Kudala mpikiswano malunga nokuba ukuba nethemba kuyinto elungileyo na, okanye ingaba ithemba lokungabi nathemba likhusela ngakumbi kwaye lingcono kuwe ekuhambeni kwexesha. Kutshanje, uphando lubonakalisile ukuba abantu abanethemba lokuphila baphila ubomi obude kunye nempilo engcono yengqondo kunye nomgangatho wobomi obungcono.
Ke, yintoni eyenza umntu abe nethemba? Zeziphi iinkolelo ezingundoqo kwindlela yabo yokuphila?
indlela yokwenza umfana akuhloniphe emva kokulala naye
Injongo yeli nqaku kukujonga uninzi lweenkolelo eziqhelekileyo phakathi kwabanethemba lokuzama ukuqonda indlela ezisebenza ngayo iingqondo zabo nokuba kutheni becinga ngendlela abenza ngayo.
1. Impendulo yam lelona khetho lam
Umntu onethemba ukholelwa ekubeni nokuba bajongene nayiphi na imeko, eyona nto bahlala benolawulo kuyo yindlela abaphendula ngayo.
Nokuba zilungile, azithathi cala, okanye zimbi izinto ezenzekileyo, ukhetho lolwabo lokuphendula nangayiphi na indlela abafuna ngayo. Bakhetha ukujonga kwicala eliqaqambileyo ngaphezu kokukhetha ukuhlala kwizinto ezingalunganga.
2. Ndinamandla oku Guqula uBomi bam
I-Optimists ngokuqinisekileyo bakholelwa ukuba banamandla ngaphakathi kwabo okwenza utshintsho oluqinisekileyo lwenzeke. Banokholo kubuchule babo kunye nokuzingisa kwabo bayathemba ukuba ukuba bayawalandela amaphupha abo ngenkalipho nangokuqiniseka, baya kuma ethubeni amahle okuguqula loo maphupha abe yinyani.
3. Izinto ezintle aziyi kude
Xa unembono nethemba ngobomi, iba yinto yokwemvelo ukukholelwa ukuba izinto ezintle zikulindile kufutshane nekona. Kwaye ngelixa ikamva lingenakho ukuxelwa kwangaphambili ngokuchanekileyo, ukuba ucinga ukuba kuza into yakho elungileyo, ikwenza ukwazi ngakumbi ukuyibona xa isenzeka.
Xa ucinga ngako, nangona kunjalo, kuhlala kukho izinto ezintle eziza kuza kwikamva lakho ukuba amehlo akho avulekile ukuba uzibone.
4. Umothuko Okwexeshana, Kodwa Ukuphilisa Kuthatha Ixesha
I-Optimists ayikhuselekanga kwaphela kukonzakala kodwa bayijonga nje njengesiganeko esingapheliyo esiya kuthi ngenye imini sithunyelwe kwixesha elidlulileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo abayiphiki into yokuba ukuphilisa amanxeba ngokweemvakalelo ingathatha ixesha.
Yintoni eyahlukileyo kukuba, nangexesha elinzima lobomi babo, abalilibali ixesha elimnandi ababenalo kwaye bayazi ukuba ulonwabo iya kuphinda yenzeke.
5. Ukubonisa Umbulelo Kubalulekile
Xa izinto ezintle zingena kwihlabathi elinethemba, abazithathi lula. Endaweni yoko, bona bavakalise umbulelo wabo ukuze bazikhumbuze ngethamsanqa labo.
Bakholelwa ukuba xa ujonga ngamehlo aqaqambileyo, uyakumangaliswa yindlela ekufuneka ubulele ngayo, kwaye ukuvakalisa umbulelo kubo kusebenza ukomeleza umbono wabo wehlabathi.
6. Ngomso Lusuku Olutsha
Ithemba lisoloko libona usuku olutsha njengethuba elitsha lokufumana okanye lokudala okuhle kwinyani yabo. Ukuba bayasokola kuhambo lwabo lobomi, baziva bethuthuzelekile kukutshona nokuvuka kwelanga kuba usuku ngalunye olutsha lubambe ithuba lokubonisa indlela ebuyela umva kwindlela abaphambuke kuyo.
Bawaqonda amandla exesha lokwenza utshintsho olululo emntwini kwaye bavuleleke ngokupheleleyo kwizinto ezinokubakho ntsasa nganye.
