Ungayeka Njani Ukuzibetha: Iingcebiso ezi-7 eziSebenzayo

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Sisoloko singabagxeki bethu ababi ngakumbi, ngakumbi xa sijongana nemicimbi yezempilo yengqondo okanye ukuba asinabo ubudlelwane obuhle nathi.



Konke okudingayo kuyimpazamo enye engenatyala, isiphoso esinye esincinci ukuseta ukukhutshwa kweengcinga ezimbi ezijolise ekuzidilizeni.

Okanye mhlawumbi bekungekho mpazamo. Isenokuba yimpumelelo obuyicwangcise ngocoselelo kwaye uyisebenzele ukusilela kuphela kwinjongo yakho. Mhlawumbi khange uphumeze oko ukulindeleyo.



Kodwa ukuzibetha ngenxa yeempazamo kunye nokungafezekisi akuyi kubathintela. Ayizukwenzela nto ngaphandle kokukwenza ube lusizi ngakumbi.

Wonke umntu wenza iimpazamo. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, ezona zicwangciso zethu zibekekileyo zisilela kakhulu kwizinto ebesizithembile. Ezi azizizo izinto ezimbi. Ziyinxalenye yobomi.

Ngaba oko kuthetha ukuba ungakuhoyi nakuphi na ukuzazisa okanye ukungakhathali? Hayi akunjalo. Kodwa kukho umahluko phakathi kokugxeka isiqu sakho nokuzingcungcuthekisa. Ukugxekwa kuyafuneka ekukhuleni nasekuziphuculeni. Ukuzikhathaza ngakumbi malunga nokwenzakalisa ngokungeyomfuneko.

Olo hlobo lokucinga luhlala luqala ebuntwaneni nabantu abadala abangenabubele. Ubuntwana linqanaba lokwakha kangangokuba ukugxeka okanye ukuphathwa gadalala okwethutyana ngomzuzu wokuba sesichengeni kunokubangela ingozi eqhubeka nokuba mdala.

Omo monakalo uququzelela ukucinga ukuba umntu makakuphephe ukugxekwa ngabanye abantu kwaye afezeke ukuze athandwe, afaneleke kwaye azuze ixabiso. Kwaye xa ngokungathandabuzekiyo bengagqibekanga, kuba akukho mntu, bazibetha njengesohlwayo ngokusilela kwabo.

Leyo yingxaki efuna ukulungiswa kuba Kukho unxibelelwano phakathi kokuthetha okungathandekiyo okugqithileyo kunye nokungafezekisi iinjongo . Abantu abanolwazelelelo okanye intetho engathandekiyo yokuthetha badla ngokuthatha umngcipheko omncinci kwaye bangahlangani neenjongo zabo ezininzi.

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Abantu abanobubele kubo kwaye banovelwano ngakumbi ngeziphene zabo bafikelela kwiinjongo zabo rhoqo kuba bayazakha endaweni yokuzidiliza.

Ngethamsanqa, ukuphazamisa ezi patheni zokucinga yinto onokuyenza ngokwenza okuninzi kunye nomonde.

Uyeka njani ukuzibetha?

1. Chonga unobangela wokuthetha kakubi ngawe.

Ukuthetha gwenxa kwakho kuhlala kubangelwa sisiganeko esithile. Oko kunokuba kukufumanisa ukuba injongo ayisebenzi, ukwenza impazamo, okanye into eyenzeka ngokungacwangciswanga, ebangela impendulo ngokweemvakalelo.

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Umzekelo, masithi ulahla ikomityi yekofu ngengozi.

Ngokucinga, abo bazibethayo bazakuqalisa kwangoko kwinkqubo yokucinga malunga nomsitho. Inokuba zizinto ezinje, 'andinakwenza nto ngokulungileyo.' Kutheni ndingaxabisekanga nje? ” 'Yintoni engalunganga ngam?'

