Ufunda le nto kuba ufuna ukuphucula ubuntu bakho.
Heck, mhlawumbi ufuna ukwenza ubuntu balo naluphi na uhlobo kuba ucinga awunayo.
Kodwa uphucula njani kwinto ebonakala ngathi yakhiwe, njengokujikeleza komatshini?
Makhe sijonge.
Kuqala, kufuneka umisele…
Yintoni ofuna ukuyiphumeza?
Xa usithi ufuna ukukhulisa ubuntu, yintoni kanye kanye onqwenela ukuphuma kuyo?
Ngaba ufuna ukuthandwa okanye ukuthandwa?
Ngaba uyafuna ukufumana umdla?
Ngaba ufuna ukuba nobuhlobo ngakumbi?
Ngaba ufuna ukukhunjulwa?
Ngaba ufuna ukuba abanye bacinge kakuhle ngawe?
Ngaba uyafuna ukuba nomtsalane ngakumbi kumaqabane onothando?
Ngaba ufuna ukuba nempumelelo ngakumbi kwikhondo lakho lomsebenzi okanye kubomi obubanzi?
Ukwazi ukuba kutheni ufuna ukuphucula ubuntu bakho kunokukunceda ujolise kwizinto ezinokuba nefuthe elifunekayo.
Buyintoni ubuntu?
Kuba unqwenela ngandlela thile ukwakha ubuntu, kuyakufuneka wazi ukuba yintoni na.
Kukho amakhulu eempawu zobuntu ezohlukeneyo umntu anokuba nazo, kodwa uninzi lwazo ngokubanzi zingena ngokwamanqanaba amahlanu - 'amakhulu amahlanu' njengoko aziwa njalo.
Zezi:
Ukuvulwa: Ukonwabela kangakanani ukuzama izinto ezintsha isimo sakho sengqondo sokutshintsha ukuvuma kwakho ukucinga malunga neekhontrakthi ezingabonakaliyo.
Isazela: ucinga kangakanani, uhlelekile, kwaye uthembekile, kunye nokuthanda / ukungathandi iishedyuli kunye neendlela.
Ukongezwa: kukunandipha kangakanani ukuchitha ixesha nabanye, ukuqala incoko, ukufumana ingqalelo, kunye nendlela ezi zinto ziwachaphazela ngayo amanqanaba akho amandla.
Ukwamkeleka: ulunge kangakanani okanye umnandi xa uhlangabezana nendlela obakhathalele ngayo abanye amanqanaba ovelwano lwakho.
-I-Neuroticism: ujamelana njani noxinzelelo njani uzinzile ngokweemvakalelo ukomelela kwakho xa ujongene nemiceli mngeni.
Ngelixa kuninzi okunokuthethwa malunga neempawu ezintlanu ezinkulu, oku kufanele ukuba kwanele ubungakanani beli nqaku.
Yintoni eyenza ubuntu obulungileyo?
Ke, ngentlanu enkulu engqondweni, yintoni eyenza ubuntu 'obulungileyo'?
Kwaye ziziphi iimpawu onokufuna ukugxila kuzo?
Ngokubanzi, kwimeko ebanzi yobomi, umntu onobuntu obulungileyo uya kuba phezulu ekuvulekeni, isazela, ukubhukuqa, kunye nokuvumelana, kwaye abe phantsi kwe-neuroticism.
Amanye ala manqaku enza, nangona kunjalo, eze kumcimbi wokhetho lomntu.
Unokucinga ukuba ukungafihli nto kuhlala kuyinto embi, kodwa abo benzayo banokuba nomtsalane ngakumbi, balumke kubuntu, nakwabanye abanamanqaku aphantsi kolu phawu.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba awunamdla kutshintsho okanye uhlangabezana nezinto ezintsha, usenokungqubana nabo banazo.
Kwangokunjalo, imimoya ekhululekileyo ithanda ukufumana amanqaku asezantsi kwisazela, kodwa abanye abantu ngokwendalo batsaleleka kubo ngenxa yokuba benesimo esifanayo, okanye boyika indlela yokuphila le mimoya yasimahla ikhokelela kwaye bafuna ukuva incasa yayo.