7. I-Naysayers ayikayifumani indlela yabo okwangoku
Xa unethemba ujongane nomntu ojongela phantsi amaphupha abo kwaye bagalela ugculelo kwiinkolelo zabo, abanikeli ngqalelo ingako kubo. Bayayiqonda into yokuba umntu onjalo akakaqapheli amandla amangalisayo abantu ukufezekisa izinto ezintle.
Nokuba ingayintoni na impikiswano, umntu onethemba uya kuzikholelwa iziqu zakhe ubuninzi obunokufumaneka ukuba umntu uzimisele ukuyikhangela kwaye ayilwele. Kubo, umntu othetha into ephosakeleyo ngumntu ongenakucinga ngomendo wamaphupha abo umntu ongaboniyo kumandla abo.
8. Ubunzima Buyoyiswa Ngandlela Zonke
Ukuba umphefumlo onethemba uhlala ufuna ukukhunjuzwa ngamandla abo okoyisa imiqobo, bajonga nje macala onke. Naphi na apho ukhangela khona, ungabona imizekelo yabantu abaye bajongana namaxesha anzima, balwa iidemon, kwaye baphumelela boyisa.
Ezi modeli zokuzimisela ziya kungqina ukuba inokwenzeka kangakanani into ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba injalo. Zisebenza njengezizathu zokuba nethemba lokuqhubeka nokukholelwa kokulungileyo okuzayo kubo.
9. Ubomi bam buphelile kwaye buchithe kakuhle ukujonga kwicala eliqaqambileyo
Imihla yethu kulomhlaba ibekelwe umda, kwaye umntu othembekileyo ukholelwa ekubeni bachitha bhetele kakhulu kugxilwe kuzo zonke izinto ezintle ezenzekileyo nezinokwenzeka. Ubucekeceke kunye nokungaqiniseki kobomi kuyabakhuthaza ukuba bachithe ixesha elininzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka nge Ukucinga ngengqondo elungileyo kuba kuphela emva koko apho unokuonwabela ngokwenyani ixesha onalo.
10. Ndiwakhetha ngobulumko amadabi am
Akukho mntu unethemba lokugcina imeko yokujonga ulonwabo ngalo lonke ixesha, kodwa banokuzama ukuqinisekisa ukuba xa imeko yehlise ngakumbi ithatha indawo, kukho izizathu ezifanelekileyo zoku. Abavumeli ukucaphuka okuncinci ukuba kufike kubo endaweni yoko baqhubeka ngengqondo ngokuqhwanyaza kweliso, bagcina usizi, umsindo, unxunguphalo kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezimbi ngenxa yezehlo ezinzulu.
Ngamanye amagama, benza ukhetho xa kwaye nini bangalwa nxamnye nenyani yabo. Banokuzohlwaya ngalo lonke ixesha kunokuthi kwenzeke into engahambi kakuhle, kodwa xa zizinto ezincinci kuphela, abayifumani.
11. Okulungileyo Ngekhe Kulunge Kakhulu Ukuba Bendingazi Okubi
Enye inkolelo yokuba umntu othembekileyo kunokwenzeka ukuba ayibambe kukuba sifumana uvuyo olukhulu kunye nolonwabo kumaxesha amnandi xa sikulungele ukwamkela okubi.
Bayayiqonda into yokuba ukuba akukho nanye into embi eyenzekayo kuthi, asinakukuxabisa ngokupheleleyo ukulunga ebomini. Cinga nje ngokuhlala kwindawo apho ilanga likhanya yonke imihla, apho ubushushu buhlala buhleli kamnandi, kwaye impepho ihlaziya ngokuzithoba kwayo mhlawumbi ngekhe uyixabise imozulu enjalo ukuba ubungazi ubanda, ubumanzi kunye noqhwithela.
12. Ithemba Lizala Ithemba
Xa umntu othembekileyo eneengcinga ezintle malunga namathuba exesha elizayo, bayaphinda baqinise ukuzithemba kwabo. Bayazi ukuba njengoko uqhelisela ithemba, ukhonza ekwenzeni ikamva lakho ujonge ngakumbi ngokwendalo ngokuqinisa iindlela zakho ze-neural.
Kubo, ukuba nethemba akulotyebiso nje lomntu abesikelelwe ngalo, kodwa yinto eyaphuhlayo kwaye iyaqhubeka ukukhula ngokuhamba kwexesha. Iba yinxalenye yolawulo lwabo lokuzikhathalela, njengokuzilolonga kunye nokutya okusempilweni.
