Nokuba usandula ukudityaniswa okanye kubudlelwane bexesha elide obufuna isikhuthazi, nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezilungileyo ngendlela yokwakha, kunye nokugcina, ukuthembana neqabane lakho.
Ezi zizinto onokuqala ukuzenza nokuzikhuthaza kuzo, okanye izimvo onokuthi usebenze kunye.
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Fumana ukuba yeyiphi esebenzayo kuwe kwaye unamathele kuyo! Ukuthembela malunga nokuzinza okuzinzileyo, kwexesha elide, ke qiniseka ukuba ukuyo ngenxa yokutsala ixesha elide.
1. Sebenza kwiindlela zakho zonxibelelwano.
Unxibelelwano yeyona ndlela iphambili yokwakha ukuthembana kubudlelwane bakho.
Oko kuthetha ukufumana isimbo kunye nendlela yonxibelelwano esebenza kuni nobabini, kwaye emva koko ukufumana iindlela zokugcina nokuhlonipha oko.
Ukunxibelelana kudlulela ngaphaya kokukwazi ukuba nencoko okanye ingxoxo- imalunga nokwazisa iqabane lakho ukuba uziva njani ngokwenyani (ngakumbi koku kungezantsi!), Ukuchaza into oyifunayo noyifunayo kubo, ubahloniphe ungazibonakalisi, Ukuseta kunye nokulandela imida (kwakhona, ngaphezulu koku kamva!).
Umsebenzi wokuthembela:
Khululeka xa unxibelelana. Le nto ilula ngokulula, ithiyori, kodwa inokuziva ngathi ingumceli mngeni ukuba yindawo apho wena okanye iqabane lakho nisokolise ngaphambili.
Ziqhelise ukuveza iimfuno zakho, nokuba kukufumana uthando ngakumbi kwiqabane lakho, okanye ukuseka imida ethile ukuze ukonwabele ixesha lakho wedwa.
Oku kunokubandakanya ukuthetha into enje:
'Ndibe nosuku olubi kwaye ndingathanda ukugonwa ukuba uyakwazi ukundinika,'
okanye,
'Ndiyakuthanda, kodwa ndifuna indawo, ngoko ke ndiza kwenza i-yoga ndedwa ngokuhlwanje.'
Le ndlela yokunxibelelana ilungile - ayibeki tyala kwiqabane lakho, ngenxa yoko akunakulindeleka ukuba bazive belahliwe okanye benoxanduva kwimood yakho, kwaye ikubonisa useta imida yakho kwaye ubuza into oyifunayo.
Kodwa unxibelelwano lukwangokuva into ethethwa ngomnye umntu, ke sebenzisa ukumamela-ukumamela nyani-oko iqabane lakho lizama ukuwela. Musa ukuphazamisa, ungazami ukugqiba iingcinga zabo kubo - mamela nje.
Oku kuyakwakha ukuthembana kubudlelwane bakho kuba nobabini niza kuziva nikwazi ukuveza izimvo zenu kwaye niyazi ukuba niyamanyelwa. Luphawu lwentlonipho, kwaye imbeko sesinye seziseko zokuthenjwa.
2. Ziqhelise ukunyaniseka.
Mhlawumbi ubunokuyiqikelela le, kodwa ukuba uhlala uvulekile malunga nendlela oziva ngayo, iqabane lakho alisoze libenalo ithuba lokuzibuza ukuba uziva njani okanye kwenzeka ntoni engqondweni yakho.
Okukhona uvulekileyo, rhoqo, kuncinci imfuno abanayo yokuthandabuza okanye ukubuza ukuba unyaniseke kangakanani malunga nezinto ezinkulu.
Oku kuya kunceda ukwakha ukuthembana kweqabane lakho kwinto oyithethayo, kunye nendlela owenza ngayo izinto. Kuya kulususa ixhala labo malunga nokuba bangakuthemba okanye hayi, kuba baya kwazi ukuba uthetha inyani.
Oku kuyakukhuthaza iqabane lakho ukuba liziva likhululeke ngakumbi ukuveza ezabo iimvakalelo, kwaye kuya kuninceda nobabini nizithembe ngakumbi kubudlelwane.
Umsebenzi wokuthembela:
Qalisa encinci, kwaye uvule malunga nendlela oziva ngayo ngokunyanisekileyo malunga nento ephantsi ngokubhekisele kubudlelwane bakho.
