Ukuthandana kukuqaqamba, akunjalo?
Kodwa… kuthekani ukuba akukho lula kangako?
Kuthekani ukuba uneemvakalelo malunga nomntu ongaphaya komnye?
Owu nkwenkwe, yimeko edidayo ukubakho kuyo, kwaye usenokuziva ukhathazekile malunga nendlela onokukhetha ngayo - ngakumbi ukuba omnye wabo sele eliliqabane lakho.
Siza kuhamba ngeendlela ezithile zokufumanisa ukuba senze ntoni ngokulandelayo, kodwa khumbula ukuba isigqibo ekugqibeleni sesakho ukuba usenze.
1. Cinga ngendlela oziva ngayo.
Okokuqala, kuya kufuneka ufumane indlela oziva ngayo malunga naba bantu babini. Ukuba ucinga ukuba uyathandana nabo, kufuneka usebenze ukuba oko kubonakala njani.
Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho - luthando ngabo bobabini, okanye ngaba yinkanuko enye?
Mhlawumbi awusathandani neqabane lakho, ukuba ngomnye waba bantu babini, kodwa uqhele ukuhlala nabo ude ucinge ukuba usabathanda.
2. Buza ukuba ziyinyani na iimvakalelo zakho.
Iimvakalelo ziyabhidisa, kwaye zinokubonakala kuzo zonke iintlobo zezizathu. Ngamanye amaxesha, ayinyani kwaye abonakalisa eyona nto yenzekayo. Ngamanye amaxesha, ayinyani- kodwa basasixelela into efanelekileyo.
Ukuba uthandana nabantu ababini, usenokuba uzama ukugcwalisa okushiyekileyo komnye umntu onayo umbono enye.
Umzekelo, umfana othandana naye unokuba mkhulu, kodwa akazange alale nawe. Umfana osemsebenzini okuthandayo ngokuqinisekileyo uya kulala nawe, ke uveza loo mfuno kuye kwaye nengqondo yakho iyakuqinisekisa ukuba uyathandana naye-xa, ngokwenene, ufuna ukulala ngesondo!
Kwinqanaba elinzulu, ukuba iqabane lakho alikwazi ukukunika inkxaso yeemvakalelo oyifunayo ngokwenene, unokucinga ukuba uneemvakalelo kumhlobo wakho unako kwaye yenza ikunike loo nkxaso.
Ukwenza iprojekti kuqhelekile, kodwa kunokwenza izinto zidideke kakhulu, kwaye kunokuba yinto enzima ukwazi ukuba into iyinyani kwaye xa sijonge nje umbono okanye umxholo yomnye umntu, okanye ubudlelwane obahlukileyo.
Ukuba iimvakalelo zakho ngomntu omnye zinamatye ngamanye amaxesha, ungathanda umbono wokuzinza. Oku kunokubangela ukuba ukhangele loo mgangatho kwenye indawo, kwaye kunokuthetha ukuba emva koko ucinga ngomntu onokukunika uzinzo.
Izinto ezimbi eziba kunye neqabane lakho, kokukhona unqwenela umntu onokukwenza uzive ukhuselekile, kwaye kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba udlulisele loo mfuno komnye umntu, emva koko uziqinisekise ukuba uneemvakalelo ngazo.
Ewe, iimvakalelo zakho kubo bobabini abantu zinokuba zezokwenyani! Unokuba ubathanda ngokwenene bobabini-kodwa luhlobo luni lothando olo?
Iimpawu zokuba akasakuthandi
3. Chonga uhlobo lothando oziva ngalo.
Sonke sithanda abantu abahlukeneyo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, nokuba ngumhlobo, ilungu losapho, okanye iqabane elithandanayo.
Ulwalamano ngalunye lothando esinalo luya kwahluka, kwaye siya kuziva kwaye senze ngokwahlukileyo ngenxa yalonto. Ubuntu bethu bunokutshintsha xa sikunye nabantu abathile, njengoko benokuvelisa iimpawu ezahlukeneyo kuthi.
Lonke ulwalamano luguquka ngokuhamba kwexesha, kananjalo, kunye nohlobo lothando owawunalo neqabane lakho kwiminyaka emihlanu eyadlulayo kungenzeka ukuba lwahluke kuhlobo lothando onalo ngoku.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba uthandana nabantu ababini ngaxeshanye, kuya kufuneka ufumanise ukuba loluphi uhlobo lothando onalo kubo bobabini ngaphambi kokuba wazi ukuba mawuphathwe njani.
