Ukuze ufunde okungakumbi malunga Ngaphandle koNxibelelwano Inkqubo njengoko kuxoxiwe kwividiyo engentla nakwinqaku elingezantsi, Cofa apha.
Ukufunda ukunxibelelana kwaye uzive ukhuselekile ukuvakalisa iimfuno kunye neemfuno zakho ziindawo ezimbini ekuvuseleleni ukuxhatshazwa okuthatha ngokuzinikela nokuzilolonga.
Ngokubanzi, xa ixhoba lokuxhatshazwa ngokuxhaphaza lenza ubudlelwane obutsha, nokuba lolothando okanye ngenye indlela, bahlala beziva bekhubazekile ziingcinga zokuba novakalelo kakhulu okanye ukuphendula.
Oku kuhlala kukhokelela ekutshayeleni izinto phantsi kombhoxo kunye nokufunda - kwakhona - ukubeka iimfuno zakho, yiyo le nto ubudlelwane bangaphambili kunye narcissist bunyanzelisa ukuba wenze.
Xa kuziwa ekwakheni imikhwa emitsha kubudlelwane obutsha, uloyiko lonxibelelwano kunye nokuzichaza kuhlala ziimpawu zokulahleka kwesazisi kunye ne-C-PTSD, zombini ezibandakanya impendulo emiselweyo yokugcina iingcinga kunye nezimvo zakho kuwe.
Ngaphambi kokuba singene, kubalulekile ukuba wazi izinto ezinokubangela ukuba ungene nayiphi na ubudlelwane obutsha emva kokuphathwa gadalala. Kungenxa yokuba ezo zinto zinokubangela ukuba ungabinanto yokwenza nawe kunye nokunye okunokwenza nokuba ungajongana nomnye umphathi.
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Rhoqo, abantu baziva ngokungathi bayangenelwa, ngamanye amaxesha, bayachukunyiswa ngenxa yokuba bajongana nomnye umntu oziphethe kakubi. Kodwa, kuba bafundile ukungahoyi intuition yabo, oku akuveli njengeflegi ebomvu kubo.
Kodwa ngenxa yeli nqaku, ndiququzelele le miqobo mibini, ukulahleka kwesazisi kunye ne-C-PTSD, ngokwamacandelo amabini ukufezekisa injongo enye: Funda indlela yokufumana unxibelelwano olusempilweni emva kobudlelwane bobuchwephesha.
Makhe siye ngaphaya kwesithintelo ngasinye kwaye senze ntoni.
1. Ukuphulukana nesazisi emva kokuxhatshazwa
Ukuphulukana nesazisi akunakuphepheka emva kokuba kubudlelwane obuxhaphazayo ngokweemvakalelo kunye nolwalamano olukhohlisayo.
Abantu bahlala bethelekisa ukuhlala nomntu owenza i-narcissist kunye nokuhlala kwihlelo-kodwa nangokwahlukaniswa okungakumbi.
indlela yokujongana nembambano yabantakwenu kubantu abadala
Kwihlelo elithile, unamaqabane akho abelana ngamava afanayo okuhlukumeza. Ngokusetyenziswa gadalala, nangona kunjalo, uwedwa kwaphela.
Njengokuhlala kwihlelo, kunzima ukuqonda uluhlu olupheleleyo lokulahleka kwesazisi de emva kokuba ushiye ubudlelwane obunetyhefu ngokulungileyo.
Ulawulo lwe-narcissist kwiingcinga zabo ekujolise kuzo ngamanye amaxesha zinobuqili, zinzima, kwaye zingene nzulu kangangokuba ixhoba lisokola ukulawula ubomi ngokwalo emva kokuba liqalisile ukuchacha.
Ndibeke ndawonye imizekelo yengxaki yesazisi ukukunceda ufumanise ukuba uhlangabezana nelahleko yesazisi ukuze uqale ukuzikhupha.
Indlela abaNarcissist abenza ngayo ilahleko yesazisi ukuze bakulawule kwaye bakulawule
Ke, ungawuchaza njani umahluko phakathi kwempembelelo esempilweni kunye nokusebenza kwengqondo? Ewe, akuqhelekanga ngokucacileyo.
AmaNarcissist awafuni ukuba ucinge ngokwakho , bafuna ukuba ucinge ukwenzela bona .
I-narcissist inezixhobo ezininzi kwibhokisi yazo yezixhobo ukufezekisa le njongo.
-Ukudibanisa umothuko: I-Rollercoasters yokulwa okungapheliyo (uhlala ungumntu ombi, ewe) kunye nexesha elidlulayo lemfesane yokufakelwa ukuze uqinise ibhondi esekwe kukuphazamiseka. Ngaphandle koxanduva olunjengabantwana kunye namatyala, la maxesha mafutshane okubonakala ngathi luthando kuko okukuthintelayo ukuba ungashiyi.
