Ngaba uziva ngathi ujikeleza kwi-whirlpool ebomini kunokuba udade apho ungathanda ukuya khona?
Ukuba kunjalo, akuwedwa. Abantu abaninzi bayasokola xa beziva belahlekile.
Kodwa iindaba ezimnandi zezi, kuhlala kukho into onokuyenza ukuphucula imeko yakho.
Zenzele isiselo, phuma kwijenali yakho, kwaye usebenze ngezinye zezinto onokuzenza ukulawula ubomi bakho kwakhona.
1. Chonga apho uziva ungalawuleki (nalapho uziva ungalawuleki).
Ngoku ukuba unayo ijenali yakho ngesandla, bamba usiba kwaye wenze uluhlu. Bhala phantsi ukuba zeziphi iinkalo zobomi bakho ezikushiya uziva unenzondo, ngakumbi ezo kubonakala ngathi uqhutywa yintando yabanye.
iinjongo zokubeka ubudlelwane
Yiba neenkcukacha kangangoko unakho. Oku kunokuba yiyo nayiphi na into yokuziva ngathi ubhajwe kumjikelo ongapheliyo wokuthanda izinto eziphathekayo ukuya ekubeni ungathethi ngokwaneleyo malunga nokuthenga izinto.
Emva koko, bhala phantsi zonke iindawo oziva womelele kuzo kwaye unenjongo. Apho uziva ngathi usesitulweni sokuqhuba kwaye unelizwi lokugqibela kwindlela izinto ezenzeka ngayo.
Ukuba kukho ukugqagqana, unokufumana ubuchule ngomzobo weVenn kunye nezinye iipeni ezibengezelayo, ukuba unqwenela njalo. Umzekelo wale nto unokuba yinto enje, uziva womelele kwaye unamandla kwiklasi yakho yobugcisa bemfazwe, kodwa awuzange ukhethe oko kuzilandela ngokwakho abazali bakho okanye iqabane lakho elikukhethele lona.
Kwimeko enjalo, unokuziva utsaliwe kwiindlela ezimbalwa ezahlukeneyo. Unokuyicaphukisa le meko ikwenza uzive unamandla!
Cinga ngazo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, kwaye uqhubeke ukongeza kuluhlu 'olungalawulekiyo' kunye 'nolomeleleyo nolunenjongo'. Akukho nto ifana nokubona ubomi bakho bonke buchitheke phambi kwakho kwiphepha ukukunceda uqonde ukuba kufuneka utshintshe ntoni, kwaye njani.
Ingavakala ilula, kodwa zama ukuchitha ixesha lakho elininzi usenza kwaye ucinga ngezinto oziva ukuba uyakwazi ukuzilawula, kwaye nexesha elincinci kwizinto oziva ngathi zingaphaya kolawulo lwakho.
2. Phila ngenyaniso yakho.
Ubomi beli xesha lethu busikhuthaza ukuba sizithobe kumhlambi wezilwanyana. Nabani na ongawi emgceni, ebukisa into ethethwa ngabantu okanye abayenzayo abanye abantu, usengozini yokuba sisikhubekiso eluntwini.
Ngenxa yoko, abantu abaninzi kwihlabathi liphela baziva ngathi abanakulawula ubomi babo. Benza nje into elindelwe ngabanye kubo, kunokuba baphile ngokwabo yinyaniso yomphefumlo wabo.
Ke zibuze: uthanda ukwenza ntoni? Zeziphi ezona zinto uzithandayo zobuhle? Kuthekani ngomculo? Iifilimu? Iincwadi? Imidlalo? Izinto endizithandayo?
Ngaba uhlala kwikhaya elibonisa ubuhle obuthandayo? Umzekelo, uyayithanda isitayile seZen, kodwa uziva ngathi ungoyiki ngenxa yokuba iqabane lakho (okanye abazali, kuxhomekeke kwiimeko zakho) bayayithanda imfuxumfuhlu?
