Ke ufuna ukunika iqabane lakho ithuba lesibini. Ufuna ukuvuselela ubudlelwane obukhe wanabo nabo.
Yimfihlakalo yasejele
Kwaye ngeli xesha, ufuna ukuba isebenze. Ufuna ukuba ibe ngcono, isempilweni, yomelele.
Uhamba njani ngokulungisa into eyaphulwe ngokucacileyo ngokwaneleyo ukuba iphantse- okanye eneneni- iphele ekwahlukaneni?
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokwenza ukuba olu lwalamano lwesibini lube yimpumelelo.
1. Qiniseka ukuba yile nto uyifunayo.
Intliziyo yakho kufuneka izinikele kolu lwalamano ukuba luza kuhlala ngeli xesha.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokuba namathandabuzo okanye uloyiko malunga nalo, kodwa kuya kufuneka ubuncinci ufuna ukuba ubudlelwane busebenze.
Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo inikwe, akunjalo? Akunjalo.
Mhlawumbi uye wabuya phantsi kwengcinezelo evela kwiqabane lakho ukuba unike izinto enye into. Ubukulungele ukubuphelisa ubudlelwane kodwa bahlala bethetha ukuba izinto zizohluka ngeli xesha ukuba bazokutshintsha. Nokuba uyakholelwa okanye awuyikholelwa nyani loo nto, ungene kwaye wavuma ukunamathela kuyo.
Okanye mhlawumbi ucinga ngokubanika ithuba lesibini kunokuba ujongane nethemba lokuba ungatshatanga. Ukwahlukana akusoloko kukugqibela, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kunokuziva kunjalo ngelo xesha kwaye awufuni kuzibeka kuloo ntlungu.
Kukho iimeko ezibandakanya abantwana okanye umtshato okanye nje imbali ende phakathi kwenu nobabini. Ubomi obungabambekiyo obudityaniswe ngokusondeleleneyo kunokuba ngumceli mngeni, kwaye hayi lowo uzimisele ukuwenza ngoku.
Kuphela, kuya kufuneka. Kuba ukuba intliziyo yakho ayinyani ngokwenyani kuyo, ubudlelwane buphelile kwasekuqaleni kwaye kungangcono nobabini ukwahlukana ngoku.
2. Nxibelelana, thetha, nxibelelana.
Kulungile, unxibelelwano oluhle lubalulekile kulo naluphi na ulwalamano, kodwa lubaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane benqanaba lesibini.
Kukho into engahambanga kakuhle ngexesha lokuqala kwaye eyona ndlela isebenzayo kuyo nayiphi na le nto kukuthetha omnye nomnye.
Hayi ingxoxo enye okanye ezimbini ezinkulu malunga nendlela onokuthi uqhubele phambili njengesibini, kodwa intetho eqhelekileyo kunye ethembekileyo malunga nendlela enivakalelwa ngayo nobabini.
Mhlawumbi awukho mkhulu kangako ekunxibelelaneni nabanye - kwimeko enjalo, funda kwaye wenze. Ukuba awukwazi ukuxoxa ngeemvakalelo zakho okanye nayiphi na imiba enokuvela, akukho nto iya kuze isonjululwe.
Okukhona ezi zinto zishiyiwe zingakhathalelwanga, kokukhona ukungaziva kakuhle kuya kukhula kwakhona, kunye nethuba lokuphazamiseka kolunye ulwalamano.
Kunganceda ukuba neeseshoni rhoqo kunye nomcebisi ngezobudlelwane kwiinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala ukuqinisekisa ukuba izikhalazo ziyasasazwa kwaye iingxaki ziyasonjululwa.
Sincoma kakhulu inkonzo ye-Intanethi ukusuka. Unokuba neeseshoni neengcali eziqeqeshiweyo ezivela kwinduduzo yekhaya lakho. Uya kumangaliswa yindlela okunokunceda ngayo oku.
3. Chonga iipateni zobudlelwane obungenampilo kwaye ubeke amanyathelo okuziphepha.
Ngaba uyamnika iqabane lakho ukuba ungathethi nanini na xa ekucaphukisile?
Ngaba bayacaphuka okanye bayakhathazeka xa ungabaniki ixesha elaneleyo lodwa?
