Ewe, awungekhe uzivalele kude nje, ungaba, abo bantu bangathandi nto, abangavumelani nayo yonke into, abazi ngcono kuzo zonke iimeko, nabemihlathi yabo inokuqhekeka ukuba banokunyanzelwa bencume ngokunyanisekileyo.
Kwaye ngekhe ubaphephe. Iintsuku zethu zigcwele ngabantu abacinga ukuba intloko yeenkomo ngamandla kukuba kutheni sinemethi kwiminyango yethu: ukuzisula iinyawo zethu ngaphambi kokuba singene 'ekhaya.' (Ewe kunjalo, ukuba loo mntu unzima uyaphila phakathi ikhaya lakho, ndincoma ngentliziyo yam yonke igadi kunye nonyango olufanelekileyo lwabantu abathandanayo bayayithanda inkampani, ewe, kodwa liqela eliphosakeleyo.)
uxelele njani uba akasakuthandi
Ke yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe, kwaye ngayiphi indlela, ukuze ukujongana nabantu abanjalo kunganciphisi amandla akho ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokuba ungasaniki zimbini zedemokhrasi?
Ndifumene imisebenzi ye-CROSSED: Iyalungisa, iyaziqonda, iyaphuma, iZithuba, iiShuts, iXabisa, iiNkokeli. Uluhlu lwalo myalelo kuphela ngenxa yokuba ii-acronyms (njengakwii-bowties) zipholile.
Ukulungisa ngobunono
Ukulungiswa kusebenza phantsi kwengcinga yokuba wonke umntu ufuna ukufunda. Siyazi ukuba abanalo. Kodwa ke, kufuneka sithembe.
Abantu abanzima bathanda ukufana neenkcazo zekhompyuter: Ukuba Andiyifumani indlela yam ngandlela thile, emva koko Ndiya kuba mbi. Ngokungakhethiyo. Yonke indawo. Andiyi kuphulaphula ukuqiqa, andiyi kuzilawula, andiyi kugoba. UGqr Seuss ubhale malunga nolu hlobo lomntu kwi Amaqanda aluhlaza kunye noHam .
Ukuze ulungise ngobunono le ndlela yokuziphatha, umntu kufuneka ayile, okuthetha ukungadibani nomntu onzima kwibala lomlo abalithandayo, kodwa etshintsha iziko leemvakalelo lendawo ukuze bangaqiniseki ngeenyawo zabo. Oku kwenziwa ngokungaphenduli ngendlela abanokuyilindela. Kuthetha ukungaguquguquki, njengakungabambisi kubo (nzulu ezintliziyweni zabo bayazi njengokuba nawe baya kuthanda amaqanda aluhlaza kunye neham). Okokugqibela, umntu kufuneka akulungele ukujongana: abantu abanzima bathambekele ekuzibambeni ukuze bagubungele uloyiko lwabo, bethule bethembile ukuba ukubonisa kwabo iintsiba ezinomlilo okanye iimpundu ezivuthayo kuya kubenza abanye babuyele ezantsi phambi kokuba kubekho naliphi na ithuba umntu onzima kuya kufuneka azibonise.
Umzekelo, usenokuba ujongana nomntu ekufuneka enze umboniso wokucaphuka nangaliphi na ixesha xa ecelwa ukuba enze into. Ungayilungisa le nto ngokubasika emfanekisweni kuba benza umboniso kuphela ukuze ubukhulu babo buvunywe. Ukwenza ngokwakho (okanye nangcono, ukufumana omnye umntu ukuba enze into enzima abantu bayakucaphukela ukufakelwa indawo) kuqhuba umntu wakho onzima, mhlawumbi nokuba inqwelo ngokwaneleyo - emva kweeseshoni zoqeqesho ezinjalo - ukuqala ukuqonda ubunzima babo akunqweneleki.
Uyaqonda
Xa ujongene nokungaqiniseki, inkani, okanye uhlobo olucacileyo lomntu onzima, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele inyani ebalulekileyo: ujongene nomphefumlo ongavuthwanga. Uninzi lwethu lubambeka kubulumko bomphefumlo kwiminyaka ethile. Abanye, ngelishwa, babancinci kakhulu. Shumi elinambini. Shumi elinantlanu. Amashumi anambini.
