Ukubona ubomi ngombono oqinisekileyo akunanto yakwenza neiglasi ezinemibala ye-rose esoloko icelwa ukuba inikwe abo 'bangayiboniyo' inyani. Kuthatha umsebenzi omninzi kakhulu ukuba ube nethemba lokugxotha iinzame njengePollyannaish okanye umthambo wokwala.
Zininzi izinto eziphambili ezenziwa ngumntu oneengqondo ezintle ukuze ahlale ecaleni kwezinto.
1. Bona Gxila kuMzuzu
Ukubakho kuthatha isenzo se-Herculean sentando xa kubonakala ngathi zonke iinkalo zobomi bemihla ngemihla ziyilelwa ukuba zidideke kwaye ziphazamise ngokwezoqoqosho, ezopolitiko, okanye ngokomoya.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuze ube nethemba, umntu kufuneka akhumbule.
Ukukwazi ukuxabisa okwenzekayo okwethutyana, emva koko okulandelayo, kwaye emva koko kugxile kwiminqweno yethu engahleliwe kunye nokuthambeka kwengqondo kwimeko yoqwalaselo ethintela ukwakheka kobuxoki obufana nocwecwe.
Ukuhlala uzinzile, ugxile, kwaye uyazi kubalulekile kwingqondo elungileyo.
2. Bafuna Ubuhle
Ibhendi yomphefumlo we-funk Umhlaba, Umoya kunye noMlilo babenetalente yokuyila iingoma ezihlala kweyona ndawo ishushu yomphefumlo. 'Ukuba akukho buhle kufuneka wenze ubuhle' kwingoma Konke Ngothando mnye.
Ihlabathi yindawo embi. Iyangxola, yoyikisa, kwaye ihlala ifanelwe ziinyembezi.
Kodwa thatha uhambo phakathi kwalo naliphi na ihlathi kwaye uya kubona umhlaba uyindawo entle kakhulu. Indawo emnene. Kwaye ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba uwele iindlela kunye nomphambukeli kwakuloo mthi, unokuba nethamsanqa lokuqonda ukuba loo mntu mhle kwaye uyathamba naye.
Ubuhle abuthinteli izinto ezingathandekiyo, ezimbi zobomi. Lowo ayingomsebenzi wayo. Ubuhle buthule, ngobumnene ithemba lokukhumbuza wonke umntu ukuba likhona ecaleni kwempepho ebhudlayo, amabrashi, kunye neebharbhothi ezijijekileyo esihlala sigxile kuzo njengobomi 'bokwenene'.
Ukuthatha isigqibo ukubona ubuhle bubeka ubuhle phambi kwethu. Kwaye ukuba ngengozi ayikafumaneki, siyayenza.
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3. Bathatha inxaxheba ekuyileni kwabo
Ngaba uye waqaphela ukuba abantu abanomdla bahlala beyila?
Umakazi owayekhawuleza ukuhleka wapheka ezona pie zibalaseleyo kwintombazana yasekholejini eyayincuma nayo yonke ilukwe ngezikhafu kunye neiglavu ngokungathi ziyaphuma kwisitayile.
Abantu abaqinisekileyo benza ukhetho lokuba nobuchule kwinto ethile. Baza kuzama ukutya okutsha ekhitshini, okanye mhlawumbi baxube imixube yesiselo ukubona nje ukuba bayayithanda na incasa.
Rhoqo baba ngabafundi, ukufunda kungowona mdlalo wokugqibela kuyetha yengqondo.
Ukhetho lwenziwe ukufumana indawo yokubalekela yoyilo kwiimfuno zekhaya, zomsebenzi, zosapho, kunye nothando. Ukuba, njengabantu, asinakukwazi ukwenza isithuba sokubonisa 'thina,' siyaziqinisa ukuze sonwabe kwaye sithathe indalo embi njengonikiweyo.
4. Bajongene neNyaniso
UThixo andinike ukuzola ukwamkela izinto andinakutshintsha isibindi ukutshintsha izinto endinokuzenza kunye nobulumko bokwazi umohluko.
