I-Naivety ayisiyongcamango echanekileyo. Into enokubonakala ngathi iyinkohliso kwabanye abantu, inokubonakala ngathi inentliziyo entle kwabanye, okanye ithemba, ukholo olulungileyo, kunye nobumsulwa, phakathi kwezinye izinto.
Kodwa mhlawumbi uziva ngathi uhlala ungazi nto ebomini kwaye unexhala lokuba inokubangela iingxaki.
Awufuni ukungathembi okanye ukungabi nathemba, kodwa ngekhe uqhubeke ngale ndlela uyiyo, njengoko isenza umonakalo.
Mhlawumbi awunangqondo ngokubhekisele kubudlelwane, uhlala ukholelwa ngokungaboniyo ukuba izinto ziya kulunga kwaye zithandane ezantsi komnqwazi.
Mhlawumbi umbi ngokufunda abanye abantu kwaye uhlala ucinga eyona ilungileyo kubo nantoni na eyenzekayo.
Mhlawumbi uhlala ucinga ukuba izinto ebomini kukukhanya kwelanga kunye nemvula, xa ihlabathi, ngelishwa, lingasebenzi ngoluhlobo.
Mhlawumbi ukhe walixhoba lamaqhinga ngaphambili.
Nokuba yeyiphi na, ubuvuvu bakho bokubangele iingxaki kwaye ufuna ukuba nobulumko kunye nobulumko kwiindlela zehlabathi, ngaphandle kokuphulukana nethemba elimangalisayo kunye nobumsulwa onabo ngoku.
Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokukunceda uthi ndlelantle ekubeni ungakhohliseki kwaye ufumane kancinci ngakumbi, ngaphandle kokudana.
1. Cinga ngaphambi kokuba uthethe okanye wenze.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba awunangqondo, ingxaki yakho isenokuba kwinto yokuba sukuma ucinge ngaphambi kokuba uthethe okanye wenze.
Uthetha into yokuqala eza entlokweni yakho okanye uhambe ngempendulo yakho edolweni ngaphandle kokuthatha umzuzwana wokujonga imeko ngokufanelekileyo.
Ke, into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukucothisa izinto kwaye uthathe ixesha lokucinga ngaphambi kokuba uthethe okanye wenze nantoni na.
Kulula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe, mhlawumbi ungaqala kwangosuku olunye.
Ngenye imini apho wenza inqaku lokuthatha umzuzwana ukubonakalisa kwaye ujonge umba kwenye indawo yokujonga ngaphambi kokuba uphendule kuyo nayiphi na imeko.
Kwiveki enye. Ukuba uqhubeka uzinyanzela ukuba ulikhuphe elo xesha kwaye ucinge kuqala, kungekudala okanye kamva iyakuba yimpendulo yakho emiselweyo.
2. Musa ukoyika ukuhlala ecingweni.
Ucingo lubekelwe bucala.
Kwilizwe lethu langoku, uhlala ulindeleke ukuba ukhethe icala kwigama elithi, kwaye ukuba uhlala ecingweni ubonwa njengobuthathaka okanye ongenazigqibo.
Kodwa ucingo luyindawo entle kakhulu ukuba ube kuyo.
Kukwenye indawo apho ungavavanya khona omabini amacala kwaye uthathe ixesha lokuphuhlisa indawo yokujonga, kunokuba uthathe icala ngokungakhathali kwaye uzisole kamva.
Thatha ixesha lakho ukwenza isigqibo, kwaye ukuba ufuna ukuhlala ecingweni ngonaphakade, kulungile futhi.
3. Lumka kakhulu.
Ukuba uhlala ungazi nto, ke ukulungisa ukuba kuya kufuneka uziphathe ngabom kwindlela oziva ngathi ulumke kakhulu kuwe.
Yintoni elumke kakhulu kuwe yeyona ndlela uninzi lwabantu luhlala lusondela kwihlabathi ngokubanzi.
Le yinto ekufuneka uyenzile ngokuzazi okwethutyana, kodwa kungekudala inqanaba eliqhelekileyo lokulumkisa liza kuza ngokwendalo kuwe.
4. Yiba khona ngakumbi.
I-Naivety inokuba sisiphumo sokuba ube nentloko yakho emafini kwaye unganikeli ngqalelo kuyo yonke into eyenzekayo apha nangoku.
Ke, yenza inqaku lokuzama ukubakho kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.
Endaweni yokuzivumela ukuba ukhukuliswe ziingcinga zakho, jolisa kwinto eyenzekayo ngakuwe kwaye abantu bathini kuwe.
Uya kuqaphela izinto ezininzi ezintle ongaziphosayo, kodwa uya kuba mancinci amathuba okuba ungeniswe.
5. Mamela ngenyameko.
Ukuba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo luphawu oluhle lokuphucula ngokubanzi, kodwa isenokuba yindlela elungileyo yokufunda okungakumbi ngomntu omtsha ngaphandle kokunikezela kakhulu ngawe.
ungaxela njani ukuba umhlobo wakho yinyani
Babuze imibuzo kwaye ubonise umdla wokwenene kubo, kunokuba ube nomdla wokwabelana ngeenkcukacha ngobomi bakho kwangoko.