Oko kuthetha ukuba, kunokuba uvume ngesiquphe ukuba uyabacaphukela abazali beqabane lakho, nyaniseka ngento ethile 'engabalulekanga kangako,' njengendlela okhetha ngayo xa bepheka ikheri endaweni yeetshilisi, umzekelo.
Ingabonakala ngathi iyabhanxa, kodwa iya kukunceda ukuba ukhululeke ngokuchaza iimvakalelo zakho zokwenyani.
Uya kuzithemba ngakumbi xa kufikwa kukunyaniseka, kwaye iqabane lakho liza kuqala likuqonde ukuba nguwe are unyanisekile malunga nendlela oziva ngayo.
Baza kukuqhela bathethe nje inyani, ukuze bangaziva sidingo sokukubuza malunga nezinto ezinkulu, xa zisiza.
3. Thobeka.
Xa usebudlelwaneni obutsha, ngakumbi, kunokuba kulinga kakhulu ukuphuma konke-kwaye ubonise umntu omthandayo ngendlela omangalisa ngayo.
Oku kunokubonakala ngathi ngumbono olungileyo, njengoko ufuna ukubonakala kakuhle, kodwa inokuphelela ekwenzeni omnye umntu azive engaqinisekanga okanye engaqinisekanga ngokwenzekayo.
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Banokuqala ukukhathazeka ukuba uqinisekile, awubadingi ebomini bakho, kwaye baya kuqala ukukhathazeka ngokwaliwa nguwe.
Ngelixa lineenjongo ezintle, ukuzithemba kwakho kunokuvela njengokuzigwagwisa okanye ukuzithemba kakhulu kwabo balwa nokuzithemba kwabo.
Umsebenzi wokuthembela:
Vumela ukuthobeka nomntu omthandayo. Yamkela loo nto, ngokuba nguwe, uzivulela ngokwala, kodwa nakunxibelelwano lokwenyani.
Zivumele ube sisidenge kwaye uhambe, kwaye uthethe malunga nezinto onomdla kuzo, nokuba ucinga ukuba unokubonwa njenge-geeky.
Oku kuyakubonisa umntu omthandayo, okanye iqabane lakho, ukuba unokuhleka ngeendleko zakho kwaye awukhathali yindlela abanye abantu abakubona ngayo.
Ingavakala ngathi iyothusa indlela yokwakha ukuthembana, kodwa iyasebenza! Okukhona bekubona ukuba ungubani kwaye bayaqonda ukuba ukhululekile kuwe, kokukhona baya kuziva ngathi banokukuthemba.
Ubungeke umthembe umntu obekhona naye ndinomtsalane, naye imbeko, naye uzilungisile emva kwayo yonke loo nto, akunjalo? Uya kuba nakho ukuthembela kumntu ohamba ujikeleza kwaye wahleka, kwaye wakwenza waziva ukhululekile kwaye uxabisekile.
4. Yiba neempazamo zakho.
Le yinto eniza kuyenza nobabini neqabane lakho, kodwa, ukuba nguwe ofunda le nto, kungafuneka ube ngumntu oza kufaka inzame ezingakumbi ekuqaleni ukuze ibhola iqengqeleke.
Inxalenye yokuba kubudlelwane obusempilweni, bokuthembana iyavuma xa ungalunganga.
Akudingeki ukuba ube yindlela yokuzithoba okanye yokufela ukholo, kodwa kufuneka uvume ngokuphandle xa wenze impazamo okanye ucaphukise iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Ngokwenza oku, uxelela iqabane lakho ukuba ulixabisile kwaye uyaliva. Ukulungele ukwamkela ukuba ubuphosakele, ngaphandle kwento enokuyenza kwikratshi lakho, ngenxa yokulunga okukhulu kunye nolwalamano lwakho.
Oku kubonisa iqabane lakho ukuba ubakhathalele, kwaye kuya kulinceda linxibelelane ngokukhululekileyo nawe. Ukuba bayazi ukuba uya kuxolisa, kwaye nincokole ngokukhululekileyo malunga ndiziva ndidanile okanye ukungcatshwa, baya kuzinikela ngakumbi ekwenzeni izinto zisebenze kunye nani, kwaye nobabini ninokuthembana ngakumbi.
Ukuba iqabane lakho zange lathi uxolo ngokukucaphukisa, ngekhe uzive uzithembile kubudlelwane kwaye ngekhe ufune ukubathemba ngentliziyo yakho.