Siyazi ukuba njengoMthandazo weSerenity, owabhalwa ngo-1951 ngumfundisi wezenkolo uReinhold Niebuhr.
Iyimfuneko kwaye ibalulekile kwisimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kuba ibonakalisa inkalo ephambili yokuphila okuhle: ukujongana nehlabathi kudala amandla athile abuyela umva ngabom.
Kunzima ukuba nethemba lokwenene ngaphandle kokuba umntu uphila ubomi obunyanisekileyo. Umntu olungileyo wenza ukhetho olusengqiqweni lokujongana nenyani ukuze abuyise iinxalenye anokuthi aphucule kuzo zonke, thabatha i-angst kunye netyala lokungabi yinxalenye yesisombululo kuyo yonke into.
5. Bafumana i 'Wins'
Ukufumana umsebenzi omkhulu wokukopa ngaphandle kwephepha elinye lejam: win.
Ukubamba zonke izibane eziluhlaza ngexesha lokuqhuba okungasasebenziyo: win.
Ukuphumelela ukufundisa umntwana wakho iikhonsepthi emva kokutsala ngemagnethi kunye nokugxeka: win.
Umntu olungileyo uyaziqonda amaxesha emini ukubala njengempumelelo, kuba njengabantu, sifuna ezo pops zokukhanya ukuze sazi ukuba senza into elungileyo.
Iimpumelelo ezinkulu zilungile, kodwa kukuphumelela okuncinci kwemihla ngemihla okusigcinayo.
6. Abahlali Kwixesha Elidlulileyo
Ukuba nethemba akuthethi ukungafumani (okanye hayi thina singunobangela) weemeko ezimbi.
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Oko kuthetha ukuba ngumntu olungileyo bakhetha ukungazidaka kwithuba elidlulileyo njengeempukane ezigwetyiweyo ukuya kwiphepha elinemvakalelo.
Umntu olungileyo ukhetha ukwamkela okwadlulayo kwaye, ukuba unethamsanqa, afunde kulo, kodwa azobe umgca wokuziva enyanzelekile ngalo.
Umntu akanakugxila kungoku okanye nakwikamva lakhe kwangoko ngelixa elinye azama ukuhlala kwixa elidlulileyo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Uyiyeka njani i-Monologue yakho yangaphakathi ejonge kwinto encinci yokuziqinisa
- Iimpawu ezi-5 eziLungileyo eziTsala ulonwabo kunye nobudlelwane obusempilweni
- Izinto ezi-7 zabantu abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo Benza ngokwahlukileyo
- Iimpawu ezi-5 zoMoya oSimahla ngokwenyani
- Iinkolelo ezi-4 zamaBuddha eziza kushiya ukuBuqonda kwakho uBomi kwaye zikwenze wonwabe
7. ZiyiBhakoni yokuKhanya kwabanye
Into engaqhelekanga malunga nokungakhathali kukuba kubangela ukuba abantu babe madolw 'anzima ekuzinikeleni kwabo kodwa babewa ngokuzenza lusizi, kushiye ubomi bonke bomntu bucotha kwaye bukhokelela.
Zimbalwa izinto ezikhuthazayo, nangona kunjalo, kumntu ocinga kakuhle kunokubona omnye umntu ekhanya, kwaye ukuba uthe umntu olungileyo unokukhanya kokhanyiso lomnye umntu, baya kuthi ngokubanzi.
8. Baphulaphula ngaphezu kokuba bethetha
Kuye kwathiwa sifunda ngakumbi ngemilomo yethu ivaliwe kunokuvula.
Nokuba kwi-Intanethi, indlela yethu yokuqala xa sibona into esicinga ukuba abanye banokuyifumana ibalulekile kukuba 'uthethe' ngayo. Ukuba asiphawuli ngandlela thile okanye enye, imvakalelo iyangena: siyaphela kubukho!
