Ukuphelisa ubudlelwane akunakuze kube lula. Sikhetha amaqabane ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo, senze ubudlelwane obunamandla kunye nawo, kwaye sihlala sichitha iminyaka sakha ubomi kunye.
Ukuphelisa a umtshato kunzima kakhulu, ngakumbi ukuba kukho abantwana kunye notyalo-mali lwexesha elide ekufuneka ulwe nalo.
Xa izinto ziwa ngaphandle ukuya kwinqanaba apho zingasayi kuphinda zisindiswe kwakhona, sijamelene nethemba lokutshintsha ngokusisiseko inkalo nganye yobomi bethu.
uqhubeka njani xa umntu engazukukuxolela
Ukuba ufikelele kweli nqanaba, kwaye nguwe ofuna (okanye ofuna) ukuphelisa umtshato, kungenzeka ukuba unendlela enzima phambi kwakho.
Ukuxelela iqabane lakho ukuba ufuna ukuqhawula umtshato akuyi kuba lula, kodwa ukuba ngoku kuyafuneka, kukho iingcebiso ezinokukunceda.
Uyifumana njani le ncoko
Njengazo zonke iimeko, iindlela ziya kwahluka ngokuxhomekeka kubantu ababandakanyekayo.
Ngaba umntu otshate naye luhlobo lomntu oluthandayo uhlobo lokuziphatha ngokungagungqiyo kunye nomba-wenyani, ingqiqo esengqiqweni? Okanye ngaba zibuthathaka kwaye zifuna ukushukunyiswa zijikelezwe?
Basabela njani kwiingxoxo ezinzima? Ngaba bahlala bezolile kwaye baxoxa ngezinto njengabantu abadala? Okanye ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba baqale ukukhala kwaye bafumane impikiswano kunye / okanye ukuthandabuza?
Ezi mpawu kufuneka zithathelwe ingqalelo xa uzama ukumisela indlela yokuveza isihloko soqhawulo mtshato.
Ukuba iqabane lakho lizinzile ngokweemvakalelo kwaye lithanda unxibelelwano olucacileyo noluthembekileyo, oko kwenza izinto zibe lula kakhulu. Uya kuba namathuba okuba ulwe ne-hysteria, kwaye unokuzilungisa izinto kunye.
Jonga iishedyuli zakho kwaye ubone ukuba leliphi ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuthetha. Ekuqaleni kwempelaveki ngumbono olungileyo, ke iimvakalelo zinokuphola kancinci phambi kokuba omnye wenu ajongane nomsebenzi / iveki yomsebenzi.
Umsebenzi wangoMgqibelo kuba uyakube uthathe ubusuku bangoLwesihlanu ukuba udodobalise kwiveki yomsebenzi. Ukuba unabantwana, jonga ukuba ungabavalela kwindawo yomhlobo wosuku, ukushiya iiyure ezimbini ukuze uthethe.
Ngumbono olungileyo ukuba neenowuthsi zilunge kunye namanqaku okuthetha onokuthi ubhekise kuwo kwakhona ngexesha lengxoxo. Siza kungena kuloo nto kungekudala.
uneminyaka emingaphi nikita dragun
Chaza ukuba kutheni ufuna ukwahlulahlula
Ukuba awukakucwangcisi oku ngokwakho ngokucacileyo, yenze ngokokubaluleka.
Ukuphelisa umtshato akuyona into ekufuneka yenziwe ngephanyazo. Kuya kufuneka unoluhlu olucacileyo lwezizathu zokuba ungakholelwa ukuba obu budlelwane bunokuhlangulwa.
Umzekelo, ngaba ucinga ukuba nobabini niyinto efanayo? Ngaba ukhule ngokwahlukeneyo?
Oko kwathethi, unokuba nekristale ecacileyo, nesizathu esinye sokushiya. Usenokuba ulibonile icala labo ongasokuze ufune ukulibona kwakhona. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba benze into engaxolelekiyo, enjengokubethwa kuwe okanye ebantwaneni bakho.
Okanye usenokuba namava otshintsha ubomi, kwaye ukutshata akuhambelani neparadigm yakho yobomi.
Ukuba Utheni Ngeli Ngxoxo (kwaye YINTONI OKUNGEYI)
Ngokusisiseko, izinto ofuna ukuzigubungela ngeli xesha lentetho zezi:
-Uziva ukuba ulwalamano alusenakusindiswa.
- Awufuni kutshata kwakhona.
- Awuyiyo intshaba awusafanelekanga nje njengesibini esitshatileyo.
-Nobabini kufuneka nisebenze kunye njengenxalenye yeqela ukuya phambili.
Eli ayiloxesha lokungena kwiinkcukacha ezilungileyo malunga nolungiselelo lokugcina abantwana, ukwahlula ipropathi yomnini-mntu, okanye ukuthengisa indawo yokungcwaba ekwabelwana ngayo. Ezo zinto zinokucwangciswa kamva.
YONKE into ekufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo ngoku kukuba uziva ukuba lo mtshato uphelile, kwaye ufuna ukuphuma.