Ke khumbula ukuba ngubani ozama ukubhenela kuye kwimfuno yakho yokuphucula ubuntu bakho.
Ngaba ungabutshintsha ubuntu bakho?
Impendulo emfutshane: ewe, ngokusebenza nzima kunye nokusebenza.
Impendulo ende: ukutshintsha isikhundla sakho kubume bolunye lweempawu ezintlanu ezinkulu yinto ethatha ixesha kunye nomzamo.
Akwanele ukufuna nje olo tshintsho.
Isifundo esinye ibonakalise ukuba utshintsho lotshintsho lunokwenzeka ukuba ubandakanyeka kwiindidi zokucinga kunye nokuziphatha okuqhelekileyo kwisiphelo esiphakamileyo okanye esisezantsi sophawu olo.
NgesiNgesi esicacileyo, kufuneka ucinge kwaye wenze ngendlela efanayo naleyo ubuya kuthi ukuba sele unawo umgangatho ophakamileyo okanye ophantsi onqwenela wona.
Ukuba ufuna ukwamkeleka ngakumbi, kuya kufuneka ucinge kwaye wenze ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Ukuba ufuna ukuba ne-neurotic encinci, kuya kufuneka ucinge kwaye wenze ngendlela encinci ye-neurotic.
Kuyafana nakwezinye iimpawu ezi-3.
Ngale nto engqondweni, zeziphi izinto onokuzenza ukuphucula okanye ukuphucula ubuntu bakho?
Iindlela ezi-5 zokunyusa ukuvuleka kwakho.
Ukuba ufuna ukuphucula ubuntu obuvulekileyo, unganqwenela ukuzama ezinye zezi zinto zilandelayo:
Nye. Funda iphephandaba / ubukele ijelo leendaba elihlala lixhomekeke kwelinye icala, kwezopolitiko.
Mbini. Thetha nabantu abanezimvo ezahlukileyo kuwe, ngakumbi abo baneminyaka eyahlukeneyo, ubuni, ubuhlanga kunye neenkolelo zokomoya.
3. Zama iindlela ezintsha zokuzonwabisa rhoqo. Ndwendwela igalari, dlala i-badminton, thatha isifundo se-surf, funda ukunitha.
Zine. Yiya kwiintetho zikawonkewonke. Ezi zihlala zisimahla okanye iindleko eziphantsi kakhulu kwaye zinokukuveza kwizimvo ezininzi kunye nezihloko.
5. Buza ezinye imibuzo exhokonxa iingcinga kwaye hlala nje ucinge ngazo okwethutyana. Okanye, kungcono, thetha ngazo nomhlobo okanye ilungu losapho.
Iindlela ezi-3 zokufumana elona nqanaba liphezulu lesazela.
Ngelixa eli nqaku lithatha ukuba ufuna ukuvuleleka ngakumbi, icala onqwenela ukuya kulo malunga nesazela sakho lixhomekeke kuwe.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungqongqo kakhulu kwiinkqubo zakho, unomdla kakhulu kwiinkcukacha, kwaye ucwangcise yonke into encinci enokwenzeka, unganqwenela ukungabi nasazela.
Ukuba awunangqondo, ungacocekanga, okanye ulwa ngokwenene neshedyuli kunye nezinto ozibona zithintela, unganqwenela ukuba nesazela.
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, nazi izinto onokuzenza.
1. Ngokuphathelene nokuzibophelela nabahlobo.
Ukuba uthanda ukufika kwizinto ezili-15 kwangethuba kwaye uhlala ungowokuqala nakweyiphi na indibano yabahlobo, zama ukuya apho ngexesha elichaziweyo okanye kwimizuzu embalwa emva kwexesha (le yinto eyamkelekileyo ukuba uyenze).
