Indlela eya kulonwabo yindlela eyahlukileyo esihamba ngayo sonke.
Wonke umntu unemiceli mngeni engqondweni yakhe nakubomi bakhe obunokubathintela ekufumaneni ulonwabo abalunqwenelayo.
Obo bunokuba bubomi bekhaya obunzima, ukungasebenzi, okanye ukujongana nesifo sengqondo esenza ukuba kube nzima ukonwaba.
Sinokongeza ulonwabo kubomi bethu ngoqhakamshelwano lwasentlalweni kunye nobudlelwane. Okwangoku, ezo zinto zinokongeza kulonwabo lwethu kunokuba ziyile. Ulonwabo olwenziwe ngumthombo wangaphandle luya kumka ukuba siphulukana nomthombo wangaphandle.
Ke, kufuneka sisebenze ekuhlakuleleni nasekuphuhliseni ulonwabo lwethu ngaphakathi.
Eyona ndlela isebenzayo yokwenza oko kukufumanisa ukuba yintoni na ekuthintelayo ekufumaneni ulonwabo lwakho.
Masikhe sijonge izizathu ezingama-25 zokuba kutheni ungonwabi…
1. Uzizungezile nabantu ababi.
Kukho intetho endala ehamba into enje, 'Ungulowo uzingqongileyo.' Eli lizwi liye lahluthwa kwaye lafakwa ngeendlela ezininzi zokugubungela imiba eyahlukeneyo yokunxibelelana kwezentlalo.
Ukuba ungqongwe ngabantu abangenanto, ingqondo yakho iyakuhla iye kwinqanaba labo ukuze basebenze kolo gwenxa.
Ukuba ungqongwe ngabantu abanganyanisekanga, kulungile, uya kuba sisidenge ukunyaniseka kwabo bantu kuba baya kukuxhaphaza.
Ukuba ujikelezwe ngabantu abanomsindo, uya kuba nexesha elinzima lokuba ngumntu ozolileyo kuba uza kubanjiswa kukuqina kweemvakalelo zabo ezinamandla.
Kodwa okwahlukileyo kuyinyani.
Kulula kakhulu ukuba ngumntu onobubele xa ujikelezwe ngabanye abantu abanobubele.
Unokufunda okungakumbi kwaye ufumane ukukhuthazwa kukuzijikeleza nabantu abakrelekrele.
Kwaye kulula kakhulu ukonwaba xa ujikelezwe ngabanye abantu abonwabileyo.
Awudingi ukusika wonke umntu ongathandekiyo okanye abo banobunzima, kodwa kufanelekile ukuvavanya ukuba lingakanani ixesha olichitha nabo bantu.
Kunzima kuba ukukhula komntu kuhlala kusishenxisa kubantu abangenampilo okanye abagwenxa abanengqondo kwinqanaba elidlulileyo lobomi.
2. Unesithukuthezi kwaye uyatyeshela ubudlelwane bakho.
Ngaba ayinqabile into yokuba kweli xesha lonxibelelwano olukhulu, siziva sedwa ngakumbi kunangaphambili?
Kuyavela ukuba unxibelelwano lwethu lobuqu kunye nobuhlobo ngezixhobo ze-elektroniki nakwimithombo yeendaba zentlalo ngokwenene isenza isithukuthezi ngakumbi kwaye sidakumbe kunobuhlobo ubuso ngobuso. [ imvelaphi ]
Kwiminyaka eyadlulayo, ayemaninzi kakhulu amathuba okunxibelelana ubuso ngobuso nabanye abantu, ukuphuhlisa ubuhlobo, kunye nokufumana okuphakathi.
Sisebenzise icawe kunye neeklabhu zentlalo ukufumana olo nxibelelwano. Kodwa ezo ntlobo zonxibelelwano kunye noluntu ziye zathandwa kubomi bethu obuxakekileyo, banamhlanje.
Sichitha ixesha elininzi kunakuqala sisebenza okanye sidiniwe kakhulu ukuba singaphuma kwaye senze umzamo owongezelelweyo wokuhlakulela ubudlelwane obuphezulu.
Kulula kakhulu ukuthumela imiyalezo embalwa okanye uskrole kwimithombo yeendaba zosasazo ukudibanisa nabahlobo.
Kulula akuyona indlela efanelekileyo, nangona kunjalo. Yenza ixesha lokufuna nokwakha ubudlelwane obuninzi ngakumbi obungabandakanyi izixhobo zombane.
3. Uxhomekeke kakhulu kwabanye ukuze wonwabe.
Ukunika abanye uxanduva lokonwaba kwakho yindlela eqinisekileyo yokuphelisa ukudana nokudana.
Wonke umntu uzama ukufumana eyona ndlela anokuyenza ngayo kobu bomi ngexinzelelo oluncinci kunye noxolo lwengqondo kunye nolonwabo. Akukho ngqiqweni okanye kufanelekile ukubeka umthwalo wolonwabo lwakho komnye umntu.
Uyabona oku kubudlelwane bezothando kakhulu. Ukhe wayenza ngokwakho ngaphambili…
“Ukuba ndifumana nje umntu olungileyo, ndingavuya. Owu, ndifumene umntu obalaseleyo! Bayandonwabisa kakhulu! Kwaye ndinazo zonke ezi mvakalelo zibalaseleyo zokuqaqamba, ukuthatheka kunye nenkanuko! Ndisemathandweni kakhulu! Andikwazi kulinda ukuba nditshate kwaye ndonwabe nentsapho yam! ”
Kodwa ke loo mntu akaphili ngokuvisisana nolo lindelo lothando, kwaye usizi luye luye luyemka kwakhona.