Umsebenzi wokuthembela:
Qala ngokwamkela ukuba uziva njani umlingane wakho. Vavanya ukuba ingaba le yinto oyidlalileyo okanye ayikho kwenye into.
Kuvakala kusisiseko, kodwa ukugxila kwindlela yokuziphatha kweqabane lakho kuya kukunceda ukuba uhlakulele ulwazi olunzulu ngakumbi ngezinga leemvakalelo zabo, ngakumbi ukuba ulwalamano lutsha.
Yamkela ukuba ubenegalelo kwiimvakalelo zabo ezingakhiyo, ukuba kunjalo, kwaye ubazise.
'Ndiyaxolisa ngokwenza u-X kwaye ngokwenza ukuba uzive ngathi ngu-Y. Andizukuphinda ngoba andifuni ukukwenzakalisa.'
Into ehamba nale migca yindawo elungileyo ukuqala ukuba awuqinisekanga ngendlela yokunxibelelana ngolu hlobo lwento okwangoku.
Bazise ukuba uyayibona okanye uyayiva indlela abavakalelwa ngayo, uyayiqonda into oyenzileyo ebenegalelo kuyo, kwaye uya kwenza konke okusemandleni ukuphepha oku kungenzeki kwakhona.
Ukwenza oku ngokuhamba kwexesha kuya kubonisa iqabane lakho ukuba linokukuthemba, kuba bayazi ukuba uyazazi ngokwaneleyo ukuba ujonge indlela oziphethe ngayo.
Le ikwayindlela efihlakeleyo yokwazisa imida kubudlelwane bakho- kwakhona, kuhle ukuba khange nihlale kunye ixesha elide kakhulu.
Umzekelo, uxolisa ngokudlala ngothando nomnye umntu xa uqala ukuthandana ubabonisa ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ayilunganga - le nto ibenza bazive bezithembile ngoku ukuba uyayazi imida kunye nobubodwa bobudlelwane bakho. Kuqinisa ukuzibophelela kwakho kwiqabane lakho kwaye kukhokelela kubudlelwane obuphilileyo, bokuthembana.
Eyona nto iphambili apha kukuthetha ukuba uya kuzama ukungaphindi uyenze. Ukuba uphindaphinda ngokuchaseneyo nelizwi lakho kwaye uphinde iimpazamo ezifanayo, iya kuyenzakalisa intembeko yeqabane lakho kuwe ngendlela enkulu.
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5. Yiba sesichengeni.
Uninzi lwethu, ukuthembana kwakhiwa ngexesha elinzima. Yenziwa kwaye yomelezwa ngemiceli mngeni, kuba ngawo la maxesha esiqonda ngawo ukuba ngubani esinokuthembela kuye kwaye ngubani na onokusixhasa ngeendlela esifuna ukuxhaswa ngazo.
Ukuba ufuna ukwakha ukuthembana ngakumbi neqabane lakho, ungaqala ngokuba sesichengeni ngakumbi. Oko kuthetha ukubenza bakubone xa ukhathazekile, ubazise ukuba woyika ntoni, kwaye ubavumele ukuba beve iinkxalabo zakho kunye namaxhala.
Ingaziva yoyikisa kakhulu ekuqaleni, ngakumbi ukuba umtsha koku kubudlelwane. Kodwa kungekudala uza kukhululeka ngokuba ngokwakho phambi kweqabane lakho.
Kananjalo iyakubakhuthaza ukuba bayeke ukulinda ngakumbi kunye nawe, njengoko beyakuqonda indlela ekhululeka kwaye ekhuseleke ngayo.
Okukhona nisazi ukuba nobabini niyiyo, kokukhona kuya kubakho ukukhathazeka malunga- emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba nobabini ninyulu kwaye niyinyani, yintoni eseleyo yokufihla?
Umsebenzi wokuthembela:
Qala kancinci, njengalo lonke olu hlobo lomthambo. Endaweni yokuzibamba emva kosuku olubi emsebenzini, umzekelo, vulela iqabane lakho malunga nendlela oziva ngayo.
Ukuba unosuku oluxhalabileyo kwaye uziva urhoxile okanye ungenisile, zivumele ube sesichengeni phambi kweqabane lakho ngokubachazela ukuba zeziphi iimvakalelo ezenzayo kwimood yakho.
