Ukuziva ukhathazekile ayisiyiyo imvakalelo yokuba nabani na angazinikela ukuba abe namava.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, yimvakalelo yendalo yomntu esiya kuthi sonke siyive ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa ayisiyiyo eyonwabisayo.
Ukudana yinto esiba nayo xa sikwimeko esingenamandla okutshintsha okanye xa singakwazi ukufezekisa into.
Sinokuziva amanqanaba amdaka okudana xa singekoyiswa kodwa ukuhamba kuya kuba nzima kwaye ukusilela kujongeka ngathi kunjalo.
Umntu okhathazekileyo unokubonakala ekhathazekile, ecaphukile, okanye enomsindo, enomsindo ngokuchasene nento enokubonakala ngathi yimeko engenabulungisa okanye engenakwenzeka.
imizekelo yokuqwalaselwa okufuna indlela yokuziphatha kubantu abadala
Ngaba uyayikhumbula loo mvakalelo xa wawusengumntwana kwaye umdala nje awunakukholelwa ukuba awuzitsalanga iinwele zomninawa wakho okanye ukuba inja iwutye umsebenzi wesikolo owenzelwa ekhaya, kwanaxa ubusitsho (kube kanye…) uthetha inyani, kwaye akukho nto unokuyenza ukutshintsha iingqondo zabo?
Iimeko ojamelana nazo ebomini bakho abadala zinokwahluka kakhulu kwezi, kodwa uxinzelelo oziva lulo luyafana.
Nokuba bubomi bakho bobuchwephesha okanye bobuqu, izinto kunqabile ukuba zichaneke, kwaye sonke siza ngokuchasene namaqhuma endleleni enza ukuba uhambo lube nzima.
Ukuba kukho into enye eqinisekileyo, nangona kunjalo, kukuba ukuchitha ixesha uziva ukhathazekile kukuchitha ixesha.
Emva kwakho konke, unenkxalabo malunga nento ongenamandla ukuyitshintsha, okanye uzibone ungenamandla okutshintsha, kwaye akukho sixa sokukhala okanye somsindo esiza kwenza umahluko kuloo nto.
Iindidi ezi-2 zokuKhathazeka
Zimbini iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokukhathazeka.
indlela yokwenza ixesha libonakale lihamba ngokukhawuleza
Eyokuqala yeyangaphakathi. Njengoko igama lisenokucebisa, uxinzelelo lwangaphakathi luvela ngaphakathi.
Sisiphumo semiceli mngeni onokuthi ujongane nayo nokudibana neenjongo ozibekele zona, uzalisekise iminqweno yakho, okanye ngenxa yesiphumo sobuthathaka ozibona unazo, njengokuxhalaba kwiimeko zentlalo okanye ukoyikwa kwento.
Usenokude ube nokudana ngaphakathi xa intliziyo yakho ineminqweno eyahlukeneyo engadibaniyo kwaphela, kwaye awunakukwazi ukuthatha isigqibo sokuba uza kuqala ngantoni.
Kukho nokudideka kwangaphandle. Olu luhlobo lokukhathazeka oziva ukuba uqhuba ecaleni kwendlela kwaye ngequbuliso uyifumana ivaliwe.
Kodwa ikwayile nto uyifumanayo xa ujongene nomsebenzi onzima okanye unyanzelwa ukuba ulinde ujikeleze into eyenzekayo.
Ngokusisiseko, uxinzelelo lwangaphandle lubangelwa ziimeko ezingaphaya kolawulo lwakho kodwa ezingahambelani nokusebenza kwengqondo yakho ngaphakathi.
Ewe, ezi zinto zimbini zihlala zihamba kunye, ukuba uza ngokuchasene nomba wangaphandle ongenako ukuwoyisa ngenxa yohlobo oluthile lwesithintelo sangaphakathi ozibona unaso.
Iindlela ezi-7 zokujongana nokudana
Sonke siza kuziva sikhathazekile ngaxa lithile okanye elinye, kwaye sinyanzelekile ukuba sizive sinomsindo okanye sikhathazekile ekuqaleni, kodwa ukuba ujonga ngendlela eyiyo, ungabeka imeko efanelekileyo kwiimeko ezininzi eziphazamisayo.
1. Thatha umzuzu wokuphefumla.
Xa unokuziva ukhathazekile yimeko ethile, thatha ithutyana uhlale phantsi uphefumle ngaphambi kokuba wenze enye into.
Sukusabela kwangoko, kodwa zinike ithuba lokuzola ukuze ube nakho ukwenza isigqibo esisengqiqweni malunga nokuba ungahamba njani uye phambili.
Mhlawumbi ulivile eli cebiso izihlandlo ezizigidi, kodwa ungaliyeki. Ukuphefumla okumbalwa kunokwenza umahluko kwihlabathi.
2. Thetha ngayo.
Ukugcina iimvakalelo zakho zibhotile akuyi kukunceda. Fumana indlebe enovelwano uze uvakalise.
Ukuba ubeke ukukhathazeka kwakho ngamazwi kuya kukunceda uqonde oko kwenzekayo ngaphakathi kwentloko yakho.