Ukuba ujongene neminyaka engamashumi amahlanu anesihlanu yokuziphatha kwakhe okunzima kufana noko kolutsha, umnqweno wokulindela okungaphezulu kubo kubetha izinto zakho ezingwevu ngokukhawuleza nangokuchanekileyo. Xa uqaphela ukuba awuzukuvuthwa kulo mntu, iba luxanduva lwakho ukutshintsha umdlalo wakho. Ukuba ujongene nomphefumlo ongakhulanga, cinga ngemali yemvakalelo ebashukumisayo. Kukho abo bangakwaziyo ukwenza izenzo zabo kusasa ukusindisa ubomi babo. Batsiba ebhedini emva kwexesha kwaye benza intsasa yakho ibe sisihogo esinzima ngelixa bekhwaza besithi, 'Isilumko asikhalanga!'
Inomdla. Okwakho egumbini lakho ezantsi eholweni kuhambe kakuhle ... kuba uyimisile. Ubunzima bobuchopho obutsha, obungekho ngqiqweni abuzange busete ezabo kwaye ngandlela thile, kwimeko yeBizarro yeHlabathi, besola iwotshi ngokungasetwa kunengqondo. Endaweni yokuzibandakanya neBizarro kwincoko malunga noku, qaphela ukuba ukubaxelela ukuba uza kubalinda emotweni, banemizuzu elishumi, kwaye kwimizuzu elishumi elinanye bayonwabele intsasa yoxolo emva kwesandi semoto yakho uqhuba ungakhange uphelelwe , ngowona ukubheja kwakho kukufumana uxinzelelo.
igama elinye lokuchaza uluhlu lwakho
Xa bengena emotweni, bencuma kwaye uthi, “Ngomso, jonga le alarm,” jika umbane, ungathethi ngawo. Bazofuna ukuthetha ngayo (kuba kuya kufuneka bazikhusele, kunyanzelekile). Suku. Ukubandakanya umntwana osetyenzisiweyo kwingxoxo mpikiswano malunga nokuvelisa ukusetyenziswa kwexesha lakho njengokukhwaza imiyalelo enzima kwidada.
Uyahamba
Ukuguqula kuthetha: ukususa imfuno okanye ubunzima bokuthintela. Ngale ndlela, umntu onzima uphathwa ngokubabonisa ukuba akukho sizathu sakuziphatha kwabo / isenzo / isimo sengqondo / njl.
Isipili sibanjelwe entliziyweni ye-DP ukuba sithi, 'Ngokwenyani? Uyayenza lento? OKU. ” Iphantse yafuna ukuba ube ngumcuphi ubeka iinyani zetyala ukuza kuthi ga ngoku:
'Yonke into endiyicelileyo yayikukuba iqala nini imovie,' kumntu onzima ocinga ukuba ubuza umbuzo ngezakhono zabo zokucwangcisa umsitho.
'Sele usekhitshini ungandiphathela ibhegi yeetshipsi,' kulowo owaziyo ukuba uHercules wayelula kunabo.
'Ukuba awuyazi impendulo yombuzo, yitsho,' kulowo wazi konke, kodwa uya kuqhuma ukuya kwinqanaba nth ukugubungela into yokuba bayayazi zip.
Xa umntu onzima eboniswa indlela abasileyo ngayo, bona UCanzibe ncama.
Isithuba, uMda oThuleyo
Akukho mntu ukhula phantsi kobhontsi womnye umntu. Oko kuyinyani kulo naluphi na uhlobo lobuntu. Ewe, ngomntu onzima, kukho ukunyanzelwa kuthi ukuba sincede kwaye silungise indlela abaziphethe ngayo, kodwa kukwakho nexesha lokubuyela umva kwaye loo mntu afike kwi-epiphany eyedwa. Ukuba ayisiyo-epiphany, ukuqonda okuqinisekileyo. Ukuba ayisiyiyo ingqumbo yokuqonda, ubuncinci uzinike wena kunye naloo mntu amandla okukhula kwembewu.
