Ngaba ukudlala ngothando kunye nokuhlalisana ayisiyonto yakho? Ngaba uyaboyika abaxube, isantya sokuthandana, kunye neeklabhu ezingxolayo ngomculo wokudanisa? Ngaba udikwe 'ngumbono' kwaye uswayipha kwifowuni yakho de kube ubhontsi wakho uwile? Sukuba nexhala, awuwedwa.
Ukungatshati kunokuba nzima ngokwaneleyo kwiintsuku ezithile njengoko ubukele abahlobo bakho bematsha ezantsi, okanye uskrole ngokuzibandakanya okungapheliyo kunye neefoto zomntwana kuFacebook. Yongeza ekubeni ungonwabanga ekuhlaleni kumxube kwaye kwanele ukwenza ukuba ufuna ukuphosa itawuli, ulahle umhlaba, kwaye ube yimonki / unongendi.
Ngaphambi kokuba ubaleke kwaye ujoyine i-monastery / i-convent yakho, funda oku kwaye ubone ukuba ezi ngcebiso zintathu zingakunceda ukuba uphule i-streak yakho eyodwa kanye kunye.
umxelela njani umntu ukuba uyabathanda
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Nje ukuba umhlaba wokubetha we-weirdos kunye nokuphuma, indawo yokuhlangana iye yanda kwaye yaphucuka ngokumangalisayo. Ukudibana kwamaqela kuye kwavela kwihlabathi liphela kuzo zonke izixeko. Ngaphandle kokuba uhlala phantsi kwelitye phakathi kwindawo engekho ndawo (kwimeko leyo, oku kunokuba yinxalenye yengxaki yakho), unokufumana ngokulula iqela elifanela umdla wakho, nokuba kukubhala, ukunitha, ukubaleka, iimuvi, umculo , okanye iiklabhu zencwadi.
Kukho ii -apps galore zokudibana nabantu abanomdla ofanayo. Phuma uye kubona okwenzekayo, kwaye wonwabele ukuba phakathi kwabantu abonwabela into oyenzayo.
Okokuqala, iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba amaqela ahlala emancinci, kwaye anemodareyitha yokuququzelela intshayelelo kunye nokuthomalalisa uloyiko kubantu abafikayo. Enye into ebalulekileyo malunga nokudibana namaqela kukuba ezinye zazo zinokuba zi-super niche. Ibhasikithi engaphantsi kwamanzi iluka into yakho? I-Vampire cosplay fan? Ukunyuka intaba etutu? Mhlawumbi kukho iqela lalonto. Ndikholelwe, wena Ngaba khangela abantu bakho.
Okwesibini, kuba bajolise kumdla othile, xa uvela, awusokoli ukwaphula umkhenkce. Oku kususa uqikelelo lokuzama ukufumana umhlaba oqhelekileyo, okanye ukukhathazeka malunga nokuthula okungathandekiyo. Ungangena ngqo engxoxweni usazi ukuba umntu othetha naye unomdla kwinto efanayo nawe. Ukudibana nomntu omtsha ngolu hlobo kunokukunceda ukomeleza isebe lokuzithemba.
Okokugqibela, eli lichibi labantu ekunokwenzeka ukuba awukaze uhlangane ngaphambili. Yinto entle leyo. Ukuba nabahlobo abakumiselayo kulungile, kwaye ukuya kwiindawo apho uyazi ukuba wonke umntu ngokuqinisekileyo akanaxinzelelo, kodwa ngekhe uhlangane nabani na ukuba uzifihla kubantu abaqhelekileyo nakwiindawo.
Isenokungazi mntu, kodwa ubuncinci khumbula ukuba nonke ninesizathu esifanayo sokuba lapho. Sebenza ngayo kwaye iyakwenza lula izinto. Oku kuthatha isiqingatha sokungahambi kakuhle kumxube.
Ukuxelwa ngokupheleleyo: Ndadibana neqabane lam kwenye yezi meet ups kwaye ndandingakhange ndikhangele nomntu endiza kujola naye ngeloxesha! Ndiphumile nje ndayolala kamnandi kwaye kwenzeka ngengozi. Awkward dater, le inokuba yeyakho ingozi eyonwabisayo!
Phuma WODWA!
Ngokuchasene nembono ethandwayo, thintela i-wingman (okanye i-wingwoman) xa uphuma. Isandi esiphikisayo? Akunjalo xa ucinga ngayo. Ngelixa ukuba nomhlobo osenyongweni kunye nawe kunokubonakala ngathi ngumbono olungileyo ngenxa yokuba ungonwabanga ekuhlaleni kwaye banokukunceda ukuhambisa incoko kunye, inokuthi ithintele amathuba akho okudibana nomntu.
Ngoba?
Kwelinye, ukuba uzisa umhlobo ophumayo, okhuselweyo, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba bebe iindudumo zakho. Kungangabinanjongo ngokupheleleyo ukuba bayathandeka, kwaye bayancokola, kodwa oku kuthetha ukuba banokugqibela ngokukhanya, ngelixa ume esithunzini sabo, ubabukele bencokola nomntu omthandayo. Akukho nto ikhathazayo njengokuhamba nomhlobo uyokudibana nabantu, kuphela xa umntu omthandayo eshiya inombolo yefowuni yeqabane lakho, ngelixa ufika ekhaya uyi-50 yeedola, kwaye ungenanto.
Okwesibini, abahlobo banokuba sisiphazamiso. Ulapho ukudibana nabantu, zixubeke, kwaye ufumane uncedo ngokwenza intetho encinci. Umhlobo wakho ukhona ukuba aqhekeke kwaye aqhume umphunga osuku olubi emsebenzini. Ii-ajenda ezimbini ezikhuphisanayo ngokuqinisekileyo ezingadibaniyo. Oku kunokuphelela ekubeni usilele ngokupheleleyo kwindawo yokuthandana, kunye nokuchitha ubusuku obuninzi ubamba umntwana wakho onxilileyo, kwaye ungafumani thuba lokuncokola naye nabani na.
Okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, banokukubeka kwinqanaba apho uphazamiseka khona kwinjongo kwaye bagqibela ngokunxila kakhulu ukuba bangathetha naye nabani na ngokudibeneyo. Ngaphandle kokuba nobabini nikhona ngenxa yezizathu ezifanayo, unokufuna ukuphuma ngokwakho ukuze ufumane elona thuba lokuqaqamba, kwaye uhlale endleleni.
Yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokuhamba malunga nokuba woyika ukunxibelelana? Eyona ndlela yokuhamba ngayo kukuba nesibindi kumsitho ngokwakho . Ewe oko kulungile, ndedwa . Ndiyazi ukuba unentloni, unentlalontle, unenkunkuma xa uncokola nabantu, ungumdanisi owoyikekayo, kwaye uxela iziqhulo ezimbi - uluhlu lokuhlamba lwezizathu lunokuqhubeka, ndiqinisekile. Ayinamsebenzi. Yintoni ebalulekileyo ukuphuma phaya.
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Ukuba awonwabanga ngokwasentlalweni, sukuya kwiindawo ozithiyileyo kuba ucinga ukuba ulapho kufanele hamba. Kutheni ungakhe ucinge ukuba uza kufumana umfana okanye intombi yakho oyiphuphayo ngokuchitha ixesha nemali kwindawo oyithiyileyo? Akunangqondo nje. Isicwangciso esibi apho phantse wonke umntu afunxwe khona xa bezama ukuthandana ngaphandle kwendawo yabo yokuthuthuzela.
Bazinyanzela kwiimeko abacinga ukuba zezona zilungileyo ukuba zibekho kuba ‘Wonke umntu uya phaya’ ukudibana nabantu, kodwa inyani kukuba, awunguye wonke umntu (yiyo loo nto ufunda le posti yebhlog!). Ukuba izakhono zakho zentlalo zikufutshane no-nil, okanye uxinzelelo lwakho ekuhlaleni luphakame ngokwenene, ngokuqinisekileyo alunakunceda ngokuzibeka kwimeko apho ubamba khona okanye ubangela uxinzelelo olungaphezulu oluyimfuneko kwimeko esele inayo.
Ngoku, oku akuthethi ukuba uye kwindawo yakho yokupapasha uze ubone abantu abafanayo ohlala ubabona- kuthetha ukuhamba iindawo ezahlukileyo, kodwa , iindawo ozithandayo ukuba lapho. Ngaba iopera? Mkhulu, hamba uye kubona enye, emva koko udibanise ibhar kunye nabantu abonwabela i-opera. Njengamyuziyam? Yiya kwenye ngokwakho kwaye uqalise incoko malunga nomzobo okanye into oyijongileyo nomntu. Yiya kumboniso wokuvula, okanye intetho yomlondolozi, kwaye ujikeleze uthethe nabantu abakhoyo kuba babelana ngomdla ofanayo.
Njengokubaleka? Joyina iqela elibalekayo, emva koko ubambe incoko ethe cwaka kwivenkile yekofu okanye kwi-pub. Uthanda kakhulu ukuba nguwe, khululeka, kwaye udibane nomntu omthanda ngokwenene ukuba uhlala uhlala kwiindawo Nina ufuna ukuba lapho, hayi kwiindawo abahlobo bakho abathi 'kufuneka ube' kuzo.
Khumbula: awunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze enye into ngaphandle Yiba nguwe , kwaye ukuba ayizukuya kwi-bar ephezulu okanye iklabhu yasebusuku, oko kulungile. Uya kubetha ukuba yonke ifayibha yobomi bakho iyakhwaza ukuba uphume kuloo ndawo ngokulula, sukuya kwezo ndawo.
Ukuthandana kunzima. Ukuphuma kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela kunzima. Akukho sidingo sokwandisa ezi zinto zimbini ngokuba lapho ungafuni ukuba khona, ujikeleze abantu ongadibananga nabo, okanye ofana nabo. Abantu bahlala besenza loo mpazamo xa 'bephuma kwindawo yabo entofontofo.'
Kuthetha ukwenza into eyahlukileyo, kuba ukwenza into enye kuvelisa iziphumo ezifanayo, kodwa oko kungathethi, kukwenza izinto eziphambeneyo ongazange wazenza ngaphambili ukubonisa ubungqina. Yiloo nto, isiganeko esinye esinexesha elide.
Injongo apha kukuzonwabisa ngokwasentlalweni ngokuhlala ixesha elide. Ke ngelixa usiya kwindawo oyithandayo isenokungabi ntsha, ukuhamba wedwa kancinci kunye nokuncokola kuya kuba. Linyathelo lomntwana, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo libala njengokuhamba ngaphandle kwebhokisi.
Ngokwentlalo abantu abangonwabanga bahlala benza impazamo ngokuzama ukuthatha iingcebiso zokuthandana nabantu abangafani nabo. Uninzi lweengcebiso zokuthandana zijolise kwi-extroverts kunye neentlobo eziphumayo, ke oko kwenza ukuba ukuthandana komntu ongathandekiyo ngokwasentlalweni kube liphupha elibi. Elona cebiso lililo ayikukuthatha eli cebiso, yenza into oziva ilungile kuwe: hlala kunye nenjongo, phuma ngokwakho ukuze ukhanye ngokwenyani, kwaye ube phi wena ndiyathanda ukuba.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba uza kuhamba njani ngokuthandana xa ungonwabanga ekuhlaleni? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