Okukhona usenokuyeka ukulinda kwakho kwaye ube ngokwakho (nokuba ulila okanye uxinezelekile okanye unomsindo!), Kokukhona uvumela iqabane lakho ukuba lazi ukuba ungubani.
Ukuba imiba yakho yokuthembela ivela kukoyika ukushiywa, lo msebenzi unganceda ngokwenene! Nje ukuba wazi ukuba iqabane lakho liyibonile yonke imiba yakho kwaye basakhetha ukuba nawe, uya kuziva uzithembile kubudlelwane njengoko ungabambezeli okanye ubonise uhlobo 'olungcono' lwakho. Uyazi ukuba balapha ngokwenyani, kwaye yile nto yenza ubudlelwane bugcwele ukuthembana nothando.
6. Hlonipha imida - eyakho neyabo!
Imida ibaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane bonke, kodwa ngakumbi kwezo kukho inkxalabo malunga nokuthembana.
Ukuba ufuna ukuba nobudlelwane obuthembekileyo, obuthembekileyo, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uyihloniphile imida yeqabane lakho kanye njengowakho!
Oko kuthetha ukuba bayaqonda ukuba ukuba bafuna usuku bodwa ukuze baphola kwaye baphinde basete kwakhona, ayisiyiyo ngenxa yakho, kwaye ayibonisi iimvakalelo zabo kuwe.
Ngokulinganayo, oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uyihloniphe indlela oziva ngayo ukuba uqala ukubanjwa zizinto okanye ufuna indawo.
Okukhona unokukwazi ukunxibelelana ngezi mfuno komnye nomnye, kokukhona ngamnye kuni uya kuyithatha ukuba omnye wenu ufuna ixesha lokuphumla. Uza kuqala ukuqonda ukuba a) lilungelo labo njengomntu ukufuna ixesha lokuba yedwa, kwaye b) kungcono kubudlelwane ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Umsebenzi wokuthembela:
Khuthaza iqabane lakho ukuba lichaze iimfuno kunye nemida yabo ngokwenza okufanayo nawe.
Yiba nencoko ethembekileyo nabo ngaphambi kokuba uqalise ngesiquphe 'Ndifuna ixesha lokuba ndedwa kwaye kufuneka uphume!' - sithembe, oku ngekhe kwehle kakuhle.
Endaweni yoko, thetha neqabane lakho kwaye niqiniseke ukuba nibazisa ukuba le yinto eningayenza nobabini kwaye nizuze ngokulinganayo.
Bazise ukuba ayisiyiyo indlela oziva ngayo omnye komnye, kodwa isempilweni kulwalamano kwaye iya kwenza izinto zibe ngcono ngendlela ezinzileyo.
Emva koko qalisa ukuthetha izinto ezinje, 'Andiziva kakuhle, ndicinga ukuba ndingazihlalela kwam ngokuhlwanje - kodwa masenze into entle kunye kusasa kusasa.'
Oku kuhle, njengoko kubenza bazi into oyifunayo (isithuba) kwaye ngoba (awuziva i-100%) kwaye usabakhathalele kwaye ufuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo kwimigangatho engcono (ukwenza into kunye kungekudala).
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7. Biza ukuphoxeka.
Ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho nisoloko nitsiba izibophelelo enizenzileyo kunye, njengokuhlangana isidlo sangokuhlwa okanye ukuba lonto incoko, nobabini nidelela ubudlelwane.
Ukuthemba umntu kuthetha ukubeka ukholo lwakho kuye, ekunokuba nzima xa eqhubeka nokuthambeka okanye ukugxeka izinto oziva zibalulekile.
Umlingane wakho usenokungaboni ukuba ubaluleke kangakanani umhla wobusuku kuwe, ke banokucinga ukuba kulungile ukubheyile ngexesha elinye.
Usenokuba ubaxelele ukuba uyaphila ngayo, okanye wathetha into efana nale, 'Ewe, ndidiniwe kwaye masiphinde sihlehle kwakhona,' kuba ubukhathazekile kwaye ufuna ukuyi brusher kwaye wenze ngathi awukhathali.
Leyo yindlela efanelekileyo yokuphendula, kodwa yenza iqabane lakho licinge ukuba awukhathali, ukuze baphinde bakwenze ngaphandle kokukucaphukisa.
Ukuba abafumani mpendulo imbi kwinto ethile, ngekhe bazi ngoku ukuyenza- iyavakala, akunjalo?
