Ubudlelwane bezothando bunokumangalisa ngezizathu ezininzi, kodwa bayawenza umsebenzi.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, singathanda ukukwazi ukwenza i-waltz ebomini kunye namaqabane ethu ngamacala ethu, ngaphandle kongquzulwano okanye unxibelelwano olubi, kodwa oko akuyonyani, akunjalo?
Siyasilela, kwaye siyamosha. Sinokudakumba kwiintloko zethu, sisilele ukuxabisa izinto abantu esibathandayo abasenzela zona, kwaye sikhathazeke xa izinto zingahambi ngendlela yethu.
Ngelishwa, xa uninzi lwale micimbi ivela ngaphandle kokuthintelwa, banokuthatha umthwalo wabo kubudlelwane.
Kodwa akufuneki kubenjalo. Singafuna ukuphucula ngokwethu, sibe ngabantu abangcono, sibe nobudlelwane obungcono.
Nazi ezinye zeendlela ezintle onokuba liqabane elingcono kulwalamano lwakho.
1. Mamela: sukulinda nje ukuthetha.
Kubi kakhulu xa sizama ukuveza into kulowo simthandayo kwaye baphendule ngaphandle kokuvuma nantoni na esiyithethileyo.
Oku kuhlala kwenzeka xa umntu engakhululekanga kwincoko. Baza kuzama ukujongisa umxholo kwinto abakhululeke ngakumbi kuyo, okanye bahlanganyele nezinto ezingenanto yakwenza nengxoxo esele ikho.
Ukuba ufuna ukuba liqabane elingcono, zama ukuzibandakanya ukumamela ngokukhutheleyo. Phinda ubuyele kubo amanqaku abalulekileyo abawenzileyo, kwaye uyivume into ebebeyithetha ngaphambi kokwenza ezakho iingongoma.
Ngale ndlela, iimbono zabantu bonke ziyaviwa kwaye ziyahlonitshwa.
2. Yiba nomonde kubo.
Sinomonde kubantwana kuba siyazi ukuba bahlangabezana nezinto ezininzi ezinkulu okokuqala. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kuninzi onokukufunda kwaye uzulazule kweli lizwe likhulu, kwaye intle kubo bonke.
Ke… linqunyulwe nini ixesha lomonde? Kulindelwe nini ukuba sazi konke ekufuneka sazi, sibe neendlela ezifanelekileyo zokumelana, kunye nobabalo lokuhamba kuyo nayiphi na imeko eyenzekayo? 18? 30? Ezingama-45?
Kunini apho kufanelekileyo ukulahla umonde esinawo kubantwana kuba abantu abadala kufuneka 'bazi nje ngcono'?
Impendulo: soze.
Sonke sihambo lokufunda ubomi bonke, ke nceda ube nomonde kwiqabane lakho njengoko unqwenela ukuba babe kunye nawe.
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3. Banike ingqalelo yakho epheleleyo.
Beka phantsi ifowuni yakho, phumla iNetflix, yeka lento uyenzayo.
Nika iqabane lakho ingqalelo yakho eyahlukileyo ukuze bazi uyakuhlonipha abakuthethayo , endaweni yokubahlekisa kwaye banqume ngokungakhathali kuyo nantoni na abayithethayo.
Ukubonisa iqabane lakho ukuba yeyona nto iphambili ebomini bakho kubenza bazive bexabisekile. Kwaye baya kuqinisekisa ukuba bakubonisa eyona nto iphambili ngokubaluleka.
4. Nyaniseka kubo.
Ukunyaniseka kubaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane, kuba ukuthembela phantse akunakwenzeka ukuphinda kusekwe kwakha kwaphuka. Inokuthintela ukungathandeki okuninzi.
Ukuze ube ngumntu ongcono kubudlelwane, vula kwaye unyaniseke kangangoko. Khumbula ukuba eyona nyani ilunge ngaphezu kokona kuxoka , kwaye ungasebenza ngayo nantoni na ukuba nje unyanisekile ngayo.
5. Qiniseka ukuba kukho ulungelelwano olulinganayo lokunika kunye nokuthatha.
Iqabane lakho linokuhamba ngaphezulu nangaphaya likwenzele izinto ezintle, kodwa ngaba uyalibuyekeza ngendlela abafuna ngayo?
Ukuba bathatha indawo enkulu yoxanduva lwezezimali, ngaba uthatha ngaphezulu komsebenzi wasekhaya kunye nokupheka ukwenza ibhalansi?
