Khumbula iVeruca ityuwa ukusuka UWilly Wonka kunye noMzi mveliso weTshokholethi ? Ngaba intombazana ecekethekileyo eyayifuna konke kwaye yayifuna ngoku ngenxa yokuba yiVeruca ityuwa? Uyayikhumbula indlela ekumnandi ngayo ukumbona enyamalala phantsi kwenkunkuma yokubawa kwakhe?
Ngelishwa, le mvakalelo ilungileyo iyanyamalala kancinci xa siqonda ukuba singqongwe zezo ntlobo zabantu, uninzi lwabo kwizikhundla zamandla kwaye uninzi lwabo lusixelela ukuba thina, izithintelo kulonwabo lwabo, kufuneka sibafumane kufanelekile ulinganiselo.
Mna, ukuba andinakuba nguWilly (Wilhelmina) Wonka, ndingathanda ukuba nguCharlie. UCharlie wayenombulelo ngento ayifumeneyo, kwaye uWilly wakuvuyela ukupha.
Abanye abanelungelo lokuzibamba abanakuqonda nokubandezeleka kwabo. Ukungonwabi ayisiyongqamana nayo kuba bacinga ukuba ukungonwabi yinto ephambili ekumeni phezulu kwimfumba.
U-Oompa Loompa doopity dee, nantsi ke isizathu sokuba abantu abaneZinto eziBabodwa bahlala kubunzima be-icky:
1. Bakholelwa ukuba bafaneleke kunabanye
Emsebenzini, bafanelwe ngaphezulu koontanga babo. Ngcono iofisi. Isidlo sasemini esinde. Indawo ephambili yokupaka. Okungakumbi, ngakumbi nangakumbi. Kwaye ukuba akukho mntu uyamkelayo into yokuba ayifanelanga kuphela ngaphezulu, kodwa bona unayo ngaphezulu, bathule ngokuzolileyo… ngaphambi kokufumana indlela yokuphuma.
Kubudlelwane, ukuyibeka ngokucacileyo, bakholelwa ukuba bafanelwe ngesondo. Ngamaqabane amaninzi njengoko bekhathalela ukuba nawo. Kungenxa yokuba umntu angabakhanyela njani. Emehlweni abo, bafanelwe yingqwalaselo yabanye, nto leyo ethetha ukuba xa batsalelekile emntwini, loo mntu kulindeleke ukuba abambe kuye.
Ngethamsanqa, abanye bayakubona oku kwaye bahlala bengabahoyi, okushiya umntu ozimele-enomsindo kwaye engazalisekanga ixesha elininzi. Ingqondo ejikelezayo yelungelo elinelungelo lokuzigweba yinto eyaziginyelayo (ekwabizwa ngokuba yi-Ouroboros yokucinga), ishiya ingenalo nofifi lokuba yenzeni ngonxibelelwano lwendalo, olunganyanzelwanga. Kwaye ke, ngokungonwabisiyo iyaphazamisa indlela yayo kuthotho lokungaphumeleli, ubudlelwane obungonelisiyo.
I-Veruca Ityuwa ngeyakhula yaya ebudaleni ukuba itshate umntu osisityebi, o-buff, olilungu le-Cirque du Soleil kwaye eshiyeke kabuhlungu ekufezekiseni ulonwabo.
2. Abahlobo, Bangaphi kubo abanabo?
Baza kuba lapho kuwe… ukukubona uwe. Abantu abanelungelo lokuzibamba bathambekele ekuzijikelezeni nabantu abanengqondo efanayo (ngubani omnye umntu onokufuna ukuba phakathi kwabo?)
Ngaba ukhona umntu onokonwaba kukhuphiswano olungapheliyo lokwenza into eyodwa apho isiliphu esinye esinobukhulu, nesibonakalayo sakhutshwa? Khawufane ucinge xa usendlwini ezele ziiSumming Mimies zikhwaza ukuba abahlobo bazo basele amanzi ahluzwe kathathu kuphela, ungangxamela njani ukuthukisa isangqa sakho ngokubayeka bacinge ukuba umamkeli zindwendwe ohloniphekileyo angakhonza itephu ???
