Uhambo lokuziva unetyala luyothusa ngendlela emangalisayo.
Zezinye zeendlela ezifihlakeleyo neziyingozi abantu abazama ukukhohlisa abanye ngazo.
… Kwaye okulusizi kukuba, banokusebenza kakuhle.
Ngethamsanqa, kukho indlela elula yokubanqanda ukuba ingenzeki.
Funda ukuze ufunde indlela yokuqonda olu hlobo lokuxhaphaza, kunye nendlela yokuyeka.
kutheni abantu bekhohlakele kangaka
Ulujonga njani uhambo olunetyala.
Ngokuqinisekileyo ube kwisiphelo sokufumana uhambo lwetyala ngaxa lithile ebomini bakho.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, yenye yezona ndlela zisebenzayo zokukhohlisa omnye umntu ukuba enze into, kwaye isetyenziswe ngabazali, amaqabane, abantu osebenza nabo kunye nabahlobo ukusukela ekuqaleni kwexesha.
Ukuba kukho umntu ozamile ukwenza ukuba wenze into awufuni ukwenza (okanye into abafuna uyenze ngaphandle kwento yokuba ikwenza ungonwabi) ngokuzama ukuba uzive ungalunganga, luhambo lokuziva unetyala olo.
Ngapha koko, baya kuthabatha into abayaziyo ukuba iya kukucaphukisa okanye ibangele ixhala okanye isazela kumzamo wokuguqula indlela oziphethe ngayo, okanye unyanzele ukuthanda kwabo ngandlela thile.
Imizekelo inokuba zizinto ezinje:
Ndenzele. Ndikwenzele kakhulu, andicingi ukuba ndicela kakhulu ukuba undenzele le nto incinci. '
Okanye, ukuba uzama ukwala:
'Ndiyakukhumbula oku, ke kwixesha elizayo xa undicela ukuba ndikwenzele into, ndiza kube ndixakekile.'
Ewe, olo hlobo lwento.
Zihlala zikhatshwa kukuncwina okujulisayo, okuqaqanjisiweyo, kunye nezinye ezahlukeneyo Ukuba nomsindo amakishayo bade bafumane le nto bayifunayo.
Kwaye baya kuzama ukuziva benetyala ngokuthatha ixesha elide ukuyilungisa.
Zimbi ngokwenene, zinemigca emininzi, kwaye azidingeki kwaphela.
Ngokudabukisayo, zihlala zisetyenziswa ngabo basondeleyo kuthi, nto leyo ebenza badeleke nangakumbi.
Kutheni uhambo lokuziva unetyala lusebenza kangaka.
Abo basondeleyo kuthi bayazi kakuhle ukuba yintoni isenzakalisa kakhulu kwaye iyasoyikisa.
Umzekelo, uninzi lwabantu lusondele kakhulu kubazali babo kwaye banokuba lusizi kakhulu xa beswelekile.
Umzali omdala onobuqhetseba unokusebenzisa ityala ukufumana into abayifunayo ngokuthi ukuba basweleke ngesiquphe kwaye awuyenzanga into abayifunayo, kuyakufuneka uphile naloo tyala ubomi bakho bonke.
Ndakhe ndazi umzali ongatshatanga owaqhathwa ukuba avumele umama wakhe owalupheleyo ukuba alale egumbini lomntwana wakhe, ngaphandle kwento yokuba kwamenza ukuba yena nentombi yakhe bangakhululeki.
Ngoba? Kuba umama wakhe wayemdala kwaye egula, kwaye wanyanzelisa ukuba ukuba abamvumeli ukuba enze le nto ayifunayo, bayakuthimba umfazi ofayo lolona lonwabo lokwenyani ebomini, kwaye bazoyiva loo nto emva kokuba umkile.
Ngokukrakra.
Ewe kuyasebenza, kuba nangona wayekhohlakele, babemthanda.
Kananjalo, babesazi ukuba uyaphela ngasekupheleni kobomi bakhe, kwaye bafuna ukumenza iminyaka yakhe yokugqibela ukuba ikhululeke kwaye yonwabe kangangoko.
Kwaye wayeyazi, kwaye wayisenga ngayo yonke into eyayifanele, ngazo zonke iindlela onokucinga ngazo.
