Abasetyhini abaninzi bayadana ngokumangalisayo xa abayeni babo bengakwenzi isabelo sabo esifanelekileyo endlwini.
Ayisibafazi kuphela abathatha imisebenzi engabhatalwanga ngakumbi kunamadoda amaninzi, kodwa ngokubanzi kufuneka bathathe uninzi lwemisebenzi yasekhaya.
Kutheni le nto isenzeka? Kwixesha lethu langoku lokulingana ngokwesini (okanye ubuncinci sinethemba lokuba kuyalingana okwangoku), kutheni kusekho ukungalingani xa kuziwa kwimisebenzi kunye nokusebenza endlini?
Makhe sijonge izizathu ezimbalwa zokuba kutheni umyeni wakho engenokunceda nantoni na, kwaye unokwenza ntoni ngayo.
Kunzima Ukwahlukana Nemikhwa Engaganga
Ngamawaka eminyaka, imisebenzi yasekhaya yayijongwa 'njengomsebenzi wabafazi.' Amadoda ayesebenza ngaphandle kwendlu, ngoko iziko kunye nekhaya kwakuyindawo yomfazi. Ngokuqhelekileyo wayenoxanduva lokupheka, ukucoca kunye nokukhulisa abantwana.
Obu bungqongqo bukho kwihlabathi liphela, kwaye buhlala busalawula kwiindawo ezininzi. Khumbula ukuba abasetyhini abasebenza ngaphandle kwekhaya sele beyinto eqhelekileyo kule minyaka ingama-50 idlulileyo.
Ngaphaya koko, kuxhomekeke ekukhulisweni ngokwenkcubeko, iintsapho ezininzi zisenentsebenziswano apho umfazi engumgcini wendlu osilelayo.
Ukuba umyeni wakho ukhulele kusapho apho umama wakhe ebekhathalela imisebenzi yasekhaya, oko kunokuba yindlela ende yokuchaza ukuba kutheni ehleli ngasemva kwaye ekuvumela ukuba ujonge umsebenzi wasekhaya.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba akakhuliswanga ngemisebenzi yasekhaya kunye noxanduva kwipleyiti yakhe, mhlawumbi ucinga nje ukuba ezi zinto ziyazikhathalela. Oku kunokuba yinyani ngakumbi ukuba uhlala nomfazi ngaphandle komama wakhe okokuqala.
Unokukubeka nje kwindima kamama / yokugcina indlu kuba yiyo yonke into eyaziwayo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo akayikuqonda into ayenzayo (okanye ayenzi)
Cinga ngalo ndawo yokugqibela okomzuzwana.
Ukuba umntu ukhule enesakhiwo esithile sosapho, kwaye wakha wangqina oko ngamandla, kuya kuba nzima kubo ukuba bakhulelwe nantoni na ngaphandle kwamava abo obomi.
Ungayichaza le nto kumntu okhulele kwikhaya elinenkolo ethile, apho bengakhange babekho nakowuphi na ukholo. Ngebengazange bafunde ngezinye iinkolo, kwaye babengenalo uluvo lokuba kukho ezinye iinkonzo apha phandle. Ngenxa yoko, iingqondo zabo ziyabethabethana xa befumanisa ukuba abantu kwezinye iindawo bakholelwa ngokwahlukileyo kunabo.
Luhlobo lokubenza ukuba babe sisekethe ezifutshane kancinci kuba kufuneka baphinde baphinde basebenzise yonke into abakhe bayazi, yonke into abakhe bayifundiswa.
Ngoku, xela le ndoda ikhulele kwikhaya apho umama ebepheka kwaye ecoca. Umyeni wakhe kunye nonyana (wakhe) ngekhe bathathe inxaxheba ekulungiseleleni ukutya: bahlala nje kwisidlo sangokuhlwa xa sele silungile.
Impahla yokuhlamba iimpahla yaphoswa kwisithintelo, kwaye yabonakala icocekile kwaye isongwe kumagunjana abo. Iikhaphethi bezisoloko zicocekile, iibhedi bezisoloko zenziwa. Nokuba enye yamadoda osapho inikezele ukunceda, ngekungeniswe kwigumbi lokuhlala kunye nekofu kunye nebhisikithi ngelixa umama egcina ikhitshi likhazimla ngendlela ayithandayo.