Mhlawumbi ayingomntu wakho? Ayisiyo kunene umntu? Ngaba ayifanelanga ukuba 'yonwabe ngonaphakade?'
Ewe, mhlawumbi kwiincwadi zamabali nakwiimuvi. Ebomini, hayi kakhulu. Ebomini, kuya kufuneka ujongane nezinto ezidinisayo, ezikruqulayo kunye nezithandekayo ngamanye amaxesha.
Ebomini, kuya kufuneka ujongane nezinto ezoyikisayo, ezinobungozi ezisongela ukutshintsha indlela olibona ngayo ilizwe ngokungabikho kokusesikweni. Mhlawumbi uthando lobomi bakho lungena engozini yemoto embi, ufunyaniswe unesifo somhlaza, uhlala nesifo sengqondo, okanye ayinguye lo mntu babemele ukuba banguye.
Awunakuxhomekeka kolunye ulonwabo lomntu. Kunzima kakhulu kwingxaki nakubani na ngaphandle kokuba ubambe uxanduva.
Awunakho ukwenza kwaye ugcine omnye umntu onwabile. Unokwenza kuphela ukuba bonwabe. Kwaye kufanelekile nakuwe.
4. Ubambelele kumsindo nokungakhathali.
Kuninzi ngaphandle apho ukuba nomsindo malunga. Ukungabikho kokusesikweni, abantu abamsulwa bebandezeleka, abantu abangenasimilo bethatha ithuba lokuthemba abantu, ilizwe ngokubanzi-zonke izinto ezibangela uxinzelelo, umsindo kunye nokungakhathali.
Abantu ebomini bakho basenokungabi ngcono kangako. Basenokungabi ngabantu abalunge kwaphela. Usenokuba uzive ukuba zinjalo, kodwa baphela betyibilika kwaye bebonisa ngakumbi ukuba ngebezigcinile.
Mhlawumbi umntu othile wakona ngendlela ebuhlungu kwaye ushiye impembelelo engapheliyo kuwe. Yinto enzima ukuxolela okanye ukuyiyeka xa ufuna ukusondela kufutshane nolonwabo lwakho.
Kodwa abanye abantu abafuni ukuxolela okanye ukuvumela izinto zihambe. Bafuna impindezelo, okusesikweni, okanye ubulungisa, nokuba ezo zinto azinakwenzeka.
Inyani yenyani yile yokuba zininzi izinto ezingalunganga ezingayi kulungiswa okanye ziya kuthatha ixesha elide ukuba zilungiswe.
Ekuphela kwabantu abakhathalele ngokwenene umsindo wakho ngabantu abafuna ukuwusebenzisa njengesixhobo ekuchaseni. Oko akuyi kubakho iintshaba kuphela, kodwa abantu abathi bakwicala lakho, abagcina umsindo wakho ukuze uhlale ugxile kwaye ubandakanyeke.
Umyeni akazuthetha nam
Ngelishwa, ukonwaba kunye nomsindo akunakuhlala kwindawo enye. Abakwazi nje. Ukuba umsindo uyangena, ulonwabo luphuma.
Oko akuthethi ukuba awufanele uzame ubulungisa okanye ukulungisa ukungalunganga. Musa nje ukuhlala ngomsindo okanye wenzakele ngelixa usenza.
5. Uziva ngathi awufanelanga konwaba.
Abantu abangaziva ngathi bafanele ukonwaba bahlala bephazamisa ulonwabo lwabo.
Banokuba nobudlelwane obusempilweni apho bakhetha umlo ngaphezulu kwezinto ezizenzekelayo ukuze baziqinisekise ukuba abafanelekanga ukuba bonwabe.
wazi njani ukuba umhla uhambe kakuhle nomfana
Banokwenza ngabom ukwenza iimpazamo emsebenzini ukuze umphathi wabo ajongane nabo, kwaye banokuzixelela ukuba abalungelanga umsebenzi.
Ingxaki kule nkolelo ligama 'lifanelwe.'
Ngaba ukho umntu ofanele nantoni na? Uninzi lwabantu abamsulwa bafumana ukubandezeleka okukhulu ngaphandle kwesizathu ngaphandle kokuba ubomi benzeke. Abafanelekanga, kodwa kusenzeka.
Kwaye ulonwabo aluyonto emfaneleyo umntu okanye engafanelekanga.
Banokukwazi ukuyila ngomzamo ojolise kuwo kunye nomsebenzi omninzi. Okanye mhlawumbi iingqondo zabo zihamba ngakumbi ngokubhekisele kulonwabo kunye nolonwabo, ke akukho mfuneko yokuba basebenze nzima ukuya apho.
Ngaba omnye ufanelekile kunomnye? Hayi ngakumbi xa izilingo ezinzima zobomi ziqala ukukhulisa iintloko zabo.
Umzali olahlekelwe ngumntwana ngokuqinisekileyo akafanelanga olo hlobo lwentlungu akukho mntu ulwenzayo. Kodwa sithanda ukucinga ngeemvakalelo ezintle kunye namava obomi njengabafaneleyo kunokuba ibe yinto esisebenza kuyo okanye esinokuthi ngempazamo sikhubeke kuyo.