Ukuba uhlala ubheyila kubahlobo bakho ngomzuzu wokugqibela, kuya kufuneka uzinyanzele ukuba uhambe. Ungasoloko uzama ukucwangcisa imicimbi efuna intlawulo ngaphambili. Ngale ndlela, unokuba nenkuthazo ngakumbi yokuza.
Ngokumalunga neeshedyuli.
Ukuba uyacaphuka okanye uxhalabile nakuphi na ukuphambuka okuncinci kwindlela yesiqhelo, kufanelekile ukutyhala imida yakho kwaye ukuzenzekela ngakumbi .
Ukuba ukhona ngaphandle kwaso nasiphi na isakhiwo, ukwenza isishwankathelo esibi sesicwangciso sosuku ngalunye kunokukunceda ukufundise ukubambelela kwizinto othi uza kuzenza.
3. Ngokumalunga nokulunga.
Ukuba idesika yakho yomsebenzi icwangciswe ngokugqibeleleyo ukuya kumgama ochanekileyo ukusuka kwincwadana yokubhalela ukuya kwi-calculator yakho kunye ne-engile apho ubekwa khona ipeni, unokufumana inzuzo ngokuvumela ukuphazamiseka okungaphezulu kokungena.
Ukuba uhlala phakathi kwemfumba yeempahla kwaye ikhitshi lakho likhangeleka ngathi ibhombu ihambile kuyo, ungazuza ngokuzibophelela kucoceko oluqhelekileyo kunye nokucoca- nokuba uyakucaphukela ukwenza ezi zinto.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
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- Yintoni i-Self-Concept kwaye ibuchaphazela njani ubomi bakho?
- Ukuba awuzazi ukuba ungubani, yenza oku
- Ubuntu obuChameleon ngeNtlalontle: Iimpawu, iiProses, iiCons, kunye nokunye
- Ngaba uyi-'Sensing 'okanye i-'Intuitive' Ubuntu?
- Ngaba uyiNdawo yoBuntu oCingayo okanye oVayo?
Iindlela ezi-5 zokunyusa ukugqithisa kwakho.
Amathuba kukuba, ukuba ukhangela iindlela zokuphucula ubuntu bakho, uhlala uqinile kwisiphelo sokungenisa isikali.
Ukuze ube ngumdumisi ngakumbi, unokuzama oku kulandelayo:
1. Qalisa incoko.
Qala nabantu osele ubazi kwaye uvelise nje isihloko esisisiseko njengemidlalo (ucinga ukuba uyazi ukuba bayayilandela) okanye imozulu okanye umboniso omtsha owuthandayo.
Ungaqala ukuthetha nabanye abantu odibana nabo-umz. abaxhasi bemali nabaqhubi beeteksi.
Okukhona uqhela ukubandakanya nabanye, kokukhona uya kuziva ngakumbi ngokwendalo.
2. Yiba nezimvo.
Sukuhlala umva uvumele abanye abantu bakuthathele izigqibo. Ukuba umntu ukubuza ukuba yeyiphi imuvi ofuna ukuyibukela, mxelele. Ukhetho lwakho luchanekile njengolwabo.
Okanye ukuba umntu ukubuza ukuba ucinga ntoni ngesihloko, nyaniseka kwaye umnike uluvo lwakho. Musa ukuthi, 'Andiqondi.'
Kwaye zama ukuthetha ezinye zeengcinga ezingena entlokweni yakho ngokuvakalayo ukuba uhlala ubamba incoko. Zixabisekile kwaye kufanelekile ukuba negalelo.
3. Ncuma nabantu.
Akukho nto yamkelwa njengoncumo olukhulu, lokwenene. Uncumo lunika abantu umbono oqinisekileyo ngawe.
Okanye ukuba sele bekwazi, kubakhumbuza ukuba ungumntu olungileyo ukuba ube kufutshane.
Landela uncumo ngo- “Hee, unjani?” kwaye uyiqalisile incoko- bona # 1.
4. Joyina iklabhu okanye uye kwimisitho.
Ukuphuhlisa ukutshintsha okungaphezulu kakhulu kuya kubandakanya ukubanentlalontle ngandlela thile.
