ukuba uhamba usuka kwisiqendu semithombo yeendaba uziva imvakalelo ethile, kunokwenzeka ukuba yenzelwe ukuba ikhuphe ezo ntlobo zeemvakalelo kuwe, mthengi.
2. Khumbula umntu oxhasa ingxelo.
Into enomdla ebantwini yindlela iimeko zethu ezinokuyila ngayo into esiyikholelwayo kunye nendlela esidibana ngayo nehlabathi.
Inkcubeko akhulele kuyo umntu ingabeka isiseko sezopolitiko, iinkolelo, kunye neempawu zobuntu.
Isenokuba nolungelelwaniso olubi. Umntu okhulele kwinkcubeko eyamkela ububi obuthile angayikhaba ngqwabalala kwaye agcine olo luvo ade abe mdala.
Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ayithethi ngokulungileyo nokungalunganga. Ngamanye amaxesha kukwahluka nje kwezimvo kwindlela esicinga ngayo ukuba ilizwe lisebenza ngokusekwe kwindlela esilifumene ngayo.
Unokuzifumana ukhubekiswa ziinkolelo zomntu okanye izimvo zomntu ngenxa yokuba uneembono ezimbini ezahlukeneyo.
Lo mntu uthetha uluvo lwabo unokwenza konke okusemandleni ukuba abe ngumntu olungileyo, esenza into abacinga ukuba ilungile kumava abo.
ukwazi njani xa uthando luyinyani
Cinga ngesimilo somntu othetha into ocinga ukuba iyamcaphukisa. Ngaba ngabona mntu unokuzama ukwenza okubi? Okanye ngaba banomahluko nje kwimbono malunga nendlela yokufikelela kwisiphumo esifanayo?
Ngaba banokuqonda ngokupheleleyo ukuba bathetha ngantoni? Mhlawumbi banokude bazi nento ongayaziyo eya kukubangela ukuba utshintshe ingqondo!
ndingathini ukuba andilufumani uthando
3. Khetha amadabi akho ngobulumko.
Ukungazi kuyisibetho eluntwini olungasayi kuphela. Ngeke nje.
Unokuba nayo yonke imfundo kunye namathuba emhlabeni ukuze umntu afunde, kodwa abanye abantu abafuni tu.
Bakhululekile kwi-niche yabo encinci abazikhethele yona kwaye abafuni ukubeka emngciphekweni oko.
Banokuba ngabantu abonwabela umsindo nengxabano. Nabo abo bantu bakhona. Ndandikade ndingomnye wabo. Yayingeyonto inkulu ukucofa amaqhosha omntu ukuze abukele benomsindo ngaphandle kwento. Bebengazukundiqinisekisa okanye bandilungise ngoba khange ndikhathalele ukulungiswa.
Lowo ngumahluko obalulekileyo. Kukho inani elingenasiphelo leemfazwe ekufuneka zilwelwe abo babekelwe bucala kunye nokulungisa ezinye zobubi boluntu. Kodwa ungumntu omnye kuphela elwandle lokubandezeleka okungapheliyo.
Ngalo lonke ixesha ukhetha ukukhubeka, khetha ukwamkela umsindo, unika intwana yamandla akho emvakalelo. Yenza okugqithisileyo kwaye uya kuzifumanisa utshise kakhulu, ngokukhawuleza kakhulu.
Kwaye ayisiyiyo le nto ifunwa lihlabathi. Ifuna abantu abanokumitha izinto kwaye basebenze ekuhambeni kwexesha ukwenza izinto zibengcono.
Utshintsho lwangempela luthatha ixesha-ixesha elide. Ukuba ufuna ukulugqiba ugqatso, kuya kufuneka ulumke malunga nendawo ochitha kuyo amandla akho emvakalelo kwaye uthathe ixesha lokuwuzalisa.
Khetha amadabi akho ngobulumko. Zibuze ukuba ngaba kuya kulunga na ukukhubeka kunye nokubandakanyeka kungquzulwano.
Nguwe oya kufuneka uphathe loo mandla kunye nawe emva koko. Umntu ophikisana naye usenokungakhathali.
Thatha umoya omninzi, qwa lasela imeko okanye ukuba ikhona into elungileyo eza kuza ngayo, emva koko ukhethe isenzo sakho emva kokuqwalaselwa kwakho.
4. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube nomsindo okanye ukhubeke ukuze ulwe.
Into enomdla kukuba, abantu bathanda ukulinganisa umsindo wabo kunye nezenzo. Ayifani kwaphela.
Umhlaba ukwindawo enzima, kwaye kuyakuhlala kukho imikhosi esebenzayo ukwenza ukuba ilizwe liphuculwe ngokwabo ngokuxhaphaza abanye.
Awudingi ukuba nomsindo okanye ukhubeke ukuze uyiqonde le nto okanye ulwe nayo. Ngapha koko, kungcono xa ungekho ngenxa yokuba umsindo uyabumfamekisa. Kwaye xa uyimfama, wenza iimpazamo obungazukuzenza ukuba uthathe ixesha lokucoca iingcinga zakho kwaye ufumane ulungelelwano.
Ezo mpazamo zinokuhlawula inkqubela exabisekileyo kubomi bakho bobuqu okanye bobuchwephesha, obungenakunceda mntu.
Uncedo lwakho lubangela ntoni ukuba uyadinwa kwaye awukwazi ukwenza kwinqanaba elamkelekileyo? Unganceda njani ukuba uyarhaxwa emsebenzini okanye ulahlekelwe ngumsebenzi?
Kwimeko enjalo, uzivimba izibonelelo ezixabisekileyo ezinokunceda ngokufanelekileyo nasiphi na isizathu okholelwa kuso.
5. Sombulula iingxaki zempilo yengqondo onokuba nazo.
Zininzi iingxaki zokwenyani kunye nezimo ezenyanyekayo zokukhubekiswa ngokunyanisekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha iingxaki zempilo yengqondo ezingalungiswanga zingangunobangela.
Abanye abantu baziva izinto nzulu kwaye kabukhali ngendlela abanye abantu abangazenzi ngayo. Ezinye izifo zengqondo zinokubangela abantu ukuba bacaphukise okanye baphazanyiswe zizinto ezingaphandle.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ukukhutyekiswa kukuthintela ekuqhubeni ubomi bakho, kuya kufuneka uthethe nengcali yezempilo yengqondo malunga nale meko kwaye ubacele ukumelana nezakhono oko kunokukunceda ulawule iimpendulo zakho zovakalelo.
andinalo ukholo eluntwini
Awufuni ukuchitha ubomi bakho uphila ngomsindo, uloyiko, okanye usizi. Usengozini yokutshiswa yimvakalelo ngaphambi kokuba izinto zitshintshwe ngokufanelekileyo.
Inkqubela phambili iyinto ecothayo, eyonyukayo idabi. Kuya kufuneka ukhathalele ingqondo yakho kunye nokuphila kakuhle endleleni.
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