Intetho yakudala ithi ukungahambelani kuyatsala, kodwa kunqabile ukuba ndiyifumane iyinyani.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha abantu abajongeka bahluke ngokupheleleyo omnye komnye baya kutsala umdla omnye komnye, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha incasa yomnye umntu emculweni okanye kwizinto abazithandayo ziya kuba zi-polar-ezichasene neqabane labo.
Ezantsi, nangona kunjalo, kufuneka kubekho umtshato weengqondo ukuze abantu ababini bahloniphane kwaye baqondane kwaye benze iqela elilungileyo elinokuma ukuvavanya ixesha.
Thina bantu zizinto ezintsonkothileyo. Sisebenza kumanqanaba ahlukeneyo, kodwa sonke sinezinto ezimbalwa ezisisiseko, iimpawu eziphambili ezichaza indlela esisabela ngayo kwiimeko ezithile kwaye sibukhokela njani ubomi bethu.
Enye yezi zinto kukukwazi kwethu ukuba novelwano kwabo basingqongileyo.
Yintoni Uvelwano?
Uvelwano luchazwa njengobuchule bokwabelana ngeemvakalelo zomnye umntu okanye amava ngokucinga ukuba kunganjani ukuba kwimeko yalomntu.
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Umntu onovelwano kakhulu ulungile ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zomnye kwaye abone izinto ngokwembono yabo.
Asinovelwano kungekuphela ngabantu, kodwa nakwabanye abantu, nakwiplanethi entle esihlala kuyo.
Phantse wonke umntu unovelwano kubo. Njengalo naluphi na uphawu, ngamnye kuthi uhleli ecaleni kwesikali sokutyibilika kunye Iimfesane kwelinye icala kwaye iingqondo (abangaziva benovelwano ngayo) kwelinye.
Kutheni le nto uvelwano lubalulekile kubudlelwane?
Uvelwano yinxalenye ephambili yalo naluphi na ulwalamano onalo nabanye abantu. Oko kubandakanya ubudlelwane onabo nosapho lwakho okanye abahlobo bakho, kodwa kubaluleke ngakumbi xa sithetha ngobudlelwane bezothando.
Ukuba ukhangela uthando kwaye ukhetha ukuba neqabane elide lokuthandana, baya kuba ngumntu ochitha ixesha lakho elininzi kunye naye, kwaye uya kuba ngaphezulu yenza izigqibo ezinkulu kuthathelwa ingqalelo iimfuno zabo nezimvo zabo.
Ukuba awunaluvelwano…
Umzekelo, ukuba, ungumntu ongaziva ngokubanzi enovelwano kwabanye, kwaye engachaphazeleki kwaphela kukubandezeleka okanye iintlungu zabo bakungqongileyo, awunalo uvelwano ngokukodwa.
Mhlawumbi ukufumanisa kunzima ukuqonda amanqaku kwaye ukhetho zabanye abantu, ngakumbi ukuba azibonakali zinengqiqo.
Emehlweni akho, umntu onovelwano oyivayo intlungu yabanye kwaye ayicaphukise inokubonakala ngathi ubuthathaka. Oko kunokuthetha ukuba awukwazi ukuba nembeko engako kubo.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba ujonga umntu njengophathwa ngokulula, kunokuba yinto ephazamisayo ukubona izinto zibashukumisela ezingayi kuba nefuthe elifanayo kuwe.
Awuthandi ukubabona bencama iimfuno zabo okanye iimfuno zabo ukuze kungenelwe abanye.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuhlonipha izigqibo zomntu, kunokuba nzima ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nabo.
Nangona uyakuqonda ukuba iqabane lakho elinovelwano lilunge kakhulu - kwaye uya kuthi ubabone njengomntu olungileyo- emehlweni akho, ngokuqinisekileyo kukho into yokuba ulunge kakhulu kwaye unesisa.
Isenokujika ekubeni luhlobo oluthandayo kubo, njengoko kuhlala kunjalo kwiimpawu esingenazo thina, zibe yinto oza kuthi uyibone kakubi.
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Ukuba Uyadibana novelwano…
Kwelinye icala, ukuba ungumntu onovelwano kakhulu kwaye okufumanisa kulula ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zabanye abantu, mhlawumbi uyakufumanisa kunzima ukuqonda ukuba iqabane lakho lingabanda njani kwaye libonakale lingenaluvelwano.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ubuze ukuba bakukhathalele kangakanani, kuba ngekhe ubenakho ukuqonda ukuba banokuba neklinikhi njani kwaye bavaliwe ebusweni beemeko oziva uzithanda.
Njengomntu ophila ubomi bakhe uhlala ecinga ngeemvakalelo zabanye abantu, umntu ongenalo uvelwano unokubonakala emehlweni akho nzulu kunye nokuzenzela, oko kunokuthetha ukuba nawe, ungaqala ukuphulukana nembeko onayo kubo.
Ngamaqela omabini akufumanisa kunzima ukuhlonipha omnye, abantu abaziva benovelwano ngokwahlukileyo baya kusokola ukugcina ubudlelwane bomelele.
Ukwenza izigqibo kunokuba ngumceli mngeni
Kubudlelwane obunzulu, nobabini niba liqela. Ukuba kukho izinto ezinje ngabantwana kunye nemali mboleko ebandakanyekayo, kuya kubakho izigqibo ezininzi ezinkulu ekufuneka uzenzile kunye kule minyaka idlulileyo.
Ukuba omnye wenu akanalo uvelwano kunomnye, usenokukufumanisa kunzima ukufikelela kwisivumelwano malunga nezinye izigqibo ezibalulekileyo ebomini.
Kuyinyani ukuba kuhlala kulungile ukuba kubekho ulungelelwaniso kwisibini. Ingasebenza, mhlawumbi, isebenze kakuhle ukuba elinye iqabane lingaphezulu komphuphi, kwaye elinye lisengqiqweni kwaye liyinyani, ukuze ube nomxube olungileyo wokunyanzeliswa kunye nokusebenza.
Nangona kunjalo, kusenokungabi lula kangako kumntu onovelwano kunye nomntu ongalinganiyo, njengoko uya kukufumanisa kunzima ukuqonda ukuqiqa komnye.
Xa ulandelayo ukwazi umntu kwaye ucinga ukuba inokuba yeyakho, qiniseka ukuba ugcina uvelwano luphambili kwengqondo yakho.
Sisalathiso esimangalisayo sokuba ingaba nobabini niyimidlalo eyenziwe ezulwini, okanye ingaba ubudlelwane benu bunokuba nzima emgceni xa kufuneka kwenziwe izigqibo ezibalulekileyo.