Unokuziva ukhathazekile ngokumangalisayo ngale meko, kodwa zama ukuhlala uzolile kwaye unengqiqo ngayo.
Kulula ukucaphuka okanye ukungxola, kodwa ezo ndlela azifane zincede nto.
Endaweni yoko, yiba nenxaxheba kwaye ube nengqiqo. Ukutsala kunye nokukhwina kuya kuvala umyeni wakho kuphela, ngelixa ingxaki yokuqonda + isisombululo kunokwenzeka ukuba ikhokelele kutshintsho lwenene.
Ke masiqhubeke ngezinye zeendlela onokutshintsha ngazo amandla asekhaya abe yinto elinganayo.
1. Yenza uludwe
Amadoda amaninzi enza kakuhle ngokubonakalayo kunokubonisa izinto ezingekho mthethweni, ke yenza uluhlu.
Ukwahlula iphepha lephepha elijikeleziweyo eliphakathi embindini. Kwikholamu yokuqala, bhala phantsi yonke imisebenzi ekufuneka yenziwe ekhaya, kwaye ndiyathetha bonke. Ukulungiselela isidlo, ukuhlamba izitya, ukuhlamba impahla, ukwenza ibhedi… uyithiye igama.
Kwikholamu yesibini, bhala igama lomntu owenza le misebenzi rhoqo kunokuba kungenjalo.
Emva koko hlala phantsi nomyeni / iqabane lakho ubabonise ukuba ubuninzi bento ebesenza ntoni omnye komnye, uchaze ukuba kutheni kufuneka kubekho ulungelelwano.
Zilungiselele ukuhlangabezana nokuchasana kwangoko kunye nokuzikhusela. Ngokwembono yakhe, inokuba wenza okuninzi, kuba wenza umsebenzi wasekhaya ongaphezulu lee kunowakhe. Kuye, uyasebenza kwaye unceda kakhulu endlwini.
Zama ukuba nomonde naye ngeli xesha, kwaye uchaze ukuma kwakho ngaphandle kokuba ndlongondlongo okanye uziva-kakhulu malunga noku. Ukuba ukhe waba kwindawo yolawulo emsebenzini, yiya kule ncoko njengoko ubunokwenza nomlingane.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, nobabini ningamaqabane obomi, akunjalo? Ke yiya koku njengentsebenziswano yabalinganayo, ngentlonelo nokusebenza ngokukuko.
2.Nceda ukutshintsha iZimvo zakhe
Amadoda akhulele kolu hlobo lwendlu lukhankanyiweyo apha ngasentla angazidla ngokuba 'encedile' kwimisebenzi yasekhaya.
Bawubona njengomsebenzi wabasetyhini, kwaye bayasebenza, ngamaqabane amangalisayo ngokwenza oko baziva bekumnceda kumthwalo wakhe wokusebenza.
Uya kudibana nento efanayo ngokubhekisele kukhathalelo / ukukhulisa abantwana. Amadoda anokukratshi ukuthetha ngendlela 'abagcina abantwana' ngayo abantwana ngobo busuku kuba umama uphumile nabahlobo bakhe.
Hayi, ayikokugcina abantwana ukuba ngumzali. Ayingomsebenzi kanina ukukhathalela abantwana eyedwa, ke omnye umzali uyenyuka kwaye wenza isabelo sakhe, hayi ngobukrwada ukuthwala uxanduva lomama apha.
Kuyafana nomsebenzi wasekhaya. Ukuba umntu uhlala endlwini, luxanduva lwabo ukunceda ukuyinyamekela. Banxiba iimpahla? Emva koko kufuneka bazihlambe. Ngaba bayatya? Emva koko banokwenza isabelo sabo esifanelekileyo sokupheka kunye nokuhlamba izitya.
Kukuwe nobabini ukuba ufuna ukuhambisa njani uxanduva lwasekhaya, ukuba nobabini nigqiba kwelokuba nihoye izinto.
Umzekelo, olunye usapho lunokudlala iindima, apho inkosikazi ipheka kakhulu, ihlamba impahla, kwaye icoca, ngelixa umyeni egcina izitya, esusa uthuli nenkunkuma.
Leyo yimisebenzi esekwe efuna ukukhathalelwa, kwaye ukuba ayisiyiyo, ke kukho umntu omdala othile onoxanduva lokuyekelela.