Indlela elula yokufumana ukubonwa kwezihlandlo zentlalo kukujoyina iklabhu yohlobo oluthile okanye ukuya kwiminyhadala yasekuhlaleni.
Iiklabhu ezininzi zibandakanya ukunxibelelana emva kokuhlangana, ngelixa ezinye- ezinje ngeeklabhu zencwadi okanye amaqela eengxoxo-asekwe ngokupheleleyo ekuthetheni.
Okukhona uziqhelisa ukuthetha nabanye, kokukhona kuya kuba nzima ukuziva ungonwabanga.
5. Cinga ngonxibelelwano oluqinisekileyo noluntu.
Nanini na xa unamava oluntu oluhle, qiniseka ukuba ucinga ngawo emva koko ukuwomeleza engqondweni yakho.
Cinga ngento ehambe kakuhle, into onokuyenza ngokwahlukileyo kwixesha elizayo, kunye nezinto ezintle ozivileyo.
Oku kunceda ukutshintsha indlela ojonga ngayo ekuhlaleni ukuze ungayiboni njengomsebenzi okanye into yokoyikwa, kodwa njengento enokonwabisa.
Iindlela ezi-5 zokunyusa ukuvumelana kwakho.
Akuthandabuzeki ukuba ubuntu obulungileyo buhlala phezulu kwinqanaba lokuvuma.
Ukuphucula eyakho, zama ezinye zezi zinto.
1. Yiba ngumphulaphuli obalaseleyo.
Ukuphulaphula kubonisa umdla kumntu. Elinye lamatye ekona okuziva kunye nokubonisa uvelwano kwabanye.
Kulumkele ukuphazanyiswa yifowuni yakho okanye zezinye izinto ezikungqongileyo.
Gxila komnye umntu kwaye ubeke ingqondo yakho kwinto abayithethayo.
Buza eminye imibuzo ukuze uyiqonde ngcono ukuba kunyanzelekile, kodwa ungaziva unesidingo sokubonelela ngengcebiso ngaphandle kokuba ubuzile.
2. Khumbula into oyixelelweyo uze ubuze ngayo kamva.
Yenye into ukumamela umntu yenye into ukungenisa ulwazi kunye nokuphakamisa kwakhona ngelinye ixesha.
Cinga ngayo: ukuba umntu ukuxelela ukuba uziva uphantsi ngenxa yemicimbi abanayo nomntu osebenza naye onetyhefu, bamamele kwaye bakhathalelwe njani xa ubuza ukuba baphinde bababone njani, okanye okwexeshana kamva kumyalezo?
Zizinto ezincinci ezinje ezikwenza ubonakale njengomntu olungileyo, onobubele, nokhathalayo.
3. Yenza izinto zabanye.
Ukuba umntu othile ucela uncedo lwakho, mnike ngokukhululekileyo ngaphandle kokulindela mbuyekezo.
Lumka nje ungabi yindawo yokosula umzimba. Unelungelo lokuthi hayi kwizinto ukuba awunakuzenza okanye awufuni.
Kodwa, ngokubanzi, ukubonelela ngesandla sokubolekisa kunceda ukwakha ukuthembana kunye nembeko phakathi kwabantu.
4. Fumana iindlela ezincinci zokumangalisa abantu.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ezona zandla zincinci zincinci zezona zenza eyona mpembelelo inkulu.
Ukuba unokwenza into ukunceda omnye umntu ngaphandle okanye bavuselele , Baya kukubona kakuhle kakhulu.
Ngaba ungawuthatha umsebenzi okanye uxanduva ezandleni zabo ngaphandle kokuba babuze?
Ngaba ungashiya inqaku elincinci kwidesika yabo, ubathumele umyalezo, okanye ubathengele i-muffin yetshokholethi ukuba uyazi ukuba badinga i-pick-me-up?
Kunqande ukushukuma okuhle, ukubonakalisa kunye nokugxila kwizinto ezincinci.