Wonke umntu ufanele ukonwaba okuthile. Nokuba bayafumana okanye awufumani mbuzo owahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo.
6. Uyityeshele impilo yakho yengqondo.
Esinye sezizathu ezibangela ukungonwabi kukungalawuleki kwengqondo.
Uxinzelelo, unxunguphalo, kunye neminye imiba yezempilo yengqondo inokunciphisa umda wokuba unganako kangakanani ukuzonwabisa.
Ngaba unemicimbi yempilo yengqondo? Ngaba baphantsi kolawulo? Ukuba abekho, kunokuba kuluncedo ukuthetha nengcali yezempilo yengqondo eqinisekisiweyo malunga nokwenzekayo, ukuze ufumane indlela yokuyilawula.
Uninzi lwazo lunokulawulwa ngokutshintsha indlela yokuphila kunye nonyango. Abantu abaneemeko ezinzima kakhulu banokufuna amayeza okuzisa isifo sabo sengqondo phantsi kolawulo olufanelekileyo.
Abantu abanobunzima bokufumana uxolo kunye nokudala ulonwabo baya kuba benza kakuhle ukuba bathethe nengcali yezempilo yengqondo ngesikhokelo esongezelelweyo kunye neembono zobuqu.
7. Uvumela iingcinga neemvakalelo ezingathandekiyo ukuba zibaleke.
Ulonwabo lunokuba ngumceli mngeni ekudaleni kwaye kulula ukulutshabalalisa. Enye yeendlela ezilula zokujongela phantsi ukonwaba kwakho kukuvumela iingcinga neemvakalelo ezingalunganga zibaleke.
Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukugcina ezi ngcinga kunye neemvakalelo ziphantsi kolawulo ukuba ufuna ukugcina ulonwabo olwenzileyo.
Umhlaba uzele zizinto ezimbi. Iindaba zihlala zisihla ngeziganeko ezimbi, ubundlobongela, ukufa, kunye nabantu ukuba boyike omnye komnye.
Abantu abalahlayo bayakhawuleza ukusikhumbuza ngendlela elinokuba mbi ngayo ihlabathi, nangona sele sazi ngalo.
Ezi zinto azinakukuchaphazela kakhulu ukuba uyakhathala uhlakulela ezakho iingcinga, jolisa kwinto onokukwazi ukuyilawula, kwaye ukhethe iingcinga ezonwabileyo endaweni yezimbi.
Awunakho ukuvumela iingcinga neemvakalelo ezingakhiyo ukuba zibaleke ngokuhlala ucinga ngazo. Oko kuyakutshabalalisa ulonwabo lwakho.
8. Awuleqi amaphupha akho okanye injongo.
Ukuleqa amaphupha akho kunye nenjongo eqinisekileyo yindlela eyaziwayo yokuthengisa ulonwabo.
Emva kwakho konke, ubekwe kulo mhlaba ukuba wenze into, akunjalo? Into ebalulekileyo?
Ewe, mhlawumbi, akunjalo. Abanye abantu bayayikholelwa loo nto kwaye abanye abayikholelwa.
Ngaba ukhe waqaphela ukuba abantu abathengisa injongo kunye nokuleqa amaphupha akho njengendlela eya kulonwabo abangaze bayigubungele indlela yokuphatha ukuba injongo yakho ayonwabanga kwaphela?
Njengokuba, uza kuthini ukuba injongo yakho kukuba ngumcebisi kubundlobongela basekhaya okanye umdala asebenzise gadalala unontlalontle? Iimeko apho uhlala ubona izinto ezimbi ezenziwa ngabantu komnye nomnye umhla nosuku.
Kunzima ukucinga ukuba abacimi-mlilo abaninzi bavuya ngokonwaba ezimotweni zabo ukuba bagoduke emva kokuhamba iiyure ezingama-24 apho banokuba babone olona suku lubi kunabo bonke abantu ababancedileyo.
Ngaba ukuleqa amaphupha akho okanye injongo yakho yindlela eya kulonwabo? Mhlawumbi, mhlawumbi akunjalo. Kodwa kungafika ixesha apho uziva unesidingo esinzulu, umzobo wokutsala ujonge kwinto ocinga ukuba kufanelekile ukuba uyayenza.
Uya kuyifumana ikhathaza iingcinga zakho, mhlawumbi namaphupha akho. Kuvakala ngathi ndiyalangazelela. Uya kuzifumana uzibuza ngayo, ngaba kufuneka uyenze? Ngaba ubungafanele ukuyenza?
Ukuba kunokwenzeka, kufanele.
Ukuziva ubizelwe injongo isenokungabi sisitshixo sokonwaba ngento ekufuneka ujongane nayo wakube ulapho, kodwa ngokungathandabuzekiyo sisitshixo sokungonwabi ukuba uyayala.
Ukwalelwa kuthetha ukuba uya kubethwa kukuthandabuza kwaye uthini ukuba kuko konke ubomi bakho. Bekuyakuthini ukuba bendilandele intliziyo yam kwaye ndenza le ndiziva ukuba kufuneka ndiyenzile? Bebuza kuba njani ubomi bam? Yintoni eya kwahluka? Ngaba ngendingumntu ongcono? Ukonwaba, mhlawumbi?
