Siphila kwihlabathi elixakekileyo apho abantu bengxamele ukufumana 'lowo,' okanye iqabane , ’Kodwa le mizamo idla ngokuba lilize.
Ukuba uphakathi kwabaninzi abaphenjelelwa ziintsomi xa kufikwa kubudlelwane, mhlawumbi ukhe wadana nokudana kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo.
Bakhwankqiswa kukukhohlisa konxibelelwano olunothando, abantu bahlala bentywila entloko kuqala kubudlelwane benolindelo oluthile engqondweni, kodwa bothuka yinyani.
Ayilotyala lakho ngokupheleleyo ukukholelwa kwiintsomi ezikhokelela ekugqibeleni kububi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, umbono wobudlelwane obugqibeleleyo uhlala ungumxholo kwiimuvi okanye ezincwadini.
Umbono wobudlelwane obugqibeleleyo ulungile kangangokuba imithombo yeendaba edumileyo izama ukubhenka kuyo ngobuchule bokukrola umfanekiso wolwalamano olonwabisayo nolungenasiphoso kwiscreen.
Enkosi kubo, sinomdla wokufumana izimvo ezithile malunga nokuba uthando lumele ukuba lunjani.
Kweli xesha langoku, ubungxowankulu bulawula inkcubeko yethu, kwaye umbono wothando uthandwa kakhulu. Isibheno sokuthandana ngokugqibeleleyo siyathengisa, kwaye siyithenga ngaphandle kombuzo.
Ke, ayothusi into yokuba uninzi lwethu lube ngamaxhoba kwaye lukhule imigangatho engekho ngqiqweni kulwalamano .
Ukuba inyani yakho ayihlangabezani nolindelo lwakho, ngokuqinisekileyo iya kukushiya ukhathazekile.
Ukuba ufuna ukwahlukana nenyani engeyonyani eyenziwe ziimuvi kunye neencwadi- ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane obonwabileyo- kuya kufuneka uyeke ukukholelwa kwiintsomi ezishiya wena neqabane lakho ungazalisekanga.
Zithini ezo ntsomi?
Intsomi # 1: ubudlelwane Great umzamo kuba uthando lokwenene ngokwaneleyo.
Yinyani Ulwalamano olukhulu alwenzeki nje kwizibini zalo kufuneka lusebenze kunye nothando kunye nokuqonda.
Ukubona indlela abantu abatshatileyo aboniswe ngayo kumabonwakude nakwimidlalo bhanyabhanya kusenza sicinge ukuba ubudlelwane bu malunga nolonwabo okanye ulonwabo. Inyaniso ikude neentsomi ezinjalo. Ubudlelwane budinga umsebenzi omninzi ukuze bugcinwe busempilweni kwaye bonwabile.
Kunjengokwakha indlu, ubudlelwane budinga igalelo labantu ababandakanyekayo. Omabini amaqabane kufuneka abeke iinzame ezingaphaya kokuqala izigaba zothando .
Uthando yinto ehleliyo emva kokuphela komnqweno. Njengoko ixesha lihamba, izinto ziyatshintsha kwaye awuyi kuhlala kwinqanaba apho iimvakalelo zakho zilawulwa khona intabatheko okanye umtsalane.
Kananjalo amava akho awasayi kuhlala emnandi njengaxa uqala ukudibana nesiqingatha sakho. Ubomi buba sendleleni nokuba siyathanda okanye asithandi.
Njengoko ukhula, uya kujonga ngaphaya kwezothando kwaye ufunde ukulungelelanisa iyantlukwano kunye nezinto eziphambili ukuze wenze ubudlelwane bakho busebenze.
Intsomi # 2: Umona luphawu oluqinisekileyo lothando.
Yinyani : Umona Ingaziva ngathi ibonakalisa inkathalo ekuqaleni, kodwa ihlala ikhula ngenxa yokungazithembi kubudlelwane.
Umona awulophawu lusempilweni kuyo nayiphi na imeko kwaye uhlala uyimpendulo kwizisongelo ezibonakalayo. Endaweni yokugcina unxibelelwano olusempilweni, umona uthanda ukwenza iqabane Ukuba nomsindo , ukulawula, nokuzikhusela ngokugqithisileyo.
Ukunqongophala kokuqondana kunye nokuziphatha kukabani kunokuvula indlela yomona, enokuthi ichithe ubudlelwane phakathi.