5. Chitha ixesha phakathi kwabantu abathandekayo .
Ukuba kukho umntu omaziyo onobuhlobo, onobubele, onesisa, noqinisekileyo, chitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabo.
Ungaze uyijongele phantsi impembelelo umntu ongumzekelo onokuba nayo kwiingcinga zakho okanye kwindlela oziphethe ngayo.
Iindlela ezi-4 zokunciphisa i-neuroticism.
I-Neuroticism luphawu olukhulu olukhulu olufuna ukuthoba, kwaye nazi ezinye izinto ezinokukunceda wenze oko.
1. Funda ukubona icala elihlekisayo / ulungelelwaniso lwesilivere lweemeko ezingahambi kakuhle ekucwangcisweni.
Ezinye izinto ebomini aziyi kuhamba njengoko ufuna ukuba zihambe. Kodwa emva komsitho, kulungile ukujonga ngasemva kwaye ubone ukuba, ngelixa wawufuna isiphumo esahlukileyo, ilizwe alizange liphele.
Ukuba unokuhleka ngamashwa okanye ubone izinto ezintle ezivela kwinto eqhubekayo ngenye indlela, uya kuba nomdla wokuhlala uzolile kwixesha elizayo xa kukho into engahambi kakuhle.
2. Musa ukuthatha izinto ngobuqu.
Abantu bathetha kwaye benze izinto ezinokuthathwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Rhoqo, bathetha ukuba abanatyala.
Xa uziva ushushu kwaye uphazamisekile ngenxa yento umntu ayithethileyo okanye ayenzileyo, zama ukuphefumla nzulu kwaye uzikhumbuze ukuba akufuneki kubonise kakubi kuwe.
Ngapha koko, ukubanakho ukuthatha isiqhulo okanye i-banter enobuhlobo esilevini yinto elungileyo ukuba nayo.
3. Yeka ukuzikhathaza ngokuba abantu bacinga ntoni ngawe.
Inxalenye yokungathathi izinto ngokwakho kukwazi ukuziva ukhululekile kulusu lwakho kwaye ungakhathazeki ukuba abanye abantu bakubona njani.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ufuna ukuphucula ubuntu bakho, kodwa kufuneka uhlale unguye kwangaxeshanye.
Asinguye wonke umntu oya kukuthanda, kwaye kulungile. Abanye abantu baya kuthi, kwaye aba ngabantu ababalulekileyo.
Esihogweni ngento wonke umntu ayicingayo.
4. Bonakalisa umbulelo wakho komnye umntu.
Unokucinga ukuba oku kufanele ukuba kube sisincomo sokunyusa ukuvumelana kwakho-kwaye kunjalo- kodwa ikwayindlela entle yokulwa ne-neuroticism.
Ngokuxelela okanye ukubonisa umntu ukuba uyamxabisa okanye into ayenzileyo, uyangqina ukuba ubuxabise kangakanani ubukho babo ebomini bakho.
Oku kukunceda uzive uqinisekile ngakumbi malunga nonxibelelwano oluthile lwentlalo kunye nawe ngokwakho ngokubanzi.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba umntu ukhetha ukuba nawe ebomini bakhe okanye akwenzele into entle, kufuneka akuxabise nawe.
Iingcebiso ezi-5 ezingaphezulu zokuphucula ubuntu.
Ngaphandle kweempawu ezintlanu ezinkulu zobuntu, yintoni enye onokuyenza ukuphucula ubuntu bakho?
1. Funda indlela yokuncokola.
Uthetha nabantu ngalo lonke ixesha, akunjalo? Kodwa zingaphi ezi zinto zinokunxibelelana unokuthi ngokwenene ubize incoko?
Ingabonakala ilula, kodwa ukukwazi ukubandakanya umntu kwincoko enomdla kwaye inexabiso sisakhono esisebenzayo
Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba uqala njani incoko kwaye indlela yokugcina enye iqhubeka .