Kuthekani ngempahla yakho? Ngaba unxibe iimpahla ezibonisa ubuntu bakho bokwenyani? Okanye unxiba izinxibo ezenzeka nje ukuba zikulungele ukugqibela kwakho ukuyokuthenga?
Indawo esihlala kuyo kunye nesinxibo sethu sibalulekile. Xa sizingqonga (kwaye sizambathise) ngeeNyaniso zethu, ngoko nangoko siziva sizolile.
Into ebalulekileyo yoku kuku yeka ukukhathalela ukuba abanye bacinga ntoni ngathi . Oku kunokuba nzima ukuba ujikelezwe ngabantu abathanda ubugqwetha, kodwa zibuze ukuba yintoni eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu: ukwamkelwa liqela lezimvu ezingenangqondo, ezingenangqondo, ezithobelayo, okanye ukonwaba ngesiqu sakho?
Misela iinkanuko zakho, kwaye ulandele inyani yazo ngokungaphazanyiswa.
Oku ngaphezu kwakho konke: kuwe ngokwakho yinyani,
Kwaye kuya kulandela, njengobusuku emini,
Awunakuxoka nakubani na. ”
- UWilliam Shakespeare: Hamlet (UMthetho 1, Isiqendu 3)
3. Gxila kwenye into engeyiyo intshabalalo nobumnyama.
Abanye abantu baziva bexhalabile kwaye bexhalabile ngenxa yazo zonke izinto ezimbi eziqhubekayo emhlabeni.
Baziva bengenakunceda ekwenzeni izinto zibengcono, bexhalabile ngekamva labantwana babo, impilo yeplanethi, ulwandle, njl.
Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuziva ungaphaya kulawulo lobomi bakho kukubeka amandla akho apho kuya kukunceda wena kunye nesangqa sakho kwangoko.
Oku kuhlala kuthetha ukungazikhathaleli kwimithombo yeendaba nakwiTV ukuze ukwazi ukugxila kumzuzu wangoku.
Endaweni yokoyika phambi kwe-CNN busuku ngabunye, thatha into oyithandayo. Dlala ezinye iincwadi zokumamela ngasemva ngelixa ufunda indlela yokwenza into ngesandla.
Nokuba kubhetele ukuba into oyithandayo uyifunde inemveliso, njengoko uya kuba nento eluncedo xa ugqibile.
Thatha ukrola kweenkuni okanye ukunitha. Dlulela kwizakhono 'ezilahlekileyo' kunye nobugcisa obufana nokuluka ibhaskiti okanye utolo olutshisiweyo.
Awuyi kuzigcina nje kuphela kunye nengqondo yakho ixakekile, uya kuba nemveliso - kwaye uya kuba nezakhono ezixabisekileyo onokuzisebenzisa xa kunokwenzeka ukuba uhambe-zombiepocalypse.
Unokumangaliswa kukubona indlela uxinzelelo kunye nemvakalelo ngokubanzi yokungabikho kolawulo incipha ngayo xa uyeka ukugcwala ziindaba ezimbi ubusuku nemini.
4. Zinike amandla ngokuchonga utshintsho oluncinci onokulwenza ngoku.
Jonga kakuhle olu luhlu ulwenzileyo kwinyathelo lokuqala, kwaye ukhethe into onokuyitshintsha namhlanje, ngoku, ukuze uzive unamandla ngakumbi kwaye ulawula ngakumbi. Nokuba yeyiphi na, kufanelekile ukuba ikwenze uzive ngathi ufeze okuthile.
Ngaba uziva udandathekile ngenxa yokuba uphelelwe yimilo? Vuka ngoku kwaye wenze izihlalo ezili-10. Qikelela ukuba? Usandul 'ukwenza ngaphezu kweshumi izolo.
