Ke ngoku ukudibana ekuhlaleni, uncokola ngesivunguvungu kwaye ukhokele iincoko. Wonke umntu uyaqhuma kwaye inqanaba lokugxila kwakho lihle kakhulu. Kodwa ke ugxininiso lwakho luyancipha, kwaye uqala ukuzibophelela kancinci kwingxoxo. Ngequbuliso, awusenawo umdla kwaye uvale.
Ukuba ungenisa , mhlawumbi uyakuqonda oku kuphazamiseka kakuhle. Kwaye ukuba unokucinga ngobomi bakho njengebhetri, iimeko ezinjalo ziqala ukwenza ingqiqo ngakumbi. Xa kufikwa kunxibelelwano lwasentlalweni, thina ma-introverts sisebenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwabanye. Ukunxulumana nabanye kunokukufunxa, ukanti, ngokuchaseneyo nenkolelo edumileyo, silungile kuyo.
Ibhetri yentlalontle evumayo iyasivumela ukuba sisebenze njengeziqhushumbisi, siqhushumbe ngemiboniso yomzuzwana yetshathi. Emva koko iyabhabha. Ngoba? Ngenxa yokuba kufuneka “sihlaziye kwakhona” Esi sidingo sokwahlulwa ngamaxesha athile ayisosiphene sethu, kodwa sisomelele.
Emva kokuzihlaziya sodwa, siyakwazi ukubuyela emhlabeni kwaye sinxibelelane nabanye ngokufanelekileyo njengaye nawuphi na umntu onolwazi ngokwasentlalweni. Ukutshaja kwakhona kuyasivumela yiba phantsi kunye nokudibana ne iziqu zethu ezizodwa . Nangona kunjalo, amandla amaninzi uzibophelela kwimisebenzi yentlalo, ngokukhawuleza kuya kufuneka ubuyele umva kwaye uphinde uzivuselele.
Ke umntu uhamba njani malunga nayo-ukuyitshaja kwakhona ibhetri yentlalo?
andre isigebenga vs umboniso omkhulu
Kuqala, yamkele ukuba ulungile ngokubuya umva
Yonke into ihamba kakuhle, wonke umntu uyahleka, wonke umntu uyabuthanda ubukho bakho.
Xa oku kusenzeka, sihlala sithanda ukubawa kwaye sizama ukwandisa ukuhlala kwethu. Ngokwenza njalo, sitsibela ithuba lokuphumla kunxibelelwano lwasentlalweni, kwaye oku kukhokelela ekudinweni.
indlela yokudlala nzima ukufumana kodwa umgcine enomdla
Kukho intsingiselo yokungabikho, kwaye ukuba nexesha lakho ngokwakho kukonyusa ubukho bakho xa ujikeleze abanye. Kanjani? Ngenye, unika abantu ixesha lokukukhumbula. Akukho sidingo sokuchaza ukuba kwenzeka njani oku kuba indalo yomntu iyodwa iyangqina ukuba abantu bahlala belahlekelwa zizinto emva kokuphulukana nazo, nokuba kungokwexeshana.
Isibini, uyazivumela ukuba uqokelele kwakhona kwaye uzimisele. Ngokuka-Osho, igorha eyaziwayo kunye nefilosofi evela e-India, kukho ixabiso ngexesha elilodwa kuba siza kuzibonela ngokwethu, eyona fomu inyanisekileyo . Njengokuba eyibeka kwisandi sokuBetha ngesandla esinye, “Kutheni ungakhe ube namava ukuba yintoni le yodwa? Yiyo kanye le nto siyiyo. ”
Ngethamsanqa kuthi izethuli, asinangxaki yokuchitha ixesha ngokwethu, kuba singabantu bendalo kuyo. Ukuzahlula okwethutyana, ngokuqinisekileyo, yindlela yokungenisa.
Nanini na xa ubandakanyeka kunxibelelwano lwasentlalweni, phuma kanye phambi kokuba uzive ugcwele
Oku kuthetha ukuba ungalindi de uphelelwe ngamandla kwaye ungabinamdla ngokupheleleyo. Shiya ukuze uchithe ixesha lakho wedwa ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke oku. Kodwa uyazi njani ukuba sowukufuphi esiphelweni sobomi bakho?