Akukho mntu unokwazi iimpendulo zale mibuzo, kodwa singatsho ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uya kuzisola ngokubabuza.
9. Awumiseli okanye usukele iinjongo.
Iinjongo zifezekisa iinjongo ezininzi ekwakheni ulonwabo lwakho. Injongo yimilinganiselo enokulinganiswa onokuyisebenzisa ukulinganisa inkqubela phambili yakho kwinto ofuna ukuyifeza.
Zonke iinjongo eziphambili kukufikelela ekufikeleleni kwiinjongo ezincinci kwindlela eya empumelelweni.
Ngaba uyafuna ukuba ngumculi? Emva koko kuyakufuneka uzibekele iinjongo zokuziqhelanisa nokuphuhlisa ubugcisa bakho kancinci kancinci yonke imihla de ufike kwinqanaba apho unokukhuphisana khona.
Ngaba uyafuna ukunciphisa umzimba? Kuya kufuneka ubeke iinjongo kwinto oyityayo kwaye xa usenza umthambo ukukunceda ukusondeza kuloo njongo kunye nobunzima bakho obulungileyo.
Iinjongo zibonelela ngemithetho kunye nolwakhiwo kubomi obudla ngokuba nesiphithiphithi noburhabaxa. Usenokungasoloko ukwazi ukufumana indlela wedwa, kodwa iseti yeenjongo iya kukugcina ukhombe kwicala elifanelekileyo.
Kwaye, kuyavakala ukuba ufikelele kwiinjongo, kwanezincinci. Oko kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ekwenzeni ubomi obonwabisayo.
10. Uyayikhathalela impilo yakho yomzimba.
Akukho mfihlo yokuba ukwenza umthambo kuyinzuzo ngqo kwimpilo yengqondo. Izibonelelo zokuzilolonga kunye nokuphucula umzimba wakho azinakuba ngaphezulu.
Ukuzivocavoca umzimba kunceda ukonyusa ulonwabo kwimichiza eveliswa yingqondo yoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.
Ukuzilolonga kukhuthaza ukukhula kweeseli zemithambo-luvo kwingqondo yakho, ezinokukunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokuphucula ulonwabo.
Abantu abenza umthambo bathanda ukulala nzulu kunabo bangenzi njalo. Batshisa amandla amaninzi emini, nto leyo ebangela ukuba umzimba wabo ufune ukuphumla ngakumbi xa uye kulala. Oko kuyanceda ngolonwabo kuba ingqondo ivelisa imichiza yokulinganisa imood kunye nokuziva ulunge kakhulu kwinqanaba lokulala kakhulu.
Phuma uhambe! Ukuzilolonga yenye yezona zinto zilungileyo onokuzenza ukonwaba kunye noxolo lwengqondo.
11. Ufuna ukulala ngakumbi nokuphumla.
Kwaye ukulandela loo mthambo, unokufuna ukulala ngakumbi kunye nokuphumla!
Ubomi buxakekile. Abantu basebenza nzima kunakuqala, bebeka iiyure ezininzi emsebenzini, bezama ukugqiba esikolweni, bezama ukufumana ukonwaba kancinci kunye noxinzelelo lwento kuyo yonke into eyenzekayo emhlabeni.
Kwaye umyalezo oqhelekileyo eluntwini kukuba ukuba awugreyli, uyangxama, okanye usebenza nzima, kufuneka ukuba uchitha ixesha lakho.
Ayisiyonyani leyo.
andiyazi into ayifunayo
Abantu abangoomatshini. Bafuna ukuphumla kunye nokuphumla ukuze bahlaziye iibhetri zabo.
Ukuba ubomi bakho buxakekile, unokukwazi ukudala ulonwabo ngokumisela amaxesha athile okuphumla kunye nokuphumla. Ipensile iiyure ezimbalwa zokuphumla kunye nokuphumla kwishedyuli yakho exakekileyo.
Ishedyuli yokulala engaguqukiyo inokwenza imimangaliso yokuphucula imeko yakho nolonwabo. Abantu abahlukeneyo baneemfuno ezahlukeneyo zokulala, nangona kunjalo. Unokufuna ukuzama kancinci ukufumana ishedyuli yokulala ehambelana nesingqisho sakho sokujikeleza.
12. Uyayiyeka impilo yakho yokomoya.
Impilo yokomoya luhlobo lwesigama esingalunganga. Abantu abaninzi bayitolika impilo yokomoya ukuba ithetha impilo yenkolo, kodwa ayisiyiyo le nto iyiyo.
Ukondla impilo yakho yokomoya kukondla ukuba ungubani, into oyikholelwayo, kunye nento okholelwa ukuba ilungile emhlabeni.
Kuyila kunye nokuchitha ubugcisa, ukuthatha ixesha kwizinja zezilwanyana, ukucamngca ukukunceda ukuzisa ukuthula engqondweni yakho.
Kukunxibelelana neenkolelo zakho zokomoya, ukuba unayo, okanye ukwenza izinto ezizisa ulonwabo.
Mhlawumbi uyathanda ukwenza umsebenzi wokuvolontiya okanye uncede ekucoceni inkunkuma epakini, okanye uphume ngendalo uyokuloba okanye ukonyuka intaba.
Awunakho ukungayihoyi impilo yakho yokomoya ukwakha uhlobo lobomi olufunayo.