Zama ukwenza i-12 ngomso, kwaye mhlawumbi isibini sokushicilela ngelixa ulapho. Yandisa eli nani ngo-2-5 yonke imihla, kwaye ngexesha lenyanga, uyakumangaliswa yinkqubela oyenzayo.
imibongo ebuhlungu ngokufa komhlobo
Kuyafana nezinto ezinjenge-clutter ekujikelezile, okanye imikhwa ofuna ukuyaphula. Le nkqubo inokutshintshwa kuyo nayiphi na imeko apho uziva ungalawuleki.
Ukuba uziva ngathi uchitha ixesha elininzi kwimidiya yoluntu, cima iiakhawunti zakho.
Ngaba unamathele ekutyeni ukutya ongakuthandiyo, okanye uziva ungenampilo, kuba ungazi ukupheka? Bukela ezinye zezifundo zeYouTube kwaye ufunde ukuba ungazenza njani. Ungaqala encinci ngezinto ezinjengamaqanda aqhekeziweyo awuzukuzama nantoni na entle kakhulu kwangoko.
Amanyathelo amancinci okuzixhobisa kunye nolawulo akhokelela kutshintsho olukhulu, kwaye unokwenza utshintsho oluncinci ngoku kulomzuzwana.
Ke khetha enye yezo zinto kuluhlu ‘Andiziva ndilawula malunga nolu’, kwaye ulutshintshe. Ngoku.
5. Chonga utshintsho olukhulu kwaye uqale ukuthatha amanyathelo kubo.
Jonga kakuhle yonke into oyibhalileyo kwaye uzame ukumisela ukuba kukho ipateni ephindaphindwayo apha.
Ngaba zikhona iimeko apho uziva ukuba unike ngaphezulu kwamandla akho omntu komnye umntu?
Okanye ngaba uhlala kwizikhundla apho abanye abantu banegunya phezu kwakho ongazange wavuma okanye wavuma?
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Umzekelo, unokuba kwindima engaphantsi emsebenzini kwaye uziva ngathi abanye abantu bahlala beku-odola kwaye bakuthatha kancinci. Oko kunokwenza nabani na azive ngathi ulikhoboka elingaxatyelwanga kunokuba asebenze naye ehlonitshwayo.
Kwimeko enje, jonga ukuba ungathatha ikhefu lokungabikho. Chaza ikhefu lokugula ngengqondo xa kukho imfuneko, okanye uthethe no-HR ukufumanisa ukuba unazo na iintsuku zeholide.
Ngelixa unelo xesha lokuphumla, hlaziya i-CV yakho kwaye ufake isicelo semisebenzi emitsha-ngokukhethekileyo kuyo nayiphi na indima yobunkokeli, okanye njengonkontileka okanye i-freelancer. Le yokugqibela inokukuvumela ukuba uzimele geqe xa kufikwa emsebenzini owenzayo, njengoko unokwenza iiyure zakho kwaye UQWALISELE ukuba ungathanda ukusebenzela bani.
Ngaphandle koko, eli iya kuba lixesha elihle lokufumanisa ukuba ungathanda ukuthatha ikhondo lakho lomsebenzi kwelinye icala. Ngaba uyayonwabela into oyenzayo mihla le? Ukuba akunjalo, khangela ukuba ukhetha ukwenza ntoni, kunye namanyathelo ekufuneka uwathathe ukuze ufike apho.
Umzekelo, ngaba kufuneka uphinde uqeqeshwe kwelinye ikhondo? Kwimeko apho, amanyathelo aya kuba yinto efana nale:
-Jonga kwiinkqubo zemfundo eziya kuthi zihambelane neemfuno zakho.
- Nciphisa ukukhangela kwakho kwiinkqubo ezi-2 okanye ezi-3.
-Fumanisa ukuba zibiza malini.
-Qiniseka ukuba unganakho na ukuyifumana loo nto, okanye ukuba ufuna ukujonga imali-mboleko / inkxaso-mali.
-Faka isicelo seekhosi ukuze ubone ukuba yeyiphi na eyakwamkela.
- Faka isicelo senkxaso mali.
