Lihlabathi elibandayo nelikhohlakeleyo phaya. Akunjalo?
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Ihlabathi alisiyondawo ebandayo nenenkohlakalo. Yihlabathi nje. Ayikhathaleli impumelelo yethu kunye nokusilela, uvuyo lwethu, kunye nokubandezeleka. Umhlaba ulula kwaye uza kuqhubeka ujika nokuba sihlangabezana nantoni na.
Hayi, ayilohlabathi. Ngabantu. Abantu bayabanda kwaye banobushushu, banobubele kwaye bakhohlakele, banethemba okanye abanathemba, banezinto ezimbi okanye ezintle.
Ukwenza inguquko kwisimo sengqondo esibi ukuya kwinto elungileyo luhambo olude, olunocelomngeni abaninzi abazabalaza kunzima ukulusebenzela. Ayinguye wonke umntu obusisiweyo ngokwazi ukwamkela izinto njengoko zinjalo okanye ukufumana ulungelelwaniso lwesilivere kwimbala engwevu yamafu.
Kwaye uyazi ntoni? Ayililo lonke ilifu elinombala wesilivere. Ngamanye amaxesha izinto ziyadimaza, kwaye yile ndlela iyiyo, nangona kusoloko kukho abantu abenza imigca ukuba basixelele ukuba akukho kubi kangakanani okanye abanye abantu babe nokubi ngakumbi. Kuya kuvela, abantu bayinto entle ukuba nenkxaso ngokwasemphefumlweni.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukusebenza kwiingqondo zakho. Akukho mntu uza kuhlala entlokweni yakho 24/7 ukuzama ukukukhupha kuwo nawuphi na umngxuma ozifumana ukuwo.
Bambalwa abantu abaya kubonelela ngenkxaso efanelekileyo okanye esemgangathweni kubude bexesha elifunekayo ukutshintsha indlela ojonga ngayo umhlaba kunye neengxaki eziza nawo.
Kuya kufuneka uzenzele lonto.
Kuza kuthatha ixesha, mhlawumbi iminyaka, ukutshintsha indlela olibona ngayo ihlabathi. Musa ukulindela ukuba ikhawuleze. Akuyi kubakho.
Kodwa unokwenza inzuzo ebalulekileyo ngokwenza izinto ezincinci eziza kudibanisa ixesha elide kwaye uguqule umbono wakho kwindawo elungileyo.
Makhe sijonge ezinye zeengcebiso ezinokukunceda wenze olo tshintsho.
1. Sombulula imiba enokubakho yempilo yengqondo.
Uninzi lwabantu luphilisana nemicimbi yezempilo yengqondo enganyangekiyo kunye noxinzelelo. Uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo zikwixesha lonke ukubulela kurhulumente wehlabathi, uqoqosho oluthandabuzekayo, kunye nekamva elingaqinisekanga.
Eminye yayo yimeko ethile ayisiyiyo. Eminye yayo ayichongwanga kwaye ayinyangwa isifo sengqondo.
Ukuba unobunzima ekufumaneni naluphi na uvuyo kwaye ungaziva ulonwabo ixesha elide, kuya kuba kufanelekile ukufumana uvavanyo lwezempilo yengqondo ukubona ukuba ufuna uncedo olongezelelekileyo kwingcali eqinisekisiweyo.
Awungekhe ucinge ngokugula ngengqondo, kwaye umothuko awupheli ngokwawo. Ihlala ithule nje ithi cwaka ibe yingxaki enkulu ekufuneka ujongane nayo kamva.
2. Wamkele amandla ombulelo.
Umbulelo yindawo yokuthetha eqhelekileyo yokwakha isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo. Kuqheleke kakhulu ukuba phantse kube lula ukucoca ngenxa yokuba abantu abaninzi, amanqaku, ii-podcast, kunye nezithethi ezikhuthazayo ziyibhekisa kuyo kodwa kunganyanzelekanga ukuba zichaze indlela ekunceda ngayo.