Uvelwano lokuqonda: Ukuvelana ngokungathandabuzekiyo kunye nawe ngenjongo yokulawula iingcinga zakho. Oluvelwano ngaphandle kwemfesane luyimfuneko yokungcungcuthekiswa. (Funda inqaku elipheleleyo ngoku: Ikukhathaza njani iNarcissist ekusebenziseni uvelwano ngengqondo )
Ukubeka ityala kunye nokungaxabiseki: Xa uzama ukubeka uluvo-nakwizinto ezinobungozi njengempahla-uyaphosisa. Kwaye nokuba awuphazami, isenzo nje sokuba nembono siyakucaphukisa i-narcissist. Oku kukhokelela ekubeni ukholelwe ukuba iingcinga zakho ziphosakele kwaye kuya kufuneka umamele i-narcissist ukuze ikukhokele.
Ukulahleka ngokupheleleyo kwesazisi akwenzeki ngobusuku obunye. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha, i-narcissist ngokuthe ngcembe isebenzisa la maqhinga ukuze icothe kancinci kude ekuziboneni kwakho kunye nehlabathi elikungqongileyo.
7 Isazisi seNtlekele yeMpawu ezibonisa ukuba Unengxaki yokuPhulukana neZazisi ezandleni zeNarcissist
I-narcissist iya kwenza konke okusemandleni ukuze isuse zonke izimvo, zonke iimbono, zonke iingcinga onazo de ube ufikelele kwilahleko epheleleyo yesazisi. Uba lulwandiso lwazo.
Ezi mpawu zengxaki yesazisi zinokukunceda uchonge ukuba ujongene nelahleko yesazisi ezandleni zenarcissist.
- Wena kunzima ukuthetha ngawe ngaphandle kweelebheli ezingasetyenziswanga ezisetyenziswe kuwe ngumnxibelelanisi.
- Uziva ngathi ubomi bakho abunanjongo yokwenyani okanye inkuthazo - kodwa awukholwa ukuba uzifanele izinto ezinjalo.
- Ngaphambi kokwenza nasiphi na isigqibo, uyazibuza ukuba uthini umhambisi okanye ufuna ukuba utsho.
- Wena uzive usoyika okanye ungakhululekanga xa ungekho ukusuka kwi-narcissist-ungathini xa usenza okanye uthetha into gwenxa ?
- Uziva ngathi unjalo uhlala kwi-autopilot . Ube ngumntu nje ongaboniyo ebomini bakho.
- Awucingi ngesiqu sakho njengo itshintshiwe umntu kodwa ngokwenyani ngokupheleleyo umntu owahlukileyo. Wena ungamazi umntu owawunguye kwaye ungaziva uneentloni ngesiqu sakho sakudala.
- Wena jolisa kakhulu kwinkangeleko yakho kuba i-narcissist iyakunyanzela okanye yeyona ndawo ibambekayo kuwe onokuyazi ukuba ikhona ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo.
Ezi mpawu azikho uluhlu olupheleleyo lwemizekelo yelahleko yesazisi, kodwa kuya kufuneka ikunike umbono olungileyo ukuba unesifo kuyo.
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Ukuba ufumana naziphi na iimpawu zobunzima besazisi, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba isenzo esiphefumlelweyo kuphela kwendlela yokufumana isazisi esilahlekileyo.
Ngoku, makhe sixoxe ngendlela i-C-PTSD enokubangela ngayo iingxaki ngonxibelelwano olusebenzayo kunye nokufumana iimfuno zakho zeemvakalelo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Indlela yeGrey Rock yokujongana ne-Narcissist xa kungekho nxu lumano ayisiyiyo inketho
- Iikhonkco ezi-5 ezisetyenziswa ngabaNarcissist ukukugcina ubuya kwakhona
- AbaLwimi beeNarcissist basebenzise ukuGweba kunye nokuKhathaza amaxhoba abo
- Ukukhanyisa ngegesi: Imizekelo engama-22 yale nkqubo yokulawula ngobundlobongela. Ck
- Iimpawu ze-6 oJongene ne-Narcissist eModareyitha (kodwa ke uyiNarcissist)
- Indlela yokujongana neNarcissist: Ekuphela kwendlela eQinisekisiweyo yokuSebenza
2. IC-PTSD
Amaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala ngokubanzi ashiya ubudlelwane bawo obuyityhefu kunye ne-C-PTSD. Esi sichazi simele iComplex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder kwaye sikwabizwa ngokuba yiNarcissistic Abuse Syndrome.