Sithintele kwiindlela ezimbalwa zokwenza oku ngasentla, kodwa eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukugcina nje kuyo. Kungekudala uza kufumanisa ukuba yintoni esebenzayo nengasebenziyo.
Yiba nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo.
Abantu bathambekele ekufumaneni abantu abaqinisekileyo, abaziphethe kakuhle ngakumbi ukuba mnandi ukuba phakathi kwabo.
Ke, nokuba ayizanga ngokwendalo, kuya kufuneka uzame ukubonisa icala elihle rhoqo kangangoko.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uzikhohlise ngendlela egqithisileyo, kodwa ungakuphepha ukurhabaxa malunga neengxaki zakho nakubani na oya kuphulaphula.
Unokugxila kwiimpawu ezintle kwabanye abantu ukuze ubonakale njengomntu onethemba ngakumbi ngokubanzi.
3. Yazi ukuba zithini na ezona zithethe zakho.
Ubuntu bakho buyingqayizivele kwaye kufuneka bubonakalise ukuba ungubani ezantsi.
Ngapha koko, ukwazi kunye nokukwazi ukubonisa into oyimeleyo luphawu olunqweneleka kakhulu, nokuba ngamanye amaxesha lukubeka ungqubana nabanye.
Chitha ixesha kunye neengcinga zakho kunye nepeni kunye nephepha ukufumana ukuba zeziphi ezona zinto zibalulekileyo kuwe. Emva koko phuhlisa ubuntu bakho kwezi zinto.
Kwaye ube ngumntu othembekileyo ongazilahliyo isimilo sabo nantoni na.
4. Yenza omnye umntu azive ekhululekile.
Umnqweno wakho wokuphuhlisa ubuntu mhlawumbi ujikeleze umnqweno wokuthandwa ngandlela thile.
Kwaye esinye sezitshixo koku kukukwazi ukuba kwimeko yezentlalo kwaye wenze omnye umntu okanye abantu bazive bekhululekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba babe ngokwabo.
Ke icandelo lokujolisa kwakho kufuneka likomnye umntu ngalo lonke ixesha. Kuqhubeka ntoni ngabo? Ngaba babonakala belusizi, bephazamisekile, bonwabile, benamandla, bezolile?
Ukukwazi ukufunda abantu kunye neemeko kwaye uhlengahlengise indlela yakho ngokufanelekileyo kubalulekile ekubeni nobuntu obuguquguqukayo obunokuziqhelanisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Okungathandekiyo omncinci onokukwenza ukuba umntu azive, kokukhona baya kuziva beqinisekile ngawe.
Oku kunokuvakala kungacacanga, kodwa uninzi lwamanqaku angaphambili afakwe kule.
5. Zama iindlela ezahlukeneyo.
Okokugqibela, ukuba okwangoku awunangqondo, kodwa awazi ukuba ufuna ukuba luhlobo olunjani lomntu, zama izinto ezahlukeneyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kuthetha ukubeka imaski- okwethutyana- ukubona ukuba iyangena na.
Zama ukuhlala uzolile kodwa unomdla.
Zama ukuba namandla kunye nokonwaba.
Zama ukuba ngumthuthuzeli olungileyo ekuphulaphuleni.
Zama ukuba ngumcinga oqhuba iincoko kwaye akhokele kwindlela ngezigqibo.
Zama zonke iindlela zokufikelela kwaye ubone ukuba zeziphi ezona zivakalelwa ngokwendalo.
Nangona usikhumbula isifundo esikhankanywe apha ngasentla esibonise indlela ezinokuthi ziguqulwe ngayo iimpawu zobuntu ngokwenza.
Oku kuthetha ukuba, nokuba into ekuqaleni ayiziva ingokwemvelo, ukuba ucinga ukuba luhlobo lomntu ofuna ukuba kwaye unokuba lulo, ungabutshintsha ubuntu bakho kwelo cala ngokwenza njalo nangakumbi.
Ewe kunjalo, ukuba isengaziva ngokwendalo emva komzamo omkhulu, kunokuba kufanelekile ukuqwalasela indlela eyahlukileyo.