Umbulelo unamandla kuba unyanzela ingqondo yakho ukuba ikhangele enye into engeyiyo.
Kwaye nantoni na oyikhangelayo, uya kuyifumana. Ukuba ujonga yonke imeko ngokusebenzisa iilensi ezingakhiyo, into oza kuyibona kuqala ayilunganga.
Mhlawumbi kukho ithuba elifihliweyo apho. Mhlawumbi kunokuba kubi kakhulu kunakuqala. Mhlawumbi la mava amabi yinto oyifunayo ukuze ukhule kwaye uphumelele.
Okanye mhlawumbi akukho nanye eyinyani. Mhlawumbi yimeko eyoyikekayo ongafanelanga ukuba unombulelo ngayo. Ungazami ukuziva uqinisekile malunga nemeko engathandekiyo kwaphela - ayiloncedo kwaye ayinampilo.
3. Uthando lukaFati.
Kwintanda-bulumko yamaStoyike, kukho umgaqo obizwa ngokuba 'Uthando Fati' Oko kukuthi, 'Lithande ikamva lakho.'
indlela yokucela uncedo kwindalo iphela
Umbono osisiseko somgaqo kukuba nantoni na ohlangana nayo ebomini bakho yeyakho kwaye yeyakho wedwa, kwaye eyona ndlela yokuyiphila kukufunda ukuyithanda.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe nobulungisa, ububele, okanye uxolo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uyithande kwaphela.
Kuninzi ngothando ongaluthandiyo, njengeqabane lakho ekufumanekeni ukuba unomdlavuza weSigaba 4 okanye ufumana imeko ebuhlungu. Ezi zinto zoyikekayo, kodwa zezakho, kwaye unokukhetha ukuba ufuna ukujongana njani nazo.
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Ukuthanda ikamva lakho kukwamkela into ongenakukuthintela endaweni yokubaleka nokuzama ukuyiphepha. Ngenxa yokuba awukwazi. Kungekudala okanye kamva, iya kukufumana.
4. Nciphisa ixesha lakho nabantu abangenanto.
Kukho intetho ehamba nento ethi, 'Ungumndilili wabantu abahlanu ochitha ixesha elininzi ujikeleza.'
Loo mgca uthetha ngokuthe ngqo kunye nefuthe lokwenene abanye abantu abanalo kuthi njengabantu, indlela esilibona ngayo ihlabathi, kunye nendlela esikhetha ngayo ukusebenzisana nobomi.
Ukuba ujikelezwe ngabantu abangenanto, uya kuba nexesha elinzima lokuhlala unethemba.
Abantu ababiyo bayathanda ukurhuqa abantu abahle baye kwinqanaba labo kuba ngokuqinisekileyo ubomi abunakuba bubo ulunge ngokwenene awungekhe wonwabe. Yintoni engalunganga ngawe? Awuyazi ukuba abantu bayahlupheka! Ukuphulukana nemisebenzi yabo! Ukugula nokufa!
5. Qaphela ukutya okondla ingqondo yakho.
Ingqondo yahlukile kakhulu kwisisu. Ukuba uyayondla inkunkuma, ke ufumana inkunkuma.
Ukutya ukutya okungenampilo kakhulu kunokukwenza utyebe, utyhafe, unganiki amandla owadingayo, kwaye ugule.
Awunakho ukondla ukungakhathali kwengqondo yakho kwaye ulindele ukufumana nantoni na eluncedo kuyo, nokuba kunjalo.
Imithombo yeendaba oyisebenzisayo imicimbi. Masithi uhlala ubukele iindaba, ufunda izinto ezingathandekiyo kwimidiya yoluntu okanye kwiiwebhusayithi, kwaye umamele izinto ezimbi. Kwimeko apho, uya kuba nexesha elinzima kakhulu lokukhupha ingqondo yakho kuloo mngxunya umnyama.
