Malunga neminyaka engama-20 eyadlulayo, ndabona isicatshulwa esipeyintiweyo ecaleni kwecafe yam endiyithandayo. Ibisithi:
'Musa ukulinganisa ubomi bakho ukuba zingaphi iindlela zokuphefumla ozithathayo, kodwa ngento ethatha umphefumlo wakho.'
Ndandihamba ngexesha elinzima, bendise-uni kwaye ndisebenza imisebenzi emibini ukuze ndiziphilise, kwaye kwenzeka kum ukuba ndenza okuncinci kakhulu okwenzileyo, enyanisweni, ndithatha umphefumlo wam.
Esi sicatshulwa sindikhuthazile ukuba ndenze utshintsho olukhulu ebomini bam, endikhokelele kwindlela endonwabe kakhulu kuyo.
Abantu bandibuze ukuba ngaba ndiziva ngathi 'ndiyaphumelela' ebomini okanye hayi. Ndicinga ukuba abanye abantu bangacinga njalo, ngelixa abanye bangangqubana nokhetho endilwenzileyo, nalapho ndiphele khona.
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Ngokwam, ndiziva ngathi uluvo 'lokuphumelela' ebomini lubonisa ukuba siyakhuphisana nabanye, endaweni yokulandela eyethu ezizodwa, iihambo ezizodwa.
Oko kwathethi, kukho amanyathelo aliqela abantu abanokuthatha ukuze bafumane amanqanaba ahlukeneyo empumelelo kunye nokuzaliseka. Makhe sijonge ezinye zazo, akunjalo?
1. Yeka Ukukhathalela Izinto Ezicingwa Ngabanye Ngawe
Baninzi kakhulu abantu abaphela ezindleleni ezingazizalisekisi, kuba nje banyanzelwa ukuba benze njalo ngabanye, okanye baziva ngathi 'kufuneka' benze izinto ezithile kuba kulindeleke.
Isod leyo.
Awunakho ukuphumelela ebomini ukuba ayibubo ubomi bakho obuphilayo.
Musa ukubambeka kwiingcinga zabanye abantu kunye nokulindelweyo, nokuba ngabazali bakho okanye amaqabane akho.
Wonke umntu unendlela yakhe ahamba ngayo, kwaye awuzukubeka mzamo unyanisekileyo kwindlela oziva unyanzelekile ukuba ube kuyo.
“Kuyinyani kuwe” kwaye uya konwaba ngakumbi kwaye uphumelele ngakumbi kwiinzame zakho.
Inqaku elinokukunceda: Ungakhathali Njani Abantu Bacinga Njani… Ngonaphakade!
2. Yenza into oyithandayo
Oku kulandela kunye nesikhokelo sangaphambili. Bangaphi abantu obaziyo abangena kwimisebenzi nakumisebenzi abangakwaziyo ukuyimela ukuze ngethemba lokuba, ngenye imini, baya kuthi ekugqibeleni bathathe umhlala-phantsi kwaye emva koko benze izinto abazithandayo?
Ngaba oko kuvakala kuyanelisa kuwe?
Ubomi bufutshane, kwaye abantu abaninzi kakhulu bachitha ixesha labo elininzi ubukho obungapheliyo ngaphandle kwe ndiyonwabele.
Xa usenza ikhondo lomsebenzi wento oyithandayo, ugalela umgudu onyanisekileyo kuyo kuba ibalulekile kuwe. Ndingayibiza loo mpumelelo, andithi?
3. Hlakulela ukuzeyisa
Nokuba ungayenza ntoni na, yiya uqeqesho kwaye uzinikele ngayo.
Yenza ekufuneka yenziwe ukuze ufezekise iinjongo zakho, kwaye zibambe kumgangatho ophezulu wokuziphatha ukwenza ukuba yenzeke.
Ukuba impilo yakho iphambili, yenza ishedyuli yokuzilolonga kunye nesicwangciso sokutya, kwaye unamathele kubo.
Ngaba uyafuna ukuphucula imfundo yakho? Bekela bucala ixesha elingu-X lexesha ngemini ukuze usebenze kwikhosi okanye kwinkqubo obhalise kuyo. Xa uxakekile zizifundo zakho, yenza ngokungathi akukho nto ehlabathini.
Cinga ngabanye abantu ojonga kubo kwaye onokuthi baphumelele ebomini. Cinga ngamabali abo kunye nohambo lwabo. Into oza kuyifumana kukuba basebenze nzima kwaye bahlala bezolile ukuze bafezekise oko bakwenzileyo.
4.Yila iiNjongo zoqobo ukufezekisa into oyifunayo
Usenokuba ukhe wadibana neenjongo ze-SMART ngaphambili, kodwa makhe sihlaziye ngokufutshane apha.
Esi sichazi simele:
- Ngokukodwa
- Ukulinganisa
- Ukuzuzwa
- Yinyani
- Ngexesha elifanelekileyo
Kuhle ukuba neenjongo zokufikelela kuzo, kodwa ukuba ufuna ukuzifezekisa, ke hamba ngazo ngendlela ye-SMART.
ungazi njani ukuba yinkanuko okanye uthando
Umzekelo, ukuba injongo yakho kukuthenga indlu, yenza iseti yamanyathelo kunye neenjongo ezinokukunceda ugcine ngokwaneleyo ukuhlawula kwakho ngomhla we-X.