Indlela yokujongana neempendulo zabo
Uyayikhumbula loo nto malunga nokubhala amanqaku emva kwale ncoko? Ewe, kubalulekile ukuba zibhalwe phantsi ukuze uhlale uzisa ingqalelo kumcimbi oselungelweni nanini na xa usiba sedreyini.
Abantu basabela ngeendlela ngeendlela xa bejamelene nemeko abangafuni kuva ngayo okanye ukuphikisana nayo.
Abanye bayavala kwaye bahambe, abavumi ukuyivuma okanye ukujongana nayo kwaphela. Ukuba iqabane lakho liyakwenza oku, musa ukuhamba nalo.
emva kweentsuku ezingaphi nibabini?
Banokuphuma iiyure ezimbalwa kwaye babuye bazenze ngathi akukho nto yenzekileyo. Oku kunokuba yindlela yokukhanyela yokungavumi kwabo basebenze ngaphambili, kodwa ngaphandle kokuba ufuna ukuhlala ubambekile apho ukhoyo, kuya kufuneka uphinde usondeze isihloko.
Yenza njalo ngokukhawuleza kunokuba ulinde elinye ixesha elifanelekileyo. Kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba bayazi ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye bacacile malunga nenjongo yakho.
Abanye abantu bayakhala kwaye bawe ngenxa yokuba beziva ngathi bayashiywa. Banokuxolisa kakhulu kwaye bakucenge ukuba uhlale, bethembisa ukwahluka, ukuba ngcono, njl.
Oku kunokuba yimeko ephindaphindayo kuwe kangangokuba udiniwe okwangoku, ke qiniseka malunga neenjongo zakho.
Banokuba ndlongondlongo kwaye babaqhathe ngokweemvakalelo. Zilungiselele ukuba zikhuphe amanxeba amadala okanye zibonwe ziziphoso ngeenzame zokukulimaza. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uyabenzakalisa, kungoko banokuzama ukuziphindezela. Unokufumana uhambo lokuziva unetyala kunye nezityholo, okanye uluhlu lwento yonke owakhe wayenza ukubacaphukisa.
Ukuba bayenza nini kwaye nini, musa ukuzibandakanya.
Zama ukuhlala uzolile, kwaye ubuyisele incoko kwiindawo zokuthetha onazo kuluhlu lwakho. Ukuba bayala, kwaye baya besothusa ngakumbi, kuya kufuneka uthabathe ikhefu uye kubethwa ngumoya okanye into.
ungajongana njani nentombi engenambulelo
Gcina intloko epholileyo, kwaye uyenze icace gca kubo ukuba isigqibo sakho sithathiwe. Ukuba awuyi kubandakanyeka kolu hlobo lokuziphatha, kwaye uya kuthetha nabo ngakumbi xa sele bekulungele ukuba nengxoxo yabantu abadala malunga nayo.
Iqabane lakho linokuzikhusela ngokungummangaliso kunye nokuphikisana, kwaye likukrokrele kakubi. Kuya kufuneka uzilungiselele nokwenzeka.
Thetha negqwetha loqhawulo-mtshato kwangaphambi kwexesha ukuze wazi ukuba athini amalungelo akho ngokubhekisele kugcino lwabantwana, amalungelo okuhlala, ekwabelwana ngawo kwipropathi, njl.
Ukuba basoyikisa 'ngokuthatha' ukugcinwa okupheleleyo kwabantwana ukohlwaya ngokubashiya, yenze icace gca kubo ukuba sele uthethile negqwetha lakho, kwaye ayizukwenzeka loo nto.
Ngaba bayangxola kwaye banyanzelisa ukuba ushiye indlu yabo? Phinda uxoxe ngeli gqwetha kwangaphambili. Nokuba ipropathi isegameni labo, unelungelo lokuhlala kwindawo yokuhlala de utyikitye isivumelwano sokwahlukana. Iiparameter ziyahluka ngokwamazwe ngurhulumente, ilizwe nelizwe, ke kufuneka uqiniseke ngokuxoxa ngokuprinta okuhle nengcali.
Zama ukunqanda ukuba ukhohlakele okanye ungxolise ngexesha lengxoxo. Kuya kufuneka uphakame ngaphezulu kwayo nayiphi na indlela yokuziphatha engalunganga abayibonisayo, nokuba kunzima ukwenza loo nto.
Ayisiyonto ilungileyo nje ukuba uyenze, nokuba: indlela osondela ngayo kule ngxoxo inokubonakalisa isigqibo sejaji ngexesha lenkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato. Usenokuthetha into ngokuziphindezela kwimpixano yabo yeemvakalelo ngoku, kwaye bazakuyiveza njengokuhlukumeza okanye inkohlakalo enkundleni.
Zilinganise kakuhle iimpendulo zakho kwaye ungathethi into onokuzisola ngayo kamva.