Cinga ngolwalamano lwakho ukuza kuthi ga ngoku kwaye ujonge iimeko eziphindaphindayo apho kukho into ebangele ukuba omnye okanye nobabini nicaphuke.
Kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba yintoni ebangela ukungabikho kokungavisisani okanye ukungavisisani phakathi kwenu ukuze nibe nokufumana iindlela zokuphepha ezo zinto.
Ukuba iqabane lakho, ngaphambili, libeke abahlobo balo kunye nezinto ezithandwayo ngaphambi kwexesha elisemgangathweni kunye nawe, enye yeemeko zokubanika ithuba lesibini inokuba linani leengokuhlwa ezinikezelweyo okanye ngeempelaveki apho uchitha ixesha ngaba babini kuphela.
Okanye ukuba ngamanye amaxesha uthambekele ekulawuleni iqabane lakho, incoko kufuneka yenziwe kwangethuba, ngaphambi kokuba baphelelwe ngumonde nawe.
Oku kwehla ekuchongeni amanqaku eentlungu omnye komnye. Nje ukuba wazi ukuba ziyintoni na, ungazama ngakumbi ukuba ungabalimazi ngezo ndlela.
4. Sombulula imiba engekasonjululwa.
Kunokwenzeka ukuba bekukho imicimbi emikhulu kubudlelwane bakho ethe ekugqibeleni yayityhalela elunxwemeni.
Nokuba zithini na ezo zinto, baya kwenza isithunzi ngaphezulu kwayo nayiphi na imizamo yokuzama kwakhona ngaphandle kokuba zijongiwe kwaye zisonjululwe.
Inokuba yeyiphi le micimbi?
Kungenzeka ukuba bekukho ukungathembani phakathi kwakho ngenxa yobuxoki okanye ukungcatshwa kolunye uhlobo.
Mhlawumbi into ebonakalayo kulwalamano lwakho inyamalale ngokupheleleyo ngasizathu sithile.
Mhlawumbi omnye wenu makayeke ukudakumba kunganyangwa kunokuba ajongane nenyaniso kwaye afune uncedo.
Nokuba yeyiphi na, kuya kufuneka usebenze ukubeka umbandela kwindawo yokulala, okanye ubuncinci ufumane indlela yokujongana ngcono nayo.
5. Zibekele imida esempilweni.
Mhlawumbi sele unemida ethile kulwalamano lwakho. Isenokuba kukuwela omnye wale mizila ebomvu ekhokelele ekubeni izinto zibe mbi kwasekuqaleni.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, lixesha lokuba uphinde uphonononge loo mida kwaye usete ezitsha ukuba kufanelekile.
Ayisiyomfuneko yokuba usete kuphela, kuya kufuneka unxibelelane ngokucacileyo ukuze elowo azi into eyamkelekileyo nengamkelekanga.
Oku kunokuthetha ukungafihli nto malunga nokuchitha kwakho imali apho izixhobo zidityanisiwe kunye nalapho bekukho inkcitho yenkcitho efihliweyo ngaphambili.
Isenokuthetha into oyiyo kwaye awuvumelekanga ukuba uxoxe nabanye abantu malunga nobudlelwane. Mhlawumbi awufuni ukuba imicimbi yakho yabucala yabelane nabahlobo okanye usapho lwabo.
Mhlawumbi ufuna umda ongqongqo ukuba lingakanani ixesha elilindelwe liqabane lakho ukuba ulichithe nabazali babo. Ukutyelelwa rhoqo yinto enye, ukubaphendulela iti yonke imihla kusenokubuza kakhulu.
Nokuba yeyiphi na imida oziva ukuba kufuneka uyibekele ubudlelwane ukuze iphumelele ixesha lesibini, yenza njalo, kwaye uyenze icace ukuba yeyiphi loo mida ukuze kungabikho kuphazamiseka.
6. Musa ukuqhubeka nokuzisa ixesha elidlulileyo.
Ngelixa ithuba lesibini akufuneki lithethe ukuba ulibale yonke into efike ngaphambili, kufanele ukuba kuthethe ukungaphakamisi iintlungu okanye isenzo esidlulileyo.