Nokuba loluphi na uhambo lokuziva unetyala - nokuba ngubani umenzi wobubi - umyalezo osisiseko uya kuba: 'Ukuba awuvumi ukwenza le nto ndiyifunayo, izinto ezimbi zinokwenzeka, kwaye uyakuva ukuba ziyenzeka.'
Ungamisa njani umntu kwityala lokukukhubekisa.
Njengoko unokuthelekelela, kunzima kakhulu ukunqanda olu hlobo lomjikelo ekubeni luqhubeke, kodwa kunokwenzeka.
Akumnandanga, kwaye ngendlela elula, mnye kuphela umntu onokungenelela xa kufikwa kuhambo lokuziva unetyala.
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Ngaba unokuqikelela ukuba ngubani?
Ewe. Wena.
Ukuba uqhelene nebinzana 'Akukho mntu unokukwenza uzive uhlaziwe ngaphandle kwemvume yakho,' unokuqiniseka ukuba kuyafana nokukhubeka kwetyala:
Uhambo lokuziva unetyala lusebenza kuphela ukuba uyabavumela.
Vumela oko kungene umzuzwana.
Ungaziva unenzondo enkulu ngomnye umntu 'ekukwenze' uzive unetyala malunga nento ukuze bakwazi ukukusebenzisa wenze into abayifunayo ...
… Kodwa abanako okunene yenza wenza nantoni na ngokuchasene nentando yakho.
Ukuba awudlali kunye kwaye uyivumele ichaphazele, olo hambo lokuziva unetyala alunamandla.
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Indlela yokuphendula kuhambo lwetyala.
Isitshixo sokusombulula lo mbandela silula kakhulu:
Yeka ukunika i-sh * t. Kwaye ubabizele kwezabo.
Ngokukrakra. Oko kokoqobo kuyenzeka.
Baqonde isimilo sabo sobuntwana, sokuhlekisa ngento eyiyo, kwaye sukuyivumela ukuba ikuchaphazele.
Ngapha koko, nangaliphi na ixesha baqala ukukukhalela kuba ngekhe wenze le nto bayifunayo, mfanekiso-ngqondweni wabo njengabatata abancinci abaziphetheyo.
Yima phantsi , kwaye yenze icace kubo ukuba indlela abaziphethe ngayo ayamkelekanga.
Unokubazisa ukuba uyayiqonda into yokuba kubalulekile kubo ukuba wenze le nto bafuna ukuyenza, kodwa indlela yabo ayisebenzi-ukubeka njengokuqinisekisa ukuba ayizukwenzeka.
Ukuba bangathanda ukuba wenze le nto, kufuneka bafunde indlela yokukubuza ngentlonipho nangentlonipho.
Ukuba awufuni ukwenza into, yithi:
“Ndiyabona ukuba ibaluleke kangakanani le nto kuwe, kodwa ayisiyiyo into endinqwenela ukuyenza, kangangokuba ingakucaphukisa, andizukuyenza. Yiyo ke leyo. ”
Ukuba nje iindlela zabo zokukhubekisa ityala zikwenza ufune ukuxhathisa, yitsho into ngeendlela:
“Mamela, kangangoko ufuna ukuba ndiyenze, le ndlela uyihambayo ayizukusebenza. Andiyi kuba netyala lokukhubeka kuyo. Ndibuze njengomntu omdala ukuze ndikuphathe njengam. ”
Kodwa njalo…
Zilungiselele ukuwa kakubi.
Ukuma umhlaba wakho akuyi kuba lula: umntu obekhe wakubekekisa ityala akunakulindeleka ukuba atshintshe iindlela zakhe nangaliphi na ixesha kungekudala.
Ngapha koko, baya kuphuma baye ngaphandle kwaye baphindaphinde imizamo yabo yokukubuyisela emgceni.
Oku kunokubandakanya nantoni na ukusuka ukungathethi cwaka Ukuhlukumeza ngamazwi ngento oyikisayo, nokuzingca.
Banokuzama nokuzama yityhefu abahlobo kunye namalungu osapho ngokuchasene nawe , udlala ixhoba kwaye uqhubeka malunga nendlela ongabahoyi ngayo, obaphatha gadalala, okanye ngenye indlela ongafuniyo 'ukunceda'.
Abanye banokude bade bazenzakalise ngabom ukuze baqinisekise ubungqina babo.