Ukuba ungathanda ukufunda isakhono esitsha, ke yenza ishedyuli ngokwakho ukuziqhelanisa neeyure ze-X ngeveki, kwiiprojekthi ezithile.
Ngokwenza njalo, unendlela yokulinganisa inkqubela yakho kwaye ubhale impumelelo yakho.
Ezi njongo zincinci, ziyinyani zibaluleke kakhulu ekugcineni ukhuthazekile.
Kwaye uyokwazi njani xa uphumelele ebomini ukuba awuyazi ukuba uphumelele ujongeka kanjani-iinjongo zinokukunceda kuloo nto.
5. Funda ukulungelelanisa
Kukho intetho ehamba into efana nale: 'Ukuba ufuna ukuhlekisa uThixo, mxelele ngezicwangciso zakho.'
Ubomi buyaziwa ngokutshintsha nje ngomnqwazi, kwaye oko kunokubangela abantu uxinzelelo oluninzi, idrama, kunye noxinzelelo.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, xa silindele ukuba izinto zenzeke ngendlela ethile emva koko zingenzi njalo, okanye into evelayo ephosa umhlaba wethu omncinci ococekileyo kwisiphithiphithi, sinokuwa kancinci kancinci.
Isitshixo kukuhlala ubhetyebhetye ngokwaneleyo ukuze uvumelane nayo nayiphi na imeko.
Lwela iinjongo, kodwa kukulungele ukutshintsha icala njengoko kufuneka -Sisiseko njengokuthatha indlela eyahlukileyo kwindawo oya kuyo.
Sukunamathela kakhulu kwiziphumo ezithile, kodwa zama ukuluxabisa uhambo, kunye nokufunda okwenzekayo ngelixa ufika apho.
6. Inyathelo Ngaphandle kweNdawo Yakho Yentuthuzelo
Ngaba ulivile ibinzana 'Indawo yentuthuzelo yindawo entle, kodwa akukho nto ikhula apho'?
Isenokuvakala ngathi ayilunganga, kodwa inene iyinyani. Imimandla yokuthuthuzela iyathuthuzela kwaye iyonwabisa, kodwa inokusivumela ukuba sihlale kwaye sikhule singakhathali.
Abantu bafuna iimeko ezintsha ukubacelomngeni, kuba kuphela kukoyisa imiceli mngeni esinokuthi sikhule ngokwenene.
Iindawo ezimnandi zokuya xa ukruqukile
Ukuba ukhe wasikhathalela isitiya, uya kwazi ukuba izityalo zifuna uxinzelelo oluthile ukuze zikhule ngokwenyani. Uxinzelelo oluninzi luya kubenzakalisa okanye lubabulale (kakhulu njengabantu), kodwa nje kancinci, ngokwaneleyo, kukhuthaza ukukhula okunamandla kunye neziqhamo ezininzi.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba unethuba lokukhula, ufunde, okanye uphonononge into entsha, kodwa woyika ukuyizama kuba yahlukile okanye yoyikisa, jonga ukuba unesibindi sokwenza nantoni na.
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo uya kufunda lukhulu ngokuzama, kwaye ubuncinci awuyi kuchitha ubomi bakho bonke uzibuza ukuba ngekwenzekeni ukuba ubunokuthatha ithuba.
Cinga ngobomi njenge-raffle-awunakuphumelela ukuba awuthengi itikiti.
7. Ungaze uyeke ukufunda
Nokuba uphucula izakhono zakho okanye ungene kwisifundo esitsha onomdla kuso, uya kufumanisa ukuba ukufunda rhoqo izinto ezintsha kugcina ingqondo yakho ibukhali kwaye izivamvo zakho zi-agile.
Abantu banokuba ziinkosi ngokupheleleyo kubugcisa babo, kodwa ubuchule obutsha, izixhobo, kunye neengcinga zihlala ziguquka mihla le.
Xa siyeke ukufunda, simi ndawonye. Kwaye okubi ngakumbi kunoko, sinokuba nekratshi kwaye sinamathele kwiindlela zethu.
Umntu othile unokufumana ubutyebi kunye nokudunyiswa ngokwenza into ethile ngendlela ethile amashumi eminyaka, kodwa kuthekani ukuba banokwenza ngcono, ngokulula ngakumbi, ngokutshintsha enye into?
Njengebhonasi eyongeziweyo, ukufunda izinto ezintsha - ngakumbi iilwimi ezintsha! - iyanceda ukwenza iindlela ezintsha, ezintsha kwingqondo yakho… ezinokulibazisa (okanye ezinokuthintela) iimeko zokonakala kwengqondo ezinje ngeAlzheimer's kunye nesifo sengqondo esixhalabisayo.