Ewe, siyazi ukuba uninzi lwezinto ezijolise ekulungiseleleni zi-cheesy kunye ne-corny, kodwa kukho izinto ezintle ezikhoyo phaya nazo. Kufuneka uqhubeke ujonge macala onke de ubafumane.
6. Qalisa uze ugcine inkqubo yomthambo.
Kukho izifundo ezingenakubalwa ezibopha impilo yomzimba kwimpilo yakho yengqondo.
Umzimba uvelisa ii-endorphins ezininzi kunye nezinye izinto ezilungileyo zokuziva xa usebenza kwaye uzilolonga. Abantu abakhelwanga ukuhlala phantsi, nangona abantu abaninzi benale mihla.
Vuka uhambe rhoqo. Akufuneki nokuba ibe yinto enzima. Ukuhamba kangangemizuzu engama-20 amaxesha ambalwa ngeveki kunokwanela ukwenza izinto zixhume emzimbeni wakho. Oko kuzilolonga kuya kukunceda uzive ungcono, emzimbeni nasengqondweni.
7. Ukuphuhlisa indlela yokulala esempilweni.
Isingqisho se-circadian yinkqubo yeeyure ezingama-24 eyinxalenye yewotshi yangaphakathi yomzimba. Kuwo wonke umzimba udubula iinkqubo ezahlukeneyo zangaphakathi ekufuneka zenzekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba uhlala usempilweni kwaye usebenza.
Okona kwaziwayo kwezi ngumjikelo wokulala nokulala. Umzimba wakho unamaxesha afanelekileyo apho ufuna ukulala kunye nokuvuka. Ukusondela kwakho ungafika kula maxesha afanelekileyo, usempilweni.
Ingqondo igcwalisa imichiza yokulinganisa imo yokusebenza eyisebenzisayo imini yonke ngexesha lokulala kakhulu. Kunzima kakhulu ukuba ingqondo yakho ifike kula manqanaba anzulu okulala ukuba uhlala uphazamisa umjikelo wakho wokulala ngokulala iiyure ezingaqhelekanga.
8. Qala intsasa yakho ngesiqhelo esihle.
Iinkqubo zakusasa zifumana ingxelo eninzi kuba ziyisiqalo esihle sokuba nosuku oluhle. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kunzima ukuba nosuku oluhle xa uzama ukoyisa intsasa embi.
Intsasa elungileyo inokuthwala ubunzima obuninzi bemiceli mngeni eza kuvela kusuku. Thatha ixesha lokwenza into entle kusasa.
Ukufunda, ukuzilolonga, ukushicilela ijenali, nokuba uhleli uthe cwaka nekomityi yekofu okanye iti zonke iindlela ezinokuthenjwa zokufumana usuku.
Kuya kufuneka uphephe ukuntywila kwangoko kwiingxaki zomhla kwaye uphephe iindaba ezimbi kunye nemithombo yeendaba. Oko kunokuza kamva ukuba uziva ufuna ukuyenza.
9. Gxila kubukho.
Ukuqiqa kunokunceda ukukhuthaza umbono oqinisekileyo ngobomi. Ukukhumbula kukuba khona kwaye ngalo mzuzu, ngoku.
Ayikhathazi into eyenzeka kwelinye icala lehlabathi, ukuhlala kwiimpazamo ezidlulileyo, ukukhathazeka ngekamva elingekabikho apha, okanye ukuzibuza ukuba kuza kwenzeka ntoni ngokulandelayo.
Awunakho ukulawula naziphi na ezo zinto. Konke onokukulawula yile nto unayo apha ngoku.
Kodwa nangona kunjalo, oko akusoloko kuyinyani. Ngamanye amaxesha izinto azikho kulawulo lwakho, kwaye konke onokukwenza kukuhamba nokuhamba ubone ukuba ukuhamba kukusa phi.
Xa ufumana ingqondo yakho iphambukela kwezinye izinto, zijolise kumzuzu wangoku kunye nokukujikelezileyo.