Uthando oluqhelekileyo luhlobo lothando oya kuziva ukuba ukhe waba nomntu ixesha elithile.
Kukhululekile, kwaye nobabini niyazana kakuhle. Ubonane kwindawo yakho ephezulu kunye neyona iphantsi, kwaye kukho ukuthembana okukhulu kwaye ubuqabane .
Imincili isenokuba ithe yahamba kancinci nangona- akusekho nto ingako isazoyenza okwesihlandlo sokuqala kwakhona, kwaye lonto ingalwenza uthando luzive ludimazekile okanye luyadika.
Abantu abakolu hlobo lobudlelwane banokuqala ukuzibuza ukuba yintoni enye ekhoyo phaya, okanye bazive ngathi basekunye kuphela ngenxa yembali abelana ngayo nabanye.
Uthando lwezithandani ihlala ibizwa ngokuba sisigaba sasemva komtshato. Ulwalamano olutsha ngokwentelekiso kodwa nobabini nimisele apho nimi khona.
Izinto zihle kakhulu - niyonwaba kunye, yonke into isonwabile, kwaye uziva unethemba lokuba konke kuya phi.
Usenokwabelana ngesondo okuninzi, ii-cuddles, ubusuku bokuthandana, kunye nobomi obuthandwayo kunye. Kukho izicwangciso ngekamva, kodwa akukho xinzelelo lokuba izinto zihambe ngokukhawuleza kwaye uyakonwabela ukuchitha ixesha kunye.
Uthando lwezesondo yenye yezo zinokwenza izinto zidideke. Yinto onokuyifumana kumntu ongaphandle kolwalamano lwakho, nto leyo edla ngokubangela ukuba abantu bazifumane beneemvakalelo ngaphezulu komntu omnye ngexesha.
Uthando lwezesondo luyile ndlela luvakala ngayo-luhlobo lwenkanuko, kwaye lujolise ikakhulu kumtsalane wesini kunye nokuhambelana.
Umnqweno wolu hlobo lothando nomnye umntu ngaphandle kweqabane lethu uhlala uvela xa ulahlekile kulwalamano lwethu.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba khange sibelane ngesondo neqabane lethu okwethutyana, okanye singasaziva sitsaleleka kubo. Kananjalo, sitsala amandla kunye nomnye umntu, kwaye sivelise iimvakalelo zothando kubo ngaphandle komnqweno wethu wokufuna.
Uthando oluhle lolunye lweentlobo eziqhelekileyo zothando kule meko. Njengoko besesitshilo ngaphambili, oku kulapho uthandana ne umbono yomntu, kwaye ayisiyiyo eyokwenyani yazo.
Oku kunokwenzeka xa uziva ungazalisekanga kubudlelwane bakho nangasiphi na isizathu.
Sihlala sincamathisela iinjongo komnye umntu ngokusekwe kulwazi oluncinci lokuba zinjani kanye kanye. Sinokubona umntu enomtsalane emzimbeni kwaye sicinge ukuba ziya kuba mnandi kwaye zihlekise kwaye zinomtsalane, ngaphandle kolwazi lohlobo lwazo lobuntu. Oku kusibangela ukuba sithandane nombono wabo, kunokuba siyinyani.
4. Cinga ukuba uhambelana nabani.
Cinga ukuba ngubani ohambelana kakhulu kunye nendlela izinto ezinokusebenza ngayo kwinqanaba elisebenzayo. Cinga malunga nokuba ufuna ukuba ulwalamano lubukeke njani, kwaye ngubani oyena mdlalo wakho.
Mhlawumbi iqabane onalo ayinguye umntu ozibona usebudlelwaneni kunye nexesha elide ngenxa yokuba uneenjongo ezahlukeneyo kunye neenqobo ezintle, kwaye omnye umntu ulungelelaniswe ngakumbi noko ukufunayo kwiqabane elide.
Ngokulinganayo, mhlawumbi uyakuqonda ukuba omnye wabantu obathandayo unomtsalane kakhulu kwaye uyonwabisa, kodwa ngekhe uzinze ngokwaneleyo kwaye ulunge ekunxibelelaneni nantoni na yexesha elide.
Oku kuyakucela umngeni, kwaye kuya kufuneka uthembeke ngesihluku kuwe.