Ukuchonga i-trigger kukuvumela ukuba uphazamise inkqubo yokucinga. Ingqondo yakho iya kuzama ukutsiba ungene kwezo ngcinga, kodwa eyona nto ufuna ukuyenza kukuma.

2. Nqumama.

Ikhefu likhona ukuzama ukufumana impendulo yakho kwiimvakalelo. Zama ukungacingi nantoni na ukuba unako.

Kunokukunceda ukuzisusa kwimeko kangangemizuzu embalwa ukuba kunokwenzeka. Kumzekelo wethu, vele ushiye ikomityi yekofu, ungene kwelinye igumbi, jonga ngefestile ilizwe elijikayo.

Ukuba awukwazi susa ingqondo yakho kuloo nto oko kukubangela ukuba uzame ukunciphisa indlela oziva ngayo ngokutshintsha izinto ozithethileyo.

3. Endaweni yokuthetha ongathethanga endaweni yokuthetha okuhle, okona kulungileyo.

Iimvakalelo ezingalunganga kufuneka zisiwe ngokuhambelana nenyani. Umntu akasosidenge ngokwaphula ngengozi ikomityi yekofu. Iingozi zenzeka! Iikomityi zekofu ziyehliswe! Ayisiyonto inkulu kuba yindebe yekofu nje.

Olu luhlobo lweengcinga ofuna ukuzikhuthaza kwaye zikhule.

Akudingeki ukuba ube nethemba lokukhohlisa malunga nalo. Ukuba injongo yakho enkulu ayiphumelelanga kuba khange yenzeke, ayilotyala lakho elo. Ayisiyonto intle nokuba, nangona. Yinto eyenzekileyo ekufuneka ujongane nayo ngoku.

Ukulindela ubuxoki kunokuba yingozi kuba kunzima ukukholelwa, kusenza ukuba kube nzima ukuzika kwaye ube ngumkhwa.

4. Qinisa ezi ngcinga zintle ngobubele obuqhelekileyo kuwe.

Ayizizo zonke izinto ezithethayo ezimbi ezivela kwimeko yeemvakalelo kwangoko. Ngamanye amaxesha, kuvela kwindlela oqhelene ngayo kunye nokucinga ngawe.

Masithi uhlala ucinga izinto ezimbi ngawe. Kwimeko apho, kulula kakhulu ukuba ungene kumkhwa wokuzibetha ngenxa yokuba unokuziva ngathi awulunganga ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungafanelwa ngcono.

Khangela iingcamango ezingalunganga, iipateni kunye neembono malunga nawe ohlangabezana nazo ngokubanzi. Ngaba ezi zinto zinokuchatshazelwa kwaye zitshintshwe? Ungazitshintsha njani ezi zinto zingalunganga kwaye zibe zezokwenyani kuwe?

5. Bhekisa kwakhona iimpazamo nokusilela njengamathuba.

Bambalwa abantu abaxabisekileyo abaye baphumelela kwimizamo yabo yokuqala. Uninzi lwabantu bonke luqala ezantsi kwaye kufuneka bazakhe. Oko kuhlala kuza neempazamo kunye nokusilela. Sithethile ngeempazamo, kodwa ukusilela ngomnye umxholo ekufuneka uchukunyiswe kuwo.

Akuziva kulungile ukusilela. Okanye ngaba kunokwenzeka? Ukusilela kunokujongwa njengesiphelo esomeleleyo nesichazayo, okanye kunokujongwa njengethuba lokujikeleza kwaye uqhubeke nokuhamba.

Inxalenye yokusilela kukufunda malunga nokungasebenzi kwisicwangciso sakho, nokuba kunjani na. Ungabuthatha obu bulumko usebenze nzima, ubuyele kwibhodi yokuzoba, kwaye wenze iyelenqe lekhosi entsha eya phambili ukuba uyafuna nyhani.