6. Yenza uphando.
Abantu abanolwazi, abanolwazi banokuthi baqhubeke bengazi. Kodwa ulwazi lwabo lwehlabathi lwenza ukuba kungabikho lula ukuba bathathe izinto ngexabiso.
Ke, yenza inqaku lokuzifundisa ngezinto ongaziqondiyo.
Ukuba awunangxaki malunga nemicimbi yezemali, funda kwizinto ofuna ukuzazi malunga nazo, okanye nokuba ucinga ngokuthatha ikhosi.
Ukuba uye wakhwabaniselwa okanye wafowunelwa kufutshane, soloko usenza inqaku lokuqinisekisa izinto ngokuthe ngqo kwinkampani okanye kwiziko (ukuba unayo i-imeyile evela kwibhanki yakho oyikrokrelayo, umzekelo) ngaphambi kokwenza .
Ukuba ingxaki yakho kukungazi kakuhle kubudlelwane, jonga kwi-psychology emva kokuba kutheni abantu besenza ngendlela ethile.
Nanini na xa ungaqinisekanga ngento ethile, hamba uyokuyikhangela phambi kokuba wenze isigqibo.
Ubomi sisifundo esinye eside, kwaye okukhona ufunda, kokukhona uya kuba sengqiqweni ngakumbi kwaye ube nakho ukuwenza.
7. Qhubeka nokuthemba abanye abantu.
Nantoni na oyenzayo, ungaqali ukuzibetha ngenxa yokuba unendalo yokuthembela. Ukuthembela yinto entle.
Ukungazi kakuhle akukho malunga nokungathembi abantu. Imalunga nokungathathi izigqibo ngokukhawuleza. Imalunga nokucinga ngokufanelekileyo ngezinto kunye nokufunda phakathi kwemigca yeemeko.
Oko akuthethi ukuba awukwazi ukubathemba abantu abakungqongileyo kwaye uqhubeke ujonge okuhle kubo.
Ukucinga ukuba umntu uthembekile de azingqine ngenye indlela kufuneka ihlale iyindlela yakho yokusilela, kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba awunangqondo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo baninzi abantu abasehlabathini abanezinto ezimbi kubo, kodwa uninzi lwabantu lulungile.
8. Kodwa funda ukubona xa umntu enganyanisekanga.
Ukuba uhlala uthathwa ngamaxoki, funda ukufumana ezona ziqhelekileyo imiqondiso oxokiswa kuyo .
Umntu oxokayo kuwe unokuba nobunzima bokubamba ngamehlo, ukujija, okanye ukucoca umqala rhoqo.
Oko kunokuthetha ukuba banoloyiko nje, kwaye ixoki eliqhelanisiweyo alinakwenza nanye kwezi zinto, kodwa kulungile ukuba uyazi le miqondiso.
9. Mamela amathumbu akho.
Nokuba uhlala ungakhathali, ukhohliseka lula, okanye umsulwa, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uhlala uziva uphantsi ekuxelela into ayilunganga ncam.
Endaweni yokuyityhalela nje kwelinye icala, thatha ithutyana ujonge ngaphakathi kwaye uziva malunga nokuba ivelaphi.
Musa ukoyika ukuvumela ukuba ukhokelwe yithumbu lakho ngoku rhoqo. Isenokungasoloko ilungile, kodwa ikho ngesizathu.
10. Kuvulekele ukudibana nabantu abatsha.
I-naivety yakho isenokuba phantsi kwenyani yokuba ubukhokele ubomi obunqabisekileyo obujikelezwe ngabantu abaninzi abacinga ngendlela efanayo naleyo uyenzayo.
Ukuba kunjalo kuwe, kuya kufuneka uvuleleke ekwenzeni ubuhlobo nabantu abavela kwimvelaphi eyahlukeneyo okanye kwiinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo.
Ukuba awuhlali kwindawo eyahlukileyo kakhulu kunokuba nzima, kodwa i-intanethi ingaba yindlela efanelekileyo yokudibanisa nabantu abahlukileyo kuwe.
Kwaye ukuba uhlala kwindawo eneenkcubeko kunye nabantu abavela kuzo zonke iintlobo zoqoqosho kunye neenkolelo ezahlukeneyo, ke yenza okungcono kakhulu kwaye uvuleke ngokwenza ubuhlobo nabo bangakhangeliyo, bathethayo, okanye bacinge njengawe.
11. Phuma phaya uye kumava obomi.
I-Naivety ihlala iluphawu lwabantu abasilela kumava obomi. Ukuba awunamava okuqala ngesandla, ke akunakuphepheka ukuba uyakuba yinto encinci okanye umsulwa.
Ngokwesiqhelo abantu baya kuba msulwa ngokuguga, kodwa ungazinika uncedo ngokuthi nje ewe ebomini.
Zama izinto ezintsha, zivolontiye ukunceda abo banethamsanqa kunawe, kwaye ufunde ngamasiko amatsha.
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