Ke, benikunye kunye okwethutyana kwaye izinto zivakala kamnandi- kodwa kukho into engekhoyo.
Unqwenela ukutshata isoka lakho, kodwa akakakubuzwa kwaye awunakuyeka ukucinga ngalo.
Endaweni yokufuna umsesane kunye nokongeza imfumba yoxinzelelo, ungacothisa kancinci iingcebiso kwaye ukhuthaze ezinye iincoko ezinokumnceda ukuba enze isindululo ngokwamazwi akhe. Nantsi indlela…
1. Thetha ngekamva.
Ngokuthetha malunga nokuba ufuna ukuqhubeka nokwabelana ngobomi bakho kunye (ngaphandle kokucaca kakhulu!), Uvumela iqabane lakho ukuba lazi ukuba ubudlelwane buhlala ixesha elide.
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Ngelixa nobabini ngokungathandabuzekiyo kwiphepha elinye malunga naloo nto, kunokuba luncedo kuye ukuva ukuba ngenene uyazibona unaye ixesha elide.
Ungathetha ngamaphupha akho kunye - qiniseka ukuba ubuza igalelo lakhe, kungenjalo yena Ngaba qala ukuziva unyanzelekile.
Zama ukumbuza ukuba ufuna ntoni kwikamva, kwaye zeziphi izinto azibonayo xa nidibene kunye. Oku kususa uxinzelelo, kananjalo, njengoko kungangqalanga ngqo emtshatweni.
Ungathetha ngohambo ofuna ukuluthatha kunye, impumelelo kunye neenjongo ofuna ukuzitshitshisa, kunye nokuba ubomi bakho bephupha elizayo bujongeka njani.
Ukuba umtshato uyakhankanywa, kuhle! Hlala uzolile kwaye uhambe nayo, ungamenzi azive ngathi ulindele okanye uyayifuna, kodwa bonisa ukuba uyayibona nakwikamva lakho.
Ukuba akayikhankanyi, ungayilahla kwingxoxo ngobunono.
Kodwa ukuba le yinto sele uthethile ngayo kakhulu, kuya kufuneka ulumke uyikhuphe kwakhona njengoko usenokuba uyazi ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe ziyintoni na kakade. Ukuba uyazibamba, kufuneka uphephe ukumtyhala ebusweni okanye umnyanzele ukuba athethe ngayo.
2. Thabathani inyathelo elilandelayo.
Kwabanye abafana, umtshato unokuziva njengenyathelo elikhulu - kwaye oko kuhlala kunjalo kuba kukuzinikela ekuthethwa ngako 'kwangoko kakhulu.'
Ngoku, awukho umda wexesha lokuzibophelela, kwaye isibini ngasinye siya kufumana oko kubasebenzelayo. Ukuba awuhlali kunye okwangoku, nangona kunjalo, umntu othandana naye unokuba ulungile ukuziva ngathi umtshato kukutsiba okukhulu!
Akukho ndlela isetiweyo, kodwa inokukunceda ekusebenzeni ngokuthe chu ukuya kwisindululo kunokuba ulindele enye kuba nithandana ngokwenene.
Isithandwa sakho siya kukuthanda, kunjalo, kodwa sinokufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba uyahambelana ngokwenene kwixesha elide.
Oko kuthetha ukuhlala kunye, uninzi lwezibini, ubuncinci, kunye nokubonana ngokusemandleni akho kwaye mbi.
Ukuba ngoku nitshintshana ngokungqubana kwindawo yomnye ubusuku ubuncinci ngeveki, umntu othandana naye usenokungaziva ngathi ukulungele ukuchitha lonke ixesha lakho kunye endlwini enye.
Yithi chu uye phambili ngamanqanaba ahlukeneyo okuzibophelela, njengokuchitha ixesha elininzi nosapho kunye nabahlobo, kunye nomnye nomnye.
Oku kuya kumnceda ukuba aqonde ukuba ulunge kangakanani ebomini bakhe kwaye uhambelana kangakanani, kwaye uya kuziva ekhululekile ukucela inqanaba elilandelayo lokuzinikela - umtshato.