Ukuba unamalungu osapho atyalwe buqu kwikhondo lomsebenzi wakho, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo kuya kufuneka uthethe nabo ngako konke oku ngelinye ixesha. Kwimeko encomekayo, baya kukuxhasa ngokungathandabuzekiyo malunga notshintsho ebomini bakho.
Ukuba akunjalo, ukuba bakunika ixesha elinzima ngenxa yokuba iinjongo kunye namaphupha akho anokucaphukisa ibhalansi abaziva bekhululekile ngayo, kuya kufuneka uphinde uqiniseke ukuba iiparameter zakho zasekhaya zisakukonwabisa na, okanye ukuba ufuna ukuzitshintsha njengokuba.
Kuhlala kukho into onokuyenza ukulawula iimeko zakho. Esinye isitshixo sokwenza olu tshintsho kukufumanisa ukuba kutheni ungekazenzi. Ukuba uziva ungalawuleki malunga neenkalo ezahlukeneyo zobomi bakho, thatha ixesha lokufumana ukuba kutheni.
Uwanike nini amandla akho, ukuzimela kwakho kunye nokuzimela?
Ngaba olu yayilukhetho lwangabom? Okanye ngaba uziva ukuba amandla akho athathiwe kuwe?
Nokuba uphendula yiphi na, nguThixo, thatha la mandla ubuye nawo. Sele ingeyakho, kufuneka uvume ukuba ungukumkani ozimeleyo, kwaye uthathe amanyathelo ngokufanelekileyo.
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6 Funda ukuyeka, kwaye uziqhelanise nezinto, ongenakuzilawula.
Kukho isicatshulwa esihle seBuddhist esithi: 'iintlungu azinakuphepheka, kodwa ukubandezeleka akunakukhethwa.'
Le intle kakhulu imantra kwizinto ezininzi zobomi ezingenakuphepheka njengoko zingalawuleki.
Umzekelo, awungekhe ulawule imozulu, okanye imiba ethile yempilo, kodwa UNGAKULAWULA iimpendulo zakho kubo.
Abanye abantu bakhubazekile ngenxa yokoyika ukugula nokufa. Banokuba noxinzelelo olukhulu okanye uxinzelelo ngenxa yazo zonke izinto ezinokuthi zihambe gwenxa. Baza kuchitha ubusuku obungenasiphelo bejikela kwimithombo yeendaba zentlalo, bezothusa ngamabali malunga neempawu okanye amabali awoyikisayo malunga nonyango olungahambi kakuhle.
Xa kuziwa kwizinto esingenakukwazi ukuzilawula, eyona nto intle kukuyeka. Yamkela ukuba kuya kubakho izinto ezininzi ebomini esingenakukwazi ukuzitshintsha, esingenakukwazi ukuzilawula, esinokungabinalo nelinye ilizwi kuzo.
Kwaye kulungile. Kwezo meko, konke esinokukwenza kukwamkela okwenzekayo ngobabalo, kwaye sithathe isigqibo sokuba siza kuphendula njani kwinto eyenzekayo.
Umntu okhe wehlelwa luxinzelelo olubi unokukhetha ukuhlala kwimeko yexhoba rhoqo. Okanye banokukhula ngamava abo, kwaye babe ngumqeqeshi wokunceda abanye abantu kubunzima babo.
Umntu ofunyaniswe ukuba unesifo esinganyangekiyo unokuchitha yonke imihla ekhalela ikamva labo. Okanye banokusebenzisa ixesha elishiyekileyo ukuwela izinto ezimangalisayo kuluhlu lwamabhakethi, kunye nokwenza izinto ezintle kwabanye abantu.
Thixo, ndinike inzolo yokwamkela izinto endingenakuzitshintsha,
inkalipho yokutshintsha izinto endinokuzenza,
Nobulumko ukwazi umahluko.
-Ukugcina iNiebuhr
7. Funda ukuthi “Hayi!”
UMarcus Aurelius wathi ekuphela kwento onokuyilawula ngokwenene nguwe. Makhe sandise phezu koko kancinci kwaye simisele ukuba unokulawula into oyenzayo kwaye awuvumelani nayo.