Intsomi # 3: Abantu abathandanayo abanobuhlobo obukhulu abalwi bonakalisa ubudlelwane.
Yinyani : Ukulwa okanye ukungavisisani akunakuphepheka kubo nabuphi na ubudlelwane. Nditsho nabantu abonwabileyo bayalwa. Iimpikiswano ezisempilweni liqonga lokuqonda iqabane lakho ngcono.
Ngapha koko, iimfazwe zinokuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho ukuba uthatha indlela eyiyo. Ukungavisisani kunye neempikiswano kunokunika ithuba lokuxoxa malunga nento ekukhathazayo.
Ke, ayilunganga ukucinga ukuba akusekho thando kubudlelwane kuba ukhe walwa ezimbalwa.
Iimpikiswano zinokuvula iingcango ezikunceda ubone iqabane lakho ngokukhanya okutsha kwaye wamkele iimpawu zabo.
Xa niphikisana, ninokuvuma ukungavumelani. Indlela yakho yokulwa kunye nokwazi ixesha lokutyhala iziqhoboshi ngaphambi kokuba impikiswano iphume kulawulo inokwakha indlela yesivumelwano sobabini esisombulula iingxaki.
Ke ukulwa, ngamanye amaxesha, kunokuba yinzuzo kuwe.
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Intsomi # 4: Ukutshata okanye ukuba nosana kuya kuqinisa ubudlelwane kwaye kusombulule imicimbi ethile.
Yinyani : Ukwenza oku kutsiba okukhulu akuyi kusombulula ngokungummangaliso iingxaki zakho. Umtshato kukuzibophelela okukhulu kwaye ukufumana umntwana kukuzibophelela okukhulu nangaphezulu.
Ezi zigqibo zibalulekileyo akufuneki zithathwe kancinci okanye zisetyenziselwe ukufihla ezona ngxaki onazo kulwalamano.
Yinto eqhelekileyo ukungaqondi ukuba umtshato okanye umntwana uya kulwenza ulwalamano lube ngcono. Ngapha koko, abantu abaninzi bathabatha la manyathelo ngethemba lokuba amaqabane abo aya kuba ukuzibophelela . Bakholelwa ukuba ukutsibela inyathelo elikhulu elilandelayo kuyakulungisa ubudlelwane babo obugulayo.
Ngokuchasene noko, ukwenza olu tshintsho lukhulu kubomi kunokubangela umonakalo omkhulu kubudlelwane osele unamanzi anengxaki. Ibandakanya uxanduva olutsha nolubalulekileyo olunokongeza kuphela uxinzelelo kubantu abatshatileyo.
Ukutshata okanye ukuba nosana ngaphandle kokulungisa iingxaki ezikhoyo ngekhe kuqinise nabuphi na ubudlelwane. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba ukuphazamiseka okanye ukufihla akusiso isicombululo esimangalisayo kuyo nayiphi na ingxaki.
Intsomi # 5: Ababini kubudlelwane obonwabileyo basombulula yonke imilo yabo kunye nokungavumelani.
Yinyani : Le ayisiyonyani kwaphela. Kulwalamano oluninzi, ezinye iingxaki zihlala zingasonjululwanga, oko kuthetha ukuba izibini azisoloko zivuma.
Abantu ababini banyanzelekile ukuba babambe amaxabiso neenkolelo ezichaseneyo, kungasoloko kukho ukungavisisani. Akukho ngqiqweni ukukholelwa ekubeni yonke iyantlukwano inokuzinziswa kubudlelwane.
Okona kuninzi, izibini zinokusebenzela ukulawula ukungaboni ngasonye endaweni yokufikelela kwisigqibo esinganiki kuvalwa kuyo okanye esiphele kwisisombululo esingonelisiyo kwaphela.
Ngamanye amaxesha, umba okanye ungquzulwano lunokubeka ubunzima obuncinci kubudlelwane ukuba omabini amaqela ayavuma ukungavumelani. Ngokuhlonipha ilungelo lomnye nelinye lokubamba iinkolelo ezithile, izibini zenza iqhina eliqhubela phambili kwaye likhule.
Intsomi # 6: Kukho iindlela ezichanekileyo nezingalunganga zokulungisa iingxaki zobudlelwane.
Yinyani Akukho zikhokelo zikuxelela ukuba ungazulazula njani kubudlelwane ngamaxesha engxaki.