Yinto ekufuneka uyikhumbule kwaye uthathe ixesha layo, nokuba oko kuthetha ukuyisebenza ngexesha elimiselweyo ukuze uqiniseke ukuba uyondla loo nxalenye yolonwabo lwakho.
13. Uthelekisa amava akho obomi nawokuqaqambisa abanye abantu.
Imidiya yoluntu inoxanduva lokunyusa uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo ebantwini abalusebenzisa rhoqo [ imvelaphi ].
Nangona imithombo yeendaba zentlalo ibonelela ngezinto ezininzi ezilungileyo, njengokufumana indawo ekuhlaleni kunye nokunxibelelana nabantu abavela kwihlabathi liphela, ikwabonelela ngezinto ezininzi ezimbi.
Yandisa i-FOMO-Uloyiko lokulahleka. Kunzima ukonwaba kwaye wanelisekile xa ujonge imifanekiso egcinwe ngononophelo yabahlobo, yosapho, kunye nabantu abangahleliyo abaphila obona bomi bumnandi.
Kwangelo xesha, unamathele emsebenzini ohlawula ngaphantsi okanye usokola kwiikholeji.
Kulula ukulibala ukuba le mifanekiso, amabali, kunye neevidiyo zizinto eziqaqambileyo ezikhethiweyo. Uninzi lwabantu alabelani ngeengxaki zabo, uloyiko, okanye ubunzima kwimidiya yoluntu.
Kwaye oko kugqamisa i-reel akunakubonakalisa inyani konke konke. Lezo isenokuba yimifanekiso yekhefu ethandekayo nekhuthazayo, kodwa into ongayiboniyo yi- $ 5,000 kwityala elongezelelekileyo abalifumbileyo ngenxa yokuba bengakwazi ukufikelela kolo hambo.
Musa ukuthelekisa ubomi bakho nabanye. Amathuba mahle kakhulu ukuba abantu abanyanisekanga ngokunyanisekileyo ngobomi babo.
14. Ukhuphisana nabanye ngokungeyomfuneko.
Ukhuphiswano lunokuba sempilweni kwiimeko ezinqongopheleyo. Akukho mpilweni xa iqala ukuwela imigca edala iziphumo ezibi zeemvakalelo.
Ke, ufuna ukugqwesa. Utyala iiyure zobomi bakho ukuziqhelisa, ukuqeqesha kunye nokwenza ngakumbi. Uphuma uye kwinqanaba elikhulu ukuze uthathe umpu kwindawo ephezulu kwaye ufumanise ukuba konke ukuziqhelanisa noqeqesho lwakho akubonelelanga ngesiphumo osilindeleyo kuwe.
Awuyiyo eyona. Mhlawumbi ungene kwindawo yesibini, mhlawumbi awuzange wenze kwawona mahlanu aphezulu.
Oko kusebenza kuwo wonke umdlalo wobomi. Ayinamsebenzi into oyenzayo, uyakuhlala ekhona umntu ongcono, okanye impumelelo ibengumsinga wethamsanqa.
Kuyakuhlala kukho umntu otyebileyo, okhangeleka ngcono, okrelekrele, owonwabileyo, okanye owenza izinto ezingcono.
Ukujonga abo bantu njengokhuphiswano lokukhutshelwa ngaphandle kwaye boyise akunampilo kuba uzithelekisa namava abo obomi.
Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokulwa nokhuphiswano lokucinga ngobomi kukukhulisa uxabiso lokwahluka. Kulula kakhulu ukugcina ulonwabo lwakho xa inkxalabo yakho ephambili ikwakha ngokwakho, ungabethi abanye abantu phantsi.
Yazisa abanye abantu ngeentsikelelo kunye nezipho zabo. Buza imibuzo. Abantu abaninzi baya konwaba ngakumbi ukukuxelela indlela abayenze ngayo into abayenzileyo.
Uncamathisela ulonwabo kumava nakwizinto eziphathekayo.
Ukusukela izinto yindlela eqinisekileyo yokuzigcina kwindawo yokunyathela yolonwabo engakufumani ndawo.
Kuya kuhlala kukho umntu obeka izinto ezintsha nezingcono eziza kwenza ukuba izinto zakho ezindala zibonakale zingenaxabiso kwaye zingasasebenzi.
Ewe, loo nto inokuba ikonwabisile ngaphambili, kodwa ngaba yinto eza kuhlala ikwenza wonwabe? Mhlawumbi akunjalo. Izinto ziyaguga emva kwethutyana.
Kodwa emva koko kukho inkolelo yokuba umntu kufuneka alandele amava, hayi izinto! Yiloo nto eya kukonwabisa!
Ewe, iyakwenza, okwexeshana. Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa ubomi busenzeka, kwaye awungekhe ukwazi ukufumana amava kwakhona?
Uyakuthanda ukuhamba? Kakhulu! Amava ezinto ezintsha, jonga ezinye iinkcubeko, jonga olo khuthazo ngaphandle phaya de umsebenzi wakho uwele, okanye iindlela zokuhamba zinqunyulwe.
Kuthekani ke ngoku?
Ukufumana ulonwabo oluvela kwimithombo yangaphandle kunokusebenza ixesha elithile. Inokukunceda ukubonelela ngokwenyusa okwethutyana kukonwaba kunye nento onokuthi ujonge kuyo.