Qaphela izinto abakwenzela zona, kwaye ulinganise ukuba ungakanani ubenzela zona. Emva koko yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuba uqiniseke ukuba ikhona utshintshwano olulinganayo.
6. Yixabise yonke into abayenzayo.
Ngaba iqabane lakho lityibilika amanqaku kwisidlo sasemini sakho? Okanye unakekele ukukrwela iibhokisi zenkunkuma yekati ukuze kungafuneki?
Mhlawumbi bavuka kwakusasa benzela abantwana isidlo sakusasa ukuze ulale, okanye bakuphathele ikofu ebhedini rhoqo kusasa.
Qiniseka ukuba awusoze, uzithathe lula izenzo zabo. Nditsho nabancinci.
Babulele ngayo yonke into abayenzayo, ukuze bazi ukuba bayanconywa.
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7. Zama ukuqonda imbono yabo (nokuba yahlukile kweyakho).
Sonke sahluke kakhulu, kwaye nangona izimvo zethu, amaxabiso, kunye neenkolelo zethu zinokuhambelana kakuhle neqabane lethu, zisenokungabi yiyo yonke into epheleleyo.
Kwaye kulungile.
Ukuba ufuna ukuba liqabane elilungileyo, zama ukumamela izimvo zeqabane lakho ngaphandle kokuziva uhlaselwa okanye ugwetywe, okanye uziphathe ngaloo ndlela kubo.
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Singazama ukuqonda nokuxabisa iimbono zabo, nokuba asivumelani nabo.
Ngapha koko, ukwabelana ngeembono ezahlukeneyo kunokunceda ukwandisa ukuqonda kwethu malunga nehlabathi.
Kuhlala kukho into entsha enokufundwa. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba samkele ezo mbono, kwaye singavumelani nazo, kodwa kunokuba luncedo kuphela ekuqondeni ukuba ezo mbono zivela phi.
8. Thetha ngezinto ezikukhathazayo ngaphandle kokumtyhola.
Kulula ukukhwaza amaqabane ngokubangela ukwenzakala, nokuba bekungenanjongo.
Asinayo i-telepathic, kwaye asikwazi ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo indlela izenzo kunye namazwi ethu achaphazela ngayo.
Zama ke ukusebenzisa u “Ndi” endaweni ka “wena” xa uthetha ngendlela amazwi okanye izenzo zabo ezikuchukumise ngayo.
Umzekelo, 'Ndiva ____ ngendlela xa kusenzeka lento' ngaphandle kwe 'undenza ndizive _____.'
Ngale ndlela, uchaza indlela ezikuchaphazela ngayo indlela abaziphethe ngayo, ngaphandle kokubahlasela.
9. Nyukela phezulu wenze eyakho indima.
Ngokusisiseko, musa ukulindela ukuba babe ngumzali wakho okanye umgcini wendlu yakho.
Uninzi lwabantu abanabazali ababenzele yonke into bazama ukuphinda benze ezo zinto zitshintshayo xa benobudlelwane, nkqu nokuqonda. Oko kunokuba yingozi kakhulu.
Enye indlela yokuba liqabane elingcono onokuba kulo kubudlelwane kukuthatha isabelo sakho sokuba mdala, nokuba ngumsebenzi wasendlwini, ukukhathalela abantwana, ukuthenga ezivenkileni, okanye ukugcina iyadi.
10. Bamkele njengokuba benjalo, hayi njengoko ubunqwenela ukuba babe njalo.
Abantu abaninzi kwenzakalisa abantu obathandayo kakhulu ukuba bazama ukuzitshintsha. Le ntlungu ihlala ingenanjongo, njengoko lowo wenza iingcebiso eziva ngathi 'bazama nje ukunceda.'
Kodwa inokwenza umonakalo omkhulu ixesha elidlulele.
Unokucinga ukuba iqabane lakho liyakubonakala limangalisa ngombala weenwele ze-X, ke unokubaxelela ukuba kufuneka badaye iinwele zabo.
Ngelixa ucinga ukuba 'baya kujongeka bemangalisa ngalo mbala!', Into abaza kuyiva kukuba 'awunamtsalane ngokwaneleyo njengoko unjalo kwaye ndifuna ukuba utshintshe.'
Ukuba uziva ukhuthaza iqabane lakho ukuba liphonononge into eyahlukileyo, babuze ukuba zeziphi izinto onomdla kuzo kubo , endaweni yokubazisa ngendlela ekufuneka betshintshe ngayo ukuze ilungele iinjongo zakho.