Oku kulula kunento nje yasimahla-apho zonke izinto zenziwa 'nanini na'… ikakhulu ngenxa yokuba ziya kuthi ngokuqinisekileyo zenziwe ngumntu obebakhathalele ngonaphakade.
Ngokwenene uyiqhubele ekhaya into yokuba ekubeni nobabini nihlala kule ndawo, nobabini kufuneka niyinyamekele. Kunye.
3. Gqiba malunga noLwahlulo oluLungileyo lweMisebenzi
Xa kufikwa ekucaciseni imisebenzi yasekhaya eyahlukeneyo kunye nemithetho, kubalulekile ukuba uyithathele ingqalelo yonke imiba yomsebenzi.
Umzekelo, ukuba nobabini nisebenza ngaphandle kwendlu, kodwa omnye usebenza ngokusisigxina omnye usebenza ngokusisigxina, iyavakala ke into yokuba umntu osebenza isigxina enze eminye imisebenzi yasekhaya.
Ukuba ungathanda ukugcina izinto zingapheli, yenza ivili lomsebenzi, kwaye uyijikeleze rhoqo ngeempelaveki. Oku kuyakwenza iishedyuli ezahlukeneyo zomsebenzi veki nganye, ukuze umntu omnye angabambeki kumshini wokuhlambela okanye wokuhlamba izitya ngonaphakade.
Ke, ukuba kukho nayiphi na imisebenzi engakhange inyanyekelwe, kucacile ukuba ngubani ongakhange abuthathe ubunzima bakhe.
Kukwabalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba eminye imisebenzi ithatha ixesha elininzi kunye nomzamo kuneminye: hayi ngenxa yokuhamba rhoqo, kodwa ngenxa yokusebenza komzimba / kwengqondo.
Umzekelo, ukuba ngumntu omnye kuphela ophekayo, lo ngumsebenzi omkhulu ekufuneka wenziwe.
4. Zibaxa kakhulu: Qhubeka Nogwayimbo
Kwimeko enzima kakhulu, ukuba sele uzame iindlela ezinje ngevili lomsebenzi kunye / okanye imisebenzi oyabelweyo kwaye umyeni wakho usadodobala, impendulo enamandla kunokuba yimfuneko.
Usenokungaqondi ukuba ungakanani na umzamo owenziwayo ekwenzeni ikhaya lihambe kakuhle. Kananjalo, akaqondi ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni xa uyeka ukuthathisa i-slack ahlala esiwisa.
Ke hamba uqhankqalazo.
Khetha kuphela emva kwakho, uziphekele, uhlambe impahla yakho.
Ukuba uyaphuma kuba engenazo iimpahla zangaphantsi ezicocekileyo okanye ihempe zomsebenzi, yalatha kwibhaskithi ezele kukuhlamba impahla emdaka kwaye unyanzelise ukuba azihlambe ngokwakhe.
Ngaba uyakhalaza ukuba akukho nto yokutya, kuba akayazi indlela yokupheka? Uxolo, 'Andazi ukupheka' isizathu asibhabhi kuye nabani na ongaphezulu kweminyaka eyi-20. Heck, kukho iindlela zokupheka ezaneleyo kunye nezifundo zeYouTube ezikhoyo phaya kuye nabani na ukuba enze isidlo esifanelekileyo.
Akukho shampoo okanye isepha kwishower? Kungcono uye kuthenga. Uya kufunda ukuba nolwazi ngakumbi xa iphepha langasese lifuna ukutshintshwa kwakhona.
Ewe, kukho umngcipheko wokuba ezi ndlela zamanyathelo agqithisileyo zinokuthatha ulwalamano lwakho. Ndiyathemba ukuba awusoze ubhenele kwezi zinto, kwaye umyeni wakho uza kunyuka enze isabelo sakhe ngaphandle kokuba ungene kwisitayile esigcweleyo.
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, kufuneka ubhenele koku, kunokuba kufanelekile ukuba ube semngciphekweni. Impendulo yakhe kule meko inokumisela kakuhle ikhondo kuwo wonke umtshato wakho:
Nokuba uyakuqonda ukuba kuninzi kangakanani ekufuneka ukwenzile rhoqo kwaye unyuke, okanye uya kulungela ukwenza isabelo sakhe esifanelekileyo, kwaye afune ukuphuma. Ukuba yeyokuqala, ngoko yay! Unomlingane omangalisayo, olinganayo okuthandayo kwaye okuhloniphayo ngokwaneleyo ukuba ube lilungu elisebenzayo lomzi.