8. Zama ukukubona ukulunga kuyo yonke into
Ngoku, oku akuthethi ukuba ungonwabi ongenathemba ngalo lonke ixesha.
Izinto ziya esihogweni ngoku kwaye, kwaye ukukhanyela malunga neemeko ezihlekisayo akwenzeli mntu into elungileyo.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele xa ujongene nemeko 'ugh', kunokuba uzame ukuyipolisha kwaye unyanzelise ukuba kulungile, ngenene, yonke into ilungile, hahahah - Ubume obunetyhefu .
Xa kuvela iimeko ezingathandekiyo, zamkele, zisebenze ngokusemandleni akho, kwaye uzame ukubona umphezulu ukuba ukhona.
Kukho umbongo wenkulungwane ye-17 wembongi waseJapan ogama linguMizuta Masahide obonisa oku kakuhle:
Ukutsha kweBarn -
ngoku
Ndiyayibona inyanga.
Ewe, into yokuba isitya esitshisiweyo sasikrwada. Kodwa eyona nto iphambili kukuba umbono ngoku umangalisa ngokupheleleyo.
Yamkela ukuba imeko nganye nganye lithuba lokwazisa kunye nokukhula komntu, kwaye kuhlala kukho into onokubulela ngayo.
bangaphi abantwana abaya kuba nesthith
Ukuba ufuna ukuphumelela, ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka jonga ukuphumelela kwimeko yakho yangoku.
9. Nciphisa uxinzelelo lwangaphandle kangangoko kunokwenzeka
Oku kunokuvakala njenge-no-brainer, kodwa abantu abaninzi benza ubomi babo bube nzima ngakumbi kunokuba beyimfuneko ngokungasusi uxinzelelo olungeyomfuneko.
Ngamanye amaxesha, into enegalelo kuxinzelelo lomntu inokuba ngumntu osoloko ekhupha amandla akho.
Izinto ezongeziweyo zinokubacaphukisa abamelwane, imithombo engafunekiyo kwimali yakho, ulindelo lwabanye abantu kuwe, kunye nokuzibophelela okumodareyitha ongaziva.
Zama ukuphelisa nantoni na engafunekiyo , kwaye wenze lula ubomi bakho kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
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Ngokusisiseko, sika yonke into engakuletheli uvuyo, okanye engakufezekisi.
Ukuba ukuphumelela ebomini kuthetha ukuhamba kwindlela ofumanisa ukuba iyanelisa, kulula kakhulu ukuyenza loo nto xa ungasindwa engeyomfuneko imithwalo.
10. Phila ngokuSebenzayo, kodwa Musa ukuzikhanyela
Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuba ukuze baphumelele, kufuneka babe ngabantu abangalunganga. Ngokusisiseko, ukugcina yonke ipenny, okanye ukuchitha kuphela izinto eziyimfuneko.
Ngelixa ukusebenza ngokubhekisele ekukhetheni inkcitho ingumbono olungileyo, kukwabalulekile ukonwabela ubomi bakho.
Ukutyala imali kwinqaba enkulu yabantu abadala eyenzelwe eyadini yakho isenokungabi lolwabiwo-mali olunobulumko, kodwa iimpahla ozithandayo, ukutya okumnandi, kunye nohambo olukhuthazayo unokuzisa uvuyo olungaqhelekanga kwihlabathi lakho.
izinto onokuthetha ngazo nomhlobo wakho ngaphezulu kokubhaliweyo
Zama ukungachithi imali ongenayo, njengoko kungekho mntu uthanda ukulwa nomdla okhubazekileyo kwityala lekhadi letyala. Beka bucala intwana yemali kuyo yonke intlawulo oyifumanayo, kwaye ubeke ezo mali kwizinto ezikwenza uncume.
Tyala imali kuwe, nakwizinto ezikwenza wonwabe. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, obu bomi buhle babenzelwe ukuba bonwabele, akunjalo?
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Wonke umntu uya kuba nembono yakhe malunga nokuba 'ukuphumelela' ebomini kubonakala njani.
Umntu ngamnye unezinto eziphambili kuye, iinjongo zobomi, kunye neengcinga zokuba impumelelo ithetha ntoni.
Kumntu omnye, ukuphumelela kuya kuthetha ukuhlala kubutyebi obunqwenelekayo, ngeempahla zexabiso kunye neemoto kunye nantoni na.
Komnye umntu, impumelelo inokuthetha ubomi obuzolileyo, obulula bokuzanelisa ngoxolo kwikhabhathi esezintabeni.
Nokuba yeyiphi eyakho imbono yokuphumelela, isoloko inamathuba okukhula kunye nophuhliso lomntu.
Ungaze ukhathalele ukuba zeziphi izinto eziphambili zabanye abantu kunye nezinto abazifunayo. Zama ukungazithelekisi nabanye, kodwa misela ukuba ulonwabo kunye nempumelelo zithetha ntoni kuwe. Emveni kwakho konke, ngekhe uphumelele kubomi bomnye umntu ungaphumelela kowakho kuphela.
Ndiyathemba ukuba ezinye zezi ngcebiso zinokukunceda!
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