Ukuba omnye wenu ubambe okudlulileyo ngaphezulu kwentloko yomnye, kuya kukhokelela kuphela kukuziva ungalunganga kunye nembambano.
Awudingi ukuvumela izinto ezidlulileyo ukuba zidlule kwaye uxolele konke abanokukwenza ngokukhawuleza, kodwa akufuneki ube nezixhobo ezidlulileyo ukuze ufumane amandla ngaphezulu kweqabane lakho.
Usenokuziva unoluvo kwaye usebenze kuzo ngokuhamba kwexesha, kwaye zinokuba nefuthe kwindlela osabela ngayo kwinto eyenziwa liqabane lakho. Kodwa loo nto yahluke kakhulu ekumbeni ngokucacileyo amathambo amadala ukuze ubaphazamise.
ndiyasetyenziselwa imali
Le yenye indawo apho ukucebisa ngobudlelwane kunganceda. Unokuziva unesidingo sokuxoxa ngezi ntlungu zangaphambili, kodwa kungcono kakhulu ukwenza njalo ngoncedo lomntu wesithathu ongathath'icala - kwaye kuphela ngala maxesha.
Ngaphandle koko, baya kusebenza njengamakhamandela ajikeleze amaqatha obuhlobo bakho, bayithintele ukuba iqhubele phambili kwikamva eliqaqambileyo.
7. Beka umgudu.
Akukho kujikeleza kwinto yokuba ubudlelwane obunethuba lesibini buya kufuna umsebenzi omkhulu kunye nomzamo kuni nobabini.
Akululanga - nokuba kukwenzekile okanye ngokweemvakalelo- ukubetha iqhosha lokuseta kwakhona kwaye uzame Qalela ekuqaleni .
Kuya kufuneka uzame ukuba unolwazi ngangokunokwenzeka xa kufikwa kwindlela oziphethe ngayo, iinkqubo zakho zokucinga, kunye nokunxibelelana kwakho nabanye.
Ukuba awufaki mzamo, ngokuqinisekileyo ngokuqinisekileyo uya kubuyela kwiipateni ezingekho sempilweni zexesha elidlulileyo, kwaye sele uyazi ukuba loo ndlela ikhokelela phi.
Umzamo unokuza ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, ezinye zazo esele sizichukumisile.
Unxibelelwano, ukuchitha ixesha kunye, ukufunda kwakhona izinto azithandayo nangazithandiyo omnye umntu, nibonisa uthando nothando. Ezi ziintlobo zezinto ekuya kufuneka usebenze nzima kuzo ukuba uza kwenza ubudlelwane obunempilo nobuhle obafuna bobabini.
8. Yiba nomonde omnye komnye.
Utshintsho alwenzeki ngephanyazo. Kwaye utshintshe ubudlelwane bakho kufuneka ubusebenze ngeli xesha.
Nokuba kunzima kangakanani na, kuya kufuneka nibonisane ngomonde enifanele ukuwuqhelanisa nobunyani bobudlelwane benu.
Nobabini niya kutyibilika-kwaye hayi kube kanye, kodwa amatyeli amaninzi. Unokuwela imida yomnye nomnye, ubuyele kwimikhwa yakudala, okanye ukhathaze omnye komnye kwiindlela eziliwaka ezahlukeneyo.
Kodwa ukuba nobabini nifuna olu lwalamano lusebenze, kuya kufuneka ninciphisane.
Ngoku, oko akuthethi ukuba uqhubeka uvumela izinto zityibilike ngonaphakade. Omnye umntu kufuneka abonakalise iimpawu zotshintsho, nokuba bathabathe inyathelo elinye ngasemva kwabo babini abaye phambili.
Umonde uyakunceda ukugcina imvisiswano njengoko usenza kancinci inkqubela phambili ofuna ukuyenza.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungenza njani ukuba ubudlelwane bakho busebenze kwinzame yesibini?Musa ukuhamba le ndlela wedwa xa unokufumana iingcebiso zeengcali kumcebisi wezobudlelwane oqeqeshiweyo. Nokuba uthetha nabo wedwa okanye njengesibini, banokukukhokela kwaye bandise amathuba okudala ubudlelwane obonwabileyo nobusempilweni.Ke kutheni ungaxoxi kwi-Intanethi nengcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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