Kutheni Engandithandi Xa Ndimthanda Nje? (Izizathu ezi-6 ezinokubakho)

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Ukuba uphambene ukuthandana nesithandwa sakho kodwa kubonakala ngathi asivakalelwa ngendlela efanayo, mhlawumbi uziva udidekile kwaye ucaphukile ngoku.



Oko kusebenza ngokupheleleyo - luxinzelelo, ngakumbi ukuba benikhe nababini okwethutyana, izinto ngokubanzi zibanzi phakathi kwenu, kwaye niziva ngathi nobabini kufanele ube kweli nqanaba.

Zininzi izizathu zokuba angathi 'ndiyakuthanda' umva, okanye ayikatsho ukuba uyakuthanda okwangoku - kwaye azizizo zonke ezimbi, siyathembisa!



Siza kuhamba ngezizathu ezi-6 engekabonakalisi uthando lwakho kuwe, kwaye kufuneka wenze ntoni ngalo…

1. Akayazi indlela aziva ngayo okwangoku.

Esi sesona sizathu siqhelekileyo sokuba abafana bathathe ixesha elide ukuthi bayakuthanda!

Abasetyhini bahlala bekhawuleza kakhulu ukuba bahlakulele iimvakalelo ezinzulu, kwaye sihlala sisazi ngokukhawuleza ukuba izinto ziya kusebenza ixesha elide nomntu. Siyayazi indlela esivakalelwa ngayo, kwaye sifuna ukuyabelana nesoka lethu.

Uninzi lwabafana, kwelinye icala, bakufumanisa kunzima ukuqonda ukuba baziva njani ngokwenene. Banokuthatha ixesha elide ukufumanisa ukuba baziva njani malunga nolwalamano, nokuba bayazibona na izinto zihamba kakhulu.

Abanye abantu baziva benyanzelekile ukuba bazinze, nokuba bayamthanda na umntu abakunye naye. Oku kunokwenza ukuba udideke xa kufikwa ekuvakaliseni iimvakalelo zabo, yiyo loo nto kusenokwenzeka ukuba ebengekatsho ukuba uyakuthanda okwangoku.

Asikuko ukuba yena ayenzi ndiyakuthanda, kukuba nje akaqinisekanga ngo-100% yenza -Kukho umahluko!

Akayi kufuna ukukukhathaza ngokuthetha into angaqinisekanga ukuba uyayithetha, ke ulinde de azi ngokuqinisekileyo.

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Uyakuyazi indlela ekubaluleke ngayo kuwe, yiyo loo nto efuna ukujonga ukuba uziva njani ngalondlela ngaphambi kokuba atsho kuwe ngokuvakalayo.

2. Uyoyika ukwaliwa.

Nokuba wenze ukuba kucace gca ukuba uyayithanda i-boyfriend yakho, usenokuba nexhala lokuba uya kwenzakala okanye alahlwe nguwe.

Oku kusenokwenzeka ngenxa yobudlelwane ebekhe wanabo kwixa elidlulileyo oluye lwaphela, okanye kungenxa yokuba evulelwe umntu owamxhamlayo.

Isenokungabi namava amnandi kakhulu kwaye ke iya kuziva ingonwabanga ngokuba sesichengeni ngokweemvakalelo.

Ayilotyala lakho eli, kodwa ungafuna ukuthatha amanyathelo okumqinisekisa kwaye uzibonakalise ukuba uzibophelele kangakanani- ngaphandle kokumcinezela.

Mbonise inkxaso, bonisa ukuba uthembeke kangakanani kwaye unemfesane kangakanani kuye. Menze azive ekhuselekile kwaye ekhuselekile kubudlelwane, kwaye umbonise ukuba uyamthemba ngokuvula ngakumbi.

Oku kuya kumnceda aqonde ukuba yindlela-mbini kwaye uya kuqala ukukuthemba ngakumbi ngembuyekezo.

Ngokuzithemba ngakumbi kwaye ekhululekile uziva nawe, kwaye kubudlelwane ngokwabo, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba athi uyakuthanda kwakhona-konke ngexesha lakhe nangokwemigaqo yakhe.

3. Akazange atsho ngaphambili.

Kusenokwenzeka ukuba akazange abe namava anothando ekuhleni. Mhlawumbi usapho lwakhe aluzange luthethe nyani, okanye amaqabane akhe angaphambili awatsho. Kungenzeka ukuba akazange afike kweli nqanaba nabani na ngaphambili, kwaye uyathandabuza ukuthi uyakuthanda okwangoku kuba akayazi indlela!

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Ukuxelela umntu omthandayo kunokuziva kunzima - yinto enkulu, emva kwayo yonke loo nto.

Unokuba novalo xa unokutshintsha ingqondo, okanye unokuba nabahlobo abamxelela ukuba usisidenge ngokuyithetha loo nto. Unokuba novalo xa esithi uyakuthanda okokuqala ngezizathu ezininzi!

Kunzima ukuba nomonde ngamanye amaxesha, siyazi, ngakumbi xa uyenze yacaca gca indlela oziva ngayo.

Usenokuba ulinde ixesha eligqibeleleyo lokuyithetha, njengoko engazange atsho ngaphambili kwaye ufuna ukuyifumana ‘ngokuchanekileyo.’

Mhlawumbi akafuni ukuvakalisa nje xa enxilile okanye xa nikunye ebhedini kunye xa ucinga ukuba uthetha nje kuba ebesela okanye ngenxa yokuba ethanda ukulala nawe!

Unokufuna ukuyithetha okokuqala (kuwe, naphakade) kwindawo yothando, kwaye inokuba usebenza nesibindi sokwenza njengoko sithetha.