Ukuba Ucinga ukuba ukusabela kwabo kuyakuba kubi, Thatha amanyathelo okuQala ngoku
Uyazi iqabane lakho kakuhle ngoku. Kananjalo, ukuba ucinga ukuba baya kuba liphupha elibi ngokukhawuleza nje ukuba uveze igama elithi 'D', yenza isicwangciso sokuphuma kunye nomnatha wokhuseleko ngaphambi kokufaka isifundo.
Oku kubaluleke ngakumbi xa ushiya ngenxa yokuphathwa gadalala okanye ukuphathwa gadalala.
kutheni emka emva kokuba sisondele
Thetha negqwetha malunga namalungelo akho, njengoko kuchaziwe ngaphambili. Ke, ukuba unamalungu osapho asondeleyo, athenjiweyo kunye nabahlobo abangazukuya bakuxele kwiqabane lakho, bazise kukuzithemba kwakho malunga nokwahlukana okuzayo. Banokubonelela ngenkxaso, kwaye / okanye babekhona kunye nawe ukukhusela xa usophula iindaba.
Qala ukwahlula iimali zakho, nokuba oko kuthetha ukuqala iakhawunti yebhanki eyimfihlo ngemali eyoneleyo yesicwangciso sokubaleka. Akuqhelekanga ukuba iqabane elilawulayo licime ukufikelela komnye kwiimali, okanye likhuphe i-akhawunti yebhanki ebelwanayo ngokupheleleyo. Oku kunokwenziwa ukuthintela amaqabane abo ukuba angahambi, okanye bohlwaywe ngokwenza njalo.
Qiniseka ukuba unendawo ekhuselekileyo yokuhlala emgceni ukuze uhambe ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba iqabane lakho linembali yokuziphatha gadalala, qiniseka ukuxelela igqwetha lakho ngale nto. Unokude uthethe nomntu othile kwisikhululo samapolisa sendawo okuyo. Ukuba iqabane lakho likhe lafumana izityholo zokubetha, unganelungelo lobukho / lokukhusela amapolisa ukuze akuncede xa sele ukulungele ukuhamba.
Unokumangaliswa
Nangona ungaziva ngathi ulungiselela ukubuyela umva ngokweemvakalelo, unokumangaliswa kukufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna ukwahlukana. Oku kunokuba yimeko apho omabini amaqela afuna ukuphelisa ubudlelwane, kodwa akukho namnye kubo owayefuna ukuba 'ngumntu ombi' ngokuqalisa ukwahlukana.
Ukuba le yimeko, iyamangalisa. Hlala phantsi ngembiza enkulu yeti kunye nezinye iibhiskithi kwaye ubhale phantsi yonke into oyifunayo ngokwahlukana okunenzuzo.
Oku kuhlala kunjalo ukuba umtshato uye waqhawuka waba bubudlelwane bomntakwenu, kodwa usenomdla omnye komnye ngokunzulu. Ngokwenene akukho sidingo sayo nayiphi na intiyo okanye impikiswano. Unokuxoxa ngale meko kwaye nisebenze kunye kwisisombululo esixhamlayo.
Ndiyathemba ukuba unesiseko senkxaso esomeleleyo sokukunceda kule nkqubo. Nangona eminye imitshato iphela ngaphandle kwamagingxi-gingxi, uninzi lokwahlukana kufuneka lujongane nomlinganiso wentlungu kunye nokuphazamiseka.
Musa ukoyika ukufikelela kwabanye ufuna uncedo, ngakumbi ukuba uqhelene noxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo. Ukuba unomcebisi okanye ugqirha, gcina unolwazi ngemeko: banokunika isikhokelo esongezelelweyo, kwaye baya kulungiswa ukukunceda njengoko izinto ziqhubeka.
Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, zikhathalele.
Ukuba ufikelele kweli nqanaba, emva koko kusenokwenzeka ukuba ubuhlungu kunye nokubandezeleka okwethutyana. Yiba nomonde kwaye uxolela ngokwakho, thatha ixesha lokuzikhathalela, kwaye ulusizi ngokuphulukana nolwalamano.
Kwaye khumbula: umtshato ophelileyo 'awuphumelelanga' - ufikelele esiphelweni sendalo, njengokuyeka ikhondo elingasakukhulisi okanye likuxhase.
Uya kulunga.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba uza kuxelela njani iqabane lakho ukuba ufuna ukuqhawula umtshato? Ngaba ufuna isikhokelo sengcali kunye nokuqinisekiswa kuyo yonke le nkqubo? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
Unokuthanda:
- Ngaba Ndifanele Ndiqhawule Umtshato? Ukwazi Njani Xa Ilixesha Lokuphelisa Umtshato Wakho
- Iingcebiso ezi-5 zokuba ulwahlulo olunempumelelo kwindlu enye
- 25 Akukho Bullsh * t Utyikitya uMyeni wakho akasandithandi
- Ukuba utshatile kwaye unesizungu, Nantsi into ekufuneka uyenzile
- Iingcebiso ezilula ezi-7 zokonwaba kumtshato ongonwabisi
- Izizathu ezili-10 zomlingane wakho zikutyhola ngayo yonke into
- Amanyathelo ama-6 okushiya ubudlelwane obunobungozi kunye nokuphela kokulungileyo