Ukanti zonke ezinye iiMimies zifuna kanye loo nto: ukubona umamkeli uMimi esihla rung ezantsi kwazo.
Xa abahlobo bakho beziintshaba nje benencasa efanayo neyakho, akukho ndlela uyonwabileyo ngayo.
3. Ukulindela okungenakwenzeka
Abo bacinga ukuba umhlaba ujikeleze kubo bahlala bevuswa ngenkani sisayensi yoBomi. Inyaniso kukuba, zikhona kwindalo iphela yabantu abangakhathaliyo ukuba yintoni enelungelo lokukhohlisa. Esi sisilumko esikhulu somzimba we-astral esiba yinkwenkwezi enkulu: ukuba ulindelo lokuba inkwenkwezi iyahamba, ukudana kuyanda. Ukungonwabi iikhompawundi.
Umfazi wam ulikhoboka lefowuni yakhe
4. Ukubawa Kukuwa Kwalo
Abazimeleyo abanakuze bayakuxabisa oko banako , kodwa endaweni yoko, ngohlobo lokucinga bona kufanelekile , uhlala efuna ezingakumbi. Ukuqinisekiswa kuza ngokusebenza kumatshini wokunyathela ngokukhawuleza kunaye nabani na. Ukufa komphefumlo kunye nokungoneliseki zizinto ezingaphakathi zeziphumo zokubawa kwi-psyche. Umphefumlo-ukufa awunalo ulonwabo olulinganayo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iindlela ezi-5 Isivivinyo seLungelo siyaziveza
- Ungayilwa njani into yokuGqithisela kwilungelo
- Iimpawu zokuziphatha ezinetyhefu ezingafanele zibenandawo ebomini bakho
- Ukulahlekiswa ngu-Narcissist ngobuGcisa kubathintela njani ekukuthandeni
- Iimpawu zeTelltale ezi-15 Ujongana noMntu ongekho nzulu
- Iimpawu ze-9 zaBantu Abangenambulelo (+ Indlela yokuSebenza nabo)
5. Uyabhabha
Ulungelelwaniso ukuya ukubawa kukuba ilungelo labo lokuzimela banolwazelelelo kwaye banenzondo. Bakuthiyile ukubona nabani na ongomnye esamkela nantoni na engabonakalisi ngandlela ithile kubo.
Cinga ngendlela abantu abaninzi abazizityebi nabapolitiki abanovalo ngayo ngenxa yeenkonzo zentlalo, bephatha iziseko ezinikwe abanye njengeziqu zabo. Eli linqanaba lokuxakaniseka kwengqondo ukuzicaphukela . Akukho lonwabo apho.
ukuba wenzeni xa udikiwe endlini
6. Isigebenga esinamehlo amnyama
Umona yinto efihlakeleyo eneentloni. Umona omkhulu, ubamonela abo bathuthunjiswa njengabantu abanelungelo ngento yokuba abanakuze baneliseke ngandlela thile okanye enye, kodwa besazi, mhlawumbi kwindawo enzulu ngaphakathi, ukuba kukho indlela ebhetele ukuba bebeya kufikelela ngayo. Kodwa bahlala bengafikeleli kuyo… kuba, kubo, sele kuyimpazamo yomnye umntu ukuba abanayo.
7. Unomsindo
Abo bacinga ukuba umhlaba unamatyala kubo bahlala benamakhadi angazalisekanga emagxeni, nto leyo ekhokelela-ukongeza kubundlobongela-ubulolo obuqhelekileyo, kunye nembono eyinqaba yehlabathi.
Imiba Yezempilo
Imeko yezoqoqosho ayisosalathiso esizenzekelayo selungelo. Abazizityebi banokuthi bathambekele kuyo, kodwa isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo sinokuhlala nakubani na, nokuba sithini na isikhundla ekuhlaleni, kwaye enye yeempembelelo ezilinganayo koku kukuhla jikelele kwempilo. Uxinzelelo , likhoboka leziyobisi, izifo ezinganyangekiyo, uxinzelelo, ukunqongophala komzimba, ukuxhomekeka ngokwasemphefumlweni / ngokweemvakalelo… zonke iindawo ezingenakuphepheka kwilizwe elinelungelo elilodwa, ezinye, okanye zonke ezi zigulo ziyazichukumisa ngandlela thile.