13. Okulungileyo nokubi akufuneki kuthathwe buqu
Kungalula kakhulu ukucinga ukuba xa kusenzeka izinto ezimbi, kungenxa yokuba uzifanele okanye ngenxa yokuba ungasikelelwanga ngethamsanqa abanye abantu abanalo. Oku kuyaphikisana nenkolelo yokuba nethemba, nangona kunjalo, oya kubona okuhle nokubi njengezinto ezenzekayo.
Abaxhamli banokwazi ngakumbi ukuzikhusela kwiziganeko ebomini babo. Ukusuka kwimbono yabo, ubomi buya kuba namahla ndinyuka kunye nokusola akunakuhlala kwabelwa nantoni na, kungasathethwa ke ngawe. Ngamanye amaxesha ubomi buyazenzekela.
14. Ukuhlala kokubi akusebenzi
Umntu onethemba uyala ukuvumela izehlo ezingalunganga kunye neengcinga zigcine kubo ixesha elide. Bakholelwa ukuba injalo iindlela zokucinga eziphindaphindwayo unexabiso elincinci kwaye kunokwenziwa ukhetho lokuhambisa ukugxila kwenye into.
Bayazi ukuba ukuba ungatshintsha iingcinga zakho uzinike into entle oziva unombulelo ngayo, uyakuphila ubomi obunoxolo ngakumbi.
15. Ukutshaja kwakhona iibhetri zam kubalulekile
Ithemba alixhomekekanga ekuphumleni kakuhle, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kulula kakhulu ukuba nomdla xa uziva uphaphile kwaye unamandla. Yiyo loo nto umntu othembekileyo ekholelwa kumandla 'wexesha lam' kunye neminye imisebenzi ekhonza ukuphumla umzimba nengqondo.
Ukuphelelwa lithemba kunokukhula ngenxa yokudinwa njengoko usokola ukubona okuhle ngaphambili, yiyo loo nto umntu othembekileyo ethatha ixesha lokuphumla aze abuye kwakhona xa iibhetri zabo ziphantsi.
16. Ndisebenzisana njani neMicimbi yeHlabathi
Ubomi bethu ikakhulu bakhelwe ngothotho oluqhubekayo lokunxibelelana nehlabathi. Umntu onethemba eliqinisekileyo uyaqonda ukuba indlela esikujonga ngayo oku kunxibelelana kwaye nendlela esikudlala ngayo inokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwithemba lethu lengqondo.
Ukuba ubona intsebenzo nganye njengomzabalazo, iya kuba ngumzabalazo, kodwa ukuba ujonga amathuba okunxibelelana nzulu nehlabathi kunye nabantu abakulo, uyakwazi fumana uxolo lwangaphakathi .
Ngu ukumamela ukunika, ukunceda , kunye nokuqonda abanye, uthathe isigqibo sokuba unxibelelwano lwakho nabo luya kusekelwa eluthandweni nantsi indlela ethathwe ngabona banethemba.
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17. Ndinelungelo Lento Kodwa Ithuba Lokuphila
Xa uziva imvakalelo yelungelo , ingqondo yakho ikulungele kakhulu ukuxhomekeka kwizinto ezingalunganga kuba nanini na ungayifumani into oyijonga njengelungelo, uziva ukhathazekile.
Ama-Optimists athambekele ekubeni azi ukuba ithuba ebomini kuphela kwento esinokuziva sinelungelo kuyo (kwaye nayo le ayinakuthathwa). Bayayiqonda into yokuba ukuba awukholelwa ukuba into kufuneka ibe yeyakho ngokufanelekileyo, awunakuziva usizi ngokungabikho kwayo.
Bayazi ukuba ithamsanqa, hayi ilungelo elinika uninzi lwethu ngokutya, amanzi acocekileyo, imfundo nokhuseleko. Kuphela lithuba lokwahlula ubomi beentsana ezisandul 'ukuzalwa - kwilizwe elityebileyo lasentshona liye kwelinye kwilizwe elihlwempuzekileyo elihlwempuzekileyo. Akukho mntwana uzelwe enamalungelo angaphezulu komnye lo uye atyekele ekubeni ngabantu abazizityebi abakholelwa ngenye indlela.
Ngaba unethemba lomntu? Ngaba uyavumelana noku kubhaliweyo apha? Shiya iikhomenti ezingezantsi kwaye usazise iingcinga zakho.