Kodwa ngaba iya kukugcina wonwabile xa ungasenako ukufikelela kula mava okanye izinto eziphathekayo kwakhona?
16. Uzama ukugcina ulawulo ebomini.
Ubomi kukukhwela endle. Umzuzu omnye yonke into izolile kwaye ihamba njengoko bekucwangcisiwe. Umzuzu olandelayo utyibilika kuyo yonke indawo, uzama ukufumana yonke into phantsi kolawulo.
Ubomi bunokutshintsha kwi-dime ngephanyazo. Konke oku kuthatha isigqibo esinye esibi, isenzo esinye esingalunganga, okanye ukuba kwindawo engalunganga ngexesha elingalunganga ukuze yonke into iphakame.
Iya isiba yinto eyoyikisayo xa uyamkela njengento enokwenzeka kwaye uyicwangcisele.
Uhambo lobomi lunokufakwa kwimephu ngamanqwanqwa, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba ubone ukuba yintoni esendleleni ebadibanisayo.
Kukho izinto ezibalulekileyo onokuzenza ebomini bakho kamva, kodwa kuya kufuneka ufumane amava obomi ngoku ukuze uzilungiselele.
Kunokubakho iindawo zokumisa imingxunya kunye nokuphambuka ekufuneka uthathe xa usendleleni.
Cwangcisa, kodwa ungabambeleli ngokuqinileyo kwisicwangciso. Ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka uhambe nokuhamba kwaye ubone apho ukuhamba kukuthatha khona.
17. Uthanda ukugqibelela.
Ukugqibelela kuhlala kufihla iimvakalelo ezithile ezinzima. Inokubangelwa luxinzelelo malunga nesiqu sakho kunye nendalo esingqongileyo.
Umntu onamaxhala unokusebenzisa ukugqibelela njengesixhobo ukuzama ukugcina umfanekiso ofanelekileyo ukugcina uxinzelelo kulawulo.
Ingxaki kukuba abantu abafezekanga. Kwaye ukuzama ukumisela ukuba ukugqibelela kwabanye abantu kuyindlela yomlilo eqinisekileyo yokubangela ungquzulwano, inzondo kunye nokungonwabi.
Nokuba umntu uyathobela ngoku, kungekudala okanye kamva, baya kuyifuna inkululeko, oko kuthetha ukuba baya kuvukela kwaye bazame ukutshisa eyabo indlela.
Ukufuna ukwenza izinto ngendlela egqibeleleyo kunokukufihla ukuzithemba nokuzithemba kwakho. Ukugqibelela akufezekisi iiprojekthi kuba iprojekthi egqityiweyo ayinakugwetywa. Inika abagqibeleleyo ukuba baphume ngokulula ngokuthi, 'Kulungile, ngumsebenzi oqhubekayo. Andikayigqibi nayo okwangoku. ”
Ngokwenyani, uninzi lwabantu abanengqiqo abalindelanga ukuba wena okanye umsebenzi wakho ugqibelele. Uninzi lomsebenzi alunjalo.
Ogqibeleleyo lutshaba inkqubela. Ukwamkela ukungafezeki kusinika ulonwabo.
Unako ukukhuthaza uthando olukhulu ngokujonga iimpazamo zakho njengezinto ezizodwa zobuhle ezikunceda ukuba ube ngubani.
Kwaye ngelixa kuyinyani ukuba ezo ziphene zinokubaluleka kwaye ezinye zinzima kakhulu kunezinye, ezi zihlala zizinto ezinokusebenza kwaye zipolishwe.
Ubeka ityala okanye uluphephe uxanduva lolonwabo lwakho.
Ungonwaba njani xa uqhubeka usenza izigqibo ezingalunganga ebomini?
Ungonwaba njani ukuba uxanduva lwakho ulubeka emagxeni abanye?
Luxanduva lwakho ukwenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo eziza kukunceda uphucule ubomi bakho kwaye ugcine uxolo lwengqondo.
Abantu obathandayo nothando abanakuyenza. Umphathi wakho emsebenzini akakwazi ukuyenza. Abahlobo ozingqongileyo abanakuyenza.
Kulula kakhulu ukuzama ukubeka olo xanduva kwabanye. Akwaba bebenokwenza kakuhle! Okanye yenza into elungileyo! Okanye wenze ukhetho olungcono! Ke ukhetho lwabo alunakuchaphazela kakubi ulonwabo lwam okanye impilo-ntle yam!
Kodwa ayisiyondlela abantu abasebenza ngayo.
Uninzi lwabantu luyazithathela izigqibo ukomeleza ulonwabo okanye indlela yokuphila. Basebenza ukuphucula izinto abanazo- fumana uthando, bafumane ulonwabo, bafumane uxolo lwengqondo kweli hlabathi linesiphithiphithi.
Awunakho ukuchitha ixesha lakho usola abanye abantu kukhetho lwakho. Ukuba awonwabanga yimeko ebomini bakho, yitshintshe.
Ukuba umntu uyakuphatha kakubi, beka imida kwaye ungamvumeli ukuba enze njalo.
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Ukuba awonwabanga ukuba ungubani njengomntu, yeka ukwenza izizathu kunye nokugxeka ityala kuwo wonke umntu.
Yinto yakho ukujongana nayo.