Ewe kunjalo, ezi zikwachukumisa abo banokuziva bengazifanelanga nelungelo labo, kodwa ilungelo labo lokuzimela bahlala ngaphakathi kwebhola ethile enetyhefu ye-narcissism, ikheswa, kunye nengqumbo eguqula ioksijini ibe ziindlela ezingalunganga, zokufikelela kubo, isifo abanaso umnqweno wokophula.
9. Ingqondo i-Fragile
Ukuba umbono wakho wonke wehlabathi kukuba izinto kufuneka zihambe njengoko ufuna, xa ufuna, ngendlela ofuna ngayo, okoko ufuna, ukuba ube ngowokuqala, kufuneka ubekwe phambili, abanye kufuneka bazincame ngokuzithandela ukuze ube nokukhathalelwa ku… ubomi bakho buphila ngamaqokobhe amaqanda nokuba uyakuvuma oku okanye hayi. Amakhadi axhonywe kakhulu ngokuchasene nawe.
Ke, yonke into ethi 'hayi' iba ngumceli mngeni kwisazisi sakho.
Ngenxa yokuziva besemngciphekweni wokungahanjiswa, abo banelungelo lokuziphatha ngokwabo bahlala belwa okanye behlukumeza ukuze bakhusele into enye abanako ukuyithatha: ukuqonda kwabo ingqumbo elungileyo, edla ngokuzibonakalisa njengobungaphezulu Ubunzima, imeko eguquguqukayo yezengqondo.
Abanye bethu bonwabile
Sonke ngaxa lithile siziva ngathi 'ihlabathi' lisityala. Sihamba ngesihogo esincinci yonke imihla ukuba akukho nto iyenye, sinetyala okomzuzwana. Umzuzu woxolo. Sonke sifuna ukuba nekhefu elinethamsanqa lisoloko lifikelela kude. Kodwa uninzi lwethu aluxhomekeki kwezo zinto uzifunayo. Uninzi lwethu alunangxaki yokuzingomba 'Awunakuhlala ufumana le nto uyifunayo, kodwa ukuba uzama ngamanye amaxesha unokufumana ukuba uyayifumana into oyifunayo.' (UMick Jagger, amatye aqengqelekayo, Awunakuhlala ufumana into oyifunayo. ) Kulungile.
Ufumana into oyifunayo. Ufumana ukufudumala, ubuqabane, ukufikelela ebantwini, uthando, ukuphumla, ukoneliseka kovelwano kunye nobudlelane babantu. Ufumana oko iVeruca Salts zehlabathi kunqabile ukuba nako: ulonwabo.
Ngaba banako? Ngaba umntu ocinga ukuba umhlaba ujikeleze kubo angancedwa ukuba abone ngenye indlela? Ngokuqinisekileyo kunjalo. Akunakuba lula, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo. Ii-Epiphanies zihamba ngokukhululekileyo kwaye zininzi.
Ukuthatha into elungileyo kukuba, ngenxa yokuzingca kunye nokuziphindezela nokuziphindezela njengoko kunokubakho eli hlabathi, ezo mpawu zingathandekiyo zichaphazela abambalwa kuthi. Akunakuba ngenye indlela, kuba thina - ubunzima bethu-sivelisa izilwa-buhlungu ezigcina nelungelo labo lokuzihlangula baphelelwe lithemba.
Siyakha, sinika, siyakha, siyaphilisa.
Siyabelana.
Sabelana ngobomi bethu, nangona sisazi ukuba kukho abo sivela kubo soze fumana umbulelo. Oko akusenzi ukuba singonwabi, nangona. Oompa Loompa diddly dee, there is no riddle to what is best between you and me.
