“Jonga kwicala eliqaqambileyo!”
Yiba nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo! ”
“Jonga ulayini wesilivere welo lungu lingwevu!”
Ukhe weva okanye wasebenzisa la mabinzana ngaphambili, mhlawumbi xa uthuthuzelwa ngomntu ngexesha elinzima, okanye xa uzama ukuthuthuzela umntu ngokwakho.
Ezi ntlobo zamabinzana zibonisa 'ithemba lobutyhefu.'
Ubomi obunobungozi kukukhanyela iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo kunye namava obomi ngokuwabeka endaweni yolonwabo olukhulu kunye nokuzithemba.
Ithoba isidima kwaye yehlise iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ngamanye amaxesha ekufuneka sizifumane ebomini.
Ubomi bunzima kwaye buhlungu ngamanye amaxesha. Kulungile ukuba kube nzima kwaye kube buhlungu.
Kulungile ukuba abantu bazive belusizi, benomsindo, bedandathekile, bexhalabile, okanye kungenjalo bephazamiseka zezi meko.
Ukuzithemba okunetyhefu kuyaziphika ezi mvakalelo zingalunganga kwaye kugcina umntu ekuqhubekeni neemvakalelo zakhe ngokuchanekileyo.
Awunakukuphepha okanye ukwala ukubandezeleka okuzayo.
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Xa usenza njalo, iyonwabisa nje de ibe yakha ngokwaneleyo ukuba ibe yingxaki enkulu.
Ngapha koko, uninzi lwezifundo zobomi ezixabisekileyo kunye nobulumko zifunyenwe nzima ngokubandezeleka nangokoyisa imiceli mngeni ebomini.
Ukukhanyela ezi mvakalelo zingalunganga indawo ebafaneleyo kukuphazamisa ukukhula komntu ngokweemvakalelo.
Ewe kunjalo, kukho ibhalansi ebuthathaka ekufuneka ibanjiwe.
Ewe, akulunganga ukukhanyela amava amabi ebomini bomntu kwaye uzame ukuwabeka endaweni yokujonga okuhle.
Kodwa akuncedi ukuhlala kwiimeko ezimbi zomntu nokuba.
Ukukhanyisa iimvakalelo ezingalunganga kunokubangela iingxaki ngokondla irhamncwa ngaphandle kokufumana nasiphi na isisombululo.
Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uyagula kwaye udinwe kukuziva udiniwe kwaye udiniwe, ke uyabetha ngoncumo kwaye uqhubeke nalo. Ngamaxesha athile kuya kufuneka.
Zeziphi ezinye iimpawu zobungqina obunetyhefu, kwaye ungayiphepha njani?
1. Ukuziva unetyala lokufumana iimvakalelo ezingalunganga.
'Ubomi bam buhle kakhulu, bekungafanelekanga ukuba ndizive kakubi.'
'Ndisisiyatha ngokuziva ndimbi.'
Ubume obunobungozi bunokubonakalisa ukuba netyala xa uziva ungalunganga ngenxa yeemvakalelo ezimbi.
Ewe iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ziya kuziva zibi. Kodwa ukuziva ungalunganga, ukuziva unetyala, okanye uneentloni zokuziva unoluvo lubonisa ubume benetyhefu.
Umntu okule meko unokuzixelela ukuba akanasizathu sokuziva ezo mvakalelo kwaye kufuneka onwabile yimeko yakhe.
Ungafumanisa ukuba ubenzile abanye abantu, okanye abanye abantu bakwenze oko ngokukuxelela into omele ungayiva.
“Ncuma! Yintoni ongazonwabisi ngayo? ”
“Owu, ubomi bakho bulula kakhulu. Kutheni usoloko ulusizana? ”
“Akukho mntu uyithandayo ingxowa elusizi. Tyhila!'
Ukuba ungumntu othetha ezi zinto, owona mgaqo ubalaseleyo kukungaze uxelele nabani na ukuba bafanele okanye bangaziva njani.
Ngokuxelela umntu ukuba bafanele okanye bangaziva njani, wenza ukuba bangaziva njani ngoku.
Oku kubaxelela ukuba awunguye umntu ekufanele ukuba bathetha naye malunga neengxaki.
Ukuba umntu ukuxelela ezi ntlobo zezinto, eyona nto uyenzayo ukuyenza kukuqinisekisa ukuba uvumelekile ukuba neemvakalelo ezingathandekiyo. Musa ukuvumela imiyalezo yabo.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba abayiqondi indlela abanokunika ngayo inkxaso yeemvakalelo okanye ukuba azikho krelekrele ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukwazi indlela yokuthuthuzela umntu ohamba ngexesha elinzima sisakhono esifundwayo, hayi into esizalwe sinayo ngokwemvelo.
2. Ukufihla iimvakalelo zakho zokwenyani ngethemba lobuxoki.
'Ndonwabile!'
“Inokuba mbi ngakumbi!”
'Akukho nto ndizokukhalaza ngayo!'
Ngaba uyayenza indawo yeemvakalelo ezingalunganga onazo?