UHarlan Ellison ubhale ibali elifutshane ngasekupheleni kweminyaka yamashumi amathandathu anesihloko esithi 'Andinamlomo Kwaye Ndimele Ndikhwaze,' ethi ngokufihlakeleyo ifake umxholo wangoku wama-21stubomi benkulungwane.
Umntu oqinisekileyo uyazi ukuba banomlomo nelizwi, kodwa ukhetha amagama abo kancinci ngaphandle kokuba bafumene into yokongeza kwingxoxo eya kuthi ityebise bonke ababandakanyekayo ngaphaya komyalelo olula we-ego.
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9. Abadibanisi Kwingxolo Ngokubanzi YeBandagon
Kunye nemigca ye ukumamela , umntu olungileyo usebenza ukunqanda uninzi lweendlela zokubhabha, kungenjalo kulula kakhulu ukuba ungatshayelwa ngamaza olwandle kunye neengqumbo ezikhathaza umhlaba namhlanje, kwaye ukuphinda ufumane indawo ekhuselekileyo yomntu iba ngumsele ongapheliyo.
Oku akuthethi ukuba umntu olungileyo akenzi ukuba ilizwi labo livakale okanye alwele utshintsho.
Ngokuchasene noko, banamazwi anamandla ngokuchanekileyo kuba abekho rhoqo endlebeni yomntu, bagqabaza ngeposi nganye, okanye baphinde iinkxalabo zayo yonke imiba eshushu.
Abantu abanethemba lokujonga izisombululo, bafumane ezo zisombululo, kwaye babelane ngezisombululo njengoko kufanelekile.
10. Bonwabela Ubomi Bomzimba Kangangoko Eyokomoya
Umntu oqinisekileyo ebomini bakho usenokungabi ngumfuziselo wokugqibelela komzimba, kodwa kukubheja okuhle abenza umzamo oqhelekileyo wokufumana imizimba yabo ukuba yenze ngaphezulu kokuhambisa nje kwigumbi ukuya kwelinye.
Kukwabheja okuhle ukuba bayonwabela uyolo lokupheka. Ukwabelana ngesondo. Kwaye ukuthatha ibhafu ende. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba uvuyo olungapheliyo lokurhawuzelelwa lukrweceke kwaye lulungile.
Ukucamngca kunye nokuzibandakanya ngokweemvakalelo kuyathandeka, kodwa, endaweni yokutyhala ngokuchasene neziyolo zenyama, kukho ithemba ngakumbi ekuxabiseni imimangaliso ezibhiliyoni zeziphelo zemithambo-luvo kunye nezamkeli esinazo.
11. Bazisa uQinisekiso
Ubume obunokubakho bunokuhla.
Ukuze uhlale kwicala lokudibanisa, umntu oqinisekileyo uya kuphinda enze olu khetho ngosuku olulandelayo, nangolandelayo, njalo njalo, kuba ukuhlala ulungile phakathi kokulwa, amazwi ahlukanisayo akukho lula.
Kananjalo kunyanzelekile ukuba banyamezele amazwi okhohlisayo, kuba “intembeko” isenamagama amabi okuba yinxalenye yokubaleka, enye inkohliso, kwaye enye inkohliso ithembekile.
Kodwa ukuba nethemba lokwenyani, akufuneki kuphela ukuba samkele ubumnyama obukuyo yonke indawo, kodwa Yabona ke, emva koko uthathe isigqibo sokutyhala ngokuchasene nayo.
Umntu olungileyo ukhetha ukufikelela kweminye imithombo yokukhanya xa efuna ukuphinda ahlaziye kwakhona: izihlobo, abathandi, ootitshala, bonke abo babonwa njengezikhanyiso ezikhanyayo ngeendlela zabo ezizodwa.
Ukuba nethemba sisenzo sobukroti, ukomelela kunye nenkonzo kwabanye. Yinto egcina umhlaba ungabi nto ngaphandle kwameva xa simisa ukunuka iiroses. Ukuba kuphela zonke ii-bouquets esondela kuzo kunokuba mnandi.