Umsebenzi wokuthembela:
Akukho mntu unokufunda iingqondo, ke lo msebenzi uya kufuna ukunxibelelana kunye nokunyaniseka malunga neemvakalelo zakho - izinto ezimbini eziphambili zobudlelwane bokuthembela esikhankanye ngasentla.
Qala ngokuxelela iqabane lakho ukuba ikhona into abayenzileyo ekucaphukisayo. Hayi ngalo lonke ixesha, ewe, njengoko oko kungalunganga kwaye kuyinto engekho ngqiqweni ukucinga ukuba umntu akaze akonzakalise iimvakalelo zakho!
Endaweni yoko, bazise ukuba ujonge ukuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye nabo, kwaye ungathanda ukuba bahloniphe izibophelelo abazenzayo kuwe.
Ungacacisa ukuba oku kukwenza uzive uxabisekile kwaye ukhathalelwe, kwaye uyathanda ukuba ube luqwalaselo ebomini babo.
Okukhona unokuziqhelanisa nokwabelana ngezi mvakalelo kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba nobabini niyazizalisekisa izithembiso zenu omnye komnye, kokukhona uya konwaba ngakumbi neqabane lakho.
Thatha ixesha lakho.
Ukuthembana akwenzeki ngobusuku obunye!
Ukuba ufunda eli nqaku, kunokuba kungenxa yokuba uziva uxhalabile malunga nolwalamano lwakho, okanye kungenxa yokuba kukho into eyenzekileyo kunye neqabane lakho kwixa elidlulileyo ukukwenza ubuze ukuba unganako kangakanani, okanye ufanele ukubathemba.
Khumbula ukuba ukwakha ukuthembana kubudlelwane, kunye nokuphinda uthembe iqabane lakho, kungathatha ixesha.
Awuphumeleli 'okanye' awuhambelani 'ngokuthatha nje kancinci kwaye nokwazana, kunye nobudlelwane, ngesantya sakho.
Ukuthembela okwakheke ngaphezu kwexesha kufuna umonde, kwaye ayisiyonto inkulu, isenzo sothando, kodwa malunga neendlela ezincinci, zemihla ngemihla wena neqabane lakho eninokubonisa ngazo ukuba niyathembana.
Umsebenzi wokuthembela:
Akukho kungxama xa kufikwa kwintembelo kubudlelwane, ke thatha ixesha lakho kwaye uhambe ngesantya esifanelana nobabini. Khumbula ukuba ungathetha neqabane lakho ngale nto!
Endaweni yokusebenza kolu luhlu konke ngaxeshanye kwaye ulindele ukuba 'ubudlelwane obugqibeleleyo' ubusuku bonke, hlala uyinyani kulindelo lwakho.
Ngale ndlela, unokulawula amathemba akho, kwaye endaweni yokuziva uphoxekile kwaye ukhathazekile okanye ukhathazekile, unokubukela ubudlelwane bakho busakha ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye buye emandleni.
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Enkosi ngokundibonisa ukuba unjani umhlobo wobuxoki
Khumbula ukuba wonke umntu wahlukile, njengabo bonke ubudlelwane. Ngelixa unokufumanisa ukuba yonke into kweli nqaku isebenza kuwe, unokufumana eyakho indlela kunye neqabane lakho.
Esi sikhokelo senzelwe ukuba siluncedo, kunye nenqaku lokubonisa. Endaweni yokuyisebenzisa njengoluhlu lokutshekisha, yisebenzise njengesixhobo sokungena ngaphakathi kwaye ucinge nzulu malunga nento oyifunayo ngokwenene- kwaye nokuba yintoni 'intembeko' ethethayo kuwe.
Unokuyifunda le nto kwaye uqonde ukuba wena neqabane lakho sele nikulungele ukuseta imida, kwaye amanqanaba onxibelelwano asebenza kakuhle.
Ngokuba naloo ngcinga, uya kuziva unentembelo kubudlelwane bakho, usazi ukuba sele wakhe isiseko esihle sothando kunye nentembelo.
Khumbula ukuba wena neqabane lakho nikunye kule nto, kwaye ningalwenza olu hambo lokucinga kunye nokuzibophelela kunye, kodwa ke oko kukujongile.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba usebenza njani kwintembeko kubudlelwane bakho? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kulwalamano lobuchwephesha kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto ngokwahlukeneyo okanye njengesibini. Ngokulula.
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