Okanye uzama ukuziphindaphinda njengezinto ezintle?
Ngamanye amaxesha amava kunye neemvakalelo zethu azilunganga. Ngamanye amaxesha asiziva sonwabile, sinethemba, okanye siziphakamisile.
Akusoloko kufuneka sinyinyitheka kwaye siyinyamezele.
Kulungile ukuziva ungonwabanga xa ufuna njalo.
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba awukwazi?
What if awunalo ixesha?
Ungathini ukuba unezinye izinto ezifuna ukuphathwa ngoku?
Andinaxesha lokukhala! Kufuneka ndisebenze! Kukho umsebenzi wasekhaya ofuna ukwenziwa! Ndidinga ukufowunela ndize ndicacisele olu lungiselelo!
Kwimeko enjalo, kuya kufuneka ubekele bucala ixesha lokuba uzive ukuba ufuna ukuziva njani.
Kodwa akunyanzelekanga ukuba uzive ufuna ukuziva ngoku.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba uzinike indawo kunye nemvume yokuziva uneemvakalelo ezimbi xa unakho.
3. Ukubonelela ngombono endaweni yovelwano kunye nokuqinisekiswa.
'Ewe, kunokuba kubi ngakumbi.'
'Uyazi, umntu weXYZ unzima kakhulu kunawe.'
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Umoya wokubonelela ngombono unokutolikwa njengoncedo, kodwa awuwenzi kakuhle umsebenzi.
Uvelwano kunye nokuqinisekiswa kuhamba ngakumbi ekunikezeleni ngenkxaso efanelekileyo kuwe okanye kwabanye.
Isitshixo sokufumana uvelwano kunye nokubonelela ngokuqinisekiswa kukwazi ukuba ungathethi nini.
Abantu abaninzi bayathetha kuba baziva benyanzelekile, kwaye benyanzelekile, ukuba babe nento enentsingiselo abayithethayo.
Inyani yento kukuba zininzi iimeko apho kungekho nje nantoni na elungileyo ukuyithetha.
Umntu ohlangabezana nentlekele okanye otyhubela amaxesha anzima akakuboni ukubandezeleka kwabanye abantu.
Eyona nto beyixhalabeleyo ngalo mzuzu ziimvakalelo zabo ezimbi.
Ukuzama ukubonelela ngombono yindlela yokuzama ukuzityhalela okanye omnye umntu kwi track ukuphepha.
'Andizukuziva ukuba ndifuna ukuziva njani kuba omnye umntu unento embi kunam.'
Ubume obunobungozi kukuthintela, njengoko kubonelela ngombono.
4. Ukunciphisa okanye ukuhlazisa amava akho okanye abanye.
'Kwakungekho nto inkulu kangako.'
Abanye abantu bakweyona meko imbi. ”
Ezi zinto azithethi ukuba iimvakalelo ezingalunganga azibalulekanga.
Xa sinciphisa iimvakalelo, nokuba zezethu okanye akunjalo, simhlutha umntu amandla okuziva iimvakalelo zabo ngokunyanisekileyo nangokukhuselekileyo.
Ibuyela ekuthinteleni izinto ezingalunganga kunye nokugxila ngokungaphezulu kwizinto ezintle.
Imiyalezo efana 'ayisiyonto inkulu kangako' iyasikhuthaza ukuba sijonge kude kukungakhathali endaweni yokujongana nokujongana nayo.
Kutheni le nto ukuzithemba kuyityhefu kuyingxaki enjalo?
Ukuba ngumntu ngumntu onzima. Kukho ukubandezeleka okukhulu ukuzama fumana uxolo ebomini.
Ngokuzama ukugxila kuphela kwinto elungileyo kwaye singaniki sithuba kwiimvakalelo ezingalunganga esiziva, senza kube nzima kuthi nakwabo sibathandayo ukuphilisa nokukhula.
Ukugcina iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ixesha elide kwaye ungajongani nazo kuyenza mandundu impilo yethu ngokubangela uxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo.
Kwaye uxinzelelo ngokwalo luneziphumo ezibi ezininzi emzimbeni, njengokunyuka koxinzelelo, uxinzelelo lwegazi, intloko ebuhlungu, ukuqaqanjelwa sisisu, uxinzelelo, ukuchuma, ukungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo, nokunye okuninzi.
Ubume obunobungozi buyatshabalalisa kwaye butshabalalise ubudlelwane.
Xa uzinyanzela ukuba uqhubeke wonwabile okanye uthathe isimilo 'esigqibeleleyo', unxibelelana nabanye abantu ukuba akufuneki babeneemvakalelo ezinzima ezikungqongileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukusebenza ngobunzima yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokwakha ubudlelwane.
Indlela yokusombulula ukungavisisani okanye yokunceda abahlobo bakho basebenze ngezinto zabo inokunceda ukomeleza ubudlelwane ngendlela engenanto enye.
Akukho miba mihle yokufumana ityhefu. Yindlela elula yokuvala amehlo ethu, ukunamathisela iminwe yethu ezindlebeni zethu, nokungahoyi inyani.
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