3. Mkhumbuze ukuba zinkulu kangakanani izinto, hayi 'ezingekhoyo.'
Ukuba uthe phithi ngumtshato okanye yiyo yonke into onokucinga ngayo kuba uvele.akacingi, kufuneka uphefumle.
Le yinto eninzi esinamava ngayo, kodwa inokuba nefuthe elibi kubudlelwane ukuba awukwazi ukuyigcina iphantsi kolawulo.
Ungaqala ukuyicaphukela into yokuba umntu othandana naye engacebisanga, okanye uthe phithi yile nto unokuyenza ngokwahlukileyo ukumenza akufune ngakumbi.
Okukhona ugxila koku, kokukhona ubeka ubunzima kubo nakubudlelwane, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba nefuthe elibi kwizinto.
Khawufane ucinge ukuba umntu othandana naye uhlala ekucela ukuba wenze into obungakulungelanga ukuyenza. Uya kuqala ukuziva unetyala ngokungaziva ulungile, kunye nokukhathazeka kukuba abayi kukunika indawo.
Uya kuthiya ukuba abazihloniphi iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye ubuya kuziva unolwazi kakhulu ngokuziphatha kwakho, ukuya kuthi ga apho ubudlelwane buya kuqala ukubandezeleka.
Endaweni yokwenza ezo zinto, zama nje ukugxila kwindlela ezinkulu ngayo izinto esele zikho. Yiba liqabane elingummangaliso, thatha uxinzelelo ngokukuyeka okwangoku, kwaye ubonise isoka lakho ukuba lukhulu kangakanani ubudlelwane.
Okukhona ebona eli cala 'liqhelekileyo' kuwe (endaweni yendlela ocinga ngayo!), Kokukhona uya kuba nokholo kwizinto ezisebenza ixesha elide- kwaye kokukhona uya kuzithemba, kwaye ikhululekile, yanele ukucebisa kuwe.
4. Thetha ngokuphandle ngayo.
Ngokugqibeleleyo, siyazi, kodwa le yinto uninzi lwethu luthanda ukuyiphepha ukuyenza xa kufikwa kwizindululo!
Kwakhona, ukuba sele uthethile ngomtshato nesoka lakho kwaye akuhambanga kakuhle ngendlela ofuna ngayo, singacebisa ukweqa le.
Kodwa ukuba awuzange uthethe nyani malunga naloo nkwenkwe uyithandileyo ngaphambili, ngewungawuphephekanga umxholo womtshato kuba awufuni ukuba 'ngulomntu' ukhathazayo ucela iringi.
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Ukuba ayisiyonto ubukhe wayithetha ngaphambili kodwa ucinga ngento eninzi, kulula ukuyifaka kwingxoxo kwaye ube, wonwabe kakhulu- emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uyicwangcisile yonke into entlokweni yakho, ukuze ukhululeke kunye nesihloko.
Isenokungabikho kwiphepha elinye nawe (okwangoku!), Ingothuka kakhulu kwaye uzive unyanzelekile ukuba uqalise ngo “Ke, bendicinga ngokutshata- singenza u-X, sifumane u-Y. Ndiza kuthetha nodadewenu malunga nokufumana umsesane kamakhulu wakho. ”
Uyabona ukuba sithetha ntoni? Gcina olo hlobo lwengxoxo kwii-besties zakho kwaye ugcine upholile kunye nesoka lakho- okwangoku, ubuncinci.
Ungamazisa ukuba yinto ongathanda ukujolisa kuyo, okanye into eya kuthetha lukhulu kuwe.
Chaza ukuba awufuni kubeka naluphi na uxinzelelo kuye, kwaye awulindelanga nto kodwa ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba ukwiphepha elinye ngokubophelela kunye neenjongo zexesha elide.
Linganisa i-vibe kwaye ubone indlela avakalelwa ngayo-ukuba ubonakala engonwabanga, mxelele ukuba uyayiqonda indlela avakalelwa ngayo, uyonwabile ukuthetha ngayo, kwaye unokuphinda utyelele esi sihloko ngelinye ixesha ukuba angathanda.