Zimbini iintlobo zabantu onokuthetha nazo, kwaye zombini ezi ntlobo ziya kuba nakho ukukunika ukuqonda okwahluke kakhulu.
ukufunda ukuhlala ngoku
Umntu ongenanxibelelwano naye, kunye nolwazi oluncinci, le meko inokuba nkulu njengoko banokujonga kumfanekiso opeyintayo ngakumbi kwaye beze nge-engile entsha kuwo engekhe yenzeke kuwe.
Kwiphepha elisezantsi, umntu owaziyo ngqo ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kwaye onolwazi kakhulu ngayo nantoni na ophikisana nayo kunokuba kuhle ukuba uthethe nayo, kuba baya kuqonda ubunzima kwaye banokuba nolwazi okanye amava anokuba sebenzisa kuwe.
Ukuba uyathandabuza, zama ukuthetha nomntu odidi ngalunye.
Ukuba ngenene awuziva ukhululekile ukuthetha ngayo kunye nabani na, zama ukuyibhala phantsi endaweni yoko, ke ubuncinci ukubeka indlela oziva ngayo ngamazwi.
3. Yiba nomdla woku.
Xa ezo mvakalelo zokukhathazeka zivela, zibuze ukuba kutheni le meko ikwenze waziva ngolu hlobo.
Zama ukulandelela unobangela wokukhathazeka ubuyele kwingcambu yawo, kwaye unokumangaliswa yinto oyifumanisileyo.
Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho malunga nokuba le ndlela usondela kuyo yeyona ndlela ilungileyo.
4. Yikhulule.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukukhathazeka kufuneka kukhutshwe.
Ndixelele into emnandi ngawe
Fumana indawo ethile esecaleni kwaye ukhwaze kwaye ukhwaze umxholo wentliziyo yakho. Okanye usebenzise umthambo ude ucinge ukuba intliziyo yakho inokugqabhuka. Khupha onke la mandla e-pent-up.
Ukuba uyafuna, khala. Uyakuva ngcono kakhulu emva koko, ndiyakuthembisa.
Nje ukuba ukhuphe zonke iimvakalelo zakho, uya kuba nakho ukuqhubela phambili.
5. Guqula imbono yakho ngayo.
Ungabeka ujikeleziso olwahlukileyo kwinto entle kakhulu kobu bomi ukuba uyayijonga kwelinye icala.
Kulula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe, kodwa ungagqiba ekubeni ujonge imeko yakho ekhathazayo njengethuba lokukhula nokufunda, okanye umceli mngeni wokuzonwabisa.
Chonga izinto ezihambe kakuhle kunye nokungahambi kakuhle kwaye ujonge kwiimpawu ezintle, ujonge iimpazamo njengezona zibalulekileyo nezifundo eziluncedo ekufuneka uzifundile apha endleleni.
6. Gxila kumfanekiso omkhulu.
Yayiyintoni injongo yoqobo owawusenayo engqondweni xa wawuphuma kuhambo olukhokelele kolu vimba ndlela, okanye isiphelo esifileyo?
Gxila kumandla akho ngokufika apho ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kunokuba uqhubeke nokubethelela intloko eludongeni lwezitena.
Zibuze ukuba ufuna ntoni ukuba yenzeke ngokwahlukileyo ukuze ufikelele kule njongo ngeli xesha, kwaye wenze isicwangciso esitsha sokuzifumana apho.
Okanye, ukuba ibingeyonjongo ephosakeleyo ekhokelele ekukhathazekeni kwakho, kodwa imeko engakhange ihambe njengoko ubunethemba, buza ukuba ingaba iyakubaluleka na ngeyure e-1, usuku olu-1, iveki enye, okanye inyanga enye.
Amathuba kukuba, ngaxa lithile kungekudala, uya kujonga emva kwaye uzibuze ukuba kutheni usebenze ngaphezulu kwayo kwasekuqaleni.
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7. Thatha amanyathelo.
Ukuba kukho into enye eqinisekile, akukho nto kwaphela ukuhlehlisa, njengoko kuya kukwenza uzive umbi kakhulu.
Nje ukuba uzolile kwaye ube nentloko enengqondo emagxeni akho, qiniseka ukuba uthatha inyathelo lokuqala kwindlela entsha oyicwangcisileyo kwangoko kunokuba mva ukuze ungami.
Okukhona ubeka kade, kokukhona kuya kubonakala kunzima.
Ukuchitha ixesha lakho ukhathazeka yenye indlela yokuzibekela amangomso izinto. Awunakho ukuwathatha nawaphi na amanyathelo ngelixa ukhathazeka ngamanyathelo owathathileyo akufikisileyo kuloo ndawo.
Kukho iqhalo elidala laseIreland eliya 'Awusoze walima intsimi ngokuyiguqula engqondweni yakho,' kwaye alizange lithethwe ilizwi eliyinyani.
Thatha izifundo ozifundileyo kwaye uqhubele phambili umntu olumkileyo.
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