Ukuba akunjalo, ubuncinci uyazi ngoku, kwaye unokuzikhusela ebukhobokeni ubomi bakho bonke, ujonge iimfuno zomnye umntu kunye neminqweno imini nobusuku.
Umqolomba obalulekileyo: ukuba umyeni wakho uyakuhlukumeza nangayiphi na indlela yomzimba okanye yeemvakalelo, ukugwayimba asiyongcamango ilungileyo leyo. Ingakhokelela kubundlongondlongo okanye impindezelo enokuthi ibeke ukhuseleko lwakho okanye intlalontle emngciphekweni. Ukuba kunjalo, inqaku lethu ukushiya ubudlelwane obunetyhefu inokuba yenye ofuna ukuyifunda.
5. Ukuba Unabantwana, Bafundise ngokwahlukileyo
Eyona ndlela yokuthintela uhlobo lokuchasana nomsebenzi wasendlwini kwaye esixubushe apha kukususa olo lindelo kwi-bud. Ngokufanelekileyo, sukukhulisa abantwana bakho ngendlela efanayo naleyo (okanye umyeni wakho) okhuliswe ngayo.
Baqalise kwimisebenzi kwangoko. Babonise ukuba wonke umntu uthatha inxaxheba kuyo yonke imiba yolondolozo lwasekhaya kunye nosapho, ke bafunda ukuba njengenxalenye yosapho, bayinxalenye yayo yonke into ebandakanyekayo.
Umntwana wakho omncinci usenokungakwazi ukuhlamba izitya, kodwa ngovuyo baya kukunceda ukongeza izithako ekuxubeni izitya (ngakumbi xa beza kukhotha icephe kamva). Ngaba umntwana wakho wangaphambi kokufikisa udidekile ngcamango yokuba kufuneka wenze naluphi na udidi? Banike inkuthazo njengesibonelelo esikhulu ukuze bafunde ixabiso lexesha labo kunye nomzamo wabo.
Ukuba abantwana bakhula benoluvo lwegalelo lekhaya lobuqu njengesiqhelo, baya kukulungela ngakumbi ukuba ngabantu abadala abazimeleyo xa sele bephumile endlwini.
Kwaye, amaqabane abo awayi kuba nexhala kwaye akhathazeke ngenxa yokuba babe ngumama2.0 nokuba.
Konke oku kusebenza kuyo nayiphi na intsebenziswano yesini
Inqaku lokugqibela, nelibaluleke kakhulu: nangona eli nqaku ligxile kwingcinga yendoda engasenziyo isabelo sayo esifanelekileyo endlwini, ngokuqinisekileyo le meko ayiphelelanga kumaqabane angamadoda.
Zininzi iimeko apho inkosikazi (okanye elinye iqabane) ingenzi isabelo sayo esifanelekileyo somsebenzi wasendlwini, kwaye kubonakala ngathi ilindele ukuba abanye bayikhathalele. Ukuba kunjalo, ke iindlela ezifanayo ezichazwe apha ziya kusebenza kuye.
Oku kunokuba yimeko yabantwana abadala kubudlelwane obuxubeneyo / ubuhlakani. Ukuba utshatile umntu osele enabantwana bomtshato wangaphambili, uya kudibana nohlobo olufanayo lokuchasana nalowo ukhankanywe ngaphambili.
Uya kufumana yonke into yokutyhala-umva kunye nokuchasana-ungasathethi ngokuziphatha okungafunekiyo kunye nomlomo-ukuba uzama ukwenza abantwana bathathe naluphi na uxanduva lwasekhaya. Iya kuba mbi ngakumbi ukuba umyeni / iqabane lakho lilindele ukuba nithathe yonke imisebenzi kwaye niyothuswa ngumbono wokwenza abantwana babo basebenze endlini. Ukuba khange abekho, kutheni?
Le yintsimi enzima kakhulu ukuxoxa. Ewe, kuyakuthatha umonde kunye nokuqiqa, kodwa nesandla esiqinileyo.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni malunga nokungafuni komyeni wakho ukunceda endlini okanye ngeminye imisebenzi? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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