Ngelixa iziphumo ze-PTSD zokufumana isiganeko esixhalabisayo, iziphumo ze-C-PTSD ezivela kukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuqhubekayo kwindawo apho ixhoba likholelwa ukuba akukho ndlela yokubaleka. Kukho uluvo olubonwayo lokungancedi kwaye umntu azive ebhujiswa ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Masithi uJudy usebudlelwaneni neNarcissist. Ngenxa yokugeza ingqondo, ukuqhekeka kwabahlobo bakhe, kunye nokusoloko ethukwa, ngoku ukholelwa ukuba akanaxabiso kwaye akekho omnye umntu oya kuba nomdla kuye.
Ukongeza, amatyeli amabini okugqibela azama ukuhamba, waxwilwa, wakhathazwa, kwaye woyikiswa de wabuya. Engqondweni yakhe, akukho ndlela yokubaleka. Ujongene neC-PTSD.
Ukushiya kunganyangwa, i-C-PTSD inokukhokelela kwezinye iimpawu kunye neemeko ezichaphazela zonke iindawo zobomi. Oku kubandakanya:
- Ukungakwazi ukumelana noxinzelelo
- Ukuphazamiseka kwindlela yokutya
- Iziyobisi notywala
- Ulwalamano olonakeleyo nabanye
- Isimo esibi ngobomi
- Uxinzelelo
- Ukuzithemba Okusisiqhwala
- Uloyiko luba yimeko yesiseko seemvakalelo zakho
- Ukuphulukana nomsebenzi kunye nokuphulukana nomnqweno wokuvelisa
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Kanye njengokuba i-narcissist icothisa isazisi sakho kancinci, ukuphilisa umfanekiso wakho kunye nokubuyisela izakhono zakho zonxibelelwano yinkqubo ecothayo kwaye eqhubekayo. Faka la manqaku kwisicwangciso sakho sokuphilisa ukulahleka kwesazisi.
Ungqongwe ngabantu abaxhasayo.
Buyela ebantwini i-narcissist inyanzelise ukuba utyhale kude-baya kukuqonda. Uninzi luya kuqinisekisa amava akho kwaye ungafumana iimpawu zabo ezintle ngendlela esempilweni.
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Yenza into i-narcissist ehlala isithi awungekhe.
Mhlawumbi oku kukuzonwabisa, ikhondo lomsebenzi, okanye into okhe wafuna ukuyifumana. Yenza into kuba umntwana wakho ongaphakathi efuna ukuphuma.
I-narcissist ikubambe umva ixesha elide. Lixesha lokuba uphile ngokwemigaqo yakho. Qiniseka nje ukuba ungenzi ngaphandle kokuphamba.
Hamba kancinci.
Ekuqaleni, kunokuba nzima ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu kwaye uzenzele izigqibo. Kulungile ukuba ungazi yonke into ngawe okwangoku. Yonke le yinxalenye yokunyanga ekulahlekelweni sisazisi.
Ukuba ushukuma ngokukhawuleza okukhulu, unokuphelela kwenye imeko enetyhefu okanye ujike kwizixhobo zokukopisha ezingenampilo.
Beka imida kwaye ume umhlaba wakho.
Baninzi abantu ababaphethe kakubi abanye abantu phaya. Kubalulekile ukuba wazi apho imida yakho ilele khona kwaye unamathele kuyo.
Uya kuwuzobela phi umgca phakathi kobudlelwane obusempilweni kunye nokulahleka kwesazisi sakho? Kuthekani ngokuqonda phakathi kwengcebiso eyakhayo kunye nokugxeka gadalala?
Joyina inkqubo yokwakha kwakhona isazisi sakho.
Ukwakha kwakhona ubomi bakho kunye nobuntu bakho bangaphakathi emva kokuphathwa gadalala kunokuziva kunzima kwaye koyikeka. Kodwa akufuneki kubenjalo.
Ngaphandle koNxibelelwano yinkqubo yenyathelo ngenyathelo kunye noluntu apho uya kufunda khona ngokunyanga okusebenzayo kunye neendlela ezintsha zobomi, ukuze uqalise ukuphila ubomi obufanele ukuba uphile, kwaye uphinde ubenakho ukunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo.
Xa ekugqibeleni uye 'unganxibelelani' kwaye uzisuse ekuxhatshazweni yi-narcissist, uya kuziva ungonwabanga.
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I-narcissist ikusebenzise ekuxhomekekeni kubo, kwiimvakalelo, nakwimpilo-ntle yabo kangangexesha elide kangangokuba ukuphilisa imbonakalo yakho kuya kuziva ngathi kukuzingca kwaye akuqhelekanga.
Ayiyo. Ukuphiliswa kwilahleko yesazisi kunokwenzeka kwaye kunyanzelekile ukuba uzikhulule kwi-narcissist kube kanye.
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