10. Ukubuyisela ukusilela kwakhona kwizifundo ezibalulekileyo.
Ukungaphumeleli. Yinto ekungekho mntu ufuna ukuva okanye ukujongana nayo. Kubonakala ngathi yinyaniso kwindalo iphela, akunjalo?
Kuxhomekeke kwindlela ojonga ngayo. Umntu oqinisekileyo ojolise kwimpumelelo akoyiki ukusilela. Bayayiqonda into yokuba ukusilela kuyinxalenye yenkqubo yempumelelo.
Ngumntu onqabileyo ozimisele ukwenza into kwaye aphumelele kwilinge lokuqala. Uninzi lwexesha, uza kugqiba ukusilela amatyeli ambalwa ngaphambi kokuba ufumane into elungileyo.
Ukungaphumeleli kunokukufundisa okuninzi malunga nawe kwaye nokuba ungoyiswa ntoni logama ugcina ingqondo yakho ivulekile kwaye ujonge izifundo ekusileleni. Emva koko uthatha ezi zifundo kwaye uzisebenzise kwilinge lakho elilandelayo.
Ukusilela akukho nto uyoyika. Inxalenye yohambo oluya kwimpumelelo.
11. Yakha ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuzithanda.
Inani elothusayo lokungakhathali kwehlabathi liyawa xa usakha ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuzithanda.
Bonke abo bantu negative abafuna ukukuxelela ukuba ungaphantsi? Ayithethi nto ukuba uyazi ukuba ungumgangatho, umntu onesakhono.
Abantu abaninzi bawela kwindlela engafanelekanga yokuzigweba njengabantu abalungileyo okanye abangalunganga. Ingxaki yile yokuba akunakufane ufumane uvavanyo olululo ngokuhambelana neenkolelo zakho.
Ukuba ngumntu olungileyo kuthetha ukuba kufuneka wamkele inkcazo ekhonkrithi yokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumntu olungileyo. Kwaye oko kuthetha ukuba uza kufumana iinkcazo ezahlukeneyo kuxhomekeke ekubeni ubuza kubani.
Yintoni ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba unokuzijonga kwisibuko uze umthande umntu ombonayo - iintanda, iziphene, nabo bonke.
12. Khumbula ukuba ukonwaba kunye nolonwabo malunga nohambo, hayi indawo ekuyiwa kuyo.
Eyona nto inokwenzeka, awuzukufumana ulonwabo xa ekugqibeleni ufike kwindawo oya kuyo.
Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ufike kuloo ndawo, ukonwaba okomzuzwana. Ke ukukhanya kwamava kuyancipha kulindelo lwehlabathi lokwenyani oluhamba nalo.
Olo khondo uphuphayo ngalo lisaza kuba nomsebenzi odinisayo, ocaphukisayo kunye nabantu osebenza nabo ekufuneka ujongane nabo.
Imali eninzi ilungile, kodwa iza noxanduva ngakumbi kunye neengxaki ezininzi.
Le holide iya kuba ntle! Kuya kuba mnandi! Uza kubona izinto ezintsha, ufumane izinto ezintsha, kwaye ngethemba lokuzonwabisa. Kodwa ayiyi kuhlala ngonaphakade.
Isitshixo ekuphuhliseni isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kukuqonda ukuba yinto eqhubekayo yokusebenza. Yinto okhetha ukuyenza yonke imihla ngezenzo ozenzayo.
Kukukhetha ukukhetha ukondla iingcinga kunye namava aqinisekileyo onokuwafumana yonke imihla ukuba ukhetha ukujonga. Kwaye njengoko usenza njalo, uya kuyibuyisela ingqondo yakho ngokwendalo ukuze ufumane ezi zinto.
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Akululanga. Kuya kuthatha ixesha elide. Kodwa yinto onokuyenza ukuba ugxila kwaye uqhubeke nokusebenza kuyo.
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