Ngenxa yokuba lonke ulwalamano luhlukile, kunye neseti yalo yeengxaki, akukho bungakanani-bunye-isisombululo kuzo zonke iingxaki zobudlelwane.
Ukuba iingcebiso ezinobungane kunye nemiyalelo evela kwiincwadi zokuzinceda ziyakusebenzela, kulungile. Nangona kunjalo, oku akusoloko kunjalo kubomi bokwenyani.
Ukubona utshintsho olulungileyo, wena neqabane lakho nifanele nenze umgudu wokulungisa iingxaki zenu njengoko nibona kufanelekile. Akukho lula, ewe, kodwa akukho sisombululo sele silungiselelwe nayo.
Intsomi # 7: Izibini ezithandana ngokwenene ziyazazi iimfuno neemvakalelo zomnye nomnye.
Yinyani : Ngendlela ebinokuba ntle ngayo, yinyani emsulwa.
Umlingane wakho akakwazi ukufunda iingqondo, ethatha ukuba ungumntu nje. Ke yinto engavuthiyo ukukholelwa ukuba izibini ezithandanayo zinokuziqonda iingcinga neemvakalelo zomnye nomnye.
Iqabane lakho linokwazi izinto ezininzi ozithandayo nongazithandiyo, kodwa abanokwazi ncam ukuba uziva njani, kutheni uziva unje, okanye nokuba ulindele ukuba enze ntoni ngayo.
Njengomntu oqiqayo, unoxanduva lokunxibelelana nemicimbi yakho kwiqabane lakho. Owona mceli mngeni uhlala kuxhomekeke ekubeni uyakumamela kwaye enze iinzame zokuyisombulula.
Intsomi # 8: Amaqabane kufuneka abelane ngesondo 'x' inani lamaxesha olwalamano olukhulu.
Yinyani : Ukuba abantu abatshatileyo banolindelo olungenangqondo ngokubhekisele kwinani lesini ekufuneka benalo, bayakugqiba bangoneliseki.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba ayizizo zonke izibini ezinenqanaba elifanayo lomnqweno okanye ukuqhuba ngesondo, kwaye oku kumisela ukuba bafumana kangaphi phakathi kwamashiti.
Abantu abatshatileyo banokwaneliseka ngakumbi ukuba banokugcina engqondweni ukuba kufuneka bafumane izinto ngesantya sabo, kwaye ngendlela yabo, ukoneliseka ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo.
Kuyinyani ukuba ubudlelwane obusempilweni kunye nobomi obanelisayo besondo buyahambelana. Nangona kunjalo, ukuphindaphinda kwesondo ukusondelelana phakathi kwezibini ayisiyiyo kuphela i-metric ebalulekileyo ekufuneka ulinganiswe ngayo ulonwabo.
Intsomi # 9: Omabini amaqabane kufuneka akulungele ukutshintsha ubudlelwane obunempumelelo.
Yinyani : Emva kokuba inqanaba lokuqala lentabatheko lidlulile, abantu abaninzi babhenela kwimibono, benqwenela ukuba baphucule okanye utshintshe iimpawu ezithile zamaqabane abo ukuze ukonwabele ubudlelwane obungenasiphako.
Ukukholelwa ekubeni kunokubakho ubudlelwane obugqibeleleyo kukuhlekisa ngokwakho. Abantu zizidalwa ezinesiphako, ngenxa yoko sineempawu ezininzi ezinokubakhathaza abanye.
Ngaphandle kokuba ngumba obaluleke kakhulu njengokungathembeki okanye ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, kubalulekile ukubonakalisa kwizenzo nakwindima yomntu kubudlelwane. Ukugxeka omnye umntu yedwa ngekhe kusombulule nantoni na. Endaweni yoko, kunokuba nefuthe elibi kubudlelwane.
Ke, ukuba unemiba ebeka ulwalamano lwakho emngciphekweni, okanye ukuba ucwangcisa ukungena kubudlelwane obunzulu, funda ukwahlula phakathi kwezinto eziyinyani nezingeyiyo.
Ubudlelwane zizinto ezinzima kwaye azizukuqhuba kakuhle ngalo lonke ixesha. Ngumsebenzi onzima lowo Ngamanye amaxesha kwaye kuya kufuneka uzimisele ukubeka lo mzamo ukuze abagcine besempilweni.
Ukuba ungayeka ukukholelwa kwezi ntsomi zobuhlobo zili-9, uya kuba ulunge ngakumbi ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo ukuthatha amaxesha amnandi ngokubi.