Ukudideka kuyinto eqhelekileyo kubantu abanzima. Bafuna isikhonkwane sesikwere ukuba singene emngxunyeni ojikelezayo ukuze baqhubeke nokutshitshisa ezinye izinto. Ukubanika indawo kubavumela ukuba bazidinise ngaphandle koxinzelelo olongeziweyo Ukuzikhusela . Ukuba kunokwenzeka, zisuse kwaye uvumele leyo inzima ukuba izisebenzele ngokwayo nantoni na 'it' abanokukhetha ukuyiphephetha.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Indlela yokujongana nabantu abaNgenangqondo
- Ungazilawula njani iimvakalelo zakho kwiimeko ezifuna iNtloko epholileyo
- Iimpawu ezili-15 zoMntu oQolileyo ngokweemvakalelo
- Izinto ezi-7 zabantu abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo Benza ngokwahlukileyo
indlela yokuxelela ukuba umfazi uya cheat
Yicime
Bacime. Ukulwa nomlilo ngomlilo. Ngaphandle kokuba balishumi, ulishumi elinanye. Kukho amaxesha apho umntu onzima efuna ukwazi APHA KUKHO IINKONZO. Yima ubude (ngamanye amaxesha ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokukhethekileyo ngengqondo) kunabo kwaye ubazise ukuba banokuba nentloko yehagu, ubudenge, ukuba neenkani, ukuzingca, ukuzilungiselela, ukuba ndlongondlongo emngciphekweni wabo.
Uvelwano
Ewe, sibavalile… kwaye ngoku, kuba singabantu abalungileyo, kukho laa twinge sijikayo kuyo, loo glomp yangaphakathi iyazinamathela kwiingqondo zethu nokuba sizama kangakanani ukuyishukumisa: uvelwano lwethu.
Siyazi ukuba abantu abanzima abanelisekanga kukuba kukho iseti entsonkothileyo yeendlela zokubuyekeza kunye nezixhobo ezihamba ngaphakathi kubo. Oku akuthetheleli isimilo sabo, kodwa ukuziqhelanisa novelwano kuyakuthintela ukuba ube noxinzelelo lwegazi olungapheliyo. Kukho amaxesha apho umntu onzima efuna nje 'Hayi, kulungile' ukubuyisela ubuntu kwakhona.
Inye into ngabantu abanzima kukuba bangamakhoboka obuntu babo: kufuneka babe ngumqobo ukuze bazive bebonwa okanye beviwa. Oko kulusizi ngokwemvelo, ke unokuzama ukuba kukukhanya kubo okoko nje kungenjalo kukuseze ngokwenza njalo. Ukutsala abanye yinxalenye yengxowa ye-DP yokulutha-matrix tricks.
Imikhombandlela
Oku kwahlukile ekubavaleni. Kulapho uthatha khona ulawulo olupheleleyo kunye nolugqibeleleyo lwemeko, ukungahoyi zonke iziphumo ezinokubangela ubuthathaka babo. Ukubonakala ngokubonakalayo, ukuba ngaba lilog, ungumlambo, uqondisa eso siqwenga somthi ofileyo. Awuvumi nokuba zinzima (ezingaphezulu kweKryptonite kumntu onobunzima): Isiphumo sokudibana kwakho nayo yonke into ibalulekile. Ukuba awusondli i-Ego / Id yerhamncwa uya kufumanisa ukuba abantu abanzima bahlala bewela emgceni kwaye benze ekufuneka kwenziwe.
Okokugqibela, kwaye okona kulungileyo, umntu oqolileyo uyazi ukuzizalisa emva kokuhamba kwiindawo zemigodi yabantu abanzima. Qiniseka ukuba kukho ubugcisa ebomini bakho, oko kunye nokutya okumnandi. Kwaye indawo apho kunzima kungena khona: mhlawumbi igadi, mhlawumbi ixesha elingcwele lokucamngca, mhlawumbi uhambo lwemihla ngemihla. Ngalo lonke ixesha gcinani engqondweni ukuba ukuba indawo yethu ebomini kukuhlala sihlangana nabantu abanzima, i-corollary ibalulekile kwaye iyinyani: ukwenza ngokukuko kwaye rhoqo ukwenza iindawo ezintle.