19. Uvumela uloyiko lunyanzele ubomi bakho kunye nokhetho.
Yindalo ukoyika uguquko kunye nokungaziwa. Le mpendulo yomntu ngokupheleleyo kwinto ongayiqhelanga.
Ingxaki kukuba okungaziwayo kulapho uya kuva khona ukukhula okukhulu kunye namava amatsha.
Awufumani ndawo enomdla ngokuhlaziya izinto osele uzazi kunye neendawo osele uziye. Banokuba yintuthuzelo enkulu, nokuba boyikeka okanye mabi, kodwa abekho apho uya kufumana naluphi na ulonwabo.
Kuya kufuneka uzimisele ukuzicel 'umngeni, ucinge ngaphandle kwebhokisi, kwaye ulandele into entsha.
Kuya kufuneka uzimisele ukuthatha umtsi wokholo kwaye ube nokuzithemba kuwe ukuba nantoni na onokuthi ujongane nayo-ungayiphatha.
Uya kuhlala ubambekile kwiqamza lakho ukuba uvumela uloyiko lunyanzele ubomi bakho kunye nokhetho.
20. Awuhlali kwaye ujonge okwangoku.
Ulonwabo lunokufumaneka kuphela kulo mzuzu wangoku. Ixesha elidlulileyo lihambile, kwaye ikamva alikho apha okwangoku. Yonke into oziva unamava nayo ilapha, ngoku.
Uyazihlutha ulonwabo ukuba uchitha ixesha lakho ukhumbula kwaye ukhangela ixesha elidlulileyo elingasekhoyo.
Ayisiyiyo yonke loo nto yahluke kwaphela ekuchitheni ixesha lakho ucinga ngekamva elinokuthi lenzeke okanye lingafikeleli. Akukho kamva liqinisekisiweyo, nokuba siyifuna kangakanani, siyicwangcise, okanye siyisebenzele.
Oko akuthethi ukuba AKUFANELE uqwalasele elidlulileyo okanye elizayo. Abanye abantu bajolise kakhulu kwixesha langoku kangangokuba bayatyeshela ukuceba ikamva konke konke. Kodwa kuye kwafika inqaku apho iba mpilweni ukuphupha emini malunga nokuba ingaba yintoni okanye ipineyini kwinto ebekufanele ukuba ibikho.
Okwangoku kulapho yonke into isenzeka khona ngoku. Masithi ungayifumana indlela yokwenza okona kulungileyo kwimeko yakho yangoku kwaye uyixabise, nokuba yeyiphi na. Kwimeko apho, uya kuba nexesha elilula lokugcina ulonwabo lwakho.
21. Uyenziwa kwaye uyalibazisa.
Ukuzibekel 'amangomso izinto kunokulusebenzisa ulonwabo. Ngokwamkela indima yokudlala ebomini kunye nokuzibekel 'amangomso izinto, ususa ulawulo kwizigqibo ezibalulekileyo ebomini bakho.
Ukuba awukhethi, abanye abantu kunye neemeko ziya kukwenza ukhetho.
Kwaye abanye abantu abazukuxhasa okanye balwele ulonwabo lwakho njengoko uza kuthanda. Uninzi lwexesha, ngokubanzi banomdla kakhulu ekusombululeni iingxaki zabo kunye nokwakha ukonwaba kwabo.
Ukuzibekel 'amangomso izinto kudala iingxaki ezintsha ngokusilela kwakho kokufaka kunye nokwenza. Iingxaki ezincinci ezinokusonjululwa ngemizuzu nje embalwa yomgudu zinokubangela iingxaki ezibaluleke ngakumbi, ezibiza kakhulu xa ungazisombululi.
Kukho indlela elula, yokugcina ixesha ebizwa ngokuba, “Umthetho Wemizuzu Emihlanu,” ezinokukunceda ukuba ulwe nokuzibekela amangomso kwaye wenze umahluko omkhulu ebomini bakho.
Yinto elula. Ukuba umsebenzi ungathatha ngaphantsi kwemizuzu emi-5 ukufezekisa, yenze nje kwaye ugqibezele ngayo. Sukuyibeka kude kube kamva, sukuyibopha kunye neqela lezinye izinto, musa ukunyusa amagxa akho uhambe kuyo… yenza nje.
Uyakumangaliswa kukuba kunceda kangakanani kuyo yonke into ukusuka ekucocekeni ukuya kuhlala uhlelekile emsebenzini.
22. Awufundi kwaye ukhule kwiimpazamo zakho.
Iimpazamo ziyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokukhula njengomntu. Kuphela ngokwenza iimpazamo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukujija izinto siye siyiqonde into engasilungelanga.
Kuya kwenzeka ntoni ukuba yonke into ihambe kakuhle kwaye ngokuchanekileyo ngalo lonke ixesha? Mhlawumbi unganeliseka. Ungaziqhelanisa nezinto ezihamba kakuhle kwaye uhlakulele ulindelo lokuba nantoni na oyenzileyo iza kuhamba kakuhle.
Kodwa ayisiyiyo indlela obusebenza ngayo ubomi.
Bambalwa kakhulu abantu abaphumelela ngokukhawuleza kwinto abazimisele ukuyenza. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba ungakanani uphando okanye ucwangciso olwenzileyo, ngamanye amaxesha izinto ziyenzeka nje, kwaye konke onokukwenza kukusabela kuwo ukunciphisa umonakalo.