Wonke umntu wahlukile, kodwa sihlala siphuma kancinci kunxibelelwano lwasentlalweni, singabi namdla njengoko incoko iqhubeka. Xa uqala ukuqaphela ukugxila kwakho kuncipha, kuhlala kungumqondiso wokuba lixesha lokuphumla. Ungazithethelela ngokubhekisa kwezinye izinto eziphambili.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyema ngesiquphe kumandla entlalo, zive ukhululekile ukuzithethelela kwangoko nangoko. Sukuziva unetyala ngayo nokuba abantu banezinto abazenzayo.
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Xa sele ubekelwe bucala, yenza eyona nto uyenzayo
Yenza into othanda ukuyenza ngexesha lakho wedwa. Nokuba kukufunda, ukukhangela i-Intanethi, okanye ukumamela umculo, zenzele nje umntu wakho kwaye uzivumele ukuba ube namava akho.
Ukungenzi nto yindlela efanelekileyo yokuvuselela amandla omntu. Ukuhamba imigama emide kunokunceda. Nokuba uqhuba kunganyanga. Nanini na xa udiniwe kukuchitha ixesha elininzi unxibelelana nabantu, kubalulekile ukunika ingqondo yakho ukuphumla kuba isebenza ngamandla ngexesha lonxibelelwano lwasentlalweni.
Uya kufumanisa ukuba kuyakhulula ukungazikhathazi ngento oza kuyithetha, indlela yokuyithetha, ukuzama ukukhumbula izinto zokongeza kwincoko, okanye nokukhumbula amagama abantu.
Iiyure ezingama-2-3 zodwa zilungile, kodwa kuxhomekeke kuwe. Unokufuna indawo elula eyi-10-20 yemizuzu.
UJohn cena uthetha ngememe
Kuthiwani xa ungakwazi ukushiya kude?
Kukho imicimbi yentlalo esingakwaziyo ukusuka kuyo. Inokuba ngumsebenzi wenkampani, okanye iqela. Nokuba ithini na imeko, phumela ngaphandle imizuzu embalwa. Ukuphuma uye kuphefumla yeyona nto intle anokuyenza kwimeko enjalo kuba ikuvumela ukuba uzenzele indawo. Ngale ndlela, awuyi kuziva ucinyiwe yiyo yonke imisebenzi yentlalo eyenzeka kuwe.
Ukuphuma ngaphandle ngamaxesha athile kuya kuqinisekisa ukuba uhlala unamandla ngokwasentlalweni kuwo wonke umsitho.
Ukutshaja kwakhona kwexesha elide kuyasebenza
Akufanelekanga ukuba uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde nawe, Akufanele ugcwalise kuphela iibhetri zakho zentlalo yonke imini omele uyenze ngayo yonke iveki yakho. Ngamanye amaxesha, kulungile ukuchitha iintsuku ezimbalwa (ukuba kunokwenzeka) ukuzihlukanisa nokuzilungiselela ngokwasengqondweni iintsuku apho ungayi kuba nakho, njengemizekelo ekhankanywe apha ngasentla.
Ikwasebenza ukujikeleza iintsuku zakho zentlalo ngeentsuku ezingasebenziyo apho ungazibandakanyi nomsebenzi omninzi.
ndifuna ukuphuma kodwa andinabahlobo
Ukutshaja kwakhona iibhetri bubugcisa
Sukuyivumela le ntetho malunga nokutshaja kwakhona ibhetri yakho ikukhohlise ekucingeni ukuba intlalontle ayilunganga, okanye ukuba ikheswa yingxaki. Wonke umntu usebenza ngokwahlukileyo kwaye kufuneka sikuxabise oko malunga nathi.
Ukuchitha ixesha kuwe bubugcisa. Ikuvumela ukuba ubuyele emntwini wakho emva kokujikeleza ezinye iindawo ezininzi. Ikuvumela ukuba ube namava omntu wakho ngokupheleleyo, ngokungangxengwanga, kwifom engenazimpembelelo.
Emva kokugcwalisa kwakhona, ungabuyela emhlabeni kwaye uzibonele ngale ndlela uyonwabela ngayo.