4. Ufuna ixesha elingakumbi.

Eyona nto imbi onokuyenza kukukhawulezisa umfana, yithathe kumava! Ucinezela ngakumbi kuye, kokukhona uya kukhathazeka okanye adideke, kwaye kokukhona uya kufuna suka kude .

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Njengoko siza kuchaza apha ngezantsi, kuhlala kukho imiba yokuzibophelela malunga nokuthi 'Ndiyakuthanda.' Kwinkoliso yabantu, kuvakala kuyinto entle kakhulu- kwaye kufanelekile.

Ukuba uqhubeka umxelela ukuba umthanda kangakanani emva koko umjongile ulindele, uza kucaphuka.

Awunakumnyanzela kuyo nantoni na, kodwa okukhona usenza ngokungathi ufuna, kokukhona uya kuziva ebambekile. Oku kuya kuguquka ngokukhawuleza kube yimvakalelo yenzondo, enokuthi iphele kabuhlungu iphelise ubudlelwane ngokupheleleyo.

Endaweni yokuzama ukukhawulezisa nantoni na okanye ityala-umngenise athi uyakuthanda kwakhona, mnike ixesha kunye nendawo .

Kulungile ukumazisa indlela oziva ngayo amaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa ukunyanzela incoko okanye ukuzama ukukhohlisa umntu ukuba athethe into ngekhe iphele kakuhle.

Okukhona inkululeko kunye nokuzimela kwakhe kubudlelwane, kokukhona enokuzilawula iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakhe - kwaye kokukhona uya kuziva ngcono ngokuzichaza xa sele ekulungele.

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Ukunyanzela umntu ukuba athi uyakuthanda soze uzive kamnandi, kuba ngekhe wazi ukuba ngaba baziva ngoluhlobo okanye baziva ngathi unayo ukuyithetha. Ukumvumela ukuba akwenze ngokwemiqathango yakhe kukwathetha ukuba uya kuyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uyayithetha xa esithi!

5. Uyoyika ukuzibophelela.

Usenokuba nexhala lokuba xa nobabini nithe niyathandana, izinto ziya kutshintsha kakhulu.

Abanye abantu, ukwenza izinto ngokukodwa, ukubeka iilebhile kuyo, okanye ukuveza iimvakalelo zakho itikiti lokuya emtshatweni kunye nabantwana ababini.

Isenokuvakala iyisidenge, kodwa luloyiko oluninzi lwabantu abanalo. Ukuxelela umntu omthandayo kuzibophelela ngokusemthethweni kuye, kwaye kunokoyikisa kakhulu.

Ayikuko ukuba akakuthandi kungenxa yokuba enexhala lokuba indlela enokuthi itshintshe izinto ngayo.

Unokwesaba ukuba uya kuthi ufune ukukhawulezisa izinto kwaye ufumane indawo yokuhamba kunye, umzekelo. Abanye abafana, 'Ndiyakuthanda' kuthetha ukuphela kwenkululeko kunye nexesha lodwa.

Ukuncoma kwabo, ngesele benabo babesakuba ngamaqabane abo abazalisekisile olo loyiko, okanye babenabahlobo abaneentombi zabo ezathi 'ndiyakuthanda' emva koko baqala ukuthetha ngeentsana!

Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, unokuba nexhala lokuba kuthetha ukuzibophelela okukhulu okwenyani, nokuba uziva njalo.

6. Utsho ngezinye iindlela.

Ukuba uyakhathazeka okanye uyacaphuka kuba umntu othandana naye engatshongo ukuba uyakuthanda okwangoku, kufanelekile ukuba uqwalasele enye izinto azithethayo okanye azenzayo.

Isenokungawathethi ngokuthe ngqo la magama mathathu, kodwa ungayijonga indlela ayivakalisa ngayo indlela avakalelwa ngayo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.

Ukuba ukubhalela okuhle kusasa okanye ubusuku obuhle yonke imihla, ukukhathalele. Mhlawumbi ukuphekela ukutya okumnandi, okanye ukwange ebunzi aze akungene ebhedini. Mhlawumbi uyakujonga ufike ekhaya ukhuselekile okanye akumangalise ngezinto ezincinci ezikwenza uncume.

Cinga ngezinto azithethayo kuwe-mhlawumbi uyakuvumela ukuba wazi ukuba wonwabile okanye umonwabise kangakanani xa echitha ixesha kunye nawe.

Kungenzeka ukuba ukufowunela ukuze abone nje ukuba belunjani usuku lwakho, okanye akunqwenelele amathamsanqa ngomboniso omkhulu emsebenzini.

Mhlawumbi uhlala ekuxelela indlela anombulelo ngayo ngezinto omenzela zona okanye indlela azingca ngayo ngezinto ozenzayo ebomini.

Ngamanye amaxesha siyasongelwa ngokubaluleka kwala magama mathathu masihoye zonke ezinye iindlela abantu abasibonisa ngazo ukuba bayasithanda.

Ngelixa kumnandi ukuva umntu esithi 'ndiyakuthanda' ubuyele kuthi, ayisiyiyo eyona nto ibalulekileyo kulwalamano.

Zininzi izizathu zokuba ngewayengazange athi uyakuthanda okwangoku, okanye akakatsho kuwe, kwaye ngekhe wazi ngokwenyani ukuba yeyakhe.

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Endaweni yoko, nikela ingqalelo kwindlela akwenze ngayo zive kunye nendlela enza ngayo kwaye athetha ngayo nawe. Mamela kwisisu sakho kwaye uthembe oko , ukuba izinto zilungile, uya kuwathetha loo magama mathathu xa sele elungile.

Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni ngesithandwa sakho kwaye uyakuthanda okanye akathandi? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.

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