Abanye abantu baziphatha iimpazamo kunye nezithintelo njengentlekele, ikakhulu ukuba abakhange benze iimpazamo ezininzi.
Abazali beehelikopta bamisela abantwana babo ukusilela ngokungabavumeli ukuba bafumane iimpazamo, ke abantwana babo abazi ukuba mabenze ntoni xa kusenzeka okanye bacinge ukuba kukungaziphathi kakuhle komlinganiswa wabo.
Kodwa ayisiyiyo. Iimpazamo zenzeka kuye wonke umntu. Yinto oyenzayo ngeempazamo zakho ezibalulekileyo.
Funda kwaye ukhule kubo, musa ukuzifihla kubo.
23. Awunamonde ngokwaneleyo.
Umonde yinto elungileyo. Yinto eqhelekileyo yokuqonda isizathu.
Umonde yinto elungileyo kuba zimbalwa izinto ezifanelekileyo ezenzeka ngokukhawuleza okanye ngokulula. Kuthatha ixesha, ukusebenza rhoqo, ukusilela, kunye nokuzama kwakhona ukwakha izinto zexabiso.
Abaculi abanamava kunye nabadali bayazi ukuba awungekhe nje ubethe into ngaphandle kwempazamo kwaye ube nokumangalisa.
Ukwenza into emangalisayo ebomini bakho, ukudala ulonwabo, umhlaba umsebenzi wephupha, kunye nokufumana umntu olungileyo oza kuthatha naye ubomi kuya kuthatha umonde omkhulu.
Siphila kuluntu olukhawulezileyo apho izinto ezininzi ezisetyenziswayo zifunwayo kwaye zikhawuleza. Ulonwabo alukho kwezi zinto.
Nokuba ungakanani umonde, unokusebenzisa okungaphezulu kunoko.
Kodwa umonde kufuneka ulungelelanise nokumiselwa kweenjongo. Kukho indawo apho umgca weqiwe ukusuka kumonde uye 'kule njongo mhlawumbi ayisebenzi, ngenxa yoko ndifuna icebo elitsha.'
Uchitha ixesha elininzi ujonge izikrini.
Ukuba nexesha elininzi kakhulu lesikrini akunampilo. Ikwasithintela ekubeni sikwazi ukunxibelelana nobomi, ukukhula kunye notshintsho.
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Uchitha njani ixesha elincinci elinikiweyo kobu bomi lutshintsha indlela okhula ngayo njengomntu kwaye ubomi bakho buya kukhokelela phi.
Ababaninzi abantu abafuna ukuphakama benze umthambo, bafunde, okanye benze umsebenzi onzima ekufuneka bewenzile ukugcina nokwakha ubomi babo. Kuyadinisa, kwaye isingqengqelo sikhululekile.
Ukubukela umabonwakude okanye iividiyo, ukugwetywa ngokusasazwa kumajelo asekuhlaleni, okanye ukulahleka kwimidlalo yevidiyo akukwakhi ubomi obonwabisayo, obungcono kuwe Bachitha ixesha eliza kukubuyisela emva ukuba ubavumela babange ixesha lakho elininzi.
Ukuphumla kunye nokuphumla kubalulekile. Qiniseka nje ukuba awuzukuncama ixesha lakho elinomda kwezi zitshini zobunzulu obungenasiphelo.
25. Ukude kakhulu ematyaleni.
Ityala sisifundo esikhohlisayo ebantwini. Abanye abantu abawenzanga ngokufanelekileyo amatyala abo ngokuthenga izinto abangenakukwazi ukuzifikelela okanye ukuchitha ngaphezulu.
Okanye bawaphathe ngokufanelekileyo amatyala abo ngenxa yokungabinalo ulwazi olwaneleyo lokwenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo.
Imfundo ephakamileyo nokufunda ngumzekelo olungileyo. Mininzi kakhulu imiyalezo yokuthengisa ejolise kubantu abadala ukuba batsibe ngqo kwikholeji ukuze bafumane isidanga ngaphandle kovavanyo olululo lwemiceli mngeni eza emva:
“Yiya kwisikolo sakho samaphupha! Ngubani okhathalayo ukuba kuya kuba neendleko eziphindwe kahlanu kunokuba uye kwikholeji yoluntu okanye kwisikolo sokurhweba! Okanye ndade ndafumana umsebenzi ndaza ndasebenza ngokwamaqela kuloo nkampani! ”
Kwelinye icala lengqekembe ngabantu abacinga ukuba onke amatyala mabi kwaye kufanelekile ukuphepha. Kumazwe amaninzi, lukhetho oluphosakeleyo olo.
Ukulinganiswa kwetyala kubalulekile ekufumaneni inzala efanelekileyo kwimali mboleko yemoto, imali mboleko yakho kunye nokubambisa ukuba ufuna ukuthenga ipropathi yakho.
Awunakho ukurenta indlu okanye indlu ngaphandle kwenqanaba elifanelekileyo lekhredithi. Kwaye awunakufumana igumbi lehotele okanye uqeshe imoto ngaphandle kwekhadi letyala. Ukungasebenzisi ikhredithi kwaphela ngumbono ombi.
Ikhredithi sisixhobo esiluncedo ukuba usebenzisa ulawulo olululo lwezemali. Ukufunda indlela yokuyilawula kakuhle kuya kukunceda kulonwabo lwakho kunye nenqanaba loxinzelelo.
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