Khumbula ukuba umtshato, kunye nezindululo, zendlela ezimbini kwaye kufuneka uhloniphe indlela avakalelwa ngayo kanye njengoko ufuna ukunxibelelana nendlela wena zive.
5. Chitha ixesha nabahlobo abatshatileyo okanye abathembekileyo.
Abanye abantu banexhala lokuba umtshato uza kutshintsha izinto uzenze mbi. Basenokungabi namava obudlelwane bexesha elide kwaye babe nexhala lokuba yonke into iyakutshintsha kwaye abasayi kuba nayo inkululeko yabo.
Qalisa ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabantu abatshatileyo okanye abatshatileyo. Awudingi ukwenza umboniso omkhulu wokuba betshatile, njengoko oku kunokumenza azikrokrele iinjongo zakho!
Endaweni yoko, yigcine ngokungaqhelekanga-ixesha elininzi alichitha nabantu abazinikezele omnye komnye, kokukhona kuya kuqala ukuziva.
Uya kubona ukuba abahlobo bakhe abangamadoda abatshatileyo basenobomi babo kwaye bonwabele ukutshata, kwaye uya kuqala ukuzibona yena kunye nolwalamano lwakho kunye.
Okukhona esiba mnandi kwimbono yomtshato, kokukhona uya kufuna yona kwaye ayicebise!
6. Nyusa ezothando.
Kuyafana nokwenza ukuba ungabalulekanga ebomini bakhe, ukufumana uthando ngakumbi rhoqo yindlela entle yokukhawulezisa izinto kunye nesoka lakho.
Okukhona ekhululekile kwaye eluthandweni evakalelwa kunye nawe, kokukhona uya kuzithemba ngakumbi kwaye akhululeke xa kusiyiwa kwinqanaba elilandelayo.
Ukuba uziva ngathi kusekho okuninzi okuqhubekayo kubudlelwane bakho, kwaye usavuya kakhulu kwaye uyathandwa, uya kuqala ngokwendalo acinge ukuba kungakanani ukuzibophelela anokukwenza kuwe.
Kuya kuqala ukuziva ngathi yakhe umbono, nto leyo ethetha ukuba uya kuzithemba ngakumbi ekuthatheni isigqibo sokucebisa.
Ukuba ubona ukuba izinto zomelele phakathi kwakho kwaye usenza ixesha lokuthandana kunye, uya kuqala ukubona umfanekiso omkhulu wokuchitha ubomi bakho kunye.
Yenza umzamo omkhulu ngobusuku bomhla, okanye ucwangcise impelaveki yothando kude kunye. Zama ukufumana ixesha apho ninokuhlala nodwa kunye kwaye nigxile kakhulu kwizinto ezintle phakathi kwenu nobabini.
Ukungena kwisimo sokuthandana kuya kumkhokelela ekubeni acinge ngezinto ezinjengekamva lakho, umtshato, abantwana, njalo njalo. Okukhona evakalelwa kukuba lukhetho olunokwenyani, kokukhona uya kuphakamisa umbuzo omkhulu.
Ke, sifundile ukuba eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuba umfana azive ngathi yena ufuna ukucebisa yile nto-iyenzayo yakhe isigqibo.
Oko kuthetha ukuyekiswa umsebenzi xa kufikwa kuxinzelelo kunye nezimvo ezigxekayo, kwaye umbonisa nje ukuba nilunge kangakanani nobabini. Okukhona eqheleka kwaye ekhululekile esiba nombono womtshato ngokwemiqathango yakhe, kokukhona kungcono.
Oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka azibonele ngokwakhe kunokuba uzame ukumnyanzela ngalo lonke ixesha!
Xa kuphela kwento onokucinga ngayo, kunzima ukunganyanzeli indoda yakho ukuba icebise, kodwa iya kuhlala ibuya umva. Endaweni yoko, mayeze kulo mbono ngokwakhe-kwaye ulungele ukuthi ewe!
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