Ukujonga ukusilela ngaloo ndlela kwenza kube lula kakhulu ukumelana nazo xa izinto zingasebenzi. Ayisiyonto yokoyikwa okanye ukukhathazeka ngaphezulu. Ukusilela kwenzeka kuye wonke umntu kwaye kuya kuba lundwendwe rhoqo kwindlela yakho eya empumelelweni. Amandla akho avela kukhetho lwendlela yokusebenzisa ukusilela.

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6. Hleka imeko.

Uburharha bunokuba yinto enkulu yokuthintela uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo. Izifundo ezahlukileyo zomthi ichazwe ngokweenkcukacha yiPsychology namhlanje ibonakalisile ukuba uburharha buphazamisa uxinzelelo xa isetyenziswe ngokuchanekileyo.

Ithetha ukuthini 'ngokuchanekileyo'? Ewe, oko kuthetha ukubona icala elihlekisayo lemeko kwaye nokuzihlekisa ngendlela elula yentliziyo. Oku kwaziwa njengehlazo lokuziphucula.

Makhe sibuyele kulaa imagi yekhofi ilahlekileyo- usenokuthi okanye ucinge into enje, 'Qaphela ngokwakho, thenga imagi ebhabha kwixesha elizayo!' okanye, 'andinakuze ndiyenze njenge-circus juggler, kodwa i-clown kwelinye icala…'

Mhlawumbi kunjalo ukujongana nokwaliwa rhoqo yemisebenzi oyicelileyo. Endaweni yokujolisa kwindlela ocinga ukuba awusebenzi ngayo, hleka uthi, 'Kulungile, ixesha elingakumbi lokuzilolonga kwizakhono zam njengomgxeki weTV.'

Okanye ukuba ulwalamano lwakho alusebenzi ngenxa yaso nasiphi na isizathu, usenokuthi, 'Intlanzi ezininzi elwandle, nangona ndicinga ukuba bendisebenzisa isithiyelo esingalunganga!'

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Olunye uphononongo ibonise ukuba abantu abahlala besebenzisa uburharha kunokwenzeka ukuba babandakanyeke kuvavanyo oluqinisekileyo- leyo yindlela ekrelekrele yokuthi babona izinto ngokwahlukileyo kwaye bajonge izinto zesilivere. Oku kunxibelelana nenqaku langaphambili malunga nokuphinda wenze iimpazamo kunye nokusilela.

Yeka ngokucacileyo ukuhlekisa okuzihlaselayo, nangona kunjalo, kukuhle ukuzibetha kodwa uzama ukuhlekisa ngayo. Iya kukwenza uzive umbi ngesiqu sakho ukuba sele uziva uphantsi.

7. Ngomonde sebenzela ukutshintsha loo ncoko yangaphakathi.

Inkqubo yokutshintsha incoko yakho yangaphakathi ayizukuba lula. Usenokude ufumanise ukuba kunzima ukuba ukholelwe kwimiyalezo enovelwano ngakumbi ozinika yona.

Kuya kuthatha ixesha lokuba le ibe ngumkhwa omtsha onokuzithuthuzela kuyo.Kuyinto ekuya kufuneka uzilolonge kuyo rhoqo, utyibilike kwaye umoshe, kwaye emva koko uthathe isigqibo sokuqhubeka nokuzama. Okukhona uyenza, kokukhona kuya kuba lula ukuyifumana.

Olu hlobo lohlengahlengiso lunceda isikimu esikhulu sezinto, kodwa ayizukulungisa imiba esembindini ethe yatsala ingqondo yakho kwelo cala. Abantu abanobuntwana obuhlukumezayo okanye abasindayo kubundlobongela basekhaya bahlala befuna iingcali zempilo yengqondo ukuze zivale loo manxeba kwaye zibapholise. Musa ukuthandabuza ukufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha ukuba unengxaki yokutshintsha loo ncoko yangaphakathi.

Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba kutheni uzibetha ngokwakho okanye uyeke njani? Thetha nomcebisi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukunxibelelana nenye.

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