Khumbula ukuba akukho namnye kubantu obathandayo ekufuneka beyazi malunga nepro / con uluhlu lwakho, ukuze ube nokuvuleka kwaye ube sesichengeni ngokwakho njengoko kuthatha isigqibo.
5. Bala ukuba ufuna ntoni ebomini.
Ngoku ungaziva ngathi unokhetho ezimbini kuphela - iqabane elinye okanye iqabane ezimbini.
Oku kunokwenza izinto zikhohlise, njengoko ukhetha phakathi kwabantu ababini abathile abaneeseti ezithile zeempawu zobuntu.
Endaweni yokugxila kwizinto ezinokukunikwa ngaba bantu babini, cinga malunga nento oyifunayo, ngokuzimeleyo kolu ‘khetho’ limbini.
Yenza uluhlu lwazo zonke iifayile ze izinto ongathanda ukuba ubudlelwane - hayi kuphela kubudlelwane obufumanekayo kuwe ngoku.
Unokuqonda ukuba umntu omnye sele ephawula zonke iibhokisi, okanye unokufumanisa ukuba akukho namnye kubo oyile nto uyifunayo ngokwenene.
Xa sineemvakalelo ngaphezulu komntu omnye ngexesha, siyabambeka ekukhetheni phakathi kwabo bobabini de silibale malunga nalo lonke ilizwe!
Musa ukuzikhawulela - unokuba neemvakalelo zabantu ababini kuba akukho namnye kubo onokunika yonke into oyifunayo okanye oyifunayo.
Oko kuthetha ukuba akukho namnye kubo olungile kuwe, ke ungaqala ukujonga kwenye indawo kwaye ufumane umntu owonele umntu omnye, ngaloo ndlela ushenxise isidingo sakho sokugcwalisa isithuba somnye umntu.
6. Thembeka kubo - bobabini.
Oku akunakuba kukukhetha kuwe, ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, kodwa siyakubongoza ukuba uyiqwalasele ukuba unako.
Ukunyaniseka kunokuthetha ukuxelela iqabane lakho ukuba uneemvakalelo ngomnye umntu. Oku kunzima kakhulu njengoko kufana nokuvuma ukuthandana ngokweemvakalelo .
Kuya kufuneka ukuba ucinge ngononophelo malunga neyona ndlela yokujongana nayo, kwaye uzithathele ingqalelo iimvakalelo zabo.
Ukuba awunabudlelwane nabo bobabini, oku kuya kuba lula kodwa kube ngumceli mngeni, ke thatha ixesha lakho.
Ukuba uzama ukukhetha phakathi kwabantu ababini, akulunganga ukubagcina bobabini bejinga kumtya ngelixa belinde wena ukuba wenze isigqibo.
Ngokubaxelela indlela oziva ngayo, uzivumela ukuba ubuthathaka, enokuthi yoyike kakhulu. Khumbula ukuba wenza oku ngenxa yentlonipho kubo, kwaye, ukuba balifanele ixesha lakho, baya kuzama ukukuqonda oko kwaye bakuyeke uze kwisigqibo sakho.
7. Zibuze ukuba ngaba ujonge nje ukubaleka.
Njengoko besesitshilo apha ngasentla - ezinye iimvakalelo esiziphuhlisayo ebantwini zisekwe kwingcinga yabo, hayi oyena mntu.
Oku kuhlala kwenzeka xa siziva sililolo okanye sikhathazekile, okanye mhlawumbi xa sikubudlelwane obungagcwalisiyo.
Sijonge komnye umntu ukuze avale isikhewu sakhe kwaye afake izinto 'ezingekhoyo.'
Ukuba uhlala ufumana iimvakalelo zabantu abangengabo abalingane bakho, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ufuna isizathu sokuhamba.
Ukuba uhlala ujonga kwenye indawo, kubandakanya imicimbi yeemvakalelo (okanye zomzimba), unokuzama ukufumana isizathu sokuqhawula izinto neqabane lakho.
Mhlawumbi ufuna ukuba bakubambe uneemvakalelo zomnye umntu ukuze kube njalo yabo isigqibo sokuphelisa izinto. Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, yinto ekufuneka uyiqwalasele.
Ekupheleni kosuku, sinokukunika iingcebiso ezininzi kangako-kuya kufuneka uzenzele isigqibo.
Sebenzisa amanqaku afana neli ukuze uzibonise ngokwakho, ukuthetha nabantu obathandayo obathembayo, kunye nokuthathela ingqalelo ukucebisa ngezimvo ezizizo zonke iindlela onokuzijonga.
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