Umzekelo woku ingangumzali osele ekhulile aziphosa ezinyukweni kuba uphume ngoLwesihlanu ebusuku wabashiya bodwa, endaweni yokuhlala ekhaya ubukele umabonwakude nabo ngendlela abafuna ngayo.
Ngethamsanqa, olu hlobo lwenyathelo olunamandla lunokulingana namanyathelo alinganayo.
Ukuba, ukusebenzisa lo mzekelo ungasentla, umzali okanye iqabane lakho liyazenzakalisa ngeenzame zokukukhohlisa, uhambo oluya kwigumbi labagula ngengqondo lunokuba lolulungileyo.
Oko kungavakala kugabadele, kodwa ukubanakho “ukuvalelwa” isenokuba yeyona nto bayifunayo ukubakhupha kolu hlobo lokuziphatha.
Uvavanyo lwengqondo lunokuba luncedo kakhulu kubo, ukuba luchonga ukungalingani kwemichiza okunokunyangwa ngonyango kunye / okanye ngamayeza.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, kuya kubakho isiphumo esihle.
Ekugqibeleni.
Yazi ukuba ukutshintsha kwemikhwa kuzothatha ixesha.
Ukuba umntu ojongana naye wakhuliswa ngabazali abakhubekisayo abanetyala kunye / okanye ootatomkhulu, baya kuthi balufunde olu hlobo lokuziphatha kwasekuqaleni.
Ngenxa yoko, iintshukumo zabo ziya kubetheleleka kwaye ziya kufuna ixesha- kunye nokuphindaphinda- ukutshintsha.
Ukuba kwaye xa bezama ukubeka uhambo lwetyala kuwe kwakhona, bayeke kwaye ubalathise.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, baya kuyikhanyela kakhulu, okanye bayiguqule kwaye bazame ukukukhanyisa ngegesi kwaye bathi utolika indlela abaziphethe ngayo. Kodwa sukubavumela ukuba babaleke nayo.
wazi njani ukuba uyasetyenziswa kwakhona
Yenze kakhulu Cacisa kubo ukuba ukuqhubeka nokusondela kwizicelo unetyala kunye nokukhohlisa kuya kubangela ingqumbo, kunye nomgama.
Ngokusisiseko, ukuba bayayigcina, baya kutshabalalisa nabuphi na ubudlelwane abanabo nawe.
Misela isidingo sokuba ndikucele ukuba wenze izinto ngokuthe ngqo Ukwamkela kananjalo ukungabinakho ukuthobela, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile.
Oku kunokuba yiyo nayiphi na into ekubeni sele unezinye izicwangciso, ukungafuni ukwenza into ngezizathu zakho.
Kwaye kulungile.
Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi abantu abaninzi abayiqondi into yokuba abanye abakho ngenxa yenzuzo yabo, ngexesha labo!
Oko akuthethi ukuba kulungile ukuba bangcungcuthekise okanye bakuqhubele ekubeni benze le nto bafuna ukuyenza, nanini na befuna.
Lumka iilebhile.
Ngoku, kukho enye into ekufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo, kwaye nokuba ingaba ubona into njengohambo lokuziva unetyala xa bekungacwangciswanga njengenye.
Abantu zizinto ezintsonkothileyo ngokumangalisayo, kwaye Unxibelelwano lomlomo lungahlala luphosa uphawu.
Oko umntu omnye kuthetha ayisiyiyo le nto ibonwa ngomnye.
Ukuba umntu une-hypersensitive to a criticism, umzekelo, nayiphi na into ayithethileyo inokuthi ihlaselwe ngendlela engeyiyo, xa bekungacetywanga njalo kwaphela.
Kwangokunjalo, umntu unokucela ngokunyanisekileyo uncedo lwakho ngento ethile ngendlela otolike ukuba unetyala-unetyala, kodwa ibingeyondlela ebebeyithetha ngayo.
Yiyo loo nto unxibelelwano olucacileyo lubaluleke kangaka.
Zama ukungazikhuseli okanye uphikise , kodwa thetha nalo mntu ngokucacileyo kwaye uchaze ukuba ithoni yabo iza njani kuwe.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukujongana nalo naluphi na uhlobo lokungqubana okanye ukungqubana kungangonwabi, kodwa ikwayindlela kuphela yokufunda ngeendlela zomntu zonxibelelwano.
Kwaye oko kukhokelela ekubeni sempilweni ngakumbi, ubudlelwane obuqinileyo ekuhambeni kwexesha.