11. Funda ukuphendula, kunokuba usabele.
Ngaba uluhlobo lomntu oziqhelanisa nazo zonke iindlela ezahlukeneyo onokuthi usabele / uziphindezele kwimeko leyo?
Njengaye, 'ukuba bathi X ndiza kuthi Y, kwaye ukuba benza ___ ndiza ____,' njl.
Kukangaphi na imeko iqhubeka ngendlela ocinga ngayo?
Endaweni yokulungiselela kwangaphambili indlela oza kuphendula ngayo, linda ubone ukuba kwenzeka ntoni, emva koko phendula ngokufanelekileyo.
Hayi ngezenzo obukulindele ukuzisebenzisa, kodwa ngempendulo ebonisa imeko (kunye namagama) ngokufanelekileyo.
12. Xhasa umdla wabo (nokuba abanomdla kuwe).
Ungekho ekupeyinteni iWarhammer 40K miniature okanye ukunitha ijezi zeekati zeenkedama, kodwa ukuba loo nto inomdla kwiqabane lakho, zama ukungabathobeli.
Ukuba ufuna ukuba liqabane elilungileyo, kuya kufuneka baxhase umdla wabo , nokuba awuthathi nxaxheba kuzo.
Kwaye, ukuthathela ingqalelo into abayithandayo kwenza kube lula ukuthenga izipho zeholide nezokuzalwa abaya kuthi ngokwenene bafune ukuzifumana.
13. Funda ulwimi lwabo lothando.
Ziqhelanise Iilwimi ezintlanu ezahlukeneyo zothando , zichazwa njani, kwaye kutheni kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda ukuba sonke sinika kwaye samkela njani uthando.
Xa singazazi iilwimi zabanye, kunokubakho iintlungu nokungaphoxeki okungesosizathu, kuba besithi itumato , siyeva amazambane .
Okanye kungenjalo.
Kodwa xa siqonda ukuba amaqabane ethu alubonisa njani uthando lwabo ye thina kwaye sithanda ukufumana uthando ukusuka nathi, singazixabisa izenzo zabo kwaye siphendule ngeendlela nabo, abaya kuzixabisa.
14. Hlonipha oko bakuthethayo.
Abantu abaninzi banempendulo emadolweni kwiingxoxo ezingathandekiyo ezibandakanya ukugxothwa, ukuzithoba, okanye ukukhanyisa igesi.
Ezi ziindlela zokuzikhusela eziye zaphuhliswa ebuntwaneni okanye kwinqanaba lokufikisa ukusikhusela kwiimeko ezibi.
Xa kuziwa kubudlelwane bezothando, nangona kunjalo, amandla ahluke kakhulu. Ukuba nezo mpendulo kulowo umthandayo ozama ukubonisa intlungu okanye unxunguphalo kunokwenza imeko enzima ingaginyisi mathe.
Akukho namnye kuthi ogqibeleleyo, kwaye kuhlala kukho indawo yokuqonda okungaphezulu. Mamela into ethethwa liqabane lakho, kwaye hlonipha ukuma kwabo.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uvumelane nabo, kodwa qaphela ukuba le nto bayivakalisa kuwe ibalulekile kubo.
15. Yenza izenzo zakho zithethe.
Amagama abonisa ukuba umntu ufuna ukuba ngubani, kodwa izenzo zabo zibonisa ukuba bangobani.
Ukubaxelela ukuba kubalulekile ukuba babenosuku lokuzinyamekela kuyamangalisa. Ukubafumanela isatifikethi sesipho sosuku lwe-spa okanye ukuthatha abantwana baye kuMakhulu ngeempelaveki kulunge ngakumbi.
Qiniseka ukuba ubonisa iqabane lakho ukuba ubakhathalele kangakanani: sukubaxelela nje.
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Zonke ezi ngcebiso zokuba liqabane elingcono kubudlelwane bakho zinokunceda ukomeleza ukudibana kwakho nalowo umthandayo.
Uya kubona kwaye nithandane ngakumbi, kwaye nikhuseleke ekwaziseni ukuba nikhona omnye komnye, nokuba yintoni.
Zonke ezi zinto zithatha ixesha, umgudu, kunye nokukhetha ngokuzikhethela ukuba ube yimikhwa, ke gcina usebenza kuzo de zibe yimvelo yesibini. Kunganceda ukuthatha into ibe nye okanye zibe mbini ngexesha ukuze ungoyiki okanye ulibale ukuba uzama ukwenza ntoni.
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