Abantu abaninzi bakhule beziva ngathi kufuneka bavumelane neemfuno zabanye abantu, ngaphandle kokufuna ukwenza into okanye hayi.
Bayazithobela zonke iintlobo zezinto abazicekisayo ngenxa yemvisiswano yosapho, okanye ukwamkelwa sisangqa sabo sentlalo.
Endaweni yoko, funda ukuqala ukuthi 'hayi' xa ungafuni ukwenza into.
Awunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze nantoni na komnye umntu, kwaye awuvumelani nezinto ozicekisayo. Uhlala unolawulo kwinto oyenzayo kwaye awufuni kuyenza.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kuhlala kukho izinto ekufuneka sizenzile nokuba siyafuna okanye asifuni, njengokuya kuthenga evenkileni xa kukho ikhephu ngaphandle, okanye ukucoca ibhokisi yenkunkuma yekati.
Kodwa akufuneki siye kwimibhiyozo emnandi yesidlo sangokuhlwa apho kuya kufuneka sibandezeleke ngamabali amanyumnyezi abantu, okanye sibambe iilwimi zethu ukuze singaxeleli inlaws yethu ukuba sicinga ntoni ngayo.
Ukuthi 'hayi' ngokuthantamisayo kodwa okuqinisekileyo kuyenzeka kwezi meko. Abanye banokuzama ukuziva benetyala ngokwenza into abafuna ukuyenza, kodwa ume uqinile. Baza kuzama ukukukhohlisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kodwa bamba umhlaba wakho.
Ngexesha elingaphezulu, bayakuqonda ukuba unesibindi kwinkolelo yakho, kwaye bayakuyeka ukuzama ukwenza ukuba wenze izinto ozicekisayo.
Ngokufunda ukuthi 'hayi' ngoku, uya kuba nolawulo olukhulu kamva.
8. Yenza izinto ezikucelomngeni okanye ezikoyikisayo.
Endaweni yokudlala izinto zikhuselekile, funda ukuzijula kwisiphelo esinzulu ngamanye amaxesha.
Oku kubalulekile. Ukuba izinto ozenzayo azikuniki naluphi na uhlobo lomceli mngeni, okanye zilula kakhulu kwinqanaba lakho lesakhono, emva koko umsebenzi wonke uba ngumrhaji.
Ukuba izinto zikhuseleke kakhulu kwaye kulula ngoko akukho thuba lokuba ukhule kwaye uphuhle.
Fumana umsebenzi weqela, umdlalo, okanye umdlalo owoyikisayo okanye owoyikisayo kancinci, kodwa osoloko uzama ukuzama. Ukoyisa uloyiko lwakho kuya kukunceda uhlakulele indlela oziva ngayo, kunye nokuqonda ukuba womelele kakhulu kunokuba uzinika ityala.
Thatha isenzo somzimba esikutyhala okanye esifuna ukugxila kakhulu. Olu inokuba luhlobo lobugcisa bemfazwe, okanye mhlawumbi ukutola ngomlilo okanye ukumakisha.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ezi zimvo zinobundlobongela, zama izakhono zesekisi okanye umdaniso, kunye neenzame zokuyila njengokupeyinta ioyile.
Injongo apha kukuthatha inxaxheba kwizinto enifuna ukuzenza ezicela umngeni kwaye zikutyhaleni ukuze nibe nawo onke loo mandla alindele ukuba aqhume kuwe ixesha elide.
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Musa ukuhlala kubukho obuphakathi apho wamkelayo nje into abanye abayijongayo kuwe. Yenza into ekufuneka yenziwe ukutshintsha amandla kuyo yonke indawo apho uziva ungenamandla, nokuba linyathelo elinye elincinci ngexesha.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ubulawula njani ubomi bakho? Thetha kumqeqeshi wobomi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukudibanisa nenye.
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